hey everyone! i'm from france. i'm in high school. i'm alright at giving advice so if you ever need any help i'll do the best i can! i'll check this pretty often so that i can be the best advice giver i can get, peace and love
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I need help for what kind of make-up I should wear. I have light skin, blue-green eyes, and darkish blonde hair. Like what kind of eyeliner ect. Thanks! (link)
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hey! i think that black eyeline on light eyes like yours looks really nice. you could also try to put a light purple eye shadow, but depending on dark it is, it wont match with everything you wear. blue eye shadow works well too. you could also try darker eye shadows to give you a smokey look, like dark brown. wear black mascara with some clear or pale brown/pink lipgloss and you will look very charming. hope this helps, peace and love
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ok so i just started using tampons and like when i put on in it feels like it falling out does that mean its not in all the way or is that just how it feels??
plz help ill rate high to anything thats not ignorant (link)
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hey! wearing tampons can be.... well. once its in correctly, you shouldnt feel it at all. so if you feel it falling out, then its probably not in all the way. maybe you should also try a different kind of tampon, i used one kind, and i never felt comfortable. then i started using tampax like not long ago at all. they are much easier to put in and i dont feel them at all. so my advice to you is to experience with different kinds of tampons and see which one you like best and stuff. hope this helped, peace and love!
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This poem. Needs help. it didn't come out right. Suggestions?
I saw you tonight
For the first time in what had felt like years
Sweat dripped off your body
And I realized what I had lost
I had loved
And you had pitied
But you had forgotten
What I could not
With you standing so close
It drove me crazy
I miss you I cried
But I don’t miss your lies
I wont forget you
Even if you’ve already forgotten me
Don’t pity me
I’m fine. (link)
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hey, i think your poem is really good. it may need some help with the flow at some points, but its really great.
I saw you tonight
For the first time
Felt like years.
And I realized what I had lost
What I had loved,
And you had pitied
But you had forgotten
What I could not
With you standing so close
It drove me crazy
I miss you I cried
But I don’t miss your lies
I wont forget you
Even if you’ve already forgotten me
Don’t pity me
I’m fine.
keep writing, you got something!
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ok well, i live in PA, and i was in new jeresy at six flags today. Anyway well i was on medusa and this kid kept staring at me while we were waiting in line. Then when we got off, my friend went the other way and i felt really sick. So i went over to a tree and dropped my stuffed animal i bought and started throwing up. So he came over even though i didnt know him and put his hand on my back and he was help my hair back and picked up my animal..and then when i was done i looked up at him and he was smiling at me. I said sorry, but its like, it's okay come here, and he took me over to where him and his friends were standing, and he sent his friend to go buy me something to settle my stomach.. then after thati left and eventually i was in line for nitro and him and his friends were like 5 people behind me and he came up and put his hand on my shoulder and he was like, are you gonna be able to handle this one? Then when we got off i was walking down the stairs and i was like stumbling and hes like, you okay there drunky? and we started laughing, and then we split up again and then later we went on this ride that sends you over the lake, and i ended up getting broken away from the people i was with and i had to sit with him, and the sun was setting and it was so pretty. But then anyway, we were leaving, and i said bye, and i had left my phone with him because i was afraid i would drop it in the lake, and i opened it and i was flipping through the numbers, and it said tony with a heart next to it and his number. Just wondering, what does this mean? (link)
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hey! well, the way he took care of you when he saw you were sick and all, and how he added his phone number, with a heart, and how he sat next to you at the ride. well it pretty much all says that he has a thing for you. if you feel something for him to, then great!! oh, and as all the others said, he does sounds like a sweet and caring guy. have fun! peace and love
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I met a guy at a club and i went up to him first and danced all nite w/him and he asked for my number first. An hour after the club he called me saying he still wanted to chill with me, but i said im pretty tired for the nite, so he said to call him later on the day. So i called him, and we chilled for a little at the beach. But soon after he had to go and said that he had run arrands with his friends and if me and my friends were still at the beach later on to call him, other wise he can always visit me in LA since he lives in SD and he visits LA ocassionally. Any way almost a week is up and he still hasnt called me but acouple of days ago i text him saying, hello and what he has been up to.. he text me back an hour later saying that sorry for not getting back, hes been busy but he'll call me later. Its been 2-3 days since that text and he still hasnt called back. I called him today but got his voicemail. so what should i expect or do? he isnt interested, just just let it go..?
