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I am a caring, understanding, respectful, honest, friendly person and I can be a good friend to who ever needs one.If you have a problem I will do my best to help you get through what ever it is that you are having a problem with. Because giving advice is one of the things that I am good at.

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my life is all messed up,i no more know who i am or what i was supposed to be.its a constant feel of restlessness,its like somebody is stabbing a knife in my heart over and over again.

I know where you are coming from everyone whether they will admit it or not thinks about that every once in a while cause life can kick you down and make you feel like there is no way out and like people won't miss you etc. But you can always try to see if you can get help whether is it's with a professional or family member if you can't afford to see professional heip it would help to talk to a family member that is there for you and you can let it all out. You will feel much better if you tell someone how your feeling so you don't have to keep it all to yourself. Also instead of having those kind of thoughts you should think that you tried to and it didn't work because you aren't meant to die your meant to live and make the most of your life before you time is up. Life is short already there is so much more good then bad in this world you should try to find the good and try your best to ignore the bad even though it isn't easy especially these days. I know it isn't easy but you were put on this earth for a reason aren't you even just curious to see what that is. I hope that I helped you some good luck.

her 22 year old sister is in jail for one year for financial crimes. I have decided to allow her younger 17 year old sister to visit but I don't want her to be affected badly by the visit and I am not sure if she really should be in a prison environment, also she might sympathize with her sister and want to "join" her in some weird way or want to get involved in criminal activities as well. I am still wondering if this is a good idea at all. How can I prepare her and what should I tell her beforehand.
is it even a good idea to let her visit?

I understand what your saying but if she wants to see her sister you should take her just have a talk with her about like she could end up in there too if she isn't careful so she will know not do anything like what her sister did to land her in there too cause younger sisters look up to the older ones and want to follow in their shoes to make them proud sometimes or if you are worried that it might not be a good environment for her you can just have them talk on the phone and write it's just one year they could wait aa year and the older sister should understand.I hope that I helped you good luck.

I am 27, I am an introvert and I also suffer from depression.

I have no friends, I have not had real friends in about 3 years now. Each time I think of the idea I seem to shoot it down. I even had oppertunites to hang out with a few people and I find myself with very little interest in proceeding what seems to be no more then hi and bye. I ask myself " Why aren't. I interested in friends?" I can't seem to find a real valid reason other then they are drama and always hang out. I am young and should have friends but don't really want them?.

I know the feeling I'm on the same boat but then you get lonely and wish you could go out with friends at times too. I know this might be a dumb question but are you afraid to be with people cause some are and that's why they isolate themselves from others that aren't family I mean. People who don't like to be with others suffer from depression and if you go years like that you will eventually have suicidal thoughts and it would just go down hill from there. You don't have to make a big change just start a little at a time.Even though you are probably happy to be alone you will like to have some friends eventually some people you can go to when you need to get away from family if you got problems and want to share them among others your age. Also your friends could help you find that special guy too when you would like to find him can't really depend on the internet cause people can lie. I hope I helped you some good luck.

My neighbor and I are really close. She is 14 and is expecting twins...I know its sad but we have been trying to make the best out of this that we can. The babies last name will be Nobles and she asked me to help her name them, since her boyfriend decided that she could pick. What are some good full names that would flow well and sound right with the last name Nobles?

For a girl what about Madaline,Vanessa or Nessa,Rochelle,Cameron,Celess,Shelby,Jenna,Jossafine,Sally,Trina,Julian. For a boy Nat or Nathan,Ryan,Jonathan,Johnny,Toby,Sean or Shawn,Kyle,Brian or Bryan,Robert or Bobby,Alex,Nicky,Jesse. These are just some I hope I helped you some.

I'm nineteen,a virgin but often got my vagina rubbed with a penis bfore and yesterday t got too intimate but he didn't cum.could I get pregnant?I'm on pills though.and do anti biotics gt in the way in functioning of a pill?

It is unlikely that you could be pregnant if he didn't cum but to be on the safe side you should be careful. I hope I helped some good luck.

I like this guy, but he never talks to me. He probably thinks I'm uncool because the most popular girl in school says she doesn't hate me but I feel like she does. He talks to me every once in awhile. But I don't kno if he's scared to talk to me, if he just doesnt like me or something I want to talk to him but I'm just scared. Help!!?!

Yes it can be scary talking to a guy you like especially when you don't know if he likes you or not but then again if he didn't like you why would he continue to talk to you.Been there well what you can do is just keep talking to him and try not to care about the popular in school whether she likes or hates you there is always going to be one. I hope that I helped some and good luck.

