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Hey there! No need to let you know my entire life story, but I'm a psych buff with a good ear. I won't pretend to have absolute intel on everything, because I'm not a narcissist ;) But I can tell you I have a lot of knowledge and insight into mental health, relationships, sex, bisexuality, pets, and am good at listening to any problem and giving the best insight I'm capable of.
By the way, the picture above is not me, as I am not Hayley Williams from Paramore. I look quite a lot like her in that picture, and am a musician. I choose to retain a certain level of anonymity here, so that you won't feel uncomfortable about asking questions, but certainly if you want to find out more about me, just ask me for my email or IM.
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Hey. Today my boyfriend and I tried to have sex but we couldn't find a position were it was easiest for him to stay in. what it the best position for us both to be comfortable and for him to stay in? Any advice would be much appreciated. Oh we are both 17 and haven't had much sexual experience. Thanks :)
Theres no "best" position for people in general. It really does depend on you as a couple. Because you havent had much sexual experience, you might not be used to trying all the different positions to find the best way. But it takes a while for a couple to find what works best for them sexually. If its a problem in terms of him literally staying in, I would recommend one leg wrapped around his back and one on top of his shoulder. It makes for deeper penetration, and therefore its pretty easy to stay in. But it really is specific to you as a couple. Try lots of different positions. Don't be afraid to laugh about it. Have fun!
My boyfriend says that we haven't been together long enough to be married and I don't understand. He and i met each other when i was 16 and he was 17. He always told me that once we graduated from college that we could get married. We were in programs in college that didn't allow us to get married or we'd get kicked out. Now that I'm 23 and he's 24. He still hasn't proposed after 7 years.After all of the family christmases, sex and 'i love you's'... It hurts. Do you think we haven't been together long enough?
Everybody moves at a different rate, and whats more every relationship moves at a different speed. That being said, 7 years is long enough. Now you say he hasn't proposed, have you discussed it? Ever thought of asking him? If he says no, you would at least get to hear why not and have a serious discussion about it. And if you don't want to do that, just ask him bluntly. At 23, you're old enough to have very blunt logical conversations about your future. You've invested a lot of time in your relationship, so it really is time to establish whether this is it, or whether he's still holding out for something else. Talk to him. Ask him.
my gf wants to suck my penis &want to drink sperms will she get pregnant
lol, you troll.
do guys like it when girls touch themselves? does it turn you on or is it unattractive?
Most guys think its incredibly hot. Guys are very visual when it comes to sex, while women are usually more mental. Watching you masturbate is like watching porn, and he gets to see you in ecstasy without having to do any work to make it happen.
I cannot speak for all men everywhere, but I can say that a good majority love this.
Ok my period didnt come on in may at all but the first of june it comes on what does that mean thats 31days from my last period.......i never had that happen I thought I was.pregnate I missed a whole month of a period and then the first day of the next month I get one wtf!!! What does that mean...Confused
Theres actually lots of reasons you can miss your period.
Are you under any high stress?
Have you not been eating enough?
Have you been eating, but exercising a lot?
Those are all reasons you could miss your period.
Also, sometimes a slight hormonal imbalance can cause that, which is no big deal, unless you started missing your period for like, 6 months, in which case you'd go to your doctor and they might give you meds to balance your hormones.
Don't stress. Or you'll miss your next one! ;)
So today I had sex with my bf and the condom broke but he onlyed pre cum, and I just finished my period on Monday is there a chance that I'll will end up pregnant
There is a chance. It's unlikely, yes, you're probably fine, but it is possible. If you're really worried go to planned parenthood and get plan b.
I like my bestfriends boyfriend:( I know it's wrong but I use to have feelings for him and thought they were gone but now that they're dating I got feelings for him again. I feel like a horrible friend but I can't help it....we even flirt. It's like I can't control myself. I can't avoid him because I see him all the time now that they're dating. If I tell my bestfriend she'll either dump him not to hurt me or tell me to stay away from him:( what can I do to get over my feeling for him? I even recently dumped my boyfriend because I felt like I was "cheating" by having feelings for someone else. How can I control my feeling or get rid of them? Thank you:)
First off, I'm sure you can't expect us to say anything but do NOT mess with your best friends boyfriend.
