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why did he leave?
I was going out with a guy who's four years older than me. We went out for four months and saw each almost every day, and if we didn't see each other, we talked on the phone. It was good. We made each other laugh and loved just hanging out and watching TV. He was the first person I slept with and I was really falling in love with him.
He had a lot of family problems and was abused when he was little. I knew to some extent what had happened but not everything. Then,we had a week where because of scheduling we couldn't really see each other and we got into a fight bc we were both frustrated. Out of the blue,he broke up with me. We had a four hour talk about it, and he said he just couldn't handle the stress of a relationship right now. He said like he felt like he was trying harder in the relationship than I was. Then, he told me about all his abuse in the past and how he feels like nothing and he started to cry really hard. I told him I had no idea, and I could help him through everything. He has three jobs and his family is horrible to him, and I felt really bad. but, he said he couldn't be with me.
I found out he used to talk to a mutual friend about me, and he told her only good things about me and talked about how much he cared.
It's been a month now, and I still miss him. I wish I had closure. Why did he leave and what should I do?
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I think that he cares about you but if he says that he does not want a girlfriend now, respect it...If you really like him try to understand him.I can't know why he left.But i don't think that this is because of his past.Noway.Why?Because he would not start it at all...With no woman not only with you.And something really important!If we really like or love someone we accept him/her in the way s/he is.We don't want her/him to try harder or to be otherwise...So i think that you should try to forget him...I know that what i am saying is really hard but this is my opinion...
Now, what you should do.If you want him back(i think that this is wrong) try to call him often. or tell him that you want to go out once..Show him that you care about him.Not as a gf but as a friend...If he loves you he will tell you it is sure...
What you should do with his problem?I think that you should tell him that you are there for him and whenever he wants to talk about it he can talk with you.Show him that you are aFRIEND of him and that you understand him really much.Don't talk about it with others he will not feel well about it...
I hope i helped....Bye!!!And...good luck!!!
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