You need advice???ASK ME!!!!I am Emily and i love helping others...I want to see happy people around me and people who smile!That's why i try to help you!It is said that i give good advice,what do you think????
Now, i would like to tell you something!Live!Every moment in our life is important, so have fun!And something about me..I love Erreway!!!!
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do i have to worry if my kid is "emo"----i've been told it's just a phase he is a freshman and goes to public high school--quit swim team --doesn't like the coach---wears mascara (link)
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What is "emo"???I don't know!
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i am 15/f and i am totally confused about this guy. He is a good friend of mine and i have liked him for a few months now. recently i feel like there might be something, we have always talked a lot and he helps me out and i have leaned my head on his shoulder quite a few times, and he gives me really nice goodbye hugs. the thing is that he is my age and isn't very experienced with girls, so i can imagine that he doesn't know what he is doing, neither do i really. sometimes he is around a lot and sits next to me and other times he doesn't. How would talking and leaning your head on his shoulder look to a guy if you were just friends with a guy? by not sitting next to me, is he seeing if i will move closer to him or what? i am just very confused as to what this guy is feeling, and would like an honest opinion on what he thinks and what i should do.
thanks a lot (link)
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I cannot tell you if he likes you or not. But i can tell you what you should do. Be yourself and be spontaneous. Just behave in the way you do now... Not having experience is not bad...I think. And there is no right or wrong...How can you kiss wrong or behave wrong? Let him behave in the way he wants... Let him come to you first... The thing i know for sure is that he is fond of you!You are in a good way!!!!!Keep being you!!!!
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there are these two guys. one of them seems really nice because i just met him but hes not as cute..but he has a pretty good personality. the other one of them i have liked for awhile and hes been nice to me but sometimes he'll get to be very shy if i'm with my friends and won't say a word...
who should i like?!
i don't know what to do... please help. (link)
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You can't think I should like this one! You just can't. These things are not like that. You should continue being yourself.
Behave in the way you want. Be you!This is simple!
And, if the one of them asks you out then say yes!!!!Right??????
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hey thanks for the help, yea i feel pretty crappy. i dont even know, like i really like him, and all the signs and conversations, i really thought he liked me. but now its wierd, today i didnt say 1 word to him, and i dont plan on signing on aim tonight, that way i will definitly not talk to him. i think that im going to aviod him for awhile, and hopefully he'll be hurt!! becuase this is my first kinda heart break. usually, knowing me id stick around, talk to him, act like everythings normal but with him i dont want to be a pushover anymore! i mean i want to talk to him, but im going to try not to because its dumb for me to be strung along, waiting for him to make up his freaking mind! once again thank you soo much, ill update you on how he reacts to this. by the way, hes not bad, i know what he did is stupid but i dont think he meant to be egotistical or mean, hes just confused, which is the worst part, i wish he just didnt like me at all and told me because not liking me is better than not being sure and leading me on. i'll ttyl, and thanks so much, youve been great help and if i need advice on anything im coming to you first!
xoxo-katie (link)
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thx sweety you are so good.I understand you and how you feel.This is reasonable...I know that he didn't want to be egoist but he WAS.Anyway, you should behave like what i told you.Congratulations you can do it!I think that this is difficult...Anyway, tell me about his behaviour after some days!I am really fond of you!Kisses!!!!!
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ok soo i asked him how he felt, and he said he really doesnt know and that hes sorry. so what do i do now, i mean i knew he wasnt going to say i like you, but i thought maybe hed at least have a real answer. once again im stuck because like i said i really like him so part of me wants to stick around and see if he decides eventually. but then the other part of me wants to be like go to hell, you need to make up your mind, you cant just string me along, me waiting, while you decide (however long thatll take!). soo what do i do, after i asked, we still talked, casual like its been lately, he said he hasnt been feeling himself, alot of stress from school, people (he said not me), and other stuff. help please, noone knows what i should do, and i cant stand the fact that im a good person (not to sound conceited becuase im not, but you know) im nice, im not rude, hes told me that im interesting, funny, nice, he wanted to talk to me last year and this year, and soo much more. and i think its dumb that if he wanted to talk to me so much, you think he would be slightly interested, maybe even a crush? please help, whatever you could think of. im crushed again! (link)
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My God, i am not fine now you told me...I don't feel well because i understand how you feel.I just don't know what to say...All these signs and now...Honey, don't be like that again, feel well...
