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Hey, I'm Amy. I take all problems seriously from extremely personal questions to simple common sense questions. I'm mainly experienced relationship-wise, friend-wise, moral-wise, family-wise, and culunary-wise. Don't be shy, I'm never negative, I'm on the computer on a regular basis, so your questions/comments/concerns will be answered quickly and efficiantly, and I firmly believe in "there is no such thing as a stupid question!"

I hope that I can be of service to you. (:

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I'm 13 and I am pretty develpoed in the hips and brests.I haven't gotten my period yet and I just got a lot of brown guck in my under wear...its not poop...don't smell like it and its not in the right place on my underwear to be poop but it looks like liquid poop(in colour) could this be my period ? I wanna be sure before I tell my mom.

thats the pre-period.

everyone gets it before they're going to have their first period ever within a span of 2-5 months.

start stalking up on pads and tampons. good luck! :D
-amy.

ok
14/m
i'm going to a party on saturday after i get back from vacation, and my ex girlfriend is going to be there. we were together for 4 months, and i absolutely loved her. we broke up about a week and a half ago. she's going with this guy that is apparantly the reason we broke up, and its REALLY pissing me off. i thought about bringing this really pretty friend i have to make my ex jealous, but she's already busy on saturday. so what should i do? i definitely want to go to the party, but i don't know what to do about the fact that she's going to be there with that guy...

thanks guys
Sam

im a girl, im 14, and personally, when this happens, this is what drives me crazy:
-you bring that friend.
-dont look at her the WHOLE time.
-if you do, kinda just nod your head like eh. hi?
-small talk. and pretend your not interested if she strikes up a conversation.
-flirt with that friend, if she'll let you.
-dont laugh at her jokes, but laugh at your girl-who-is-your-friend's jokes.
-if she talks bad about anyone, give her a rude glare and walk away.

thats all i can say. hope it works and makes her jealous! :D
-amy.

i have the sims 2 on xbox and i cant have a baby! ive tried having them "woohoo" in the bed a million times and it never asks me if i want a baby or anything like that. how do i have one? or is there like some cheat where you can?

they have to be married, and it has to have the option "try for baby"

if all else fails, adopt. :D

alright so me and my friend are in a huge fight.i mean we used to be best friends and then all of the sudden she just started hating me because apparently i am a "whore" because a couple weeks ago i couldnt really make up my mind about this guy i liked. and now she is just being really rude to me and wont talk to me, and when i tryed to appologize for anything i had did she just got mad and started yelling at me.
any advice?

i think she's jealous because you have guys to choose from.

you need to ignore her for a while. you even apologized and she got MAD. how lame is that? you've done your part, but she obvilously wants you to grovel for forgiveness. just ignore her, she'll get tired of trying to be hateful to a person whose non-reactant to it, and cave in.

it always works. ;]
AND if you're nice to her, she'll hate it. :D its glorious.

good luck!
-amy.

I recently received the prom dress that I ordered online, and the top part is too small, as in it won't zipper up the whole way [here's the back of the dress http://www.loralie.com/images/Product/Dresses/Back/7461b.jpg ]. I got a size 10 and it fits fine everywhere else except for the bust and a bit below [I have a really big and broad chest :/ ], so a larger size would be loose everywhere else. I cannot return/exchange it, it was a sale rack item so they won't take it back. I'd really rather not just buy another dress, plus this one was a decent price. Are there places where they can somehow make the dress wider? Like, would bridal shops or other tailor shops [I live in central PA] be able to alter my dress?

Thank you for any advice.

unless your dress has extra hems on the inside, there is no way to make your dress bigger. you could maybe pull it out about a cm or so, but nothing else. =/ gosh this sucks. and that dress is so pretty too.

