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My name is Kaci && Im 18 years old. I know I am young, but I have been through somethings that have made me seem as if I am a lot more older than what I am. I love to help people. At my school, I am the person people come too regardless if they know me or not. Advice is what I do best. My strengths are relationships. Im always right when it comes to those, just not when it comes to my own, hahah. I may be young, but I promise you I will help anyone the best I can and I will not let you go through it alone. Im the type of person that likes to know what happens after I gave the advice, so don't be a stranger; Need Answers? Ask questions! *xoxo
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Ok, So... i have a large labia. it hangs outside of my outer labia. It looks like a purplish-peachy set of lips that can stretch really far but i have a boyfriend and ... he wants to finger me and i want him to. BUT i am so self conscious about my labia. My vagina is shaven, and does not smell bad at all. The only negative thing is my labia. Every time I don't let him go down on me or finger me he asks why. i just say i'm nervous cause i'm two years younger and i've never done that stuff before but he has. with his ex gf. he always says how his ex's vag smelled really bad and it was gross. so then that makes me self conscience and I never take off my underwear. My sister's make fun of it and call it "The penis." Sometimes even in front of him my sisters joke around and whisper "DID YOU TELL HIM BOUT YOUR PENIS YET?" and I don't think he ever hears them but on the phone i was about to tell him and he was like can i ask you an honest question?.... do you have a penis? i was like NO! and he always talks about how gross his ex gf's vagina was and he loves the fact that i tell him i shave mine.. he's one of those guys that actually care what the vagina looks like! i think that he figured out why i don't show him or let him down there because he's always like "You know that you can tell me anything, I won't care. You can tell me anything." He keeps reassuring if i'm hiding anything from him. ugh. How do i Tell him??? This can't go on forever he eventually is going to find out. My close guy friend told me not to mention it cause then he'll look for it. but my girl friend's think i should cause he'll probably be like wtf and shocked when he starts doing stuff to me. but he's one of those guy's that care about vagina's i think! so what do i do? or say? help me please thank you(: (link)
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Well, I know exactly what your going through. I'm going through the exact same thing. I have the exact same problem as you, except mine is just one is longer than the other, and I can pull it out too. My mom said I have a disease and I need to go get checked, but my bestfriend has the EXACT samee thing as me. Im very self concious about it especially around my boyfriendd because Im also afraid of him making fun of me, or leaving me for it. I've thought about it alot, and its not a big deal, NOT every vagina is alike. They are all different. Like the guy said, it just gives him more to nibble and suck on in oral sex. Plus, I've been ate out before, and it feels amazing. Just more pleasure for you. Sorry for telling you my life story, IM just tryin to hint around to telling you, its not as bad as we think it is. Its actually a plus, and not a negative thing. More pleasure for us. Just try not to over think it, or it'll ruin the chemistry between yall. He's not going to think of it as a big deal, and if he does than its just because he doesn't understand that EVERYONE is different. I'd rather have my vagina look the way it does, than have other things wrong with it; we are blessed. Just stay positive.
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Okay,
19/F. I asked a question a few weeks ago about my ex-boyfriend on here and got one answer. It was kind of rude, kind of funny. If you would like to read, feel free to.
Anyways, so I have a facebook... just like many other people do. And I guess I always had my profile to where everyone could see my whole profile.
Last night, I changed it to where only my friends could see my profile... no one else.
So my ex-boyfriend and I had a fight awhile ago and he ended up deleting me. No big deal, I figured he would anyways, he does it everytime we have a fight.
This morning, I logged on and he added me. Is it weird that he added me the night I changed my privacy settings? I mean, I know we both still have feelings for eachother but our prides and stubbornness get in the way of us being together (Or, that's what I think).
I'm not worried about it, but I thought it was weird. And I would like your opinions on it too, please. (:
And I forgot to mention I texted him about a week and a half ago to wish him happy birthday. The only reason I remembered was because my little brother's birthday is the same day. Does it make a difference?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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This question isn't a terrible question; its just simply pointless.
No its not weird that your ex added you. Its frankly clear that he only added you because he can't see your profile information since you changed it. All he wants is to look at your stuff to see what your up two, or even if your in a new relationship.
Just because you wished him a happy birthday doesn't necessarly mean thats why he re-added you.
