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Texting and my relationship.
My boyfriend has just got texting, I have had texting every since the beginning of our relationship and he has just gotten it. Ever since he has known he was going to get texting he promised me that he wouldnt text any girls, or do anything or talk to anyone that would sacrifice our relationship or make anything worse. So the other day i was at his house and this girl texted him, (i have had problems with her before and dont get along with her) I asked him if he has been texting this girl and lying to me, he said he hasnt and this is the first time she texted him and i asked what she had said and what he replied back. All he told me was that she said Happy Thanksgiving and he replied saying thanks you too, bye. I had used his phone later that day, and had been texting his cousin, and i glanced through his messages and he had lied about her texting him that day, they had had a longer converstation than he had told me. So me with this situation was confused, and me and my friend took her phone and texted my boyfriend on her phone pretending to be another girl. SO many this would make me be able to trust him, seeing what he responded to "this girl." We said we wanted to hang out with him etc. And he did reply by saying he did have a girlfriend etc. He did tell me that this person texted him and he told me he had stopped texting her because she was stupid. But he didnt stop texting her. Eventually throughout the day he did have one of his friends text her. In my opinion i think this is really stupid because he told me he wasnt worried about but why would he text her if he wasnt worried? Obviously he wanted to know who the actual girl was.
Explain to me if im just overreacting or not?
My friend said that I shouldnt make him do something not to hurt me, he should know on his own not to do it.
what would you do?
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heres the thing. in my opinion i dont think you should limit him to only talking to you. i think that you should let him talk to other girls and be comfortable with it. as for the other girl he is talking i would be a little upset that he lied to me about it. but then again maybe he just didnt want you to be upset. i think you should talk to him and tell him that you saw the text messages and that you were the girl who texted him. If i was a girl and some guy texted me out of the blue and acted like he had a thing for me i would want to know who it was. But he told you when you were pretending to be some other girl that he had a girlfriend.
over all i think you should just trust him.
hope i helped.
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Haha wow you sound exactly like me when I had problems trusting my boyfriend. I totally know what you mean. I think telling him not to text ANY girls is a little over protective. I told my boyfriend I really didn't like him texting these two girls and I bitched at the girls too because they were always trying to alure him and one of them sent him pictures. I was pretty furious. I would check his phone a lot; sometimes he had bad things on there and sometimes he didn't. And that's how I got to trust him...eventually. But anyway, guys are going to have girls that they are friends with and/or just talk to. I think this is just your jealousy coming out too much. But it's understandable to tell him not to do anything that would jeopordize you relationship. But just comfront him calmly about how he lied about it and tell him, if you come to your senses, that it's okay for him to text girls, just not do anything bad. Giving him a little bit of trust, you will most likely gain some back. But wow, that's like a girl's dream to get on another girls phone and see how your boyfriend will react :P.
I don't really get the last question you asked, I'm sorry.
Good luck and I hope I helped :)
--Jenna
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