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Q: Well, I have a friend who visits an advice site (the name slips my mind) where most everyone posts idiotic relationship questions riddled with bad spelling, punctuation, and grammer, pretty much in that order. My question is this, how do I tell my friend that he is a moron? And how can I make him stop asking stupid questions? And how can I get him to stop using things like "u" for you, or "r" for are?

Thanks for the help.

well hes probably just using the letters for a short cut dont tell him not to. but u shouldnt tell him hes dumb either just tell him that he should pay attention to his mistakes. y do u even wanna tell him that hes dumb!?

Q: ok when i graduated from da 8th grade i was leavin alot of memories and friends behind me.. they were all going to a different high skewl than i was and i knew even tho we said we'd still be friends id never see them again.. well there was this kid named anthony... and well ive liked him sense the first time i met him(and im pretty sure he knew). i thought i wasnt gunna be hapy without seein him anymore but i eventually got over it and moved on. well yesterday when i went to pick up my brother from the ice rink there he was(wit some girls from his skewl)... and the minute i saw him all those feelings came back. when he passed by he said hey and we talked very briefly. i left after words but now i feel bad all over again and i know its gunna take a while fur me to get over it.. how do i make those feelings go away?

i know its hard to miss your friends but you should remember all the good times. you could even call them for old-time-sake!

Q: I am a 22 year old female, I have had two sexual partners. I don't find sex very fulfilling, and am low on the LUST. I have just broken up with my boyfriend and find that I am repulsed/ashamed/embarrassed when I think about our sex life. I hate thinking about it or talking about it and I don't want to see him because I feel disgusted and ashamed every time I look at him and I feel like he is probably thinking the same thing. What the hell is this?

uh....im a 13 year old i dont know if you wanna hear my answer but here it goes!i know that you regret tyour sex with him but your gonna have to deal.start a new reputation, sstart over!

Q: Okay when ppl give u feedback.. like when u go to see all ur feedback is it in any kind of order? Cuz its really hard to like find all ur new feedback without having to go through all the old stuff.

to tell you the truth i dont really know, ive been trying to figure that out too.

Q: Why do the moderators delete good questions? WTF? They leave up stupid ones like "I like a guy but he doesnt know...should I tell him?", but then when someone has a serious problem like the guy and his unruley brother they delete it? Advicenators needs to get its priorities straight and need to learn what questions stay and what goes. What do you all think?

well im sorry that you dont like how this website works but maybe they delete some imporant questions because they dont think the advice givers can handle them. and i was the person who asked if i should tell my crush that i like him!

Q: Last night I found out my bf did drugs. He never told me or anything but they were talking about it and my friend told me. I also found out that he was ganna dump me because he did it. It really made me mad. Like its not the fact that he does it, but the fact that he never told me about it. He knows i dont agree with that stuff so what should i do because i dont want him keeping stuff from me.

this guy is an ass! he had sex and never told you!oh dump this loser hes not good enough for you!

Q: One of my guy friends embarresed me a lot by accident . He made something different sound like i think about sex 24/7 . What should i do when pple ask me about it / tease me ?
Thanks ...

tell them that your guy friend was just joking around. You could even crack a joke about him if that doesnt work.

Q: 14/f

I'm going on a cruise for Christmas. And I went on one a few years ago. The last one i went on I saw tons of hott guys but i was to afraid to say hi. So I spent the entire cruise with my family (which was ok). Well, this time i want to be able to meet people while I'm there. What are some ways to meet new people without being really weird about it? thanks!

relax act like your talking to your bst friend! if you play it cool the hott guys are bound to like you!

Q: I cut myself. I've been cutting for about half a year. I've never had a problem hiding it or anything. Just recently I've been trying to stop. I know its bad. My problem is that I have P.E. starting 2nd semester (in January) and I don't know how to hide the scars (I'm going to have it 2nd period if it helps). My parents don't know, and I don't want them to know either. We have to wear uniforms so I don't know how I'm gonna pull this off. Also, bracelets and jewelry aren't allowed. Any ideas? Thank you.

Please, stop cutting yourself! It's so bad that you could seriusly hurt yourself, you ould cut all the wa down to the bone! Get help fom a guidance counslelour.you'll stop cutting if you get help.