I hate my life nothing is going smooth I mean whenever something good happen it doesn't last. My family is all messed up my dad gets away with anything but doesn't like when me or my brother does. He is the kind of guy who likes to make people feel bad about themselves by constantly putting us down in one way or another. Mom doesn't do anything about it she just says to ignore him but it isn't easy because it does whenever he can. My brother dooesn't pull his weight around the house but still gets away with anything because he does good in school and is always doing things with his friends and he says the only thing I'm good for is buying things for us. Then there is me I do my share of things I have a job and on my days off do things around the house like I'm suppose to but whenever I want to keep something that means alot to me they try to make me feel like I don't deserve it even though I do everything for everyone else even when it doesn't make any cents because I always care about everybody no matter what they do to me what should I do because this has been going on for years and my family refuses to get professional help. What should I do? One other thing I have friends but they all moved except for a few.

in this situation, all you have to do is proove your dad/parents wrong. he has no right to have that much control over you. you are most likely an amazing, wonderful, smart person. proove him wrong by working hard at your job, and get a good education and then once you get into harvard move far far, faaar away. :D

your dad obviously wants to see you fail. so why not whack him in the face and show him that you can?

im really sorry you're turning to suicide. you never know what could lie ahead of you. no matter how hard it gets you need to look on the bright side, and keep saying to yourself, "psh. to hell with what they say, im amazing!"

since your parent wont give you professional help, give yourself help. go to church and read the bible. turn to god, because he has all the answers. after all the bible states "you are beautifully and wonderfully made." god said that. and your dad has no right to rip that beautiful feeling from under you. thats not fair. he's the one being ugly.

i hope you turn this situation around, and soon choose not to commit suicide. =/

good luck!
-amy.

So I used my friends sisters dildo today and it felt so great and ive used a couple other peoples..they dont know..but i was wondering if you could transfer any kind of diesease through that????

if they have masturbated, urinated, gotten blood, or ejaculated on it, then yes. =/ i think it may be an addiction. try maybe getting one of your own, cause then it might not be a problem. lol.

and you have to remember that at least two people in all your classes have an STD even if they know it, or they dont know it.

play it safe! :D
-amy.

I have very oily skin. I use liquid foundation and powder. It stays on when I put it on in the morning but usually when it hits around noon my face is oily, and you can see all the foundation that I put on. I have to re-touch my make-up all day. Does anyone know a kind of really good make-up to use that can stay on all day without me having to do touchups?

matte mousse whipped foundation.
true match, the powder.

get foundations/powder/conceilers two shades lighter than your natrual skin tone. it gives off a healthy glow and makes you look great.

but, you shouldn't use foundation AND powder. it messes with your skin cells, and thats why your make up may be falling by noon time. that used to be my problem too. =/

have fun and good luck! =]
-amy.

hey this other girl asked a similar question butttt not exactly the same so i was just wondering:

how do you straighten your hair and have volume at the end? like this is precisely what i'm looking for:

in the march issue of cosmogirl! with LC [ laguna beach ] on the cover, if you turn one or two pages, here's this girl advertising for DKNY jeans and she's wearing a denim mini and a yellow flower belt. (she might be in other magazines)

i really really want my hair to look like that! not curly, but just like that really natural not STICK straight hair kinda look.. any ideas?

btw- respond as many times as you like. i rate based on advice, not on how fast you respond. :]

ive been asked things like this because i have hair kinda like that. i cant promise you that its exactly what you want, but it does have really nice volume, smooth-ness, and it's not board straight, its nice and straight in a natural-flowy way.

i suggest products like head and shoulders, and scalp therapy from nioxin. those are the greatest. and volumizing shampoo from neutragena works too, but it tends to be hard to brush unless you use excessive amounts of conditioner.

1. wash your hair in any way or fashion, i suggest leaving your shampoo in for two minutes and your conditioner in for 1-1.5 minutes.
2. get out of the shower and wrap it up in a towel.
3. brush your teeth, wash your face or whatever when your hairs in the towel to pass time.
4. take the towel down, brush your hair out really nice and smooth, then put it back up.
5. do something to pass the time again for like 3 more minutes.
6. take it out, part it with a pen where you want it, then brush it again.
7. the front layers of your head need to be dried first. take your brush and scoop up the bangs or the layers that compliment your face and brush-dry them.
8. then flip your hair over, and then dry it. kinda move your head around in the process so you can get it all.
9. flip it back up, brush it goood. then while you straighten it, brush it through after each straighten. like, make your hairbrush follow your straigtener.

=] have fun and good luck!
-amy.

