I'm kinda new at this kind of thing, but here goes.
I enjoy swimming, wrestling, rollerblading, hanging with my friends and boyfriend, now of 2 years. I do not agree with the media and do not follow style, i think it's just stupid.
When I give people advice, i'm usually speaking from my past experiances, if not, i'm just trying to wrack my brain for an answer to your problem.
I have only found one ture friend in my life but have many close friends as well. I'm basically the strong silent type. I hate lables and would wipe them from this earth if it were possible.
My parents are divorced so i know what it is like to have familly problems (and lots of em' belive me) as well.
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well lastnight, me and my boyfriend had sex, but he didnt have a condom so he promised me he'd pull it out before he came. well after we were finished he asked me when my last period was, like he had accidentally came inside me. he denied that and said he had taken it out before then. today my breasts hurt and i dont feel very good, but im not completely sure ( i had a drink lastnight )im just wondering if it's just nothing, just a hangover, or if i could possibly be pregnant.
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well, first of all, sperm entering vagina in any way at all = possible pregnancy. and from what i've herd, some guys don't have all that much control. i know i'm not real experiance in this kind of situation but i try to help out where i can. and him asking you when was the last time you had your period was most likely and indication that he did slip a bit. i would get one of those home pregnance tests if i were you. but then again, it may be your body playing tricks on you cause your nervous that you are pregnant, add the handover in there and it all could just be nothing. but i would take the test just in case.
sorry i can't help more
alyssa
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okay lets call my crush/bestfriend/derek "A" and lets say me the crusher/badgirl/kimberly is "B"
okay well b really likes a along with everyone else in the school. well i am his only real female friend(i talk to him on the phone alot do projects with him he invites to pool party's etc.) ok but a has a girlfriend and he tends to lead alot of girls on ALOT escpecially me like he would say hey wanna go make out and im like ew gross but really i would love too!!! ya know so yeah. b likes a alot an wants to tell a but is afriad of teh outcome....
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well, you could hint to a that b likes him. just drop little hints and pay close attention to his reactions. you could also have b with you lots when a is around, and make sure b is the one to stand beside a and make sure b is in the conversation. play it by ear if you know what i mean.
but you should also take into account that you like him, which one of you liked him first? if it was you, then your friend should back off. but if its the other way around you should. friends should never fight over a guy, its the worst way to end a friendship! if you liked him before your friend, then maybe you should have a talk with you friend and make sure things are clear between you and her.
best of luck,
alyssa
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A friend and I need opinions on the best way to resolve something with someone who refuses to talk to us. This issue started in September of this year when we asked someone who is supposed to be the best friend of a celebrity a few harmless questions. anything would be great thanks. :) (link)
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i know it may sound mean, but you could corner them if you really want to. get them alone, have your friend with you and see if you can get them to answer. you could also write them a letter, or e-mail for that matter. try and find a loop hole in there defences, make them come out of their shell so to speak and talk to you. personally, i would write them a letter, hand writen things tend to get more attention. if they still won't talk to you, or write back, you could try getting one their friends to find out why and tell you.
hope that helps,
alyssa
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well heres the deal. one of my friends keeps asking me what im getting my boyfriend for christmas, * weve been dating on & off for 2 months * because he told my friend that he was going to get me something pretty nice & expensive. i have NO idea what to get him. im kinda low on money too, i mean i cant buy anything more than $30-ish? plus theres nearly a week until christmas so any help would be appreciated. i cant really explain what my boyfriends into or anything, because i figure that if i know what hes into i could find him a gift without assistance - but any ideas on what to get your boyfriend who you have only been dating for about a month would be greatly appriciated. thanks! =) (link)
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i suggest go to redapple and find a nice bunnyhug or sweater (hoodie). the stuff there is usually cheap but faily good cuality. you could also throw a mixed cd in there. find him a pair of shades maybe, or if you really want to be creative, throw in some tokens or cupons saying things like "good for one hug" or "good for one lunch out". i don't know how close you two are but i hope that helps.
alyssa
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First of all, know that I like this boy as a friend and nothing more. (Okay, so maybe there's a little crush, but I'm not expecting it to develop and we've always been close friends, so let's go with friends.) The problem is, I don't know what to get him for Christmas! Last year I made him a mix CD with some of his & my favorite songs on it, and he loved it! Should I make him one again? I don't know if he's giving me a gift, so I don't want to get him anything too expensive or big. Just a nice little gift that will show him I was thinking of him. Also, I want to do something creative and maybe make something for him, but I've already done a CD last year.
Thank you so much for the help! I really appreciate it.
