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Q: what is illegal in a mormon relationship
cause i like a mormon guy
but im not mormon
i know you cant have sex
but what cant you do besides that?
and is it illegal to see their abs..?
thanks in advance

im pretty sure that if hes following the Mormon religion exactly that you arent suppose to even date people outside of your religion. but i guess its up to them and how well they follow their religion.

but its not 'illegal' to see their abs no.

hope i helped

Q: Hi ive been having this brown discharged an i havent ever had my period and now theres a little bit of blood is this the start of my period? And im not sexually active

by the way im 13!

Thx in advance

i would say so.

if not then it could be that your hymen could of broke. you dont have to be sexually active for it to break you could have done something as simple as hitting the bar on your bike when you fell off or something like that. or even jumping from the high dive in the pool.

you can also tell if its your period if the blood keeps coming, if its just once then its not your period. your first period normally doesnt give you cramps, but other things might be weird like if your breast kinda hurt to touch, like they are tender or sometimes its even in your armpits (i know thats weird but it is what it is) or even the small of your back kinda hurts.

hope i helped!

Q: well I have a bf.he askd me out on xmas eve. I liked him sooo much. nd even before he askd me out and I still do.well he has A LOT of friends that are girls. and I get super jealous when he talks to them or something. I talked to him sorta about it over texting.and he says he understands the "I don't want to be hurt" but he said not to worry cause he isn't going to break up with me and for me not to be jealous.well my question is how can I get over my jealousy? cause it always leads to us arguing I don't want us to break up. please don't say "just don't think about it.just trust him" cuz we do trust eachother we went over that.and I trust him just not the other girls.and if you gona say "talk to him" I have a couple times. so if your gona say that then at least give me some pointers on what to say! please and thankyou in advance!!!

i think if you really trusted him you wouldnt be worried about him talking to the other girls.

if you dont trust the other girls thats fine, but they have nothing to do with it. they cant force him to cheat.

my advice is that think about when you talk to other guys. and think about how it might come off as flirting to other people but you know in reality theres nothing there. (now im not sure how you talk to other guys but im just trying to get you to see a point). like you might text someone alot but it doesnt mean you like him or that he likes you. or you might talk to someone in class daily it doesnt mean you like him you just like talking to him, just as a friend. you know what i mean?

if you trust him. and you can honestly believe everything that comes out of his mouth, and he says they are just friends. then thats what they are.

if you feel like you dont talk to other guys like he talk to his 'girl' friend and you dont want him to talk to other girls period, then you should flat out tell him that. in my opinion that would make things worse though, because your making him choose between friends and girl friend.

and one last thing. if he wanted to be with those other girls then he wouldnt be with you. maybe thats a way you could think about it, for you to be less suspicious about him.

i really hope i helped,
and i hope things get better for you.

Q: where can I see The Secret Life of the American Teenager Season 2 Episode 1 - Part 1 online
with subtitles? Or could someone give my the lines that go with the episode?

the only website that i found that had subtitles, you had to download the video.

http://www.tvsubtitles.net/tvshow-218-1.html

thats the website, all you have to click on one of the flags, and it should start downloading. the only problem was is that since it just aired last night its not up yet (the subtitles)
so i would give it two or three days and it will be there. and when it does come up just click the flag of the country that has the language that you want to view the subtitles it. [sorry if that was confusing]

also:

im not completely positive if they have subtitles, but itunes would have the episode in their store. you would just have to find subtitles that go with it.

hope i helped!

Q: i was unresponsible and had unprotected sex. when should i take a pregnancy test? i know 5 days before your missed period but i don't really understand because i don't know if i'm like going to miss it for sure. i'm almost positive i'm not, i just want to be totally sure.

it all depends on the brand you buy. there are some that say five days before your first missed period. that means if you were suppose to have your period today on the 6th. your should take the test as late as the 1st. when they say your first missed period, they are just assuming that your going to miss your period.

there are other brands that tell you to take it closer to your 'missed period'. those ones are more accurate.

someone i knew took the 5 days before a missed period and it said she wasnt pregnant she took another one 2 or 3 days before and there was a faded pink line on the test. and then she found out she was pregnant.

like i said it all what you decide to buy.
hope i helped.