You can't turn your feelings off. This much is true. But when you say you can't help flirting with him, thats not true. You can. Don't. If you have to be standoffish, so be it. When you hang out with your best friend, ask if it can be the two of you more often. He is completely off limits. You wouldn't want to be with someone who would hurt your best friend like that, and you wouldnt want to lose your friend over feelings for this guy.
It sucks, but you need to keep your distance, if not physically but emotionally. Don't engage, don't flirt, and try and get over it.
Also, just so you know, feelings for someone else when you're in a relationship is normal. As long as you don't act on your feelings, and you still love the one you're with, theres no need to end the relationship.
Good luck, and remember crushes are fleeting but a best friend is like a sister.
What other type of gum will make your breast grow
I don't know, what gum have you been eating that makes you ask questions like this?
i am 12/f and 127 lbs. is that over weight?
Well, you didn't give your height.
But at 127 pounds, it'd be hard for you to be overweight. And without being condescending, 12 is far too young to worry, when you're clearly in the healthy weight range.
You're young, you're beautiful. Embrace it sweetie.
what does snm mean
Well that depends. If you literally mean snm, then its a term for Plutonium.
If you mean S&M, then its a form of kink. Think leather, whips, chains, and dom/sub roleplay. Pain mixed with pleasure, etc.
16/f
I have naturally dark brown hair. I've had highlights for the longest time. They were red but faded to a brownish blond.
Anyway, I want to dye all of my hair black now because I just don't like the color anymore. I don't want to do it myself because I'll probably screw up. My mom told me that she's not sure if I should dye it black because when they do it, it'll look somewhat purple. So idk?? Is it true?
So what do you think I should do?
Thanks!
No. It won't. If you apply jet black dye to your hair, your hair will be black. It will be slightly lighter than the box color, but it will be black.
where can the line be drawn for cheating as in sexual contact or just a simple hug or something else post your options
It is specific to the relationship.
Okay sure. If a couple sets no specific standards, just goes "We are exclusive, no cheating" To most that would mean you don't kiss anyone else, and you don't do anything that escalates from that point on. Then there are those who believe in emotional affairs. And theres also the concept of leading someone else on, and therefore "cheating".
But theres your general definition of what cheating is. If you haven't set any other guidelines, you pretty much have to go with that. But the reality is, every couple is different.
Choices are; Wind it up by Gwen stefani,sweet escape Gwen stefani,Sk8ter boi Avril Lavigne,D.I.N.O.S.A.U.R Ke$ha or Mobile Avril Lavigne???? Please I can not decide!! SOS,SOS,SOS,SOS,SOS,SOS!!!! :( :(
I too, would go with Sweet Escape by Gwen Stefani,but its more about which is your favorite song, which one you think you sing the best, and if you want your friends to enjoy it, which songs they like. Perform a few for friends or family, see what they like. Good luck in the talent show, I'm sure you'll do great! ^-^
Okay i am almost 15 and i am now just getting into public school. (I was home schooled for most of my life) And my boyfriend of a couple months really wants me to go pretty far. I am ready. But i don't if i should shave down there or not? Or how to? Or risks? etc, etc.
Help!
I would trim, if I were you. If you eventually want to be shaved, go for it, but if you're doing this with the intention of going somewhere with your boyfriend, I wouldn't recommend doing something that most likely the first time will cause ingrown hairs, red bumps, and razor burn. The first time you do it, your body is not quite sure how to deal. Also, in terms of risks, people who shave are more likely to get yeast infections. Good luck, and be safe!
I've read and heard many times that it's healthy to have sex 4-5 times a week but is it really possible. Me and my bf still live with our parents so that makes it hard. How can we make it happen, we dont want to make it a chore, sometimes he has had a hard day at work or I have and we fall asleep really early. Sometimes we don't sleep at each others homes. And even if we did live alone together where is the time to be intimate and connect for a gd 30-45 min a day. It doesnt seem like alot of time but with full time jobs cooking cleaning running errands. Is this "healthy" amount of sex really possible? Is anyone successful with this or do you have any pointers?
Now first off, the healthy amount of sex to have is - exactly the amount you want to have. If 4-5 times a week doesn't feel natural to you, don't bother. The only sense in that 4-5 would be considered healthy is if A)That is your natural sex drive, and B)its a form of workout. My advice would be, have sex as much as both of you want, and go to the gym if you want to get a workout ;)
OK, so I'm feeling this girl really bad, but she lives with an ex, and while I respect the dude and them living together, and it doesn't bother me I want people to stop giving me all the "what if's" cause if I live my life by what if I do this or don't do that I'm going to cheat myself out of any kind of happiness, I want to ask her out officially, but to kill the rumors, what should I do?