Q: okay i just started my period. I have a few questions.
a)if when you put a tampon in, and in 6 hours later when you take it out. and theres blood on it.but when you wear a pad and you take it off, and theres no blood. is this a period?
b) can you bathe with tampons in?
c)is mastrubation with your period a bad idea
d)it acually hurts when i insert a tampon, could it be that i forgot to take a previous tampon out?
e)what exactly are cramps?
f)is it healthier to wear a pad or insert a tampon?
g) can you get pregnent if you are having your period?
h)is having sex with your menstrual flow an unhealthy idea?

thanks

WOAH WOAH WOAH! im not an expert jeez! but i can answer some of your questions.f)i dont know what is healthier but i think you should ALWAYS wear a pad to bed. if you wear a tampon you could get toxic shock syndrom-thats really bad!g)yes you can get pregnant while you have your period beacuse the blood that comes out is not only blood, it's nourishment for the egg then the embrio grows into a baby.h)i don't think sex is a good idea ever if you just got your period, you are waaaaaaaaaaaaayoung girl!

Q: This is a really.. stupid.. question.. but.. here goes anyway:
I want to buy some condoms (im a girl) and i think its kind of embarrassing.. i mean.. i dont want everyone to know im having sex. I cant drive.. and if my sis or parents found out i was buying them.. they would KILL me.. Anyway.. when i work up the nerve to buy them.. whats the best kind to buy... i prefer lifestyles or trojan.. so whats the best.. and cheapest at that.. to buy

thanks!

Here's my answer unless your 18 or older then DON'T HAVE SEX! but if you are older than 18 the best kind is the kind that protects from HIV and AIDS

Q: Ok, ok. I admit it. I'm not eating enough. But no one will leave me alone about it! I have this one teacher who's about to call my mom. I seriously don't want to eat more, but if everyone (like my mom) gets on my case about it, I will have no choice! I'm doing well losing weight! I have never looked better! And if everyone gets involved I'm gonna gain it back. Everyone always asks "What did you eat today" And when I say "nothing" they get all mad. How do I get them to leave me alone? (Please don't be like everyone else and tell me it's not good for me) I just want to know how to get them off my back. I would lie but I'm a bad liar. Thanks.

If your happy with how you look why do you keep starving yourself?A good way to stop starving is to eat a little bit more everyday. If you eat alot after starving for a while then you'll gain weight. Tell your friends and family that your gonna stop with anorexia then they'll probably get off yuor back.

Q: My boyfriend is amazing. I love him to death. But he is a little immature sometimes when I need him to just be serious. Any way I could tell him in a nice, non-offending way??

Tell your boyfriend tthat if hes gonna be so immature then you can't go out with him any more. If you tell him in a nice,respectful way he should listen to you.

Q: I’m female, 15, and I hate everything about my family, I’ve always been rejected and pushed aside and neglected, my brother is the center of everyone’s life because he is such an asshole, my parents give him whatever he wants because they can’t stand to hear him rage and scream and say everything bad and hateful he could possibly say. I think they give him such free rein because he has turrets or however the hell you spell it and they just blame his bad behavior on it. They have always been too focused on trying to help my lying, trouble making, hates-the-world, asshole of a brother, so I can never feel anything- they can’t deal with me being sick, or sad, or angry, because they can’t help me, they’ve stopped trying because as soon as their attention would switch over my brother would do something and start screaming and saying shit about me, and how much he hated me and my parents and that everyone else does everything wrong, not him. My parents won’t get him help, they now take their anger at him out on me, they yell and scream at me when I tell them what I think of my brother and how I think they’re doing stuff wrong with him and how he needs help, my dad always punishes him at the wrong time when he’s actually calm, he can never say anything right to my brother, and then they ask me to go give him food or ask him stuff and my brother takes shit out on me. I hate everything about my family, I’m tired of being pushed around and neglected, and they’re making me into a person I hate, what can I do that doesn’t involve anything that costs money? because I’m not that rich. Plz help me, I’m honestly ready to kill myself.

Considering suicide is the wrong way to turn.Try leaving yourself alone for a while, reflect on your life.If your parents can't help you with your horrible broter then get help at school. Talk to your guidance counsoler he can hlp you with your probblems at home and make you feel better about yourself. Whatever you do do not kill yourself!

Q: i like this guy and i'm not sure if he likes me.he's always really nice to me. i'm not sure what to do. i wanna tell him that i like him but i'm afraid that if i do he'll either be afraid of me or tell me that he hates me. wat should i do?

if your afraid to tell him that you like him, dont tell him to his face. slip a note into his locker that usually works. if he says he hates you stop liking him ,he's not good enough for u!

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hey im maria and i wanna tell all you teens out there that im here to help.i have blonde hair and blue eyes.i love helping people thats why i have a column. if you have a question just drop it in my inbox! chances are im going throught the same thing! glad to help!