hello! my name is amber and i have been through a lot over the years! my father died when i was 6 years old and 6 years later i developed an auto-immune disease called lupus. i have been in and out of the hospital many time and have been through severe pain physically, and mentally because of it. no question is too odd or confusing, and i will try my best to give you my best and most honest advice. i am very spiritual and into positive thinking, so i could also help you out with anything having to do with finding your way in life. love and light!
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My mom and I dont get along. For example, i listen to music revolving around Harry Potter (wizard rock) she says Im doing it to purposefully annoy her since she doesn't like it.
I explained that i was not doing it to annoy her and I really did like to listen to it.
She said that if i listened to it in private (headphones, when shes not in the room.
So, today i was dancing to one of them, with my headphones in and when she wasn't there, like she said. I was having a good time. She came down and blew up at me because i was listening to it. I reminded her of what she said and she shouted she never said that. (note: her memory is fine) then she said
"maybe i should call your teachers and tell all them how disrespectful you are, and how they think you're a perfect angel. But really a brat!"
I did what she told me to!
Please give me some advice, i really dont want to lose my music!
Ps: there is nothing bad in my music.
Thank you! (link)
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wow.. sounds liek yur parents are being a bit ridiculous.. no wait, they're being REALLY ridiculous. sorry you have to go through this hun, but you really need to stick up for yourself and calmly explain to your parents that there is nothing wrong with your music and there is nothing wrong with you for liking it. our parents challenge us to grow as individuals and we do the same for them! this is just another small obstacle along the road, and i wish you the best of luck in staying strong and standing up for your freedom/rights. love what you love and don't let anyone else tell you differently!
amber
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i love to boys one of them is a old friend of mine nd he loves nd cares for me the other one i know goes to my school im attending know he just likes me to get head if u know what i mean i love them both but the second one we went out before but were just know i think sex buddies can you please give me advice i need asstiance.... i am a famale 19 yrs old (link)
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haha, i think we know which one is the keeper here ;). we all accept the love we think we deserve! that is a quote from a book called "the perks of being a wallflower".. i don't think i need to tell you which one you should choose, you know the truth inside your heart and your only fooling yourself if you think that you don't.
namaste my friend,
amber
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Heres a poem that i wrote tips and advice feedback are all welcome.Do you know any good sites for this?
Two cold hands cover my eyes
I hide from the world
Pain overwhelms me
but at least I can feel
If it all ends soon
I think I'd be fine
You seemed to be deaf to my shreiks of agony
But you hear me now?
Mever so alone here
One more cut
deep and clean and I'm done.
No more cold
pain
shame
ugly
worry
agony
hiding
blood
yes with this one cut---
I end it all. (link)
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it's very descriptive, but i think it could use a bit more of a smoother flow to it.. you could also add more punctuation to help the reader know how you want it to be expressed/read.
also, sometimes you may not want to be as vague with your words, you could use a thesaurus to try and use more descriptive words.. for example, instead of ugly you could use repulsive or unsightly.. i hope you don't feel that way about yourself, but hey, poetry is all about expression!
you can go on the website poetry.com and put your poems up for people to leave comments and rate it. if you rate other people's poems you are more likely to get yours rated because the site will try and help you out. good luck :)
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I am on Ainterol Pueraria Mirifica for less than a week and I wold like to ask anyone here if you have tried that herb? It is good to make breast bigger. It is also recommended for menopausal too.
Would be glad to know your experiences too with Pueraria Mirifica (link)
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I have no had any experience with this herb myself, but here is an informative website on how to enlarge your beasts using it..
http://getcurvynow.com/breast-enhancement/herbal-breast-enhancement/pueraria-mirifica/
Here is also a link to someone's personal experience with the herb :)
http://www.breastnexus.com/showthread.php?tid=7445
Enjoy, and hope it works out for you!
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I got the pill today, but i just finished my period today. I totally forgot to ask my doctor about when to start taking it.
Can i take it tomorrow? or do i wait for my next period.? (link)
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It is advised that you wait for your next period before you start the pill. here is a link to a website supporting this answer (has a little more information on the subject), hope it helps you out.
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I had never even thought about it until today. My family is Cameroonian. They're from deep in the country, and in a city that did not contribute to the slave trade (thank god), according to one of my grandmothers. When I go home for college, for Christmas break I will have SO many questions, though, because of what I've learned in the past couple days from totally geeking out on the internet.