-confused need advice (link)
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hey! well, i couldnt really say. but my advice to you is to not expect anything from him and let it go, but if he comes back, well, i'm guessing you can pick from there. but dont wait around for something to happen, cause it might never. so let it go, maybe he just wanted a little fun, and maybe he didnt. he'll get back to you if there is more to it. if you have more questions drop a message in my inbox, peace and love
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thanks for all your help. i think i will go for the second guy. ok he is my friends ex...what do u think of that? also, how long should i wait to go with the second one? (link)
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hey! ok, sometimes its hard to go out with your frend's ex. its awkward sometimes. so maybe you should let your friend know how you feel about the guy, so that shes prepared, and that he hears it from you. the thing is, you cant let her change your mind about the guy. honeslty, i've gone out with a frend's ex, and it was ok. and a friend of mine went out with my ex, and that was ok too. i think that you should maybe wait a couple weeks, like 2-3 or something liek that. i think that it depends on how your break up with the other guy goes. if hes ok with it, then thats cool. and if hs still hung up on you, then give him more time to heal before you really move on. so i would say about a month max. i mean, you cant stay single for your ex, right? lol. i hope all goes well with the second guy! peace and love
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hey u totally know what you are talking about! well its not just that i worksed to get him but i feel abit too demanding...like i want attention/affection all the time. i dunno if its my fault or what? give me any advice you can! thx a lot! (link)
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hey! i'm glad i helped. its typical for girls to want attention. i think that at our age, its the main reason why we want bf's in the first place (also we want all the fun that goes along with it). so its really normal that you want affection and attention from your bf. i've been in relationships where the guy didnt really care, and well, its no so good. i mean, we're all going through puberty and we need the support, cause we're learning more and more about life. if you know that there is someone else out there that can give you the support and affection that you want and need (and i'm talking about that other guy) then go for it. dont feel bad because you want him to care. i mean, ofcourse he cant be there with you 24/7, but it seems you guys dont talk or hang all that much. and honestly, i dont know about you, but i dont like that, at all. so really, you have to ask yourself what you really want. you know what you need and you know what you want, so if you can get it, dont wait one second, or it might just slip right under your nose. girls like/want/need affection, so if a guy cant give you that, well, find another that can. i dont mean for you to be a player or antyhing, but you're not married to that other guy, so he'll get over it. dont feel bad for something that you feel. i hope i helped, and feel free to ask as many questions as you need. peace and love.
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Here’s the thing I’ve never been kissed (15/f), but there’s a guy I like so if I get a chance to kiss him I want to really impress him. And I don’t really even know the basics. I know many people say it’s good to just “go with the flow” and that it will happen naturally, but I’ve also heard many people talking about their first kiss and how bad it was and everything and how the other person didn’t like it at all. And I know it will really mater to him, because he is really hot (can get any girl he wants, but is not a player) and is a perfectionist, so if it goes wrong I will make a really bad impression and might never get a second chance. Plus he is two years older so I suppose he’s had a lot of experience. I really need someone to walk me trough everything. I am going for something that includes a French kiss, a kiss that he will remember in a good way that will sweep him off his feet. (link)
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hey! i remember my first kiss. i was really nervous about it, cause like you, i wanted it to be good and i didnt really know what to do. the thing was, i knew it was coming, we didnt plan it or anything, but it was obvious it was coming. well i asked a friend of mine, and she said "just open your mouth" when she told me, i thought to myself, dont you have anything else better?? well, now i understand why. every kiss is different and guys like them differently. so really, all you can do is be prepared to open your mouth and close your eyes when that special moment comes. however, you know how in movies the girl always wants her first time she'll have sex to be perfect, and well, it never turns out perfect? well, honestly, your kiss with him might not turn out perfect. many people have bad recollections of their first kiss is because they didnt know what was coming and couldnt really compare it to anthing else. so really, my advice to you is, look at him in the eyes, get close to him, and let him get close to you. you'll feel it coming, and when it does, close your eyes, and let him lead you through it. some guys get flattered when they're your first. so just have fun and relax, cause everythings guna be fine. if you have more questions, drop a message in my inbox. peace and love
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ok, im caught between to guys & im currently with one of them. theyre friends-not too close but i feel like im kinda comming between them.
the first guy, my bf...well we have some communication issues. meaning we rarely talk & when we do its not for very long. its our first relationship, were both shy at times & he doesnt get out much (unlike me) he hasnt kissed me ever or gone on a date with me in a long time.
the second guy...i got him together with his ex.(she dumped him b/c she was into girls.) we take martial arts together & were together alot then he said he likes me. we talk online all the time even if he said he likes me b/c honestly, im attracted. i cant really say i am b/c im with his friend. he says a lot of sweet things too and since i have doubts about the 1st guy, i cant help but take it in positavly.
