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Q: would it be considered taboo.. or incest for me to date my brothers fiances sister? i mean there is no blood connection.. hmm please help.. i dont knwo what to do

that's not wrong at all! that's actually kinda cool when you think about it. don't worry about it at all.. but make sure you think it thru before you actually do it cause um.. family parties, etc can get pretty weird after you guys break up. good luck! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: do you think you could show me some of the layouts you have made

( are they my psace layouts??)

your help would mean the WORLD to me ive been searching for good layouts for ever!!!

yes! of course! im me: roxybabexodm

Q: My mothers' doctor tells me anti-depressants (SSRI's like prozac) will reduced the effectiveness of the birth control pill. I'm not sure I can trust him, as he is very sexually conservative and doesn't beleive unmarried people should have sex. He always seems to be trying to scare me out of having sex. (I rather not go to him anymore, but there are very very few family doctors where I live.)

I know the normal issues and chances with the pill, but I can't seem to find any reasources online that deal with this specifically. Does anyone have any idea or personal experience?

(20/f)

okay, first off.. make sure that anti-depressants are your LAST RESORT. try as much as you can NOT to take them. people in my family have taken them and the change in their personality is CRAZY. they mess up everything.. they're just bad news. but anyways, not once have i ever heard of anti-depressants reducing the effectiveness of the birth-control pill. anti-depressants can do other stuff (like change your sex drive) but no, they will not reduce the effectiveness of the birth control pill. and here's a tip: if you really don't feel comfortable with this doctor, go out there on your own and look for another one.. check out planned parenthood.. (it's completely private, your parents won't know)..get another doctor. you shouldn't be with a doctor that you're not a 100% comfortable with. hope that helps! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: my cell phone plan is verizon and I know I have free nights and weekends. free nights starts at 9pm, but what time does it end? I'm only allowed to talk on my phone when it's free nights and weekends. Last night my boyfriend called my cell phone at 4:15am, and the day before he called me around 3am. Will I get charged for this? what time does free nights end?

free nights end at either 6:00 am or 7:00 am
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: ok when i go to a search engine like ask.com or msn or google..it has everything i searched for saved in the spot where you type in what your looking for. is there any way to delete that? if my parents ever use my laptop and see the things ive searched for..that wouldnt be good

haha aww okay, here's what to do.. you know where you're supposed to type your question or whatever? well click there a couple of times and you will see the list of things you've searched for.. it's like a drop-down list. go up and down with the arrows in your computer and then everytime you need to delete something, just hit 'delete' hope that helps! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: what is this song it is a rock song and i noe girls sing ti and it goes, "why cant i breath when ever i think about you, y cant i speak whenever i talk about you..." can someone plz tell me hwo sings it and what it is called.. thanks

i ABSOLUTELY love this song :)

"why can't i?" - liz phair

Q: hey.. i was wondering where i could get a playlist fora myspace.. also some music links

thanks in advance!

getting a playlist on myspace is kinda hard. really complicated to explain, took me a while to figure it out. i have the code though, leave me your screen name in my inbox and i will IM it to you, and explain you what to do.

myspace music --> wwww.myspace.com/musicgalore

♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: ok tomorrow me and my friend want to do something really random...we already thought of spending the day at walmart...and going bowling...and things like that but i need someting really mental and weird

got any ideas

hahaha i love doing that!! this is what i did last time.. turned out to be friggin awesome.. (this worked for me because there's trains here..) look at the train schedule and look at all the towns that you can possibly go to (hopefully towns that you've never been to, but make sure they're not TOO far away) write the names down, and then close your eyes and point to a part! SURPRISE! you'll probably pick the most random place.. so go there, and spent the day there. what i did was, i went to that place with my friends, we chilled there.. made fun of people, went to supermarkets and like hid behind papertowels, asked stupid questions to random strangers, sat on sidewalks asking people if they wanted to be friends with us, etc.. just do stupid stuff.. it's so much fun! and hey.. if you can't take the train.. do all that same stuff in your town. it's awesome.. and try to bring a camera, cause you'll wanna remember all the crazy stuff you did :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: does anyone know any good sites for my space layouts

i rate 5's for any answer!!

heyyy.. well, try looking in myspace groups for 'myspace layouts' or 'html codes' a bunch of things are bound to pop up.
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: Does anyone know any good books about like girls who are about 13 or up?

the gossip girl series, summer boys, seventeenth summer, ALL of the books by sarah dessen, the sisterhood of the traveling pants, the clique.. hope that helps! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: SORRY ITS SO LONG.. BUT I'LL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.

ok so my ex ((james)) broke up with me in April and we had been going out for 4 months.. i really liked him alot.. he was probably the one guy i liked the most.. well i really missed him for a while and i would talk to him online and we'd be friends.. but then he started to become popular and snobby to me... then we were fighting and he called me a slut.. so i blocked him and he's been blocked.. and now its summer and i never see him or talk to him.. but i still have feelings for him.. i mean i don't like him as much as i used to but thinking of him makes me sad and i miss him.. i can't tell if i really still like him.. but i wanna hate him so badly!.. so then i have my other ex boyfriend ((pete)) who i broke up with in novemeber.. and he's still in love with me.. he really likes me a lot.. and he's such a sweet guy with a great personality and he always makes me laugh.. so here's the deal.. whenever i see pete.. i like him.. but then a few days after i see him im like.. well i don't know if i like him.. but he's like the perfect guy for me.. but there's not a big spark.. so my questions are.. do you think i still like my ex james??.. do you think i should give pete another chance and go out with him??.. and what can i do to get over james quicker?? sry its longg

i think that there's always that one guy that we will always have feelings for. maybe you'll always have a thing for james.. but it's probably never going to happen, so just try moving on. this should be easy/easier considering that there's pete and he's sweet to you and he loves and he will treat you well. give him another chance, things might work out with him. good luck! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: okay, i have a bad habit that annoys me. sometimes when i talk to people i use the word "like" alot. for instance, when i'm nervous or when i talk really fast i say the word "like" after practically every other word. people ask me sometimes when im talking to them why i do that, and i don't know why i do ... it's a really weird habit that i can't seem to get rid of haha ... so do you know any ways to help me break this habit ? thanks.