What i think you should do?Stop being like before.Start avoiding him...Don't talk to him so well.Be cold.You like him but he is not right at all.I started "detesting" him what about you??You are a nice person, what is his problem now?Don't tell him that you like him never again.Show him that you have started destesting him.There is egoism too, isn't there?It's just that you can't wait him right?And if you can that is a huge mistake...Stop being like before.Try to forget him...Try.It will not be easy but you have to believe in you...I believe in you.I don't know you but honey, i know that you can make it...
How you can do this?Well, avoid thinking at him.How?Go out with your friends avoid seeing him avoid talking to him.And when you start thinking at him.Do something like that:Think "what hour is it?"or somehing else...Forget him...
If it is neccessary to talk to him just smile and say "hi" and then go away...Or tell him that you should...
I don't think that you should wait...Don't!I hope you will find another one..An other one who will appreciate that you are special and important.That you are not an object without feelings who can do what others want it to do...
Tell me what you are going to do...Kisses...
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Hey I am really jealous of my best friend and recently I have become quite depressed about it and cutting out bits of skin and crying on a night. Her we go:
*We have similar personalities but its like whatever she says goes more than what I say
* She has a big immaculate house, a perfect family and generous parents and she doesn't act a bit spoilt at all but shes always complaing about her life to us.
* she can afford to go to posh gyms and restaurants and buy whatever she wants
* Shes really pretty, even though people say Im prettier, and she looks gorgeous in the simplest of outfits because she's born with a perfect tan and the perfect body.
* its all happening for her: boyfriend( that i fancy n could have had but was too shy to go for it wen she started likin him), partys, money, moving house, more friends
* shes buying all the clothes i want but she doesnt know it and i get depressed because people will think im copying her.
i could go on forever. Everyone likes me just as much as her its just its like she has more to offer and i know i seem like a depressed teenager but i need something to overcome this jealousy before i snap. luv rach xxx (link)
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You 2 are not real friends...So you could move on and forget that she exists.But i don't thing that the problem is her.You are not self confident.This is what happens to you.Trust your self!
You need to unerstand those things!
Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !
Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:
a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.
b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.
c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.
Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!
d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self confidence in a way that it stays built!
Remember that everyone is special, everyone is different and others like you because you are different.
Furthermore, i believe that your friend is jealous of you.I am sure about it. boys,clothes,personality...
Honey, she is jealous of you.You can't see it she feels it..
Kisses, i hope i helped...Emily
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ok hey. so, i'm in highschool (i'm a sophomore.). i'm a female (pretty obvious?) and i need advice. duh. i haven't dated/liked ANYONE since llllaaaasssssttttt year. i really want to find someone that i can like and will like me. all my friends have boyfriends, and they are neglecting our friendship to hang out with their stupid boys. this isn't just about them, though. i really want someone who i can be with romantically. do you have any advice to help me when i don't have a boy, or to help me get one? (link)
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I wouldn't tell you "join a club to meet people"...Anyway, these things are not like"i want it now and i will have it now"..I know how you feel but you cannot have a boyfriend just like that!It needs time and if you continue thinking like that "i have to be with someone now" you will not be because when you will meet someone nice etc you will be stressed and you will always think "i have to be like this, i have to behave like that", so, you will not be yourself...And you will lose him.
So don't think about it.But, i will tell you what you can do..
1.Try to go out more often with your friends...There must be a friend without boyfriend.And if there isn't try to have an other new friend...Apart from the ones you have now...
