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sorry this is so long but i really need advice, i know i'm not suppose to say this but really i will give 5 to anyone who answers because i'm so lost..

i made a huge mistake, i wish i never was put in this situation but i realize i have to deal with it now. my best friend for three and a half years has a girlfriend of two years. a couple weekends ago we were talking about sex and somehow we got to talking about us. i admit, i am horny i am a virgin im 18 years old. so when was like "hell yeah i wanna have sex with you" i really did mean it. i know that it's wrong to do though. he is the one i want to be intimate with, i've always liked him. different guys have wanted to do things with me but i can't do it with them, i always find myself thinking, "i want to do it with my best friend.." but i don't want to feel like i'm being used, and i don't want to lose it to someone who has a giflriend. well we were talking about this two weekends ago and i was like sorry cant this weekend i have my period so i was like in two weeks we can and then last night he texted me and was like.."we still doing it this weekend?" i was like haha yeah! so now he still thinks were doing it but i definately have been having doubts. there are so many reasons why i shouldn't but i REALLY want to with him. it's been weird this week i have been having dreams about us, and getting sexual. i've been thinking about it so much. the thing is if i don't do it with him i feel like he would think i was a tease. i know he is going to text me and be like, "ready?!" and i don't know if i should tell him in a text or have him come over and then explain to him. if he comes over though he will be excited because he will think he is getting "some" and then i would say like, "you know i really want to do it with you but the fact that you have a girlfriend, just makes me know that its wrong." and then after he wouldn't know what to say and things would be awkward but i still really want to hang out with him. i am so torn, i don't know what to do. i am the WORST at talking about things like this, i've never had an actual boyfriend which makes it worse. i can't resist this kid, everytime i'm around him i WANT HIM. but he seems to "want his cake, and eat it too" which makes me sad but i feel like degrading myself and just doing it because to me, it's something i feel comfortable doing with him and only him. i'm not the girl who is like oh i have to do it just to do it. well i would really appreciate if someone could help. thank you so much

It definitely sounds like your best friend is just trying to "pimp" you, so you can just be another girl to him that he had sex with. Just another girl that he can tell about to his friends. IT also does sound like your being used, it shouldn't have even gotten this far. But, I will give you the best advice that I can. Do NOT confront him, face to face on the day that you two are supposed to have sex, you can on any other day, but on that day that your supposed to have sex, text him and tell him NO... If he comes over to talk to you, that will only make you just as much hornier than you already are and you will eventually "give in". So you can either text him, or confront him anywhere "outside" of a bedroom. Now, it is wrong that you are thinking of doing this while he has a girlfriend right now, other than that it wouldn't really stick as a problem to me. If you are going to do this, than make sure he feels the same way about you first. You say you next to love this guy, well does he feel the same? I know that the temptation going through your mind right now, is saying oh I want to do this SO BAD.. Because I've myself been there, but he HAVE to resist, if you want to keep some sort of composure. Resist, until you meet that ONE GUY who you know will love you no matter what, and let him be your first. If you do meet a guy like this one day, and your no longer a virgin, your going to think back to who was your first... And than you'll feel disgusted, so think about this.

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hi! 18 f
so i was planning on having sex this weekend with this guy. i'm a virgin. don't preach me on making sure it's the right guy blah blah. i just would appreciate if you could answer my question! so we didn't know where we were going to do it. both our parents are usually home and so he was like hopefully one of them goes out. well today my mom was talking about going to visit my grandma in the nursing home. i'm guessing my dad would go too? i'm not sure what time they're planning on going but the thing i worry about is that they are going to go around 5, and we weren't planning on hanging out until around 7 or 8 because i will be with my best friend at her house for a while. my parents usually stay an hour and a half max when they visit her. my brother is 22 years old and is moved out but usually comes over after work to come see my dog and stuff so i would also be scared he would come too. i personally didn't want to do it at my house, in my bed because what if i bled, and i would feel weird sleeping in my sheets afterwards but it's better than doing it in a car or something. i don't know how to wash my sheets haha sadly my mom still does my laundry and everything! if my parents did go around 7 though, and stayed an hour and a half would that be enough time for us? i wouldn't want to rush it, i'll probably be a baby and make him go SLOW because it's going to hurt but i would also always be worried my parents are going to be coming home any minute, you know? i dont know what do you think. people have said rent a hotel, well i don't have the money and either does he. also where would we put the condom afterwards i would be too paranoid putting it in ANY trash in my house, my mom takes out the trash. so where do people usually put it? well sorry so many questions but thank you!