13/F

I'm Scared To Go To School. A Lot Of Things Happen There, And I'm Only In 7th Grade! Example: People Bring Drugs, Knives, Etc! The Other Day Someone Got Stabbed (That's What I Was Told) And Now I'm Scared To Go To School. I May Go To Homeschool In High School Throughout Then I May Go On An Online College.

But Anyways, I'm Scared. I Want To Move, But I Sort Of Want To Go To Home Schooling NOW. I Just Don't Know How To Tell Them In A Way So They Understand.

So What Do I Do? I'm Scared That Guy Will Go After Me Or Something. I Don't Really Want To Go To School Anymore :(.

If you just heard about the stabbing and didn't actually see it then you shouldn't be worried cause there are always going to be rumors in school about something or another. It's just up to you to believe it but to be on the safe side try to avoid those kind of situations where something like that can. You shouldn't go to Home Schooling because you will miss out on alot of things in regular school don't forget high school is the time when you can make more friends by joining a club or sport. Don't forget there are also dances,football games, and other activities you will be miss out on. Just really think about all the good stuff you will miss out on if you decide on Home Schooling. I hope I helped and made you really think about a decision like that.

17/ M
Hi there.
I am a type of person who like to share his thoughts. It was just recently that I spotted this quality in me - I have a very very very good imagination. Really ! I AM NOT JOKING!!!
Ok cut down one '' very ''. Happy ? :P
Now, I thought that I can use (and I do use) this imagination to make up scripts for stories, novels or even films. I have 2 small story scripys ready. I can improve upon that. But my english writing skill is not too good to make me a good writer. I can make up wonderful novels, but the vocabulary and writing style ? It's too basic, too normal. What as a budding writer do I need to do to make myself more skillful in these areas and what do you, as an audience suggest me I should be writing. Any topic, any suggestion. What would you like to be written about...???? Any answer. Thanks.

You should try to work on your grammar first then if you want to you can try and start with short stories and see what happens. Maybe you should try and see if you can join the school newspaper too.I hope I helped you somewhat.

so im 11 and my mom and stepdad are gettin a divorece becuase of me my stepdad says hes giving up on me cuz i dont like him. I have not really liked him the whole 7 years theve been married. And i got in trouble with cops becuase i feel so angry becuase my mom wont listin when i try to talk to her about it. I have cut too and cuz of my stepdad threatining to puch me and hurt me in ways my mom is too in love with him too see it what should i do???

well if your mom wont believe you, you can always seek outside the family if you need to if there is no one in your family you can go to to talk to about things like that. You know if it gets really bad why not call the cops if and when it gets physical. You can also seek help you know talk to a teacher or try and stay away from him too if and whenever you can. I hope i helped you.

what are some good things to do with myself(15/ f) and my bf, and my friend and his friend.
we have no money either. lol
thx

Why don't you guys play a sport at a park or school, get together and go to the beach just hangout, see if someone is having a get together and join in, or you guys can all get together and maybe watch a movie at one of their houses. I hope I helped you.

for a couple of months I went out with this guy who was married,he wasn't satisfied with his life and his wife knew he was cheating on her.he was a nice guy.he was my teacher before.I didn't have sex with him.we were just fooling around.but now I have decided to change my life and be a good person!I don't know how to tell him that.He loves me so much!!I can see that.this is gonna hurt him.I mean I was his comfort when his wife wasn't there for him!he always talked to me when he had a problem,he never talked to his wife about anything,they were always having a fight.most of the time I could hear his wife screaming at him on the phone that you are a bad husband and you have to go to hell.and for some reason he can't get divorced!he tried couple of times,but he didn't.now I want to break up with this guy but I am afraid he is gonna think I wanted him for grades.he didn't help me that much,but he helped a little.I didn't ask him to!He did it himself.how do I break up with him??

iT's never easy to break up with a guy. But then again if he is married if should be easy cause one thing he is married and do you want to keep being the other women or do you want him to make a choice and see if he wants to stay with you or his wife. IT WONT BE EASY BUT HE NEEDS TO CHOICE THATS WHAT IF WILL COME DOWN TO. You know he will have to choice sooner of later.

Hi, I am one of those people that is super shy until you get to know me. Then thats when you start calling me weird and crazy. But I am reallllllly tierd of being shy! So I would love for someone to give me a list of a few different things to do in school this next month to help me. There is also this guy I wanna meet but he is super popular! And I totally messed up when he talked to me once! It was horrible!!!! If I make this list myself, itll be too easy. thanks! :D

There are lot of shy people out there in the world and everybody has their own way of overcoming being shy. Like for example when it comes to guys how about trying to start a conversation with the guy if you have a friend with you. You can have your friend try to sweeten the pot by having them start talking to them just to break the ice first so you can feel comfortable around him and his friends. Cause popular guys usually hang around the friends and and don't go solo. But who knows you might get lucky and try to catch him without his friends. It's really up to you when you want to try and talk to him. But if I were you I would try to talk to him one on one and see what happens first.

help me!!!!!!!!!!
i had sex with my boyfriend last night
he couldnt get his penis in my vagina
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!

