Gender: Female
Age: 15
Member Since: April 19, 2009
Answers: 30
Last Update: April 22, 2009
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so my mom does pretty much everything in my house.. between taking care of me & my brother, laundry, dishes, errands, taking us places, working.. you name it. my dads always working so hes never home so pretty much she does everything on her own. and a lot of times she just breaks down crying because shes so stressed out. i really try helping by doing the dishes and trying to make her feel better .. and (attempting) to clean my room..put away my laundry.. and try to make it easier on her. but she still feels like i dont do enough and says i dont appreciate her. i really do appreciate everything she does, i love her, shes my mom. i dont know what else to do. i feel like i help out but i guess i dont do it enough.. i dont know whether its that im lazy or i do something that makes me seem like a mediocre daughter.. i know i should really help more and i try but i never have the drive to do it. and i dont know what to do. its actually really hard to explain and even when she yells i dont feel that bad. i do feel bad for it..but i just feel..like i have no feelings. and i dont know how to change it. i feel like i should be in tears every night trying to change myself and at least act more appreciative because i obviously dont show it. i dont know. the things i feel inside are sincere feelings and feelings of love and wanting to help my mom but i cant get myself to do it. its like i live on another planet and i cant control myself. i just end up thinking way too much and i waste my time and my moms..i know i should be helping my mom more . but whatever i do never seems like its enough. can someone advise me what to do? (link)
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give her a free week/or day, buy her something she would like or wake up really early or sleep really late and prepare everything and clean everything before she wakes up. have breakfast for her and tell her how much you appreciate her. she really will get the message, let ur brother and father in on it. she will be very happy and you'll feel like the perfect child. it will be the best surprise and it will give her a chance to relax. if you really want to do this, think about all you have written and how your MOTHER will feel
best of luck, (awesome daughter if u do)
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Ok, so I'm 19/m lost mad weight and now I'm trying to look alittle better everything on me is skinny for the most part but my belly and I was woundering if there's anything I could do to lose the belly.... also I was woundering what work outs I could do at home (I don't got a gym membership can't really afford that or weights) like pecs, bicep, calf, forearm.. so just any little thing just to help me look better would be a big help. THANKS! (link)
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it sounds really feminine, but YOGA AND PILATES! buy or rent the videos or find them on your t.v.
sit ups and crunches help a lot as well.
best of luck-keep on tryin for that 6 pack!
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My best friend since like forever won't talk to me! Well I mean she does, but not like she use to. We use to tell each other everything and now she won't tell me what's going on with her. She doesn't talk to me on the phone anymore as much as she use to. I know it's probably something she doesn't want to talk about, but I really want to help her. I should probably drop it. What do you think I should do!?
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give her space for 1 day. and then go right up to her and ask whats wrong, tell her that you to are best friends and if its about u then u should know. tell her even tho she wont talk tht much right now, u'll still be there for her in the longrun... that is what friends are for anyway, right?
hope this helped, good luck!
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I've had acne issues since i was 12, and i am now 17 and ive always had oily skin. When i was about 14, i started getting acne all over my chest, and a year later i also had it on my back. nothing has worked and i had heard about accutane and my dermatologist said i would do good on since since nothing has worked. i hated the fact that i would scar and not be able to wear tank tops because of my acne. Now i finally got my prescription.
Problem is that ive noticed in the past month my acne started to subside... and I never had cysts or anything, maybe one or two here and there...but i did have a lot of pimples, some big... but now my skin looks better than ever and i feel as though taking accutane would not be good since im getting better on my own...
what can you guys tell me about it, and is it okay to take?
btw, my skin goes through times when it's better and i get hopefull but then it gets bad again...
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ok, from experience myself and from the help of my mom, DO NOT PUT ANY HARSH CHEMICALS ON YOUR SKIN, it will damage your skin 4ever!!! keep using warm water and soap, DRINK PLENTY OF WATER AND EAT FRUIT! as a teenager your skin is going through the acne stage, everyone does, trust me! but it will get better, use small acne solutions but nothing harsh. as for your back, i 2 had that problem. the best thing is to buy scar cream or ask your dermatologist again, get some perscribed cream.
hope it all works out!
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ok so my hair goes down to my waist, sometimes a little longer but i cut it 1 inch about every 5 weeks. my skin is really white and my hair is darkbrown/maroon ish but some say it's black too. (it's not haha) like most people say it suites me and most guys and my friends seem to like it , other girls always try to get me to cut it but probably cause theyre jealous. it's naturally straight but i like curling it to give it more volume. so my question is, do guys like long hair like that?
(i know that i'm the one who should be happy with it and i'm NOT gonna cut it just because some guy doesnt like it, it's just a question :] (link)
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ok, guys LOVE HAIR! long or short. i do know that guyz honestly love curly hair more (i dont have curly hair)lol. but you dont need to cut it to get a guy's attention, honestly. but as long as it isnt down to your knees your fine, cutting it wont be soo bad but only if you want to...dark hair and pale skin is what cute guys love!!!!