OK, it wouldn't be a brilliant thing to have sex while they are gone by about 7, because if their only staying about an hour and a half MAX, than it is true that they could come in any moment. The way your making it sound is like you want your "first time" to be a quickie. Which doesn't sound like a reasonable first time to me. You should definitely wait for more opportunities either at his house or yours to do this. This plan that you have is too risky. I doubt that your brother would come 7-8:30 though unless he has a key to the house. As far as where to put the condom goes, you can flush it down the toilet which is the simplest thing to do, or you can just make sure that it is all the way at the bottom of the trash so your mom doesn't see.

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i'm a virgin. i am 17 years old. the past two weeks i've been trying to loosen myself up for when im ready to have sex. in the bath i can do two fingers, easily three fingers well it's actually not THAT bad. so when i do end up having sex, i know it will still hurt but by being able to put two, sometimes three fingers does that necessarily mean it's not going to hurt as bad?

No, just because you can masturbate with 2 fingers and even three doesn't mean it's not going to hurt. Yeah, you may loosen yourself up "a little bit" but there is a huge difference between a guy's penis and your fingers

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So on my Myspace profile I have a long list of my favorite music.

An I'm having a hard time finding an HTML code to make it not stay into a paragraph and all listed

It's like this:

All Time Low The Beatles Blink 182 Bloodhound Gang Boston CKY David Bowie Fall Out Boy Frank Zappa Green Day I Set my Friends on Fire Jamie Kennedy James Blunt Jimi Hendricks John Lenin Joe Satriani Led Zeppelin Linkin Park The Medic Droid Metallica Ok Gp Panic at the Disco Paul McCartney Ryan Higa The Slip Smashing Pumpkins Smosh Sublime Three Days Grace Vampire Weekend Three Days Grace We The Kings Weezer Weird Al Yellow Card

When I want it like this:

All Time Low
The Beatles
Blink 182
Bloodhound Gang
Boston
CKY
David Bowie
Fall Out Boy
Frank Zappa .. etc

But without a scroll box

So don't just tell me I need to find a code. Can you post one or give me a link to a site that has that code?

kthnxbi :D

It's simple, simply add the HTML code after every name/title to break it down a line.

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dude, you rock! that is good advice, but julie wont embarass eric because they're friends from last year, and i cannot get over him.... trust me. i have been trying for the past 2 weeks, and i cant. i know it makes me sound pathetic, but its the truth. i just love him so much. and he doesnt really hate me, i can tell. but i just dont know how i can get over him. i asked his sister, and she doesnt know how to help me either! do you know how 2 help? its ok if you dont, but i just need help, bad. he rides my bus, and whenever i look out the window, i see his reflection because he ALWAYS sits right in front of me. (well, i sit behind him.) but you get my point. i dont know how to get his beautiful, angel face out of my mind. sorry this is so long.... and sorry for bugging you, again...

It is my duty to answer your question, keep the questions coming...

Anyways, I may have an idea. Okay, Eric won't get embarassed but at least he won't be going out with his crush, (Julie), cause she doesn't like him. So you don't get him and he doesn't get Julie, it would've been worse if you didn't get him and he got Julie, so that's a benefit right there. But, if you really can't get over this guy, maybe you should try a different approach, like sitting back and waiting on him to make the first move for a chance. If he doesn't want you than let it be, but you need to stop trying so hard and just relax, and be yourself. Believe me, Eric will get what's coming to him, whether him and Julie are friends or not, word is going to "get out" that he asked her out and got rejected. So just watch... And if it doesn't than he sure has a heck of a way from letting info get out lol. I know this didn't really help, but I try, try to understand you know, I hope I helped at least a little bit, it would help if I actually understood your situation much more.

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so im really good friends with my sister's ( who is a freshman in college ) friend. he's a freshman in college and im a soph in high school. We txt and talk all the time, and he asked me out. Is it to much of an age difference?

I believe that if you were a Junior probably not, but a Sophomore is kind of STEEP if you know what I mean? By the way, sorry I'm answering so late, my account was suspended... Anyways, I believe that if you like him that much, that (what the heck?) you might as well give it a try

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okay, so i know this sounds like a easy question...but i need some help with my ipod. I got the ipod nano that came out like a a year ago the short wide silver looking one and i have like itunes 7.5 i think. Anyways,I searched everywhere online with people saying oh just click on the ipod on the left corner and delete the song.Well i tried and it added it on my ipod and when i double click it,it goes to set up ipod where you can sync the ipod and if i click the ipod it says "eject". Im trying to delete my songs because my ipods getting full and im deperately needing help. So if anyone could give me a step by step (detailed please :) ) on how to delete songs off a semi new ipod nano. Thanks so much!! :)

Select the songs you want to delete and simply delete them, than make sure, (THIS IS A MUST) that you sync your iPod to your iTunes before you disconnect it, and the songs will be gone.