PS. my friend is 14/m. He really likes music (any kind), plays saxophone, likes sports (mainly basketball). Thanks again! (link)
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well, if he really likes playing the sax, you could get him a music book. if you got him a mixed cd last year and he really liked it, he will probably love to get another one. as for making him something, you could make or buy a neat reed case and decroate it. like maybe take a very small wooden box and paint it. or, get a plain cd case and decroate it, be creative!
hope this helps,
alyssa
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Right now, I'm kinda sick of my boyfriend. When I think about kissing him, I get a little weirded out. This is unusual for me, we've been dating for four happy months. I haven't seen him in two weeks because he's been so busy, and I'm not exactly sure why I feel this way. I still like him, but why all the sudden to I feel sick of him? Will this go away? (link)
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this happend to me a couple of weeks ago as well, and i've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. what i am guessing it is, is the lust of the relationship wearing off, in other words, this is where the real relatioship is built. for me, this feeling when away within a few days, it was also that time of the month so it could have been just mood swings for me too. and you say you still like him, so thats a really good sign. if you guys can make it through times when you feel like this, i would say your going to have a very long and happy relationship!
hope everything works out,
alyssa
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A while ago, like last year really, I was extreemely depressed. I used to constantly cut everyday and I tried to commit suicide a couple times. I talked to my 2 friends about it but they didn't do much because they were scared I guess. After a while of poeple telling my parents and parent's friends and what-not I was forced to go see a shrink and well I pretty much got over my depression and moved on. Well that's what I thought up until recently. I got into a situation that triggered my mind into thinking like i used to. I hate to admit it but every time something like this happens now I think of cutting and I want to do it again and again. I don't want to get into all this shit again, my scars are bad enough. I really don't want to go back to this, especially cause I don't have much of a support system, not like i did last time but w/e. Please help me get though this.
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i have a friend that used to cut, and a sister so i'm used to being the support system. i would personally get rid of all the sharp objects in your room for the time being. just to help get rid of the temptation. also, try staying busy, it may help keep your mind off it. like, find a good book, or video games, something that distracts your mind. you also may want to see a counsolor or one of your friends you know you can trust just to talk to, to get things off your chest. i would also see find out what made your mind "click" back into this depression state, maybe it is possible to click it back.
hope that helps, e-mail me if you need more advice.
alys1223@hotmail.com
alyssa
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I love my dad, and he's like the only family i have near me (besides my friends). My mom died when i was 6 && my brother is away at college. Whenever we go out to eat my dad and I have nothing to talk about, only when he yells at me. When my brother comes they always talk, and always leave me out. I told him once and he's like "I just never talk to him anymore." They talk on the phone more than once a day- more than he ever talks to me. My dad always excludes me && my brother tries to include me.. what should i do?
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well first of all, your dad should not be egnoring you. i suggest maybe writing him a letter telling him how you feel. parents tend to pay more attention if there kid sends them a letter. as for thing to talk about, ask him about his childhood or when he was your age. you could also ask him about your mom, i know i sure would. and just to spend more time with your dad, you could also suggest to him that the two of you (and only the two of you unless you want to include your brother when he is home from collage) take up a sport.
hope that helps,
alyssa
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which is the best hairstyle for guys?
spiky,skinhead,mohawk,liberty spikes,ponytail,long metalhead,shaggy skater,emo combover,flat and short,center parted,side parted?
also,is there a difference between emo hair and skater hair?
like both styles usually cover the eyes,but i heard that skater hair is more flippy and messy,while emo is just covering the eyes but combed to the side and looks more "prepared" if you get what i mean.can someone pls help to clarify.
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it all comes down to the personality and eyes for me. i know a few people who look really good in mohawks and even some in pony tails. experiment with different looks, see which one YOU like best cause then you will be your self. if you are putting your hair a certain way for a female, ya she will apreciate it, but you will not be being your self and we do not like fakes.
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which do you prefer on guys?
tattoos or piercings?
and if either or both...which part of the body?
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for pircings, i would say no more than 2 in the ears (in total) and maybe one in the eyebrow. it depends on the persone, but i think eyebrow rings can look pretty good on a guy. as for tatoos, the sholders, chest or cafe. anything too big or drastic isen't that great. but a little something on the chest or sholder would probably look good!
alyssa
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do girls like classical or rock musicians?
and i'm confused,cause i hear girls say that they love musicians,but
1)is it based on skill.exp:the better the guitaring is.the more the girl likes the guy?
does skill affect?or do girls just don't care if he is a sucky guitarist or a pro,they will still like the guitarist as long as he plays guitar??
2)is it also based on looks,?or do girls love great drummers and vocals even through they don't look good? so which one would a girl choose? a kickass drummer with average looks or a sucky drummer with model looks?
thanks for answering,anyways,if you girls like any other type of guys besides musicians....like bikers,car racers or skaters...just feel free to say what talent you would love in a guy.although i hear that most girls are not really into guys that race,but more to guys that are musically or sports inclined,it that true??? (link)
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i would have to say it depends on the girl. if persay, you are after the more popular girls, they will probably be after a rock musician (i'm only making a general assumption here) and your going to have to be good. but i know for me, it dosen't matter if the guy is that great at playing as long as he is trying and he is having fun i would support him, and i prefer classical. so really, it depends on what kind of girl your going for. and yes, good looks help in both cases!