He probably was just thinking about you one day, went to look at your page, realized it was private. Got angry, and re-added you. Its not that hard to understand.
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Ok, so I am female age 16 and i think I have a yeast infection... I'm scared to tell me my mom what do I do? I am sexually active will my partner get it? What's the best way to get ride of it without the help of a doctor?
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There is no reason to be afraid to tell you mom you have a yeast infection. That is normal. YOu can get a yeast infection from numorous things, NOT just sex.
Your partner can NOT get a yeast infection just because you have it. It is best to not be sexually active until the yeast infection is taken care of.
The only way you can treat a yeast infection efficiently is by the doctor. They can give you medication that can cure it all the way; if you do it at home, than the yeast infection won't be 100% cured, just partially.
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So I started dating my best friend about a month before he left for college, which is four hours from where I am. When he left he said that we'd put it on hold, but when he came home a few weeks later we acted as if he had never left. The next time he came home was a month or so later, and he told me that he is way too busy with school and it wouldn't be fair to me to keep going. However, we unexpectedly(to both of us) hooked up before he left. I haven't seen him in over 2 months but we still chat almost everyday and in a few weeks he'll be back for an entire month. A close mutual friend seems to think we'll get back together for that time and then break up again when he leaves. I have very strong feelings for him and although we were friends before, I don't think I can go back to that. I want to tell him that I want to try to make it work but I don't want to sound pathetic or needy. I also don't want to just hook up all the time when he's back and not be together. It would be difficult to be try to make it work but I think it's harder the way it is now. Help? (link)
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Your very welcome! I hope everything works out for you for the best. Hang in there. It will be hard, but you have to understand it will be worth it. If you guys are meant to be together than yall will bee, maybe not right now, maybe in the futuree.
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The the first time my friends asked him out for me he said i dont know so i asked my friend if they would ask him out for me a second time, he always stares at me in class and my friends see it. and they asked him something i never asked them to ask him! they asked why do u always stare at her then (me) he says because she makes weird faces! but yet in class hes real nice 2 me! is he just playing games? (link)
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First off, Girls shouldn't ask out guys. To me, thats a little desperate. If a guy really wants to be with you, he will come to you. The more you keep bugging him about being with you, the more he's going to push you away. I don't think he's interested in you, what-so-ever. So I'd move on and find someone else.
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What do i do if i get pregnant and my parents sont approve and i am too young to have a baby? What do i do? (link)
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If your too young to be pregnant, than why are you having sex, and not using condoms, or birth control?
You can either keep it, or put it up for adoption. I would suggest abortion, but an innocent life doesn't deserve to die, because you opened your legs, and got pregnant.
Plus, you will have so much guilt, and bagges if you proceed with the abortion. Personally, I'd talk to your parents. Let them know that your pregnant, or you might be. Yes, they will be mad, but they can help you make the right decision to get through this. next time, don't open your legs until your ready to face the consequences it may carry.
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ok i know this is long but please read i need help.
ok so me and my ex bf hang out like everyday. i dont go to school with him i am outside of his school life. i know the real him more than anyone. He acts like he likes me always flirts with me its almost like were together but were not. He said to me guess what and i said what. He said nevermind you wouldnt care. Then knowing how relentless i am i had to know so i asked him to tell me. He said this girl from my school likes me and her friend is going to ask her to go out with me. and i know who this girl is and i heard from people that she dont know him and they dont hang out. After he told me i had an attitude and was mad and 5 min later he said i told you that you wouldnt want to know. then he said sorry but i didnt care. Then he said that he just had to tell me and then i said why me of all people. I am thinking he just wants to be cool because he told me before that he did certain things at school just because he wanted to be cool. so for almost the rest of the day i was mad and i kept asking if i was still mad and i didnt say anything and he kept saying sorry then he started to get sas because i wouldnt accept his apology and then tried to keep on hugging me and then i kept saying get away. then he said its not like im even going out with her i dont even know if its true. on the bright side of this we never usually talk about how we used to be together without him saying he doesnt want to talk about it and get all mad. and i said to him i dont want to know who my ex bf goes out with. and he said he wouldnt get mad over that like me but i said girls are different from boys. then later he sat next to me and i said eww get away and then i said sorry for saying that. he ignored me and i noticed he was trying to act just like me. and he was he because he said how does it feel to not have your apology accepted. i am thinking is he trying to prove a piont. oviosly he must really care how i feel and that i am mad at him. the next day we didnt really talk about it he was just messing with me and trying to jump on my back to and putting his arm around me trying to hug me. if anything i would think i act like his gf already because i am always at his house around him going places with him. (link)
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okay, so what exactly is your question?