Because of privacy, I'm not going to reveal my name here, but I had ALWAYS wondered what exactly our names meant (as in, people of my ethnicity/culture), and where our people came from. Around the Nigeria and Cameroon area was the beginning of the Bantu expansion, but I couldn't find precise information of what happened earlier, or even during this migration, much to my frustration, because I know that's not the only major migration that's ever happened in Africa. If people could leave Africa and travel all the way to Australia or South America, I'm pretty sure the ones left behind aren't just going to sit in one place. Especially when you consider that people move from place to place to find better animals to hunt, and more arable lands.
So anyways, I ended up googling my middle name, which I had always thought sounded asian, but never really thought about it, you know? So it turns out I just needed to add a "-" to it, and it's a chinese name. On google translate, I first typed it without the hyphen, and translated from english to chinese and the communicator couldn't read it. Then I did it again, with the hyphen, which I had originally found when googling my middle name the first time (others had my name, but with the hyphen), and my name translated to actual chinese characters!! I was like.. holy sh**. And turns out I've been pronouncing my middle name wrong this whole time! And apparently my name has roots in the Han dynasty, which really freaked me out. I have the same middle name as my grandmother by the way, and idk how long people have done that!
Then I googled my last name, and that was harder to suss out, because of the different spellings and what not. But I ended up finding that others had my last name from countries like Albania, Germany, and Austria. I found this out a couple months ago, actually, but at the time just assumed that maybe somehow someone from Germany (Cameroon used to be under German rule) must have come to my town and "made his way" with one of my ancestors. Except, now I realize that would make no sense at all, because he would have had to marry one of my ancestors (for me to have my last name), and since Cameroon only became a colony in 1884, I'm pretty sure my grandparents would be aware of that. And it still makes less sense because my dad knew his grandparents, and they were certainly alive in 1884, and so my dad would have known if one wasn't black. It's not something he would keep secret, as my parents aren't racist at all.
My skin is also about as dark as the Nigerian model Oluchi, in the following link. But it's kind of hard to describe my skin tone, cause it depends on how much sun light I've had in a period of time, and lighting. But Oluchi in this photograph is the closest celebrity I can think of, right now. http://www.bellanaija.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/oluchi-onweagba-picture-41.jpg
So, then I looked more into things and found an alternate spelling of my last name that linked to glassmakers in the 19th century, and also a word from a Slavic language, that means "black", and is often used in a derogatory way nowadays. Just when I thought it couldn't get any crazier, I decided to split my last name into two and google the terms, since those others were only variants of my last name. Turns out the prefix of my last name is a good Hebrew/Arabic AND Hindi adjective (again, for privacy, I'm not disclosing), and the suffix is of english origin. But then again, the same suffix, with a very similar sound makes up ANOTHER word which is Hebrew/Arabic for "brother" and also is described somewhere else (some canadian site) as something to do with organic matter being dark.
So I'm pretty freaked out right now. No way this is a coincidence. Like I said before, in more of the Slavic countries there are variants of my last name still existing. And when I put it in google translate, Asian languages couldn't pronounce it, but slavic languages, hindi, and languages like French and English could. The Asian countries just spelled out my last name (lol) since it couldn't be translated in that language.
Did my people just move to Cameroon from East Africa, so many thousands of years ago, and not do anything? And just magically got these names that happened to also be in other nations/kingdoms/civilizations far away? Or could I have had ancestors that played a hand in ancient China, India, eastern Europe, the Middle East/North Africa, etc? To add more freakiness into the mix, I even googled some of my relatives other names, and their so called "african" names were actually of chinese origin! This is really long, but I'm just shocked right now. I actually shed tears earlier, once everything came together in my mind. People say it's "afrocentrist" to say North Africa and Europe were first black, and that Indo-Aryans weren't the original Europeans, but what else does my situation convey but that my ancestors traveled the world, to some degree? There were African empires other than the Egyptian one that I still have to figure out, and who knows, maybe my ancestors played a hand in those too? I mean, I have no idea when they came to Cameroon or anything. It's especially strange because people act like Sub-Saharan africans haven't developed at all, but if what I have found out is actually true (unless you can give me another plausible explanation??) then it says a lot, doesn't it? The people of the city my family is from in Cameroon are hardworking (or I wouldn't be in america right now, as well as many other people I know from the area, who mostly got advanced degrees and what not), and there's plenty of harvestable food and good will, so even though it's in Africa (going by the poor African stereotype), a lot of people actually live better there than in Western countries where we're stressed all the time, eat modified foods, etc.