well yesterday he told me he wanted to kiss me after we talked for a really long time. its really weird cuz neither one of us agrees with cheating but for some reason, its almost impossible to avoid.
please help me! i dont wanna do anything stupid! thanks! (link)
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hey! it sounds to me like you're not happy with your current bf. if you're in a relationship with someone and you think you might want to be with somebody else instead, clearly you're not as happy as you should be with your current bf. the thing is, even if you did work hard on getting him, well its not point staying with him even if it did take a lot of time and work. it sounds like this other guy really likes you and that theres a possibility that you might like him back. dont stay stuck with someone if the only excuse is that it took a while for you guys to go out together. i mean if you guys almost never talk and never go on dates, i think you should try being just friends. and as for the other guy, if you decide to be with him, take it slow. if you want to talk about this further, drop a message in my inbox. hope this helped. peace and love
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i have liked this guy for a while(abouthalf of the school year) and we went out once already.but only for a couple of weeks because someone told me that he was cheating on me with another girl who i didnt know. and so i broke up with him. and then about a week later i called him and apologized and asked him why he didnt tell me that he didnt really cheat on me. and he said he thought it wouldnt matter and i told him it would have. and then we became friends again. and he asked my friend what i would say if he asked me back out.and she told him i would say yes. and so i figures he would ask me nack out again. but he didnt and he started going out with my friend. which made me mad. so then i wanted to tell him i like him but i just couldnt get the courage. so i had my friend do it but when she told him he didnt react like i thought he would but my friend told me that it was probly because his g/f was there but i dont know. and then i was really sad one day for a weird reason and i was standing right in front of the lunch doors and a bunch of my friends came up to me to try to cheer me up. then he walked up to me and pulled me towards him and gave me a hug and asked me what was wrong and i told him nothing and he said he aint letting go until i tell him. and he kept pressuing me to tell him and when i didnt he got mad kinda. do you think that he still likes me and if so should i tell him myself that i like him and if so should i tell him by going to the movies and saying it or at school. cuz i dont want to say it in front of alot of people. (link)
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hey! to me it sounds like he really cares about you, even if he might not still think of you that way. i think that you should definitely tell him yourself that you like. do it face-to-face and without everyone around, so that you will know how he will react and make sure there is no one around, so that he can feel free to say whatever he has or wants to say. i think asking him to the movies would be a little weird, seeing as he already has a gf. however, you can pick a moment during school when you can take him away for a couple minutes and talk to him in private. it can be between classes (although i dont think you'd have enough time), during lunch, or before or after school. which ever one you feel most comfi with. while you're talking to him just say something like "i know you have a gf and all, but i just wanted you to know that i still care about you and that i still have feelings for you. i accept it if you dont want me in that way, but i just wanted you to know." well, you dont have to say exactly that, but i think that you should let him know during your conversation with him that you understand that he has a girlfriend. i hope this helped, if you want to talk about it further, leave a message in my inbox. peace and love, xoxox
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Me and my boyfriend kissed for the first time a while back, and now he keeps wanting to do it every day. I'm afraid if we keep kissing every day, we'll soon grow bored of it and move of to sex. I don't want to take things too fast. So what should I do? (link)
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hey. your bf is probably a physical kind of guy. he likes to be with you and be like that. and maybe you guys are going to get bored of it, but that doesnt mean you have to move on to sex. you guys could try different kissing games or kissing differently. theres a long way to go before sex, so stop before and enjoy the it. however, if you dont like that idea, maybe talk to him about it so that hes clear that you wont have sex with him for a while. tell him you dont want to go too fast, and i'm sure he'll understand. if you have any more questions, drop a message in my inbox. peace and love xoxo
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i am a 14 yr old girl and of my boyfriend always wrestles with me what does that mean ? (link)
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hey, guys like to play around with girls. its a way for him to get close to you, physically i mean, without making it a big deal. this way, he gets to touch and feel you, but also ahve fun. if you enjoy it then have found! and if you dont, tell him how you feel about it. if you need to talk more, drop a message in my inbox, peace and love