(19) female

Sometimes the first time doesn't work out like you would hope. It's just going to take some time to get use to the idea and trying before it actually can happen without any problems.

hey.. im only 13.. i want to be with god. i dont want to live anymore. BUT hey thin about it.. wouldnt it be better with him. no drama no bullies no nothing bad!!!!! yes. i should live my life but. thats kidan hard when i wanna die. i need help. please. please. please. help me........

Just think about all the things you would miss out on. You having a family of your own and seeing them grow up etc.

Ok so Im 13/f and I sweat majorly! I cant wear t-shirts that are tight against my arm pit. I have to wear big baggy shirts and tank tops. I have tried every single deoderant there is, every clinical things that dont work and I smell really bad when I sweat. I have tried everything! Help!!

Try using baby powder

What do you call a guy who likes you and you like him but you dont want to date but still kiss and stuff?

Friends with benefits

im in 4-H, and its a really neat thing to do. But my best friend in 4-H, me, and two other guys and my sister want to hangout as a group. theres ages of 16,15,14,12(almost 13) 3 girls, and a guy, maybe two guys going. And we want to hangout...but we dont know what to do! We get kinda bored of bowling and movies...laser quest might be too expensive, any ideas? And my one friend cant ice or roller skate..so think of some FUN stuff for us to do! We're all pretty close, so...we need something fun to do! (and not too expensive please) thanks =D

What about ordering a couple pizzas and having a pool party, go to the beach play a sport then someone can buy some dinner and you can have a bon fire perfect time to talk, hangout at the mall, you can have a BBQ at someones house and then rent a movie w/popcorn, go to a school and play a sport or something, having a picnic in a park, what about just taking a drive if someone has a license, go to a Arcade, and what about Mini Golf. I hope that I helped please let me know if I helped but if not please stop by my advice column.

Ok, so my friends at the last minute pulled out of hanging out tomorrow, so I decided to have a day in the city by myself. I'll stay in crowds so don't worry about my safety!

Anyway, my city has nothing special so don't bother saying 'I don't know what's in your city so I can't say' just...

Well my question is what would you do if you were by yourself and you were in your city's CBD. I'm probably going to eat lunch then go to the state library, you know stuff like that. I'll only take about 50 bucks, 20 for drinks, snacks and lunch and 30 to spend on shopping.

So yeah.

Most cities have coffee shops, museums, Art Galleries, movies, malls, and Bowling Alleys. Well I hope that I helped you hopefully you will find some thing to do. If I didn't help you you can always go to my advice column.

hey guys so i have a friend thats 12 years old but shes so mature for her age i mean she has a really opened mind about stuff nd stuff anyway she likes this guy... lets cal him bobby.. but hese 15 years old turning 16.. she really likes him and she knows hese not lookin her way because he likes another girl lets call her jessica.. nywy school finished nd he went to a nother country.. nd she still likes him she was begining to get over him she was so close to until she found out that he camme back nd she got so happy nd so i think that her feelings ccame back but the girl that helikes went to another country aswell nd i heard that he already got over her anyway but this year hese gonna be in skoolwit us nd the thing is is that she wont kno how to get over him because they are rlly good friends.. even thou thyrs like 3-4 years diffrence.. but she really likes him nd no they wont go outcause she doesnt do those kinds of stuff... nyay..the question is iz that she doesnt kno what to do she wants to get overhim but she cant.. i rlly need ur help.. seriosuly plz help me to help her im sorry this was long but its true..

alrite
Bye,,,

I would say it would be hard to get over him again since his back in the picture but now that he is tell her try not to think of him as more then a friend because that is how he probably thinks of her. Who knows maybe if he has those feelings too maybe they can do something about it when they are both older but in the meantime tell your friend what I told you before and to hang in there but for now she should find someone her own age. I hope I helped but if not you can drop by column.

i kind of had sex for the first time 5 days ago with no protection but heres the ting i finnished but obviously he didnt b/c he was thinking of other things so he wouldnt get excited so he didnt even feel close to finnishing on me, but i was supossed to get my period 4 days ago but inever did i still feel cramps adn my boobs r sore but there r all these risks about his penis being in mine even if he didnt finnish im scared please help me out .!!!

Would like to help but need more information.

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