I'm definitely going to research more into this, this is just what I have put together right now. I do know I'm somehow related to the so-called "chief" (aka african king) of the area where my family is from, but that is as far as I know. I wonder what they think of our origins. And same situation with my mom's side of my family, too. I feel like I've just discovered something huge, like my world has been turned upside down. and btw, all my family members are black, and either as dark, or darker! Well, I have one aunt on my mom's side, as well as my grandmother, who are lighter (like Gabrielle Union), but that's it.
Someone with knowledge about this please help me out and I'll be extremely thankful! Not going to lie, I feel really weird asking this question, almost like I know something I'm not supposed to know? Oh, and I didn't mention before, but my family is Christian, with roots in mystical, animism type things. Idk if anyone was Muslim, or if people once were Christian but then changed, or what. I have more questions than I first started out with! (link)
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This is a really long question deary! this seems like a question that you may want to have answered by one of your family members.. none of us will know the ultimate truth and you it seems like you already have a good understanding of everything and are fairly knowledgeable! you may get a better answer the other way, maybe you could even print out this question and show it to one of your family members if you really want, that way you don't have to explain everything all over again.
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So for my youtube channel I want to make a pretty background that's not just a plain picture or just says my youtube user or subscribe, I want a background that is really personalized and is different. I really like this:
http://www.youtube.com/user/MakeupbyMandy24
Hers is so nice and has her face and name, It also has links! Please help me learn how to make something like this or get somebody to make it for me. (btw she had her face in it if you couldn't see)
I doubt the previous designer will make something like that for someone with little subscribers like me. (and don't say well just ask.)
So please help me by showing me a website or how to get certain effects. And if you can make me one that'd be perfect and I'll let you know what I had in mind,
Anyways thank you in advance! (link)
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there is a lot of advice on the internet that will show you how to make a personalized youtube background! unfortunately, since you want it to be personalized i don't think that someone on this site can make one of you unless they knew you really well..
https://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+make+personalized+youtube+backgrounds&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a
click that link which will take you to a bunch of options of videos that show you how to make one! this may be something that you need to put some time and effort into if you really want to make it work and want it that badly! but it may be well worth it :) namaste
amber
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I know alot of parents claim there children and get big tax returns I'm wondering how it works? I have my child full time and wasn't able to work if I only made $4000 and then collected unemployment. I know unemployment doesn't count as earned income so would I qualify for all of the child tax credits ? It says online you can't make more than $40,000 and your single claiming a child but is there and amount you have to make I couldn't find anything ? Also my son only sees his father on Sundays because of drugs I filed for child support but haven't received a payment if he files his taxes would my son get his tax return ? Could he claim my son on his taxes if he doesn't live with him? Thank you ! (link)
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there may be people on this site who can help you with this question but i really suggest you see someone in person who knows your full situation and whom you can fully trust. i hope there is someone in your life that can do this for you, it would be a LOT easier than having to explain things like this over the internet.. there are also people that specialize in this stuff, maybe you could ask one of the employees at your local bank for help? best of luck!
amber
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I wash, condition and oil my hair. But everyday my hair is dry and my scalp is sore and has dandruff. I use tea tree oil, carrot oil, morrocan oil, I don't think I use to much, I don't know why my scalp is like this. I'm african american and I'm transitioning from relaxed to natural hair. My hair is currently in braids. Should I put oil in my hair everyday or something?
I don't wash and condition my hair everyday (link)
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tea tree oil can dry your skin out love! it is meant for infections and things like acne so it's job would have the opposite effect@ stop using that ASAP and see how it goes :). peace and love my friend
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I recently purchased myself a Sony NEX 5R and I have been looking for camera bags that are very simple and compact. I'm not too fond of those big bulky black ones that are standard. I would mostly be carrying my 18-55mm lens with it, or a smaller one.
Either way, I have yet to come across anything decent. Has anyone seen something that I'm looking for or could perhaps suggest a make? My budget would be 100 dollars maximum...
I should point out that I'm looking for something that can be easily put into my handbag, as I would never need to carry the actual bag on my shoulder.
Any answers or ideas will be much appreciated! (link)
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i think it would be best if you asked a person that works in that section at the store you will be buying it from.. like best buy or wherever else they have them in your hometown. they would know the most about this and someone on here might suggest something that they do not even have in the store! best of luck,
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I just got a uniden tablet from big lots for christmas and I want to put a password on it. I have one and put it in but when I turn it on, it does not ask for my password. I want it to ask me so I know it is secure and that people with the password can get on.
