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Q: This guy...I'll call him...Paul. He likes me. He hasn't told me he likes me but in his profile at the bottom if you highlight it it says he loves me. I always see him like staring at me in the halls and whenever I turn i see him there. He listens to the school anouncements to see if they say anything that has to do with me and when I get home he like overloads my computer with ims. I really can't stand the kid but I could never be mean to him. I'm a very nice and sensitive person and I wouldn't want to make "paul" feel bad or be mad at me. I don't really want him to have anything to do with me but he's like obsessed and I don't know what to do. I don't lead him on that I like him if that's what you're thinking. I'm just a nice person and don't like to be mean to anyone. If anyone could help me in any way as to what to do please send me a respose. Also, should I be worried if he's a stalker? Please Help. Thank you very much.

-Melanie

well..it sounds like he likes you ALOT..i think you just need to let him down the easiest way possible..maybe you should just tell him you want to be friends..sorry but i dont have anymore advice than that

Q: Ok i only want answers from someone who cuts/ used to cut. Why do you do it? I cut so often and I'm really depressed and it just makes me feel so good. But what specifically for you was it that made you want to cut? I think getting ideas from others would help me. Thank you.

hi..i kno what cutting is like.i used to do it and im only 13..i quit about 1 month or so ago..and its not worth you..you need to find someone that makes you happy..when you go to cut..think of somethin that makes you really happy and think of all the reasons you shouldnt do it. i hope this advice helps becuz it helped me stop..so if you need anything..im here.. i used to do it becuz i was really depressed and my bf kinda treated me like shit.i'd try to talk to him about it..but it just seemed like he never listened..he told some of his friends.who are my friends..and they laughed and some of them dont talk to me anymore..so thats why i did it..i just could never be happy and i never thought i was pretty or anything..but then when i went to cut myself..i thought why should i? my life is barely beginning and who knows what opportunities i will have? so when you go to cut..stop..your life is too short to cut yourself

Q: Hey,
Do any of you know any sites I can go to online to take a quiz to see if I'm depressed? Please help... I really need to know! I'll rate everyone who gives me at least one site.

online quizzes are so over-rated..they dont mean anything..they never really have your situation on them and they dont know whats going on inside your head..so i think an online quiz.is not what you need hun

Q: I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way.

well..depression is a huge problem in my life too. i can just never seem to be happy with myself or things i do. try to look on the brighter side of things..and if you just cant seem to be happy..go to the doctor and he can give you medicine that will help or go to a counselor and talk to people that will help you. trust me i kno..life is too short to be depressed all the time..so put a smile on your face and enjoy life

Q: Ok: so i love scary movies... spook houses, and doing the ouiji board. I live down in the basement all alone and after seeing freaky movies... like Saw I can't sleep. I think that there in my basement gonna come kill me.. and even though I'm 16... i still sleep with my t.v. on all night... even though I can't stand a speck of light in the night i LOVE watchinng scary movies... but i get so scared I sometimes cry! What can I do?

well maybe you should cut down on the scary movies..and make sure the doors are locked and whatever..and since your parents prolly live with you..they're not gonna let anything bad happen to you

Q: okay well theres this guy that i rlly rlly rlly like but he's a grade lower than me and hes moving at the end of the year

well..i would have friends ask him about you or just bring u up in a conversation with him at random..since he's gonna move..you should tell him how you feel instead of never having him know!

Q: what are the chances of a condom having a hole in it?? i had sex with my boyfriend and i know it didnt break cuz i know what that feels like....and nothing has ever happened before.....but like im worried for some reason.....

well dearie..statistically. condoms work 99.9% of the time..so don't worry about it..and if you feel as if you're pregnant..go to the doctor and get checked on

Q: ok im 13 and have always been energic. Ever since this school school year started ive been exusted every day after school. Its so bad that i acually want to take naps (ive never done that). i don't do after school programs so those can't wear me out. plus for the last 3 days ive done nothing but want to eat (also never done this before). i have no idea wats wrong and i can't go on like this. plz help i'll rate.

p.s. i can't take naps after school i have no time!

well i am your same age and i feel the same way..maybe you should get more sleep at night..and make sure you eat breakfast so you do get energy in the morning..and maybe instead of munchin all the time.maybe you should go for a walk with some friends..get out there and exercise and get your mind off food! = )

Q: Hi, i asked this kid to a football game 2nite and my friend who was wit me, sed he looked sorta excited whjen i asked him, he sed he didn't know if he cud make it to it or not and i was like ook ad then jjust forgot anout it hten at the game tonite, i saw him there. Do you think that he was perposuly ditching me? or he really wasn't sure if he culd make it, and he had no way of reacing me when he realized he could go? He didn't have my # or anything either.

i think he had no way to get back at you..maybe he figured you were going..so he'd just see you there and then you guys could hang out or whatever..i mean you could talk to him about it..but was he there with anyone else?

Q: OK, I am 15 and I like this guy who is yonger then and he is only 13, do you think it is right to go out with a guy that is 2 years yonger then you. O, and by the way he looks like he is 16, but he isnt.

okay..this is usually a huge problem with girls..but have you seen the difference in age with celebrity couples? 15 years to like 40 years difference..2 years isn't that big of a deal..and if you really like him..it's totally cool..so i think its perfectly fine

Q: okay well i have this problem..there is this guy and i have been going out with him for about 2 months..and i went to a party with him last weekend..and for some really weird reason..it was really weird to be around him..like i didnt want to go out with him ne more..and hes really nice and all..but i keep comparin him to my ex bf..who is going out with my friend..and he was like my very first love..and i just cant get over him! and its irritating..well anyways back to the current boyfriend situation..he hasnt talked to me whatsoever this week..so im thinkin that i should breakup with him cuz i dont think he likes me ne more..and i dont think i like him ne more..

so here are my questions..should i break up with him? and if so how should i do it (like what should i say) and HOW CAN I GET OVER MY EX! lol cuz i really want to..but its just always coming back to haunt me

well..if you're not over your past boyfriend..you shouldnt be going out with your current boyfriend..and maybe things aren't really working out for him either.maybe thats why he's not talking to you..so do what you feel like..i can't really tell you what to do

Q: srry if this is long but
there is this kid in my school and he is shorter me and not very good lookin but i still lik him alot and no one understands and ppl always make fun of me for likin him and i already went out wif him lik 3 times b4 and he dumped me all the times but i still rely lik him and alot of ppl make fun of me for it and i hate how no one understands mee

how can i get them 2 stopp??

well i have certainly been in the same exact situation..and even went out with him three times! whoa this is really scary..well anyway..if you really like him..you shouldn't care what people think. yeh. people are gonna say some hurtful things..but if you really like him. isnt it worth it?

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yeah, my names joey and i opened this to help people and get advice. i like to hang out with my friends, rock out, and talk to my incredible boyfriend = )