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How do i tell my boyfriend i have a large labia?
Ok, So... i have a large labia. it hangs outside of my outer labia. It looks like a purplish-peachy set of lips that can stretch really far but i have a boyfriend and ... he wants to finger me and i want him to. BUT i am so self conscious about my labia. My vagina is shaven, and does not smell bad at all. The only negative thing is my labia. Every time I don't let him go down on me or finger me he asks why. i just say i'm nervous cause i'm two years younger and i've never done that stuff before but he has. with his ex gf. he always says how his ex's vag smelled really bad and it was gross. so then that makes me self conscience and I never take off my underwear. My sister's make fun of it and call it "The penis." Sometimes even in front of him my sisters joke around and whisper "DID YOU TELL HIM BOUT YOUR PENIS YET?" and I don't think he ever hears them but on the phone i was about to tell him and he was like can i ask you an honest question?.... do you have a penis? i was like NO! and he always talks about how gross his ex gf's vagina was and he loves the fact that i tell him i shave mine.. he's one of those guys that actually care what the vagina looks like! i think that he figured out why i don't show him or let him down there because he's always like "You know that you can tell me anything, I won't care. You can tell me anything." He keeps reassuring if i'm hiding anything from him. ugh. How do i Tell him??? This can't go on forever he eventually is going to find out. My close guy friend told me not to mention it cause then he'll look for it. but my girl friend's think i should cause he'll probably be like wtf and shocked when he starts doing stuff to me. but he's one of those guy's that care about vagina's i think! so what do i do? or say? help me please thank you(:
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Well, I know exactly what your going through. I'm going through the exact same thing. I have the exact same problem as you, except mine is just one is longer than the other, and I can pull it out too. My mom said I have a disease and I need to go get checked, but my bestfriend has the EXACT samee thing as me. Im very self concious about it especially around my boyfriendd because Im also afraid of him making fun of me, or leaving me for it. I've thought about it alot, and its not a big deal, NOT every vagina is alike. They are all different. Like the guy said, it just gives him more to nibble and suck on in oral sex. Plus, I've been ate out before, and it feels amazing. Just more pleasure for you. Sorry for telling you my life story, IM just tryin to hint around to telling you, its not as bad as we think it is. Its actually a plus, and not a negative thing. More pleasure for us. Just try not to over think it, or it'll ruin the chemistry between yall. He's not going to think of it as a big deal, and if he does than its just because he doesn't understand that EVERYONE is different. I'd rather have my vagina look the way it does, than have other things wrong with it; we are blessed. Just stay positive.
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I'm old enough to be your grandfather so I will offer you some grandfatherly advice. Don’t be embarrassed by what I say here. I believe in supply facts as I know them or have researched them. I believe the more facts a person has the better decisions they can make.
Not long ago the Discovery Channel did a story out of Great Britain about Women’s concerns over how their labia have looked. They even had doctors there who charged huge sums for a five minute procedure to trim their labia. The women who had the procedure said never again, it was a very painful recovery.
Search the Discovery Channel on-line you may be able to watch the documentary on line. You find out that you are not alone with having long labia or as some of the women interviewed thought they had an ugly vagina. Speaking for the male of the species; and after some research there are I have found four general types of vaginas, I have not yet met a vagina I have not liked.
So just what is normal? If you ask a guy he will tell you a guy with a big long, thick penis is normal. If you look at medical evidence the average vagina can only accommodate about 6", so is that what the normal length of a penis should be. Which one of the four types of vaginas is truly the norm?
The nice thing about the human body is we are all different. So you have a longer labia; big deal. All that means is there is that much more to suck and nibble on during oral sex. Unless the longer labia causes you pain or other problems during sex I wouldn't worry about it. If some boy should say something about it in a derogatory way he is not only a fool but sexually inexperienced.
Enjoy what you have; you have been blessed with a very special sex organ. As I said if you are not having any pain or other problem during sex caused by your labia just relax and let your guy enjoy you.
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I agree with the other answer. I would just not tell him. if you don't make it a big deal..chances are he won't either. He might not even notice that anything is different. Just like everything else humans are all born uniquely so he cant expect you to look like his ex..and it sounds like he wouldnt want you to anyways. This will be a positive change for him. I would listen to your guy friend, because afterall, he's more likely to think similarly to how your boyfriend will. if he really wants to be with you he should really care about you, and this won't even be something that he notices.
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If your lady parts aren't good enough for him, it's his loss, not yours.
If you keep yourself clean and healthy, he should have no complaints. All ladies are built differently. There's nothing wrong with having long labia.
You don't have to tell him in advance. If you don't act like there's anything wrong with it, then he has no excuse for freaking out.
If he does say anything, just tell him it's what you were born with, and that if he doesn't like it he's welcome to abstain. He should feel lucky just to be seeing it!
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