Basically I'm asking how to get a password as soon as I turn it on. (link)
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are you sure that you set the password so that it asks you for it as soon as you put it on? play around with it and look in the settings.. i tried to look for an answer on the internet and could not find one. maybe try asking the place where you bought it from or a family member. friend who is good with electronics?
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What Was Your Best Date Ever In London with an Escort?
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This is a really general question, you may be better off typing something like this in google and seeing the search results for a wider range of answers.
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Okay so my boyfreind an oil field worker and he had to leave on Christmas night so we talk an haven a baby so I was ovulating that day and he cam in , so today the 28th I was playing with myself and I cam I was just wondering would that effect anything (link)
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if you were the one who came yourself, then no, that would not affect anything.
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Well I have a weird way to express myself. I will either dance or sing. So my question is: Would it be weird to sing or dance to my crush to express my feelings?? I'm 13 btw and im a girl (link)
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haha, of course not silly! that is an amazing talent, express yourself girl. the right boy will fall in love with you for it.
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Hi, my name is Kylee Brown and i need some pictures of real live people having sex or a sex website (link)
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you can go to pornhub.com or you can go to forhertube.com. great porn and it's female friendly! have fun
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Am 21 female with no kids but full of sorrow I was good at school I passed my matric in 2010 with examtions that is where the disaster begin I applied to more than three universities and bursaries but the all failed my mom toke me to college. After my first semester she lost her job I had to drop out try to apply for learship and so but nothing happened until I got a job at a callcenter we're they pay me peanut but I work as a slave it been a year now. I cnt continue with my studies coz am the bread winner I never saw my self ending where I am no career bad job I failed before I even get half way and that pains me every night I cry to myself feel better buy nothing happens sometimes I want to die. I dnt know why I feel great pain (link)
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it's because you are not following your passion.. you can not just work for money, that will make everyone depressed eventually. find out what you love to do, then try and make a living out of that.. in the mean time, just get a part time job that will let you live fairly comfortable or apply for help from the government or ask friends/relatives. there's lots of help out there, go and seek it!
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Who do I speak to to file a claim against Amazon.com? My seller account has been put on hold for 90 days because my Order Defect Rate doesn't "meet their standards". If buyers who are satisfied don't leave feedback, then of course the ODR will be low! Two people asked for a return out of about 8 sales. It's not fair that if people don't leave good feedback, I get penalized. Out of the 8-9 things I bought on Amazon, I never left feedback. Only if something is unfavorable would I leave feedback. It's not even necessarily feedback, it's the "wanting of a return" of a product that gets you this 90 day hold. This is not right and I don't know who to turn to. Please help me. (link)
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honestly, it's best to just not get caught up in all this legal mumbo jumbo. it'll just get you more stressed out than anything! move on to a different website to sell your stuff, like ebay or kijiji. it might be for the best! :)
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Hey guys,
I am a 13 year old girl and i really wanted to know the BEST way to get a boyfriend. I am described by frieds and class mates as : funny,crazy,good singer (i dont think so lol) and kind hearted. I have been out with a couple of boys and really like on of the lads who is Funny and loves music like me. If anyone has any advice on how to get his attention etc,etc PLEASE help me! thanks, Meg xx 8D (link)
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you just have to talk to him and be straight up! be your confident self and the right boy will come along. see which boy is willing to spend the most time with you and you feel the most comfortable around and then you may bring up the topic of being in a relationship. if that scares one of them off, then that is their own fears. be you and be straight up about what you want in life and who you want.
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I have been dating this boy more than 8 months but less than a year. We're both in 8th grade. I really like him, he told me the same thing but idk. He barely hangs out with me at school, he calls me but it's very seldom, he never invites me to his house, and I'm pretty sure his friends don't like me. He is sweet to me and tells me I'm great and has also bought me very nice gifts. I've broke up with him but he asked me back out(I said yes). He tells me he loves me and he would give his life for me but I know at 13 you can imagine yourself with someone forever. Long decription short, I'm getting mixed signals and I don't like it. (link)
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it sounds like this boy is confused himself, ask him straight up what his deal is and if he doesn't give you a straight up answer then try your best to move on sweetie. this boy doesn't seem like he is worth your time!
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I changed my user Name on Instagram but I've noticed that when people tag me in a comment they're still using my old username. How can I fix this? (link)
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delete your old account!
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