Q: so i have this friend 'jane'
&&her mom does && does && does for her.
she does everythinq she says.
i mean i quess you could call her mom a sort of 'push over?'
then my friend [13years old) starts screaminq && pouts.
im like wtf dude?
i tell her to chill out ; butt she acts like thats okay for a thirteen year old qirl to do.
its almost like when you see a qirl in a movie yell at her mom.
she trys that butt she looks ridiculous.

what do i tell her so she can stop makinq a complete fool of her ; her mom ; && me in public?

i would think part of the problem is her mom. i mean if she lets her keep throwing those tantrums then shes going to keep doing it, especially if she is getting her way.

but if i were you, when you were with her
after one of her little episodes i would definitely pull her aside and ask her if that was necessary? maybe you should just come right out, and when she asks you to go somewhere with her tell her you dont want to be anywhere with her because she is embarrassing.

maybe if she hears it from a friend that she is acting immature then she might 'grow up'. and if that doesnt help and you are really fed up with her behavior maybe you shouldnt hang out with her, but i would give talking to her a try.

hope i helped

Q: My boyfriend has just got texting, I have had texting every since the beginning of our relationship and he has just gotten it. Ever since he has known he was going to get texting he promised me that he wouldnt text any girls, or do anything or talk to anyone that would sacrifice our relationship or make anything worse. So the other day i was at his house and this girl texted him, (i have had problems with her before and dont get along with her) I asked him if he has been texting this girl and lying to me, he said he hasnt and this is the first time she texted him and i asked what she had said and what he replied back. All he told me was that she said Happy Thanksgiving and he replied saying thanks you too, bye. I had used his phone later that day, and had been texting his cousin, and i glanced through his messages and he had lied about her texting him that day, they had had a longer converstation than he had told me. So me with this situation was confused, and me and my friend took her phone and texted my boyfriend on her phone pretending to be another girl. SO many this would make me be able to trust him, seeing what he responded to "this girl." We said we wanted to hang out with him etc. And he did reply by saying he did have a girlfriend etc. He did tell me that this person texted him and he told me he had stopped texting her because she was stupid. But he didnt stop texting her. Eventually throughout the day he did have one of his friends text her. In my opinion i think this is really stupid because he told me he wasnt worried about but why would he text her if he wasnt worried? Obviously he wanted to know who the actual girl was.
Explain to me if im just overreacting or not?
My friend said that I shouldnt make him do something not to hurt me, he should know on his own not to do it.
what would you do?

heres the thing. in my opinion i dont think you should limit him to only talking to you. i think that you should let him talk to other girls and be comfortable with it. as for the other girl he is talking i would be a little upset that he lied to me about it. but then again maybe he just didnt want you to be upset. i think you should talk to him and tell him that you saw the text messages and that you were the girl who texted him. If i was a girl and some guy texted me out of the blue and acted like he had a thing for me i would want to know who it was. But he told you when you were pretending to be some other girl that he had a girlfriend.

over all i think you should just trust him.
hope i helped.

Q: above my display picture theres all that stuff like advertisements, the shortcuts, the navigation links (home, music etc) etc.

how do i take them off. i know theres a code for it... do you know? PLEaSE HELP ME IM BEEN LOOKING FOR THIS EVERYDAY

http://www.pimpwebpage.com/hidetopbottomlinks.php
^^you will find how to hide those top link and/or the bottom links if you want.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080105234832AAjOqdd
^^this might help you to dellet the advertisement. maybe? not sure if this works {just a little side note a lot of people have said if you do hide the advertisement then you can get deleted off of myspace some people have done in and nothing happened to their myspace}

.detailerz {visibility:hidden; display:none;}

table div {display:none;}table table div {display:block;}

Q: Hey,
It's my teacher's bday tomorrow and we're throwing him a surprise party at uni - theme is Hip Hop. I am the kind of person who listens to weird stuff and I have NOTHING that's hip hop on my playlist.. I need help to figure out what I should wear.