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I have major cramps during my period and sometimes i even cry cuz they hurt so much. What can i do to stop or make the cramps better? I cant take advil or tylenol or anything at school so i need something that will last all day and/or night. And i live with my dad so i need some advice on talking to him about stuff like this.
Thanks.
*Christie* (link)
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well, i know my cramps get really bad too, and what works for me is Midole (spelling?) extra strengh. unfortunetly, they only last up to 4 hours i belive. drinking lots of water seems to help as well. as for talking to your dad, i would say keep it simple, tell him what you need and just kind of wrigle around the reason why. he should figure it out. my dad is really open with me so i never had that problem. i just told it to him bluntly and he went and bought some for me!
sorry i can't help more,
alyssa
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13/f
It seems like no matter what I do, I'm always tired! I try going to bed really early, but no matter what, it's always impossible for me to get out of bed the next morning. When I eventually get up, I'm tired for the rest of the day...I feel like I could just fall asleep standing! My mom won't let me take any type of caffine pills or drinks because she says they're not good for you all the time. What are some natural things or tips I can try that would help me be more awake and alert? Please help! (link)
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well, i know i had that problem so i know how you feel. i have to get about 8 hours every night. if i get 9 or 7, im'exausted. heres another thing, do you eat breakfast? if not that may be why, is there any medication that you are taking that could be causing this? is it every day of the month or only "that time"? do you wake up freakwently during the night? if you do then your body night not be able to get into it's regenerating sleep (i forget the acctual word for it). are you stressed out about something? stess can cause sleep issues too, i would know! you could also try streching or exercising in the morning to jump start you body, it dosen't take much, only 10 minuts maybe. is you body getting enough vitamins? i know it i don't get enough vitamin c i have a hard time getting up and ya i know that sound weird!
well, hope that helps!
alyssa
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hey does anyone know any good catchy songs? like ones you can dance too. not techno
well actually just any good songs at all
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hmm..like what gender? well, here are some anyway,
country songs: cotton eyed joe by the nitty gritty dirt band, she's in love with the boy by trisha yearwood, fishing in the dark by the nitty gritty dirt band, days go by by keith urban, living in fast forward by kenny chesney, summertime by kenny chesney, up by britney spears (spelling?),
others (unsure of who they are by): gasolina by daddy yankee, tub thumping, macarina, tnt, thunderstruck, forever young by youth group, get this party started, holiday by green day
and some slow songs ;) : when you say nothing at all by alison krause (spelling?), i swear by john michael mongommery (spelling?)
well, its not much but i hope that helps!
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okay I have a friend that has went to a knew school. she has changed to be this girl who wants to ignore people and she's doing wrong things. I am trying to be there because she is kinda gullible, so since we don't see ech other I try to call her or email her. She doesn't give back the energy towards our friend ship like I do, but she keeps saying she wants to be frinds. Now I guess she has changed her email address and she ignores my other friend when she calls. SH eis totally acting like the victim. Is she right in this situation or am I wrong. What should I do? I give good ratings to! (link)
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well, your definetly not wrong! all your trying to do is help her, and she dosen't seem to want to be helped that badly if she is changing her e-mail and not calling you and what not. i suggest try some more for a little while longer, but if you continue to get to response, i would say that she has givne up on the friendship. sorry to be the baron of bad news here. if you know her address, you could also try wringing how you feel in a letter to her and see if she replies or calls you. or if your daring and really want to keep the friendship, show up at her house one day and talk things threw with her.
hope this helps.
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15/f
I've been gaining alot of weight recently. I'm 5'10". I went to the doctor last spring and I was 145, then i went over the summer and I was 155, and earlier this week I went and now I'm 162. I haven't changed my eat habits and I've only been exercising more. I know that some of the weight gain is from my muscles, but all of my pants are too tight aorund the waist now. What can I do to lose some weight? I can't exercise anymore (I already swim for 2&1/2 hours a day). What are some good foods for me to eat? (link)
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try staying away from chocolates, chips, pop and junk food in general. i've been in the same situation as you and that's what i did. i have been slowly trimming down since i stopped eating junkfood (almost completly literally) three years ago. also make sure you are getting enough fruits and vegtables (ya i know, how many times have people been told that!).
hope that helps
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lol Hey everyone.
k so me and my boyfriend are pretty hot for eachother.
we like to full around and stuff.
does anyone have any fun ways to tease a guy
really bad? hahah thanks [: (link)
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rub up against him(sextually) and then turn around and run away, smile back at him, see if he will give chase..;)
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Ok im 15/f
i really like my friend, we have been friends since like 5th grade. We flirt w/ each other and i wanna give him little hints that i like him, i dont want it to be really noticable cause if he doesnt like me like that i dont want it to ruin our friendship. Please help me.
Ps dont say like tell him how you feel.
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try looking him in the eyes and then looking away, kinda like a quick stare.
you could also try blushing, or when he looks at you look down and smile or something.
you could also try fake tripping into him and see what he does.
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