Hey im in a relasion ship were i am being presured to kiss my boyfriend andi like really want to but im afraid and he wasnts to kiss me but this is really hard to do when your friends make you do it and my friend anna said i have to kiss him or dump him.

dont listen to your friend anna. thats not true.

but if your guy is just wanting you for that kiss, i think you should dump him.

but i dont think thats the case. hey, you gotta make your own desisions about when, where, how, and everything else when you're going to kiss him. it is not your friends decisions whether you have to kiss him or not. its yours. just remind them of that, and they'll get the point.

its your call. have fun!
goodluck! =]
-amy.

okay. so I'm going out with this guy, and I honestly don't like him all that much. I never really likd him in the first place, but he never officially asked me to be his girlfriend but he says i am and everyone else thinks so, and he somewhat did, so I consider him my boyfriend, but had no chance to say no to him because he didn't really ask. and this guy has this friend, who is also a really really really good friend of mine. and I really like this friend. and the other day he told me he liked me also, along with 3 other girls. i know 2 of those girls don't like him for sure, but the 3rd girl is in one of my classes and has told me she liked him (after i told her how i felt about him). this friend also knows my feelings about my boyfriend, and is the most trustworthy person i've ever met. I don't want to continue going out with my boyfriend AND i want to be with this other guy, but i don't know if thats right or HOW to break up with my boyfriend, since I've never broken up with anybody before. what do i do? [[ps. I know you in real life. betcha can't guess who i am! hehe]]

the only one of my friends i know who has a boyfriend is **********************.

so HA! i know who you are.

BUT my advice is, if you dont like the kid, BREAK UP WITH HIM. DUH DUH DERRR.
but while you break up with him, include the fact that he never officially asked you out. and to just declare you as his girlfriend is just shitty and downright rude. hes just chicken shit, and he was probably afraid you'd say no. which, right now im believing, you would've said no.
second of all, you need to IM me and tell me who this other guy is. and as for the other girl, you cannot think about her AT ALL. you just have to focus on yourself and how you're going to handle him and how you're gonna get him to like you. you just need to throw hints out there, get his attention, but dont be persistant, dizty, or bitchy at the same time.
third of all, as for breaking up with your boyfriend, i think you're going to have to tell him in person. IMing, E-mailing, Texting and calling just cant fly anymore. tell it to his face, hell, ill be there with you if you want to. all you need to do is go up to him, in private or whatever, and just say, "i dont think this is working out well....i dont feel comfortable going out with you, you didn't bother to even ask you just declared, and i just dont...want to be with you anymore. i dont feel as special with you anymore." and darling, you have to decide whether you're going to tell him that there's a possible other guy. cause if you don't, and you go out with the other guy in less than 2 and a half weeks after, you're in deep shit. ^_^

thats my advice, and i love you. i hope it works out. :D
good luck!

-amy.

ok i need to loose weight quick and without much if not any excerise how do i do it

there is no quick way to loose weight fast with out excersize.
dieting, yeah, but that takes FOREVER.
i just do 100 crunches every night and 20 leg lifts. and then i run to the bus stop. lol. it gets my abs toned and i loose a tad bit of weight.

its not hard once you make it apart of your daily routine.

...how quick are we talking here...?

Female/13

I have this friend, and we have alot in common and have so much fun together. but latley we have been getting in alot of fights and we havent been talkng. Now we are talking again but it feels really owkward for some reason. And she is trying to get "in" with this other clique and it is really annoying. everytime i got to talk to her she says o have have to go talk to _____ from the other clique and stuff like that. It is really annoying and i dont know what to do. Should i talk to her (or try to at least) or should i just let her become frinds with them or what. I think i am a little jellous but i cant help it. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?

wouldn't blame you for being jealous; i would be too.

in all honesty, if you love this friend enough, try to get in with that clique. if you dont have anymore tolerance for her, forget her.

she really doesnt sound like much of a friend anyway. talk to her, get in her face if you have to. you just have to talk to her. be mean, anything, just get your point out. to me, shes being un-friend-worthy and a bitch. you neeed to talk to her.