Hair to toes, I need help..

Thanks!
KK

so i would go with like capris that are more baggie not jean ones but like other cloth.{if you can if no then just jean ones. and if you dont have capris then you could roll up jean.} then maybe a cropped jacket but since its school in sure you would have to wear like a tank top or plain shirt under it. then i would wear just like sneakers. then for hair i would just say like leave it down maybe a hat. like with a flat bill if you have one. or just a pony tail. and for jewlery maybe like hoops for earrings and then i think your all sett.

if you want to got for a differen style like you could wear baggy jeans or if you dont have any jsut like pull you jeans down. and wear like boxer shorts under it. and then a white tank top i for gett what there called like a wife beater also if you have like a hat with a flat bill you can get a doo rag and then again hoops or Big diamonds. and with this style ifyou have like i long necklace that would be great!

hope i helped =]

Q: my eyelashes aren't long but they're not short. Whenever I curl them and put on mascara, they aren't evenly separated, and some of them clump together and some of them are more curled than others even though i curl them all together.

any help with how to get my eyelashes evenly separated and look longer and more noticable??

mine never are seperate evenly so this is what ive come up with. (if you dont want to buy a eyelash brush) so take a paper clip and pull the end of it up so that it kinda looks like a "p". then take the part that is sticking out and seperate the clumped parts of your eyelashes.

as for some of your eyelashes being more curled... what i do is after im done and i notice the problem i take the mascara brush and just push and the parts that are less curled (try to aim toward more of the bottom of your lashes) and TADA

i hope i explained that good. if not let me know in a feed back and i can try again.

Q: I am 13 if that helps any and I never wear tank tops well only to layer under my t-shirts. And I kinda want to try wearing them like with layering them with t-shirts. I am kinda average on the weight scale. But I'm kind of afraid of what people think. I know that is wrong to think but its hard not to. And I'm shy and unpopular. I know I shouldn't care what people think of me but its really hard. So please help me gain some confidence and let me know if you think it would be ok for me to wear them. Thanks so much!

i dont think there is anything wrong with being concerned with what people think of you! i normally dont like wearing tank tops either. im not even sure why.

umm i think i would start off with a thicker strap just because it normally fits the dress code better. other than that i think your fine. i mean what are people going to say to you if you do wear one? nothing!

Q: ok so i litraly have over 70 or 80 scarves and i want to organize them in such a way that they look neat but are still visible for me to choose (i tend to scrumage and trash everything when i am looking for something :S) anyway so what is a good way to store them??

ohkay so i looked up a place where you can buy something like this they were around 50 or 60 bucks or so (some were more expensive) heres where i got it. http://onsmartpages.com/storefixturesusa/clothesracksaccessories/

im not sure how much space you have. some of those look a little space consuming.

hope i helped

Q: I need to find two dresses gor my 8th grade graduations walk and the promotion walk. But i cant find a store or online store tro find a dress. Im 14/f and 5'10' yea i know im tall lol and 125. can anyone pleaseeeeeeee give me some websites o and i need cheap dresses under like 50. THank you sooo much! :]

wow. you are tall. hah.

ohkay well i would try DEBs clothing store i think they have more dance like dresses i think i got mine there for like 60 bucks. so im sure you could find one 10 dollars cheaper.

for the walk i would think deliahs. they might be more expensive im not too sure about their prices.

and just for an all around store if you cant find one at the other places charlotte russe.

hope i helped =]

PS. they all have online websites that you can look at.