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My cheer squad is competing tomorrow for our first time! I am the captain and I want to get the other 11 girls some kind of good luck gift..like candy, or something really cheap thats super cute. and not like, really corny. haha any ideas? i dont wanna spend a ton!! thanks :)

the age group is high school freshmen, sophomores, and juniors =]

A simple goody-basket wouldn't hurt lol, sorry that's the only thing I can think of, something of this matter, shouldn't be chosen by other people, but from the heart. So you should make up something creative, isn't that what team captains do anyways? and make something for your team.

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18/f, VIRGIN.
well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while, i love him to death and i'm definately ready to have sex. anyways the problem is we can't do it at either of our houses, our parents are ALWAYS home and neither of us have a lock on our doors, plus it would just be weird knowing parents are in the house. so my boyfriend was like if either of them don't leave somewhere we can do it in my car. i just laughed and was like oh god and he was like it will be hot :) i'm not sure how i feel about this, i don't think it should matter where but it's my first time you know. and where i live, the high temp is around 30 degrees at night which is cold. what im asking is what sex is like in a car. he has a ford explorer, so it's not like that little and i'm also worried about it being cold! well thanks, any stories or experiences would help!

Okay, a Ford Explorer is a nice BIG truck, there shouldn't be a problem on how much space you would have. As far as temperature goes, than simply ask him to turn up the heat, and once you get into the "mood" and get that feeling... Trust me, temperature will no longer matter in the situation. Since it is your first time, it does matter where you do it. BUT, seeing as how you feel you love him so much that you need to get that URGE out by having "sex". Than it wouldn't matter as far as my book goes, as long as it's releasing that urge you have for one another.

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i told a guy that i like him and hee says he likes another girl but im still sexy i really want him do i wait or move on?
thanks
loveboys

You DONT wait on a guy, that doesn't choose you over another girl. Move on, and if he says your sexy, than another guy will feel the same and come to talk to you one day.

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19 year old female. my best friend is 18. we've been friends for years now, i trust him with everything i have but i'm one of the most sarcastic people you will ever meet, he knows that. well tonight he was texting me and somehow got confused on what i was trying to say and i was like you are so slow and he was like no i'm not i'm just confused, what were you trying to say? well then i got confused and i was like, now i dont remember, because you confused ME now. i was just like, your always confused, everytime i say something i have to explain it to you! and he was like because you say weird stuff. then i was like well then maybe you shouldn't talk to me anymore if i say weird stuff, keep in mind i was being SARCASTIC, and i didn't know what to say back to him. and well after he didn't text me back. now i don't know what to think, i don't think he would of taken it seriously he knows i'm always like that but it did kind of hurt when he was like "you say weird stuff". what do you think is running through his mind?

He knows that your SARCASTIC, but he just is taking the situation very strongly and immaturely and to the heart, when he shouldn't be. Right now, if he was really mature, he would simply handle the situation by laughing about it, and if he knows your SARCASTIC, than he shouldn't act like such a wimp when you say "we shouldn't talk anymore". He's not handling the situation maturely, so you should make the first move. Confront him the next time you see him and see what's up... As far as what's going through his mind right now, I can simply tell you that he's most likely trying to hate you or something like that for what you said. But, he can't because he knows that your the "right" one and he's the "wrong" one.

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k, i asked out this beautiful guy at my school and he first said "i dont know" 2 weeks later, i asked him again, and he said "i dont know, maybe" finally, another 2-3 weeks later, i asked him and he said "no" i told him i was sorry for bugging him and all, and then he told all of his friends about it, and now they call me a stalker. on the other hand, there is this other guy that i hate, and he tells everybody that i like him, and i dont. while he is calling me disgusting, one of his friends is telling everyone that i asked out the guy in the beginning, and they all tease me about it.
about the beautiful guy, he is confusing me! he said that he hated me, but if he hated me, then why would he say "maybe" when i asked him out, and why does he ALWAYS talk to me on the bus, and in the hallway? i found out that he likes a girl named julie, and i told her, and she said that he is ugly and that she hated him. im really good friends with his sister, and i know for sure that he likes julie. what should i do? i like the guy, (eric) and he likes julie (she hates him) another guy (mike) says that i like him (i dont) and everyone else teases me cuz i like the beautiful guy (eric) -what the heck am i supposed to do? should i ignore him? try to talk to him? love him? hate him? HELP!!

Okay, as for this guy mike who says that you like him, just ignore him, the teasing will go away in about 2 weeks, it ALWAYS does go away. I've been in a situation worse, and it went away in 3 weeks, so yours should go away momentarily. As far as Eric goes, GET OVER HIM... You shouldn't like a guy who doesn't like you back, or has to think about it before he gives you an answer, that is degrating to me. Don't beg, don't cry, let him go, someone else will come along that is better than him. As for Julie & Eric. Carma is the best way I can give you this news. Eric embarassed you by telling the entire school about you asking him out, calling you a "stalker" and all right? Well, a higher power has called Carma on Eric. He has embarassed you and now Julie will embarass him. you just sit back and let nature take it's course. Julie is going to reject him and than he will be the laughing-stock of the school. Pay-back is than served, let it go and find someone new, that's all the advice I have for you.