So, you're unsure of whether to ask this girl out because it sounds potentially complicated, and because you're unsure of what her relationship is to this guy, this "ex" of hers, no? Do you know how long they went out for, what their future living plans are, or if she lives with anyone else? Does she want to change her living arrangements? What is she looking for? More importantly, what bearing to these questions have on your next move? Ultimately, much like with any potential dating scenario, you want to have the information first, to make sure you're not wasting your time or setting yourself up for heartbreak. You can try to find the answers to your questions, but its more important that you figure out what relevance the answers hold for you. Do you think you stand a chance? You can jump in, feet first, or you can approach with caution. Evaluate the situation, and your feelings on it, and make your choice. If you fear getting crushed, perhaps take things slowly on this one. - Phoenix
Okay,
I thought I texted my mum today to tell her i was walking home from a late class at school. When I looked-i found i had sent the message to my ex boyfriend :O So anyway i just sent one back to him saying 'Sorry tht was for some1 else.' Bearing in mind he broke up with me five months ago now and he's started three text conversations with me in the last month, what does anyone think he's thinking? Any comments would be great thankyou :)
I'd need a little more information to go on to give you a really detailed response on what he may or may not be thinking.
What was his reason for breaking up with you? How long had you been going out for? And more importantly, whats your interest in the situation, are you hoping to get him back?
People all react differently after a breakup. Sometimes both men and women like to end a relationship, but keep the door partially open, or even just retain the person in their life to some extent as a friend, or a "if everything else fails, theres always _" person.
Others are unsure if they actually wanted to end the relationship permanently, and will therefore keep some form of line of communication open.
And then theres dumpers remorse.
But my feeling would be, if he broke up with you 5 months ago and has shown no effort or indication of wanting you back or forming a real friendship, perhaps its time to take him off your phone so that accidental texts can't even happen. He rejected everything that you had to offer, just because he will occasionally text you doesn't mean you should waste any time or energy thinking about him.
Delete his number, replace it with someone else's ;) If he wants to reach you he can still text you.
Just wondering does anyone get grossed out by the term "tea-bagging"? and who doesn;t like to do it?
Just wondering is all I read that some people like it and its a turn-on but haven't really read anywhere if people get grossed out or doesn't like to do it to there partners.
It's just like any other sexual act - it might appeal to you, it might not. You might try it and find that it's less gross than it sounds. There are plenty of people, especially growing up who find/found the idea of oral sex abhorrent, who now actually like pleasing their partner in that capacity.
If you were to try it, and didn't like it, I would find another way to please your partner.
And yes, the term is not exactly an attractive one. It would pretty much put anyone off the concept. But, to be frank, if you don't have an issue with oral sex, you probably wouldnt have an issue with this.
okay. i have a problem. when i have intercourse with my partner, its really hard to get off. i can get hard and feel the pleasure but it takes a while ( and i do mean a while to get off.) so what should i do to help this problem
So who's complaining here, you or them?
I have to ask, because if you are indeed getting off, but it just takes a certain amount of time, then it shouldnt be an issue, as unless you're in pain, it just means thats how long you take. Have you had complaints from your partner that it takes you too long? Or do you just wish you got off quicker?
Now when you say intercourse, I can't know specifically what you do in bed with your partner, but different positions, different pressure, levels of tightness, speed, lubrication, obviously these all make a difference, and you can attempt mixing any of this up to see if it makes a difference.
At the same time, I would have to say that if its your issue, I would just relax and enjoy as long as you feel that pleasure/build up for. And if it's your partners, you should tell them to not be selfish about this. You take as long as you do, and you don't need to feel bad about it.
Im gay. so, AIDS and HIV are verry big issues for me. I was just wondering, what are the signs or symptoms of someone who has AIDS or HIV.
The reality is, the only accurate way to know, as people can be symptom-less, or show symptoms that may be because of something completely different, is to get tested. If you want to know if you yourself are HIV positive, get tested. If you want to know if someone else is, and its your buisness, then ask them to get tested or to show you recent test results. You can obviously figure out the likelyhood of someone having HIV via how sexually active they are, if they are protected, etc, but if you want to know, theres really only one way.