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parents getting divorce because of me! need answer!!!
so im 11 and my mom and stepdad are gettin a divorece becuase of me my stepdad says hes giving up on me cuz i dont like him. I have not really liked him the whole 7 years theve been married. And i got in trouble with cops becuase i feel so angry becuase my mom wont listin when i try to talk to her about it. I have cut too and cuz of my stepdad threatining to puch me and hurt me in ways my mom is too in love with him too see it what should i do???
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First I don't think your step-dad is leaving your mom because of you. I think he is using you as an excuse and as a way to hurt you and your mom. This is so wrong of him I just don't know where to begin telling you how wrong he is.
People divorce for any number of reasons none of which concern the children or are because of children. He knew where he stood with you before he married your mother. To know say 7 years later that he is leaving because of you is nothing more than a bold face lie on his part. He has other reasons for leaving and is to much of a coward to tell you mother or you why. So he is placing the blame on you. This is so wrong.
Now what to do about it. First we need to have you stop cutting yourself because I don't want you really hurting yourself. Until you can get help for this what I would like you to do is try something that might help and is safer than cutting and you can do anywhere anytime you feel the need.
Find a big thick rubber band. Place the rubber band loosely around your wrist. When you feel the need to cut snap the rubber band against your wrist instead. Like I said you can do this anywhere, at school, on the bus, at home and it should give you the same relief cutting does with out the danger.
Next;Your step-dad threatening to punch you and hurt you is child abuse which is unlawful. I understand you can't tell your mother or expect protection from her. If there is no grandparent or Aunt or Uncle you can turn to for help then you should go to a trusted teacher and tell him or her or your school principal about these threats and that they scare you.
As I said child abuse of any kind is unlawful and his threatening to punch you and harm you is child abuse. His reason for leaving your mom to my mind is also abusive towards you but the experts would have to determine that. Once you tell a teacher or the principal there are laws in place that they must follow to protect you.
The laws I am speak of are designed to protect children from child abuse. As long as you are truthful with the people who are obligated to enforce these laws you will be protected and no harm can come to you.
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well if your mom wont believe you, you can always seek outside the family if you need to if there is no one in your family you can go to to talk to about things like that. You know if it gets really bad why not call the cops if and when it gets physical. You can also seek help you know talk to a teacher or try and stay away from him too if and whenever you can. I hope i helped you.
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