Q: I'm in 8th grade and 13. I like this guy. He isn't popular or anything either. He hangs out with like nerdy people or whatever. I don't label people but I couldn't explain it. So I like him and he has a twin brother. I sometimes talk to him but hardly ever. I have 3 classes with him and its just confusing. I really don't know what I should do. Whenever I do talk to him, I get all hyper or something like that. I usually don't talk much, only with my friends. But I feel really comfortable talking to him. We have more of tiny little small talks though. I'll give you some type of example except it wasn't much of talking. I was asking out loud if anyone had any paper. And he doesn't sit near me but he looked over and gave me 4 pieces of paper. Haha more than I needed but he did. I think he is really nice but the thing is I don't know how to stop acting so weird. I don't know if he likes it or thinks I'm stupid. Please help me out. Thanks so much!

ohkay so im a grade above you and i get the same way around guys that i like. i dont know what to say or what to do. and my advice is (harder than it sounds, cause i know ive tried.) just to be yourself, i know you've probably heard that a million times but its really great advice. and be aware of what you are doing or saying. if you act goofy with your friends then thats how you should be with him. like i said just be yourself. cause if he doesnt like you when you are being yourself then its pointless. cause then you will worry about trying to be something your not trying to act one way to please him.

and i think you should go for it.
i mean what do you have to loose. if your wondering if he likes you ask him. or at least tell how you feel,that way you wont have to wait around for him to make a move cause im sure if he likes you hes just as nervous.

hope i helped =]

Q: 1. is there any way to find out who commented it?
2. how could i add it to my blog, because my layout doesn't show the truth box?

i was looking around to see if you could find out who wrote in it, but i dont think there is a way. thats what every blog said. so im guessing there isnt a way

you cant add it to your blog. (well if you can i just dont know how) but idk if its your layout or if it cause you hide your comments. i had to play around with it but if its cause you hid your comments then you can still get it on your profile.

theres one or two ways.
1. i havent seen it work someone just said it did.
if you look at the html of the hidden comment code look where it says height and adjust it. the bigger the number the more space it will show. the person who mentioned it said theres was like 290 so i would start with that.

2(this is what i did)if you have one code to hide your friends and comments. change it so that there is one for each. and then if you have to adjust th eheight of the friends code or comments code.

hope i helped=]

Q: I am a 15 year old and I need serious help. You see, there are these two girls, let's say girl A and girl B, that are really affecting my life right now. Okay, to begin with, I really like girl B, a lot, but she only wants to be friends with me because of something I did that hurt her and made her feel terrible. Girl A, on the other hand, really likes me and really cares for me, A LOT. Girl A and girl B are best friends and do not like to "steal" boyfriends from each other, they are not like that. I asked girl A, who cares about me and really likes me, out just to make her feel happy and to let her know that I in fact do care. Unfortunately to her, not as much as she hoped for. Now, I'm regretting asking her out in the first place because now, her best friend, the one I like, does not go out with her best friend's exes. I did not know this until 2 days after I asked girl A out. So now the most beautiful girl, who's only 2 years older than me, is out of my reach. I really want to go out with her, but now she has this major crush on a boy who has a girlfriend already, but is still trying to get him to be hers. Girl A, on the other hand, is also cheating on me with this guy she likes. I know, this is very complicated and is very difficult to explain. I just need a little bit of advice on what I should and should not do at the moment. If you need any more details or have any questions, please, do not hesitate to e-mail me. trkcrds@yahoo.com. Thank you...

ohkay so basically just for a future notice.. DONT ask someone out you dont like. it might come up and cause a huge mess. and it really hurts people.

next umm girl B well you should have a talk with her. if she doenst like you thenn you can try to hang out with her and such.. but you should dump girl A and when you talk to girl B tell her you were cheated on by her anyways so why should that count. you really kind of have to wait it out, and hope for the best.. ik its hard to hear but its the truth..

Q: 16/f. (might be wrong category..sorry) This could be very long and its sort of a rant. I need help. Please.
I'm a very introverted person. Sometimes I would be so extremely happy because I have nothing big due in school and because my social life is okay. Just okay. And other times, I'd just lock myself in my room, and have that stressful atmosphere weigh me down, while I, comforted by the quiet room, would do my homework in silence. Or read. Or just be on the computer. At moments like these, I'd just reject the entire world and act moody towards everything and anything that moves or talks. I don't have many friends, and the ones that I have provide no comfort or happiness to me. I have no boyfriend and never did. And I long for male affection. I have no affection from anyone at all. My parents...I don't want them near me. I talk to them and we're okay sometimes. But I just want them farther away from me. I'm desperate for that tiny ounce of male affection and whenever a male hugs me, I realllllyyyyyyyyy just enjoy that moment. I don't know how to go about getting a boyfriend though, and so I sink in my own loneliness and despair.
I just don't know WHAT to do about this. I don't know where to turn.
I have been told that I'm good looking and smart. By many people. Yet I don't believe any of it. x_x I'm lost. ..Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Just, any.