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Almost a week ago my girlfriend and I broke up my reasoning because we never see each other and I didn't think she really cared but I am still madly in love with her. However a couple days ago I found out she had cheated on me and she also convinced me that she did care and that's why we started talking about braking up before but I didn't know why. I think she was just too scared of the consequences that's why she broke up with me. I'm willing to forgive her and try to get back with her, but I'm not sure how to do it or if shell agree. Can you please tell me how I can handle this (link)
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honestly i dont think you both should be together right now. it doesnt seem like its the best time, wait a while and if you both still obviously have feelings for eachother then try working things out again. but for now, concentrate on other things, remember regardless of how you feel, she did cheat on you. time apart will help you realize whats important in your life, no need to rush into the same relationship, you have plenty of time!
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sorry its kinda long....
Ok so in the beginning of this year i had class with some girl named chelsea. Me and her started talking. Threw out the month me and her were bestfriends. I knew i could always count on her and i would tell her something and she wouldnt saya nything. So about 2 months later i started dating this guy for 5 months. Chelsea liked my boyfriend lets call him S. so chelsea liked S alot of people did. So towards the end of the 4th month i noticed he was acting wierd. He was ignoring me not saying i love you back or anything. (not trying to be exagerated) So [S) and chelsea had dance class togehter but i didnt have that in my schedule. People kept on telling me he was flirting with her and she was flirting back they told me that he would always pick her to be his dance partner. I didnt really say anything because i didnt wanna argue with him and plus i was getting kinda tired of him.But,yet this jerk took advantage one day i didnt go to school because,i got sick and asked her out! HE EVEN KNEW SHE WAS MY BESTFRIEND. and the little bitch said yes! even thoe i was getting tired of him they both had no reason to do it behind my back he couldve told me somehting but no! so the next day i found out because she said that she was dating someone secretly and she wasnt gonna tell anyone and she always told ME so i knew right away it was shane and she confessed to me it was [S) i liked it that she confessed but.... even thoe i was getting tired of him i got really dissapointed but,i didnt really care at the same time because, i started liking his friend (J] that same day (J] asked me out at lunch time. I said yes but i still was chelseas frriend did i do the right thing?
i kinda felt like a slut saying yes the same day but i was starting to like (J] alot! and i knew (J] was going to treat me better because,he's liked me since the beginning of the year. And hes not a player like (S] everyone was so happy for us but idk if i did the right thing by still being chelsea's friend
this only happened 1 month and a halfe ago about that time. Should i still be her friend even thoe it passed? (link)
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wow! u've been thru a lot. well the best advice i can give is to try and patch things up with her. NEVER let a guy come between to friends, honestly. i dont think you should be with the rebound guy (j) unless you really like him-remember you just got over a relationship. but talk with chelsea and clear things up, if this were a movie s would get slapped and you 2 wuld live happy ever after, i know this sounds corny but it is true. she was your friend first for a reason.
hope everything goes well!
best of luck
muslimah
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So I'm applying for a class officer position at school, and one of my teachers is a class sponsor. She told me that one of the questions they would ask would be:
How would you get more people to come and decorate that hallways and make floats during spirit week?
Basically, how would I up attendance to meetings and activities. I don't want crappy answers like "say there will be food" or "make lots of announcements" because DUH.
I need really creative answers that will show that I deserve the position. (link)
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well try thinking of it as your own party. call in friends, or parents of the students,
try to give in as much enthusiasm, or just have school spirit! make fundraisers by sending out fliers and putting signs around the community. people will get involved
hope it works out!!
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Hey, i was the girl that asked this question - http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=561649
Well, now ryan is complaining that i have been hooking up with half of the guys in my school, which isnt true at all. i have only hooked up with about 8 guys since he has broken up with me. and most of them out of depression.. he starts SCREAMING at me, that im a slut.
i didnt state this in my last question but i am 16 and i am a sophmore, and he is 18 and is a senior.
Ryan-
lol ur rediculous....go ahead hook up with every1 and be slut
he imed that to me this morning on ichat. i got a text from him at 1 am last night
"Ryan- soo.. you hook up with jake 45 minutes after i broke up with you. coool."
like, mature much?
heres another one-- ryan: "you say you wanna get back together. you say your waiting. but all i see is you hooking up with one guy after the other. i dont like being lied to. ontop of that, you get mad and upset whenever you hear im getting with someone else.. when your getting with like half the school."
me: "im not getting with half the school. i cant talk now im out with people"
ryan: "laura, dont even try to deny anything. just stop lying its pathetic. have fun mackin it with whoever you are with."
me: "erite,, maybe i will"
ryan: "goodbye"
me: "oh, im pretty sure i never said i was waiting, i said the opposite. and then im pretty sure you were never going to ask for me backkk sooo... whatever"
ryan: "maybe i was... ever think of that?"
me: "HAHAHA nope"
he texts me later that night
ryan: "im gunna ask you something right now, and if you dont answer it truthfully ill know. dont bother trying to cover your ass so im not mad.. because if you lie i promise you its over for good and ill never talk to you ever again. just tell me the truth and maybe ill still talk to you. how many people have you hooked up with since we broke up?"
