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Long distance/college trouble
So I started dating my best friend about a month before he left for college, which is four hours from where I am. When he left he said that we'd put it on hold, but when he came home a few weeks later we acted as if he had never left. The next time he came home was a month or so later, and he told me that he is way too busy with school and it wouldn't be fair to me to keep going. However, we unexpectedly(to both of us) hooked up before he left. I haven't seen him in over 2 months but we still chat almost everyday and in a few weeks he'll be back for an entire month. A close mutual friend seems to think we'll get back together for that time and then break up again when he leaves. I have very strong feelings for him and although we were friends before, I don't think I can go back to that. I want to tell him that I want to try to make it work but I don't want to sound pathetic or needy. I also don't want to just hook up all the time when he's back and not be together. It would be difficult to be try to make it work but I think it's harder the way it is now. Help?
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well obviously you tried and it didn't work...
what you need to do is decide whether he's worth it. is he the kind of guy whom you are in love with and want to be with after college? do you see you and him together in the future after college? if you answer with a no, then i say its best to end it and stay friends. you're in college. enjoy it. don't be stressed with long distance drama and complications unless you absolutely say yes to the question of "do you see him in your future".
talk it out with him and see what his opinon is. ask him what he thinks and if he see's you in his future. talk it out and try to come to an agreement with him. even if it's just taking a break and seeing how things go.
my ex and i broke up because we were unsure of our feelings and then realized we missed each other a lot and contemplated on getting back together. it didnt happen. but my point is.. sometimes you need to run away/ get away to realize what you really want in life and what is most important. meaning, maybe you just need a break from him and see how you feel. if you miss him, he could be worth it. if you find yourself thinking about other guys, he might not be worth it. but careful.. id give it a while longer than a few weeks. because the first few weeks after a break up is when you think about him the most. after a few weeks, thats when you decide if you still think about him or if you've moved on.
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Your very welcome! I hope everything works out for you for the best. Hang in there. It will be hard, but you have to understand it will be worth it. If you guys are meant to be together than yall will bee, maybe not right now, maybe in the futuree.
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