OK well i left a question a while ago about my ex bf leaving me a message saying that he never stopped loving me. Which kinda confused me but we talked over things and we came to: we both still like eachother (but we havn't gotten back togather b/c we just kinda want to start things over again)
But ok heres the situation, his one friend, i've been talking to for a while now. Hes really nice, and i like him a lot (as a friend). I can trust him 100% and i tell him pretty much everything.
Idk if i like him as anything more then friends though. I kinda want to see but since i told my ex i felt the same, i can't just ditch him.
But i kinda do like like his friend. But i can't do that to my ex. And now i just don't know what i should do?

what you need to do is see if you can get to know his friend more, and see if he likes you. while you're doing so, it'll test how far you're ex will go for you once he sees you kinda...backing off for another guy. if the ex chases after you, i'd pick him. but if the other guy shows more feelings for you, and the ex doesnt do anything, id pick the other guy.
good luck! ^_^

Ok, so there is this guy. We are in the same grade and only have encore classes together (band/Computer class), but no other classes. I don't know why, but I like him. Hes kind, funny, and can make conversation with me making it akward. I gave him a card for Valentines day - it was a home make one and didn't have anything gussy in it. Just this peom that said like Valentines day isn't about the stuff its about the people thing. I also added this comment 'Elmo eats babies' to make it funny (I saw this Sasuake eats babies thing and got the idea =P). He knows I like him and eeryone, but ... he seems like of repelled of me. I have this other guy that sits next to me then the guy I like. He likes to joke around and be a weirdo (like me =P) He asked him if he would go out with me and he was like: O_O ... I don't know ... (this sort of got my hopes up and made me feel weird at the same time.) I tryed giving him my E-mail and stuff, but he said he doesn't have any of it (MSN and most people don't use there e-mail so ...) My friend says I should just keep on trying with this (asking the guy out), but I don't want to be as persistent as she is. I don't know what to do - I guess I want to date this guy, but he doesn't seem to like me back :/ ? or is there just sometihng wrong with me?

oh what a pickle ^_^

you're so lucky you have the guts to ask, im so...shy around guys. at least your tried asking, right? =]

i dont have advice for that second guy, but for the first, i know EXACTLY how you feel. im in the same situation, we dont really know each other that well, hes in one of my classes, hes really really weird, but he's fun! all you have to do is get to know him more, in a non-persistant way. guys hate it when you shove things in their face. you kinda have to just play it low, and start a conversation, and then kinda pretend you just slowly got un-interested in it. dont be a bitch about it though. once you get to know him more, ask if you can write on his hand, ruffle his hair when you walk past him and DONT look back. and if you do, make it like a sort of breif over your shoulder smile, just things like that. it'll work. tell me if anything happens.

and no, there's nothing wrong with you. you're just human. ^____^

What does a guy really want in a (14 year old) girl??

be more specific. is he your age? what is he in social status? and what is he like? i cant really say anything until i know those aspects.

i don't know how to put tampons in! okay, i'll put them in and wear a pad just in case. i go to the bathroom and theres blood on the tampon and all over the pad. okay wear does it exactly go? sometimes i'll put it all the way back there and then there will be blood on the beginning of the pad. so sometimes i'll put it in where its closer to my stomach (and less comfortable) and there will be blood more towards the end of the pad. i don't knoww here to put it. hellpppp

the tampons that have the plastic thing around them are the easiest.
i dont know what to say if it doesnt have the plastic pulley thingy,
but if it does, stick it right up there in your vagina wall, and then push on the plastic thingy.
good luck! :D

i was at a sleepover and 2 of my friends talked crap about my other friend and i told my friend they did and that friend is gonna tell the friends who did it that she knows...and they're gonna find out its me but they're my good friends and i dont want them to hate me WHAT DO I DO!!!!

first, you have to answer me/yourself a question: did you talk crap about her also? cause if you did, and your friends are gonna be hard on you.
regardless, your friends are going to be mad. no matter what you do, they're going to be mad one way or another. especially if their girls.

not only did they talk about her, but you talked about them when you told her all the stuff that they said about her.

im going to be completely honest, this wont be easy, especially since you weren't supposed to tell. but i think that if they were talking shit in the first place, and about their FRIEND, i think you need to reconsider if they're friends or not.

another thing is, even though i hate doing it also, you need to be the nice one in the situation cause they're not going to be the nice ones. they're going to ask you about it, and when they do, you better apologize right away. considering if they're good friends or not will determine if they accept the apology or not. you just gotta be as sweet as sugar and hope to god that they accept it.

for you and everyone else, i hope they do. i dont want you to loose friends cause of something this rediculous. =[
but im really sorry man. gossip world is tough, you just gotta know the limit to it.

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