me: i told you.. im over my texting. call me if you care that much.
ryan: for 50 cents i think this is worth it.
me: alright.. 5 or 6... maybe 8 guys..
ryan: why do you find it necessiary to lie to me?
me: im not....
ryan: cuz i remember asking you 10 mins ago and you said HAAHA no. this right here laura.. is why we cant get back together anytime soon. all i keep hearing is im sorry. and you lying constantly.
me: well, sory is all i can say at this point. you have NO buisness in who im with and shit now, you broke up with me.
ryan: you act like i dumped you for no reason. i was always willing to work things out. and one thing led to another and you hook up with all of these people and tell me all these lies. blah blah blah. apparently you had other plans.."
today. my friend katie calls me up and says "ryan had sex with the girl he cheated on you with"
i go.. really? tahts cool. i dont care. i dont have the tears for it anymore. i dont know how. i just dont... it doesnt hurt me anymore. he is yelling at ME for hooking up with guys.. HOOKING UP? i should punch him in the face for having sex with that girl!
he texts my firend christie saying "BEING SINGLE IS AMAZING I CAN FUCK WHOEVER I WANT! i had no idea what i was missing. im sooo glad i broke up with her." ...immature much? he knew i was with her, thankfully i just droppd her off at her house 10 mins before he texted her....
i dont know what to say to him. but i want to make a closure... a nice, straight forward, a little bit bitchy closure. i deleted him off of facebook already... so, thats a start. i think im just gunna make a huge closure. but i need your help...telling him that i am done.
thank you in advance! :) (link)
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ok, i'm very glad you took the first step having him removed from your life. but remember, YOUR leaving HIM! make it short and sweet. tell him you for the last time you havent slept with the entire nation and that he's a senior and he really needs to take a midol and move on with his life! he will never have a steady relationship if continues to behave the way he does, and after he leaves you can live your life right and that he was obviously a mistake. the final goodbye and your all set
hope this helps
good luck! and congrats on leaving the loser
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Basically, a friend and I became really close to eachother. We'd been friends for a few months, but that was it. And then the new semester started and we just started talking a lot more, calling each other at night, and texting, too. (this occured around the beginning of January). So every weekend, we would go out with each other. Basically just the two of us. I started to crush on him, and I thought possibly that he was crushing on me. However, the first weekend in February he said he didn't want a relationship right now. I knew this already (even though I hoped he'd change his mind) because of a phone conversation we had late one night in January. Well, I accepted us just being friends and we continued with our friendship as if everything were normal. The next weekend was Valentine's Day and we rented a movie and watched it at his house. At first, it started as the two of us next to eachother on the couch, then he grabbed my hand and we were holdiing hands. Soon, I was laying against him (trying to not fall asleep). I really liked it, it was romantic and he was so sweet and caressing my fingers. But a week ago he'd said he didn't want a relationship. So of course I was a bit confused, yet I let it slide. The next week went by and he'd told his friends we were BF/GF and he was going to "officially" ask me out.We went out again that Friday night. Eventually, it came to the point where we were making out in the backseat, something I swore I'd never do. I'd also made a promise to remain virtuous until marriage so that was avoided that night. But what makes me mad, is at the end of that night, he said "I just want to be friends, I don't want a relationship. I'm sorry for leading you on for so long." It made me wonder if all he wanted was sex even though at the start of our friendship, our friendship, we'd both talked about how we believed in no sex until marriage. We agreed to still be friends after that night, but I was so angry at him that I told him I'd need time. The next week was a little awkward and we didn't talk much. But that Friday he wanted to hang out, and I said I was busy. I guess I kept a grudge because it seems I was always the one to start getting angry. And after that, anytime we talked we always ended up arguing. It finally got to the point where, he said "I don't know why I ever kissed you" and I replied with "I'm sorry I somehow screwed everything up and for everything I ever did to you. I'm sorry I thought we could still be friends. I don't know what I did. before I make things worse, happy early birthday." We had made plans a long time ago to go out for his birthday. Obviously that never happened. And we'd also made plans to go to his prom, which is in one week (4/25). And that's not happening either. Recently, it's been somewhat easier to talk to him (if you can call it a conversation if it's simple questions with simple answers) because we're working on an assignment as a group for banquet. He still says we're friends. He says he likes to tease me. I'm no longer mad at him, angry at him, or hate him. I want to be friends, he was my best guy friend! I guess I'm trying to figure out if it's time for me to let him go and stop crushing on him (because I've still got unreceding feelings for him, no matter what I do) or if we can at least be friens, if there's something still there. I just don't know anymore. I really don't know what's the best thing to do in a situation like this. (link)
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wow! u really have a dilema, i can say from my point of view that if your really close with him tell him how u feel, regardless if you don't think he'll like you. i mean you've gone on and off sort of already so you have nothing to lose really, or if you feel uncomfortable with that just try getting over him, it sounds dorky but friendship is waay better than relationships. you have plenty of time to worry or care about this now, enjoy your friendship b/c it sounds like you've cared to much if your friend doesnt bother making the first step (and usually the guy does) hope this helped,
muslimah
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