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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Your question wasn't too long at all. The longer, the better, actually.
Well, I can't really tell you what to do, because I don't know what the blog said. It would be helpful, if you could give me a couple of examples, that way my advice is accurate to you.
But if I was in your position, I would tell him straight up that you know about the blog/group he made about ya'lls relationship, and the things he posted on their shouldn't have been for everyone to know, and read. Ya'lls relatioship is between you and him. Its a personal thing. Im sure he wouldn't like it if you formed a group on any website, talking about his dick size, or the negative things about him. He would feel betrayed, and let alone- embarrassed.
Ask him what he would do if he was you, and you posted all the personal things about him, and when he asked, you denied it, and then made it private.
Ask him why he made it private?
*More than likely he will possibly deny ever making a group, he will make up excuses on whether it was "Really" him or not.
If the things posted on the group were negative towards you, than maybe he isn't too good of a boyfriend anyways? No girl deserves to feel betrayed by the one they love. It isn't fair.
He probably hid the group, because he knows your on to him. He probably didn't think you got a chance to read it, so it was hoping he'd make it private before you got to it. There is no need to cry. I know it hurts, but you should be angry. Do the things I listed above, and give me more detail about the group, and I will let you know about ending your relationship, or working through it. Stay strong, and positive.
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I got pregnant & had a baby last month. My boyfriend got me pregnant because he didn't want to use a condom so it's all his fault. I only let him see my daughter when we go out like on a date but she don't stay with him at all & I care for her all the time. Mom said he needs to be a man and support us since he's the one that got me pregnant. I told him I want him to get a job after school and give me money to support my daughter because I'm in school too and I can't raise a baby and go to school AND work a job. He needs to take responsibility. He got mad and was like it's just as much his fault as it is mine that I got knocked up and he was real mad about it all and said if I make him pay me money then he's gonna break up with me and leave me. Mom said to take him to court if he won't pay me money for my daughter and I think she's right that he needs to man up or whatever but then I feel bad because I don't want him to break up with me. Should I go after him to make him pay me childsupport or what? (link)
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First off, its not your boyfriends fault you got pregnant. You make it seem like he is just OH SO TERRIBLE.
"My boyfriend got me pregnant because he didn't want to use a condom so it's all his fault."
Its just as much your fault, as it is his. It takes two people to have sex. You should have known that without a condom, you could get pregnant, you could have said NO, but you didn't. Therefore, its your fault, just as much as its his.
For two, you should feel lucky your babydaddy is still even with you. You know how many teenage moms have their baby's father leave them?
For Three, the baby isn't just yours. It takes TWO people to have a kid, not one. If he is still with you, than you should let him see HIS kid whenever he wants and pleases; and even by himself without you around.How else do you expect him and his kid to bond?
For Four, why dont you sit down and ask him nicely, instead of making it seem like he HAS too?? Make it clear that she is his kid, just as much yours, and he needs to pitch in to pay for some of her needs.
*Maybe next time, yall will buy a condom, considering they cost ALOT cheaper than a baby does. (:
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Yesterday I met up with an ex against my parents' wishes. We wanted to talk things out and start over, as friends this time. However when I got to his house after a while one thing led to another and he began to kiss me. We were fooling around on top of our clothes, but he had to "adjust himslef", but then about 7mins later, we weren't thinking and I let him finger me.
What are the chances I could be pregnant? I'm 18, I have a pretty regular menstrual cycle (which I hope starts back up on September 24th or close to it), and I was in an ovulatory stage. Right now I'm scared out of my mind. Please help me.
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Your question wasn't specific enough. You asked "What are the chances I could be pregnant?"- Well first, you never said yall had sex; and if your talking about getting pregnant by getting fingered, than the answer is NO.