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I am 13/boy. i dated ths girl for two years an idk i actually loved her i think. we would hang out all the time,and just hav a blast. after her tho i just started dating random girls. i meen i know them but i use to date girls for there personality,now i date them for there asses.idk what to do( the girl i love is datig my best friend )

if the girl that you love is dating your best friend than maybe your bst friend isn't really a best friend at all... unless you were an idiot and approved of them dating. but im sorry to say that it may be too late my friend. You should've been told her how you felt about her before they started going out. If you say something now, than you might not only jeapordize your relationship with your BFF but also with the relationship that they have going. And than she might not ever like you again and neither will your BFF... Maybe you should wait until they split up, and than hit me back.

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ok. i have a crush...it's kind of stupid and very high school (which, btw, i am, he's not) and i know he has big things to focus on right now...that aren't me. i feel like i've been clinging though and we've been like friends for a couple years. i don't want to mess that up. just to talk to him (cuz i hardly get to see him anymore) i'll message him on myspace and then realize how pathetic i'm sounding about pretty pointless subjects. how can i keep talking to him without sounding like...you know...i just want to talk to him? how can i keep being a good friend to him without him getting that i might be thinking something more? :( he is a really good friend to me. i don't want to jeopardize it.

if u feel this strongly for this guy than he needs to be informed... if he rejects you than it is a possibility that you could jeapordize your relations but it is a risk that should be taken

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we say it, we mean it in different ways. their are many different reasons to why we love something or someone. can i get your guys input on what i love you to a significant other means (boyfriend and girlfirend) (husabnd or wife) NOT friend to friend or anything.

also what bascially love means to you.

please think hard and answer both questions thank you.

Often, when a guy says he loves a girl, he means it more strongly than a girl saying I love you to a guy. This is because guys fall for girls faster than girls fall for guys. Girls are picky, while guys are (most) are desperate for love.

Love basically is defined as being something that you find in somebody that you find attracting so much, that you can't stray too far away from that person.

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f/15;whe i masterbate like try 'fingering
my self it doenst feel good at all it's like weird, but when i do it to my clit it feels good.
is there any way I can finger my self and it feel good too?

If your a virgin than most likely masturbating isn't going to feel too comfortable. But if your not a virgin and it feels uncomfortable, maybe you should try a lubricant

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(f/17-18)

Well lately, me and my bf haven't been having sex for a week now because i will be going to the doctor soon to get the pill, anyway lately i've had alot of gas, and i dont know why i haven't drank pop in about 1 -2 weeks could it be that still passing throught my system?

No I doubt it very much. Its just natural, probably something you ate that may have been high in fiber. Veggies, fruits. Anything.. Dont worry.

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is it okay for a girl to watch porn? is it like illegal to watch it online and stuff?

No it's not illegal to watch porn online or anywhere else. The only thing illegal is if your watching it and under I believe the age of 18-21. And no, it is not a problem for girls to watch porn. It just seems weird to some girls because guys are mostly known for watching it. But, plenty of girls that I know watch porn.

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so me and my boyfriend just started having (protected) sex. i was a virgin before, and we've done it like 3 times but the first time it didn't go all the way in, the second time it did go all the way in and it hurt but it was bearable. but the third time it hurt so bad i bled. will it get better? and is there any way to make it more comfortable for the time being?

thanks a ton =]

Seeing as how your just starting to "loosen" up "down there". Well, the more you do it, the less it should hurt. The more times you and your boyfriend tries, the more it will feel more comfortable trust me. I'm not 100% sure if this will work but maybe you should try a lubricant until it feels more bearable for you.

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So there is this guy Tony I liked him alot we have a big gap in age and he was alittle iffy on it but still liked me. So i told him i just wanted to be friends. I meet this guy Nathan and we have been dating for a while. Tony and I can't talk because Tony came to my work once and i gave him a hug good bye he told me hed come to my work and kiss me infront of everyone. I love my boyfriend a lot sometimes he says things to make me feel like crap but i love him and i know he loves me. I have been thinking about Tony a lot. I feel confused and not sure what to do. whats your opinion on this?

This guy that your currently going out with treats you like crap. So why not "trade" him in for someone better. Sure you love a guy that treats you like crap. But, why not love somebody that will treat you better than crap. By the way, your the one who broke it off with Tony, not him breaking it off with you. Obviously he still has some interest in you if he comes to your job to "feel on you" lol. So confront your current boyfriend tell him how you feel. And give Tony another chance.

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