2.Go shopping or watch tv or do things that you like and that will also make you forget..This will be good to start going at a gym.This will help you have a great body.Boys adore it and you have much more self confidence...
3.Smile and become more sociable.You can go out with one friend of you and her boyfriend and one friend of him.Here is a new boy!!!!
4.What else???You can flirt with a boy that you like(outward appearance)...There must be someone!!!!
5.AND MOST IMPORTANT...Don't try to find something perfect.There is no perfect boy, no perfect girl and no perfect friend...This is sure..Just try to have fun and see boys as friends too.Not only as "my next boyfriend".You shouldn't be that strict with your friends because i think that you would do the same thing, wouldn't you???And something else.1 year alone must have helped you meet new friends or have experiences...Right?Now, think about things i told you and decide!!!!
I hope i helped...Emily
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hey, i havent told him agian yet. i dont know how, we talked tonight but it wasnt as long as usual, he had to go around 9 after only an hour or so. we talked more jokingly and casual tonight, we didnt get to talk like we usually do, because we both also had to keep leaving for like 5 minutes lol. i odnt know how to tell him, or start, should i ask if he likes me too, or just remind him i like him. and any ideas of how to start that conversation?? should i be random, or ease into it?? thanks sooo much emily!
thanks and kisses
-katie- (link)
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Don't tell him that you want to be with him.And don't tell him that you like him again.Just ask him if he likes you..Don't ask if he would like to be with you now.Just ask him if he likes you...
I know that this is difficult to tell him...Don't tell him something like that when you have not enough time to talk about it.This was great you didn't tell him something yesterday..
Now, you can start it like that"You know what?Someone has told me that you like me, is this true or??"
Don't get stressed.When you talk with him tell him that.And you also can tell him that you would like to talk to him about something and then tell him this...
I hope you 2 will be together...If he will tell you that he likes you but he doesn't want to be with you i think that this will be because you will not see each other...Well, i'm looking forward to tell me news!!!Kisses!!!Emily..
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ok, well with other girls friendly and nice, he is polite, and talkative. the thing about all his girls that are friends, is their all in esol together (because the guy i like came her from another country a year ago) so there all friends because they all spoke the same language, and was learning english together. now with me however its different, his body language changes too. he tries to slow down when he walks so i can catch up with him, when i pass him in the hall he walks over (and since hes taller i dont know how to exactly describe it but he leans in and looks straight into my eyes)and says hi, how am i, etc. When i was sick, he texted me asking if i was feeling better, and wanted to know if i would be in school the next day. Over spring break when i was in north carolina, he wanted to stay in touch, which we did, and when i told him that i was coming home the next day, he was happy and said good, i thought u were staying longer, i was joking and said nope, what'd you miss me, and he said actaully i kinda did, and asked if i did too. whenever we talk he always asks me all these boyfriend girlfriend questions, like would you mind hanging out with your boyfriends friends too, or whats your ideal first date, etc. also he always asks if im going places, and he actaully has shown up at a few of them (he usually cant get rides). he also, even after he knew how i felt, treated me the same, flirting and everything. the thing is when he found out it was over aim, he asked me who my last bulleton post(which happened to be on soulmates) was about, and told me if i wasnt confly not to answer it, but my friend was over, and typed in i like you, and by the time i got the computor back from my friend, i couldnt tell him and sound all imature, but it was like he really cared, he put a big smilie and said thanks, then thanks for being honest. and afterwards, he told me not to feel akward to pretend it never happened, that he understands, and he was like please dont feel wierd, i want to still talk to you the same and stuff. he even told me that the next day hed try to find me at lunch. when i asked how he felt, he was the same, telling me that he was very indecisive and that it took him awhile. and the whole time he was nice and not trying to pity me or anything he actaully cared, and the next day when we didnt talk, he texted me that night asking how my day was and appoligized for not talking to me in school. i really like him and its been like 2 weeks, you said to wait another then give him the cold shoulder, but the thing is hes older (hes in 11th grade im in 10th) so i dont know if hed think that was dumb or it would be a turnoff. soo anything you could tell me from your or your friends experiences, or anything just to give me some insight on what to continue doing! thanks, and btw my names katie, that way you can tell my questions apart!