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ok so there is this guy and well i like him so much... he means alot to me b/c we have been friends.. but god he just gives me these huge butterflys everytime i see him... but he tells ppl that he doesnt like me... but then one day he told a friend of mine that he starting to really like me.. we flirt alot and he calls me by nicknames he waits for me after class and i dont know i guess i just think that he might like me alittle more then just a friend.. should i stick with him in hopes that he will come around? or should i just move on? can some help me cause my frieds say i am obsest.. i dotn think so just like him alot!!! (link)
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hey! to me it sounds like he definitely likes you. i mean, why else would he flirt with you, give you cute nicknames, and wait for you after class? plus, he tells your friends that hes starting to like you. hes sending you signals and you should stick with him because it really does sound like he will come around. just keep on flirting with him and getting closer and closer to him. be affectionate, he'll understand that you like him back, and, well, you can go from there. if you like him a lot, really, go for it! if you need more advice, drop a message in my inbox. hope this helped, peace and love
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how do you deal with rumors and gossip. i really don't care what ppl say i just have a hard time showing that i actually don't care, so how do i show people i really dont care? (link)
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hey! well, we all know rumors suck, and by avoiding and ignoring them, you will be less and less a part of it. to show that you dont care, just say you have to go when people around you start to gossip. however, if people are telling about what someone said about you, then just say a simple "oh ok" and then change the topic. the people around you will eventually get the idea that you dont care and dont wanna know about all the gossip and fuss. hope this helped, if you want to talk about it some more leave a message in my inbox. peace and love
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okay so i like this guy... and i think he likes me... we were on the phone last night and he asked if i liked him- to which i answered yea- well idk if he lieks me the same or not.. like we hung out a lot today adn he gave me a ot of hugs, but im not sure though, i think i like him a lot though... but it seems like every relationship i get myself into i always end up breakin it off w/in like a week or so... can anybody tell me how to make a relationship last longer... adn if you think theres any hope for me and that guy?? thanks!! (link)
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hey! i definitely think theres hope. i mean he asked you if you like him, he hangs out with you a lot, and he gives you lots of hugs, sounds like a good beginning to me. there isnt really a way for long relationships to happen, it jsut depends on the guy. however, i really believe that if your good friends with the guy or you guys have knows each other for a couple months and are friends, that helps. once your actually in the reltionship i think it helps to see him often and just be close and share stuff. no just be physical with each other, but also emotional, it goes farther. hope this helped, if you have more questions drop a question in my inbox. good luck and hope everything turns out good, peace and love
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Hi. I'm a fellow Advicenator. I have my own column, if you ask, I could leave you feedback with my username. Although I've always been good at advice...I feel lost right now. Maybe I do know the answer, but I just need to hear it from someone else.
For the past few years...Something hasn't been right with me. I'm tired of not fitting in, I'm tired of always needing to get good grades, I'm tired of people not telling me anything, tired of being ignored, hurt... I'm one of those 4.0+ GPA students. Friends would describe me as hyper. Heck, that's even part of my username. But all this time it's been a cover up of how I really feel. Crying by myself sometimes make me feel better, but time doesn't heal, like they say. Things get worse for me.
This year seemed to work out so well. Until last Friday I realized that this year has all been a lie. A friend told me about something my other friends have been hiding from me. I found out that the people I LOVED, my FRIENDS, were talking trash about my boyfriend and me.
They don't realize that WE HAVE ALL CHANGED. I know I have changed, and I accept that. I accept that they have changed as well. We all want our "old" friends back, but what can we do? I miss them, but I cannot change what has happened between us. My boyfriend has brightened up my life. I thought they would be happy for me. What's funny is THEY were the people that pressured me into saying YES to my boyfriend sooner than I expected. (I don't regret it at all.) I could have gone for months, not giving him an answer. "OMG, say yes already" "Oh, he's a nice guy" I remember lots of quotes, CLEARLY. And now, here they are, talking trash?
My REAL friends are supposed to be there for me. They're supposed to talk to me, even if it's something I don't want to hear. They need to at least try to see things my point of view, and NOT talk trash behind my back. They need to either talk to me about it or keep it to themselves and NOT spread around how I'm such a changed and horrible person.
The only person that is giving me the will to live is my boyfriend. I feel bad he has to see me like this. He tells me he knows how I feel, but he doesn't care because he has me. I'd like to say the same, but honestly, it hurts too much. I love him, but the pain won't go away.
I don't know what to do.