haha that used to happen to me ALL the time!! it is so annoying, but here's how you can start: (that's how i did it) everytime i was having a normal conversation, i could feel the "like's" coming, so i would just stop and say whatever i had to say without saying like.

example:
"she was like omg that's so sad"
-->she was saying 'omg that's so sad'

"i was like, get away from me"
-->i said 'get away from me'

by making small changes like that.. you'll notice that slowly, you WILL stop saying 'like' every two seconds. like is a word that is not 100% necessary, so just try skipping it as often as you can.. but don't forget, it's okay to say like every once in a while! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: ok first of all, please dont say go google it or yahoo or whatever. doesnt work. does anyone know the artist name or song title for this, im really dont know much of the lyrics so ill try. also im pretty sure the group starts with the letter "A". it usually also plays on the semi-emo station. so heres some of the words i remember, its teh chorus:
"wanted to be something that's different. wanted to see the change in me..."

sry i know its not a lot-thanks a lot!

the name of the band is acceptance. the song is 'different'
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: how do you get your songs from limewire onto iTunes?

okay, there's two ways to do it: in iTunes go to file: add file to library. from there, just get to the folder where all your downloaded songs are going. once you get there, just pick the song you want to add and click "open". another way to do is like this: you know in limewire, how after the song is downloaded, you can see it? it says completed or something? well, click on the song and drag it to iTunes. it works, just drop it in library. hope that helps!
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: i pierced my cartlige on my b-day on march 31 ... & now im doing cheerleading so they make me take it off ...no biggie, but when i was putting it back on i relized it was infected, so what can i do and shouldnt i do to make it feel better?! (bu the wasy it looks like a have a pimple on the back of the hole thingy but its the infection thingy

whoa that happened to me so i asked the piercer dude what to do and here it is: take a cotton ball and wet it with really hot water. (not so hot that it will like burn!) but just enough so that you can feel it doing something. press against the 'pimple' for a couple of minutes and do it for a couple of days till it goes away. mine went away in like 2 minutes. it just like disappared. watch out though.. if that doesn't work pretty quickly, go to the doctors or something. it might be infected. good luck! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: how do you get your boyfriend to stop cutting..? please help me..=(

take it from someone who was in a VERY similar situation: just talking to that person won't help. yeah, they might stop it for a while, but they're going to keep doing it. the only thing that you can do is talk to an adult about it. get some help. your boyfriend might get mad at you, but look at it this way.. would you rather him be mad you or you feel guilty if he ever cuts a little too deep and seriously hurts himself? .. maybe even die?
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: School's about to start, and I don't really want to carry a backpack around all the time this year. I was wondering if anyone knows where to get those cute shoulder bags that are rectangle-squarish? They have really cute Coach ones, but I'm on a low-budget.

i really wouldn't recommend those for school but if you still want one go to pacsun. roxy has some really cute ones!
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: how do you put photos on picturetrail or places like that without a digital camera. i took some pics on a disposable camera and i want to put them in a picture trail. help!

okay this is so easy! when you get them developed you can either scan OR when you go to get them developed, you know how you put the camera in an envelope? well look at the envelope, it has a bunch of writing. read the stuff that it says. one of the options is besides getting the pictures, getting a cd-rom with the picture. check that option and when you pick up the pictures you will also get a cd. put that cd in your computer and that's it! you got pics from a disposable camera to the computer! :)
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: Sorry, i didn't know what category to put this under. lol, okay my question is, if you dont know how to put a tampon in, and you're NOT on yor period. Can you still practice to stick one in you? Because I'm going to a party soon and I should be getting my period soon. And I'm going to have to swim. And I just need to know how to put a tampon in. So could I practice, while I'm not on my period? What would it do?

NO! don't! like yeah, i guess you can practice but it will HURT when you pull it out. when you stick a tampon in there, you have to wait till it's soaked to pull it out, otherwise it's going to get stuck and hurt. you could try it, but i wouldn't recommend it.
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

Q: there are these guys that live like 3 doors down from me. (they're super hott 2 haha) They are a couple years older then me but i dont care.. anyways i ALWAYS see them.. but @ the rong times, like when im walking home from babysitting or from the pool with a friend when there is a HUGE group of very good looking guys we hafta walk through. Infact i was walking home the other day and a guy in a car waved to me but i didnt no who he was so i just smiled then i recognized the car in their driveway! The always check me out and smile and stuff (not trying to sound cocky) and i just wanna kno how to like say hi, im very outgoing but i wanna find a good time to do it!! anyone have suggestions (i rate) sorry its so long :-/

-->> girl next door

just walk up to them and start talking. they obviously like you enough to check you out, so just go up to them and introduce yourself. hehe you never know :) good luck!
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella

bio

I'M BACK :) i had my column in 2005 when i was 15. now, 2 years later, i'm back and ready to give some advice. the past two years have been a rollercoaster for me and i've been through a lot so if you're looking for down-to-earth advice on boys, family, friends, school, shopping, computers... anything! come to me :) i'm 17 years old, a girl, senior in high school, with a boyfriend. i love to party, have fun, play sports and just enjoy life. after all, you only live once ♥