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That is ok honey...I think that this guy really likes you..It is obvious.How can't you see it???He likes you VERY much...Ok, this is my opinion.
I see it and i think that the best thing you could do is to talk to him.Ask him if he likES you.Just ask him.There is no other choice i think.I believe that he is not sure because he will go away this summer.He must be a good/mature boy...
If you cannot tell him that when you look at him,do it when you chat on-line...This will help you..
Tell me what happened so i can tell you what you can do...But i think that he likes you and he has not told you something yet because you will not see each other...
Keep telling me what is going on...Kisses Katie!!!!
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i am not much of a singer at all. i would like some tips on improveing the sound that comes out of my voice when i sing. when i sing i can't hit any notes and it almost sounds like its not singing at all...more talking, or just not a pretty sound. i need some first steps to just improving my voice. i heard that it's not possible to be tone deaf, it's just an expression, so how can i make my voice sound like a normal singing vouce instead of a horrible sound? (please do not say singing lessons, just things i can do on my own please!) (link)
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there are these 2 sites that will help you very much, this is sure...But don't forget that you have to try...
www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/onemusic/startingout/vocalp01.shtml
www.singers.com/instractional/learntosing.html
i hope i helped, kisses and good luck!I hope you be a star, the second Madonna maybe!!!!!!!!!
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lately i haven't been getting along with my mom at all, which really sucks because ever sinse i was young we've had a good relationship. it seems like she really babies my oldest brother who is 25 and i think it's because she doesn't want him to move out. i get so angry and frusterated and i don't know how to deal with how mad i get. my dad agrees that she babies them, but i think he thinks i overreact too. also, she wants me to stay home more often which i don't want too because we don't get along and i want to do stuff with my friends. how do i talk to her with out getting in fights? how do i deal with how angry i get?
helppp pleaseee (link)
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Deciding to get control of your anger — rather than letting it control you — means first taking a good hard look at the ways you’ve been reacting when you get mad. Do you tend to yell and scream or say hurtful, mean, disrespectful things? Do you throw things, kick or punch walls, break stuff? Hit someone, hurt yourself, or push and shove others around?
It can also help to remind yourself that making a change takes time, practice, and patience. It won’t happen all at once. Managing anger is about developing new skills and new responses. As with any skill, like playing basketball or learning the piano, it helps to practice over and over again.
The Five-Step Approach to Managing Anger
If something happens that makes you feel angry (like not being allowed to go to a party until you clean your room), this approach can help you manage your reaction. Your mom has just told you to clean your room or stay home. You really want to go to that party. The red-hot anger starts building. Here’s what to do:
1) Tune in to your feelings (self-awareness). Start by noticing what you're angry about and why. Put into words what’s making you upset so you can act rather than react.
Ask yourself: What’s got me angry? What am I feeling and why? You can do this either in your mind or out loud, but it needs to be clear and specific. For example: “I’m really angry at Mom because she won’t let me go to the party until I clean my room. It’s not fair!” Your feeling is anger, and you're feeling angry because you might not get to go to the party.
Notice that this is not the same as saying, “Mom’s so unfair to me.” That statement doesn’t identify the specific problem (that you can’t go to the party until you clean your room) and it doesn't say how you’re feeling (angry).
2) Stop and think (self-control). This is where you stop for a minute to give yourself time to manage your anger. It’s also where you start thinking of how you might react — but without reacting yet.
Ask yourself: What can I do? Think of at least three things. For example, in this situation you might think:
(a) I could yell at Mom and throw a fit.
(b) I could clean my room and then ask if I could go to the party.