The only way you can get pregnant is by him sticking his package in your mailbox and either pre-nutting in you, or cumming in you. This is why you should wear a condom; so things like this WONT happen.
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I had sex with my boyfriend and got pregnant, confirmed by 7 tests two months ago (yeah LOL i didnt wanna believe it). I have morning sickness sometimes but not too bad I don't think. Anyway I know Im going to start showing some time and get a big belly and dont want my parents to know I'm pregnant. I was thinking to tell them like right before I give birth and then they can't really be that mad because the baby will be coming so quickly then. How can I hide that I'm pregnant? I want to hide that I'm pregnant from my parents so I can't figure it out. They don't even know I had sex. Should I wear big sweatshirts and oversized hoodies? A girl at my school said it would work. I was also thinking of like trying to gain a bunch of weight so they think I'm just getting fat? help (link)
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If you are going to have sex, you should automatically know what the chances are of getting pregnant. The longer you wait to tell you parents, the less prepared you are going to be on the items you need for your child. I know your parents are going to get mad, and they might even yell, but they aren't going to hate you, and they can only stay mad for so long. Don't lie to them at all; and you could always put the child up for adoption, but abortion should be out of the picture considering the fact that you had sex with your boyfriend; if your old enough to have sex, you should be old enough to face any consequence that comes with it. Good luck.
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Ok well i'm thinking of having sex with my boyfriend this weekend. I just finished my period yesterday. Im wondering how you get in the mood to have sex. And also, isnt itkind of akward when a guy has to stop to but on a condom? I just need advice on how to get in the mood and stay in the mood. This is pretty urgent. (link)
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Bring it to your boyfriend attention that you are wanting to have sex with him; make sure he wears a condom because you can get pregnant off of pre-nut, and unlike real nut, he can't feel it coming. Its often called the "OOPS!" factor.
Wear a sexy bra and panties, and have him go into the bathroom to put it on; and when he comes out, lay on the bed in your bra and panties, and start to make out, or begin oral. That way it doesn't kill the mood on either half.
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Is there a fast cure for an ear ache? I woke up and my ear is really bugging me today. It wasn't hurting yesterday and I don't think I did anything to it. I don't wanna go to the docotors for this. Is there a way to cure an earache? THANKSSS (link)
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This question is truely meant for a doctor; or someone experienced. I use to have ear aches all the time, and the best thing to do is put some type of heat on it. Example: A heating pad. Switch it from hot to cold every 10 minutes. It soothes the ache.
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I'm a fifteen year old girl and lately I've felt like I'm not good enough for my parents. They always concentrate on my weaknesses and not my strengths. Even the smallest things get me in trouble but when I try to talk to my parents about how I'm feeling, they shut me out. Even on good days I'll get ignored when I talk or they'll roll their eyes at me and say I'm just trying to be dramatic and get attention. When I get mad I start yelling and then I get in more trouble and my parents REALLY won't listen to me. They're hypocritical and judgmental and I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't really talk to them even though I'd love to be able to tell them how I feel and be able to talk out our problems. They just shut me out when I try to work with them so we can fix our relationships. What should I do? (link)
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When I was younger I use to feel this way towards my dad, it was like NO matter what good I did, he could only focuse on the negative. Usuaully when a parent does this, its just because they aren't good with positive feedback. My father has never told me he was proud of me, and that hurt. Your parents are probably the same as my father. When they point out the bad, don't get mad. Think about it, and consider it. Try to make the negative things better so they won't have anything to complain about. Communication is a must in order to have a healthy relationship with anyone. Parents are going to be harsh on you, because they know what you are capable of. Dont take it the wrong way like I did. Take it as if its something to learn from. Parents often see what you are too blind to see, take their advice, and maybe asked them what you can do to become better at the things they are complaining about. Sometimes Teens can use a voice tone as if they are being "smart alikes", try to talk to them camly, or do what I did. Tell your parents something terrible happened to you, and you need someone to talk to, and usually they will begin to listen because NO parent would want their child in any harm. Sit them down, and tell them the only reason you said something bad happen, is so they will listen to you; express to them how you feel, but do it in a calm voice, and not a dramatic one. Than make sure you inform them that you appreciate all they do, you love them, and that you are grateful for them. Parents need to hear that just as much as girls do from the boyfriends. Try that.
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