At first I wanted to like yell at my "friends" and go rawr! But then as these few days passed I just wanted to forget. But then I can't forget the pain... I see them every day. I think to myself, maybe if I forget, we can all pretend it never happened because I don't want to ruin things even more. But then I tell myself how could I pretend when something like this has happened? My brain goes back and forth...all the time.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read this. I apologize for the length...I really needed to get that out... Please...I need some wise words. (link)
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hey! well, like you said, i think that you pretty much gave yourself advice by writing this. i mean, what you said about real friends and what they should do, well thats exactly it. i'm not saying to stop seeing and being with all your friends, but try talking to them about it. maybe it wasnt as bad as you think, and maybe it can be "fixed". however, dont get your hopes up too much because maybe they are just mean people who have nothing else better to do than to talk trash about people they call their friends behind their back. if it turns out that it wasnt as bad as it seemed and that your friends apologized and its all good, then maybe have like a big hang out with all your friends. however, if it turns out that your friends are just bitches, then turn to new people and rely and talk to your bf to get yourself through the pain. i seriously think that talking to your friends is the best way to figure out this whole thing. if you need to talk about it more, leave a message in my inbox or leave me your sn or soemthing like that. hope this helped, peace and love
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i dont usually do this but ok..im in love with this one guy that i've been with for 11 months, and he claims he is in love with me, but when we get in an arguement he says he doesnt love me right now, which is weird bc i thought that if you was in love with someoen you would love them unconditionally, he makes all the rules and doesnt let me have input on anything.every timei talk to him i end up crying bc he hurts me so bad emotionally..the only time he acts good to me is when he is about to get something(you know what i mean) after that he's back to his normal self.what should i do? i try leaving him but i always get weak and run back to him.i love him alot and i dnt know what i should do.i try telling him how i feel and he gets pissed so i just keep it to myself..im getting really close with this other guy who feels the same way about me as i do my guy, and i dont know what i should do, i love the guy im with, not the one who treats me like a goddess,..*confused*..what should i do..sorry its so long..forgive me lol (link)
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hey! i know this is not what you want to hear, but you deserve a guy who treats like... a goddess... it doesnt have to be the other guy that you dont like that much, it can be someone else. but if your current bf cant give you that affection, or only when hes about to get some, then it seems like hes just using you. you said you've tried leaving him, well, in my opinion, if you left him for good, then you wouldnt be crying and feeling miserable because he hurt you emotionally. if you try to leave him, just keep in mind that he wasnt that great, that he wasnt good to you, and that he didnt seem to care that much about what you feel. a guy that sets all the rules and doesnt let you say anything about them is not a guy you would want to stay with. go for a guy that will love you unconditionally, that will listen to what you have to say, and that will treat you like you've never been treated before. its hard to do, but in my opinion its the best advice i have for you... if you stay with him, it will only get worse, you will still stay with him, and he might just end up dumping you. if you need to talk about it some more, leave a message in my inbox. hope this helped, peace and love
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thers this girl I like iv known her for years how would I tell her I like her (link)
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hey. well, you need to flirt with her if arent already doing so, so that she knows that you're inetrested. then, pick a moment where its just you and her. then get kinda close to her, physically i mean, and just tell her "i like you". if thats too forward for you, ask her who she likes, and see if its you. or, you could just ask her out on a date, like the movies, or you can ask her to be your girlfriend. good luck, let me know how it goes. peace and love
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i am really small waisted/hipped for my size. i want to know some places where i can shop that are still trendy, but have sizes that fit me. i only have a 29 in. hip and im almost 15. please help! (link)
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hey, if you go online they can offer smaller sizes than they have in stores. so you dont have to shop anywhere else, just get the smallest size. also, if its really too big on the waist, try a cute belt, it will add some touch and it wont feel as big anymore. you can also try some kid sotres that have cute stuff. some of the stores that i like are: a$f, ae, forever 21, hechts, but it all depends on your style. i hope this helped and sory for answering it so late. good luck shopping!
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I hae to close friends that are pregnant. Unfortunantly one was raped and the other one was by her boyfriend. They are both considering abortion. Why is it that people think it is all right for my friend who was raped to get an abotion and the other one isn't. Both are still killing and innocent child...Please help me understand the difference!! (link)
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hey, as you probably already know, people have many different opinions about abortions, some aprove of it, some dont, and some do sometimes. your friend that was raped did not choose to have sex and it is not her fault that she id pregnant is she could not do anything at the time. your other friend took the risk of getting pregnant withher boyfriend, she knew what she was doing, knew the consequences of her actions, and still went for it and took the risk. it was her choice to have sex. from the way you put the question, it does not seem like you aprove of abortions- in any case. however, do you think it fair for your friend that was raped to change her whole life for a baby that she did not want at all in the first place? this is the question that you need to ask yourself. i understand why it might seem unhumane to kill the future child, but would the baby really want to be born when he would have no father and a mother that was raped? and your other friend, i'm sure she doesn't want a child that would be an "accident". even though you may not aprove of abortions, sometimes it is the best solution for the parents and the kid. i hope this helped you understand the difference better, much love
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