(c) I could sneak out to the party anyway.
3) Consider your options (think it through). This is where you think about what is likely to result from each of the different reactions you came up with.
Ask yourself: What will happen for each one of these options? For example:
(a) Yelling at your mom may get you in worse trouble or even grounded.
(b) Cleaning your room takes work and you may get to the party late (but hey, arriving late may add to your mystique). With this option, you get to go to the party and your room's clean so you don't have to worry about it for a while.
(c) Sneaking out may seem like a real option in the heat of anger. But when you really think it through, it’s pretty unlikely you’d get away with being gone for hours with no one noticing. And when you do get caught — look out!
4) Make a decision (pick one of your options). This is where you take action by choosing one of the three things you could do. Look at the list and pick the one that is likely to be most effective.
Ask yourself: What’s my best choice? By the time you’ve thought it through, you’re probably past yelling at your mom, which is a knee-jerk response. You may have also decided that sneaking out is too risky. Neither of these options is likely to get you to the party. So option (b) probably seems like the best choice.
Once you choose your solution, then it’s time to act.
5) Check your progress. After you’ve acted and the situation is over, spend some time thinking about how it went.
Ask yourself: How did I do? Did things work out as I expected? If not, why not? Am I satisfied with the choice I made? Taking some time to reflect on how things worked out after it’s all over is a very important step. It helps you learn about yourself and it allows you to test which problem-solving approaches work best in different situations.
Give yourself a pat on the back if the solution you chose worked out well. If it didn’t, go back through the five steps and see if you can figure out why.
Try these things even if you’re not mad right now to help prevent angry feelings from building up inside.
Exercise. Go for a walk/run, work out, or go play a sport.
Listen to music (with your headphones on). Music has also been shown to change a person’s mood pretty quickly. And if you dance, then you're exercising and it’s a two-for-one.
Write down your thoughts and emotions. You can write things in lots of ways; for example, in a journal or as your own poetry or song lyrics. After you’ve written it down, you can keep it or throw it away — it doesn’t matter. The important thing is, writing down your thoughts and feelings can improve how you feel. When you notice, label, and release feelings as they show up in smaller portions, they don’t have a chance to build up inside.
Draw. Scribbling, doodling, or sketching your thoughts or feelings might help too.
Meditate or practice deep breathing. This one works best if you do it regularly, as it's more of an overall stress management technique that can help you use self-control when you're mad. If you do this regularly, you’ll find that anger is less likely to build up.
Talk about your feelings with someone you trust. Lots of times there are other emotions, such as fear or sadness, beneath anger. Talking about them can help.
Distract yourself. If you find yourself stewing about something and just can’t seem to let go, it can help to do something that will get your mind past what's bugging you — watch TV, read, or go to the movies.
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My life has been sucking. I was rapped, my boyfriends have been treating me like dirt, i had to get a job (14/f) because my crackhead (litteraly.) parents are too stupid (litteraly, neither went to college=hard way to find jobs) to get jobs and my dad is an alcoholic who beats me over little things such as my weight (a lil chubby), my grades (as and bs)and having friends and going out. so i decided to do drugs. my friend nick and i decided to go get the ingredients from the CVS down the street. then we did it. and we cant stop, i mean i dont remember a think while im high and i love it but one time i slept at nicks house because i was too high to remember where and what was happening and i woke up and tried waking nick up and he wouldnt wake up, eventually he did but it was a real scare! i went from doing it so much in one week to..only a lot in a month (there was some of a difference) and im just not sure what to do..my family hates me and treats me like an outcast and i hate it..i wanna runaway..but i REALLY wanna stop all the bad things im doing, im going to parties, having sex and drinking/doing drugs. i wanna stop..but im already so into it i cant stop..PLEASE HELP ME!!NO ONE ELSE WILL!! (link)
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God...i don't know what to say...You understood and this is good...This is the 1st step and you did grate...Now you have 6 other steps...