Sincerely,
Lost and Confused.

Thank you so much in advance.

one place to start is at home.. i think if you and your parents had a better relationship you would feel better about yourself. ik it may be awkward but be straight forward and tell your parents you want to hang out with them. you want to talk. etc.

umm guys are guys so if you really want one.. let them come to you. but you got to put yourself out there. guys are shy to and they arent going to come up to any girl to talk to them and ask them to hang out. you have to show some kind of 'welcoming'. just saying hi or whats up shows some kind of interest. and someone could like you and you not know it.

perk up some.. and dont be so down about a boyfriend. they are stressful. and they will come.

hope i helped

Q: im 13 (girl) andd my boyfriendd is 15. i dont know what to get him for christmas but i really have to get him something, he said i didnt have to, but there is a difference between want and have. and i want to. ANY IDEAS?!

i ran into this problem last year. my boyfriend liked a sports team so i got him a hat from lids. umm other things if he is into sports is shirts? um or even a cd. hope i helped.

Q: HELP.
I'm on my Mom's work laptop and for some reason pop-ups just started coming up randomly.
I wasn't on any websites or anything that would cause that.
Unless LimeWire would?
She has a virus scan thing on her computer called "Symantec AntiVirus Corporate Edition" and I have no idea how to work it.
So if someone could please tell me a good place to download a free pop-up blocker or tell me what to do please let me know TONIGHT.
THANKS SOO MUCH!!

if you can comment me back and tell me what your using it couls be jsut because the pop off blocker is unchecked under your prefrences. i can lead you step by step to see if thats the problem first and then if that doesnt work...

Q: My boyfriend, of 2 years, just recently broke up with me, well like 6 months ago. He never really allowed me to let go, so I never really did. But finally we started drifting apart, and then he messages me & tells me that he wants me back.
I had met a boy, and we had been "talking" & I thought I liked him, until my ex tells me that, then everything this boy did, completely annoyed me. Well, my ex found out that I was talking to someone else, so he stopped talking to me, for about a week or so & me & this other boy grew closer, so we started dating. Well my ex comes back & I cheat on my new boyfriend, I told my boyfriend & he didn't get really mad, which bothered me. He let me get away with it, because he said he didn't want to lose me.
Now my ex rarely talks to me, because my boyfriend threatened him. & I want my ex back so bad. But I don't want to hurt my boyfriend. We've almost been together a month & he's super attached & so is his family. But I've been having to make up excuses to just not see him because he KILLS me. I just want my ex back, but I don't know what to do.
I can't break up with my boyfriend, because he's too attached & I've tried before & it just doesn't work.
I know this is long & confusing, but I really need help.

personally i think your ex sounds like a big tease. from what you said its like he wants you only because you have someone else. (jealousy?) your boyfriend now sounds like he really needs you and wants you and hasnt mistreated you at all (from what i know)i think you should give your ex a break and see how it goes with your boyfriend. i understnad where you are coming from ive been in a situation like before, so im no juding you or anything just form past experiences i think it would be best ot be with your boyfriend, he might have seem annoying because now you can pick out all his flaws and compare him with you ex. like i said beore i think you should cut things of ith your ex and"patch" things up with your Boyfriend

hope i helped :)

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heyy my name is samantha. I like to help anyone who needs it. I don't have alot of experience in some of the categories, but if you drop a question in my inbox and I don't know the answer ill be sure to find it one way or another. And no question is dumb so don't not ask something cause you feel that way!!! =)