1.Stop going out with people that gave you drugs or can affect you take drugs.This is so important...
2.Stay at home, stop going out that much and try harder at school.These things will help you forget your problems...
3.About sex, understand that this is important and that you can't have sex like tha,with boys that are not your boyfriend and who DON'T respect you.I think that sex especially for girls is important, so take care..
4.Stop going out with all those that you used to go out for so long.This is hard, i know but honey, think about it!How many things they 've done to you???So many...
5.Your parents will see you trying and this is important.If you want good relation with them talk to them.Tell them what THEY did to you...
6.Do those things i 've told you if you don't want another child(yours) suffer like you do because of your "faults"..
Please please talk with a counselor this will help you very much...Very much.And if you cannot stop drugs(=death) visit a doctor.That is important for your own good too.
I hope i helped...Please tell me what is going on after some days, ok?I ll remember you, be sure!Kisses...
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OK, so this probably sounds really stupid or trivial, but I seriously have a problem with my mom always 'playfully' giving me a tickle. I'm an introvert, and I just don't like being forced to focus on her just because my she wants attention; i feel like I'm some plaything, and it makes me feel worthless. I've told her to stop, I've told her how it makes me feel, but she just brushes off my complaints and tells me to 'not be so serious'. Well, that's just who I am, and I don't want to deny my own feelings just because someone else doesn't respect them. So how do I get her to stop? (link)
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Hey, your mom probably doesn't understand how much you don't like it...This is why she does it.And furthermore she does it because you are introverted and she wants to "help" you become more outroverted and sociabl or generally more outgoing person...This is not because she wants people pay attention at her.If she would like attention she would do other things be sure( i know it because i love being the center of attention and i never use others)...
The best thing you could do is talk to her really seriously about it.A comment is not enough...Talk about it.She is your mother, she will finally understand.Explain her what you told me and i am sure she will stop it.
If not, then talk about that with someone else, for example with your father or her sister or your sister/brother.Someone who knows her and can talk to her....
Hope I Helped!!!
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It seems silly to start off with, "I have this friend who..." but unfortunately that is the case. I , in fact, HAVE a friend who is severly overparented. Her mother has always been a beast of burden, constantly calling, worrying, ranting about how she's being rude or distant or gaining weight (she's 5'9 and 110 lbs btw). The constant nagging never ends. The biggest problem is that she's 20 years old now and it hasn't stopped. She had to come back from college because of an illness and now has to stay with her family until her treatment is over. She has a 10:00pm curfew because her mother refuses to go to bed until she's home. She calls every hour to make sure she takes her pills and asks where she is and what she's doing and whom she's with. My friend has, of course, addressed the issue, but her mother is so consumed by denial that when her daughter says, "You hurt my feelings" she simply gives a condescending laugh and replies, "No I don't." It's really that bad. All the research i've done on over-parenting seems to focus on a child's first years. She is almost 21! She has a younger sister who gets the same treatment. And unfortunately this constant smothering has left her with very little confidence to break away or stand up to herself. If anyone has any personal experience (on either side of the issue), comments, or advice, it's much appreciated. On yes, and her mother says she's simply too busy for family therapy. (link)
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well,i am 16 and my parents used to be like that previous summer.Now they are not like that.What i did?I talked to them and i told them what i was feeling.I did not say"you hurt my feelings".This is normail.It took hours.I told them what i was feeling...They understood...
If it will not work then she should do what others do(it works).
1.Stop answering at the phone calls
2.Stop telling her where/who/what/how/when etc.Feel free to do whatever she wants.
3.behave like there is no mother
4.Stop talking like before to her mother.
5.behave in the way she wants...She should do whatever she wants.
6.Ask father's help...
I hope i helped...
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I am looking for some advice on what to do about this situation. I am in my mid 20's and have a friend who lives with her boyfriend. She pays about 80 percent of all the bills-and works two jobs to do it. The problem is taht her boyfriend is always putting her down and calling her names. There have been a cople of times where he completely explodes at her for some stupid reason and they get into a huge fight where she ends up crying. This happened the other night and she let it out that he has hit her before. After these kinds of fights I have the usual talk with her and tell her that she needs to get rid of him, that she can do better, and doesn't deserve this treatment. The thing is, the next day she will act like nothing has happened and it's never mentioned again.
The thing is, I really don't know what my place is in all of this. My mom said I should mind my own business and that it must not bother her if she hasn't left in the 3 years they have been together and my brother said I should just leave so I don't end up getting hurt. But this is my best friend and I hate to just sit by and see her put up with this. I can't believe that she can just forgive him for how he acts because I certainly can't and it just makes me seem like a jerk! What should I do? (link)
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Congratulations on being such a good friend.Your friend is afraid if letting him.I think that she understands that he is not right and that she shouldn't be with him but she just does not take the right decision.
Talk about it wuth her when everything is normal.If everything is fine now, talk about it with her and remind her all these things that he has done to her...Remind her all these times she was crying and remind her, her own words...Explain her that he does not respect her.Tell her that if he would really love her, he would behave better(for sure).If it is neccessary, tell her things that would hurt her.MAKE her understand.Maybe now, she will not understand your help but in the future she will adore you.
i hope i helped...
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ok i like this guy who is 16 im 13. hes sorta a "bad boy" but still like really respect full and sweet. when me and him are alone we are like all over each other and flirting a lot but when hes around his friends he will still flirt with me but not as much... i dont know if that means he will always be different around his friends or what. he doesnt like me being younger than him at all. he always says i should have be born earlier and stuf like that but he has never really said he likes me or anything he tells his friends he thinks im "fine" or whatever but wont say anything like that to me.i dont know if i should tell him i like him evan though i know that he knows that because i told his friend i did and talk to him and see if he likes me or just stay this friends with benifits or what ever we are? PLEASE HELP SOON!!! (link)
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I am 16 and i have been with a boy who is 19 and everything was fine...I think that this guy cares much more about what others tell than he cares about his own feelings.I think that he believes that he is someone important and that younger girls mean nothing.
You say "friend of benefits"/I think that the specific guy does not deserve all these things you do or you want to do.Don't be his friend of benefits don't tell him anything.He knows it.
What about your behaviour?Stop showing him that you like him.Ignore him and behave like a mature girl.Show him that you deserve much more than him and that you know it.I think that you should try to find an other nice boy and he will be jealous...
The only thing i know is that he is egoist and that you should not keep showing him that you like him...
I hope i helped...Emily
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I was going out with a guy who's four years older than me. We went out for four months and saw each almost every day, and if we didn't see each other, we talked on the phone. It was good. We made each other laugh and loved just hanging out and watching TV. He was the first person I slept with and I was really falling in love with him.
He had a lot of family problems and was abused when he was little. I knew to some extent what had happened but not everything. Then,we had a week where because of scheduling we couldn't really see each other and we got into a fight bc we were both frustrated. Out of the blue,he broke up with me. We had a four hour talk about it, and he said he just couldn't handle the stress of a relationship right now. He said like he felt like he was trying harder in the relationship than I was. Then, he told me about all his abuse in the past and how he feels like nothing and he started to cry really hard. I told him I had no idea, and I could help him through everything. He has three jobs and his family is horrible to him, and I felt really bad. but, he said he couldn't be with me.
I found out he used to talk to a mutual friend about me, and he told her only good things about me and talked about how much he cared.
It's been a month now, and I still miss him. I wish I had closure. Why did he leave and what should I do?
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I think that he cares about you but if he says that he does not want a girlfriend now, respect it...If you really like him try to understand him.I can't know why he left.But i don't think that this is because of his past.Noway.Why?Because he would not start it at all...With no woman not only with you.And something really important!If we really like or love someone we accept him/her in the way s/he is.We don't want her/him to try harder or to be otherwise...So i think that you should try to forget him...I know that what i am saying is really hard but this is my opinion...
Now, what you should do.If you want him back(i think that this is wrong) try to call him often. or tell him that you want to go out once..Show him that you care about him.Not as a gf but as a friend...If he loves you he will tell you it is sure...
What you should do with his problem?I think that you should tell him that you are there for him and whenever he wants to talk about it he can talk with you.Show him that you are aFRIEND of him and that you understand him really much.Don't talk about it with others he will not feel well about it...
I hope i helped....Bye!!!And...good luck!!!
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hey, its me again lol, srry to keep asking you, but really ur the best! so neways, he does like all of the signals you told me about, and he actaully does have a lot of girls that are friends, who are really outgoing. And now my question is should i ask him if hes decided how he feels yet? because its been like 2 weeks, he acts like sometimes and then others its harder to tell. If you think i should tell him, how should i do it, and if you dont think i should, what should i do in the mean time? (link)
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I love helping others so ask me whatever you want whenever you want!No problem...Look, if his behaviour is the same with all girls tell me it...It is important to decide about your behaviour,ok?
Now, i think that you should not ask him out...Don't tell him anything.If he wants he will do it.He knows that you like him, right?You are not a person without egoism at all, are you?So keep being nice and keep behaving good, keep being yourself and show him that you like him.If he likes you and if he is outroverted then he will tell you what he feels...You deserve it, i think...
But i think that if after a week he will continue being like now, then show him that you are angry and that it bothers you...Show it.Stop being like now and become "cold"...Don't look at him that much and sometimes ignore him...And if he asks you what is going on tell him that you don't know what he feels and this makes you mad...
Of course i don't forget that you will both be away but honey, i think that you should know...
I would REALLY help me if you tell me how he behaves generally, with other girls and if you tell me an example of your every-day life....
Kisses...
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i love my bf. alot. but you see the other day we got in a fight because this other guy was at my house. alden * my bf * thought he was over there to see me but he was over here cause my brother invited him over. later he apolizged and said he was sorry. i did too. i dont think he is really okay with it though. if he thought i was doing something with him, does he trust me or not?? i told him that he needs to trust me but he didn't say anything. HELP! (link)
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He is jealous because he likes you very much...This is the truth.He trusts you but he feels insecure.He apologized and that means that he didn't want to behave like that.Don't break up for that silly reason.He just likes you VERY much...I am sometimes jealous too.I trust the other person but i realise this after feeling jealous.When you feel jealous you cannot see things clearly...
Try to understand him...He just adores you...Bye!I hope i helped...
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i have a boy friend who is really sweet and writes me really nice notes ad stuff like that. but i dont think he is for me when ever i am around him i love to laugh but i cant get close and i deel so uncomfortable when it gets to a point where its quite like we are going to kiss i ack out really quick. everytime i am around him i am so uncomfortable.see people would say just give it time but the thing is we have been dateing for like 6 months and we have gotten nowhere. when we are on a date i just want to go home because i am that uncomefortable i dont know if it right soo i need help? and also im afraid to break up with him becasue he likes me so much like allot and he said how he would take a bullet for me adn all this stuff im scared he will get al depressed or like kill himself serioulsly so i need help. so i have two question should this relashoship go on? and i dont know hwo t break up with him if i do?
thanxs hope you can help i will rate fives if you give good advice
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You should break up..This is the best thing to do.Think about it...You don't really like him and you should not be with him.This is not only "bad" for you but for him too...Tell him that you want to stay alone...
I think that you know him better so try to explain him...The "right" thing is to tell him the truth but if i were you i wouldn't.I would tell him that i am not so good at school anymore and i should try harder but by being together i can't.I would tell him that my parents think that i should be alone this period because of school or because they are old-fashioned.I would tell sth that he would believe...Tell him sth that he can understand.Something that will make you 2 be friends...
I hope i helped...
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