Ask me anything, I understand, cus I've been through a lot..guys especially..,moving parents,friends,anything & everything in between,I HAD hotkins lymphoma,if anyone is currently going through something like that, I understand and would love to help, you might not think I understand but I prolly will.. just ask me & I'll give you the best answer I can..
The best advice anyone ever gave me was take this moment & run...
*The fisrt time u fall in love, it changes ur life forever, and no matter how hard u try, the feeling never goes away* - The notebook
*Never kiss by the garden gate*,
(*love is blind but the neighbors ain't*)
When it hurts to look behind you & you're afraid to look ahead, look beside you & your friends will be there
Kass & Holly.. Love you guys
Thanks for bein there, we got each others backs, just in case one of us gets jumped againby some drunken sluts. lol
Me & my girls are like Paris & Nicole.. (without the sex tapes)
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the prettiest people do the ungliest things
from roads to riches to diamond rings...
We buy our way out of jail, but we can't buy freedom
We'll buy a lot of clothes when we don't really need em
Things we buy to cover up what's inside
Cause they make us hate ourself and love they wealth...
were all self-concious im just the first to admit it
[all falls down-kanye west]
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Dear advice lady,
Well it's Ash once again.. I have been moping around for days now and I don't feel any better. I just can't get over him! I took your advice and ate chocolate and stuff. & I tried talking to other guys but none of them are like him! OMg what am I gonna do? Help please!!!!! -Ash- (link)
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Yikes! It sounds like you've really got it bad for this guy, here are some websites than can help you deal with breaking up, there's some good advice on there.. I looked them up just for you =) Hope they help..
www.breakups.com
http://brokenheartsville.com/
http://www.ivillage.com/topics/relation/0,,166872,00.html?arrivalSA=1&cobrandRef=0&arrival_freqCap=1&pba=adid=9740388
http://breakups101.com/
http://breakupssuck.com/
www.seventeen.com... it prolly won't help with your brekup problems, but it always makes me feel better =) lol
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i think that the question before mine could be a boy talking about his best friend who is a girl
okay here's my question.. this boy that i really really ~REALLY~ like wants me to meet him in the middle of the night.. like he wants to come pick me up and stuff.. but i would have to ~sneak~ and that is really ~scary~, and i really don't want to... why can't he see me during the day? and should i feel like he only wants me for other ~things~ since he wants to see me alone and at night? i just don't understand this.. i thought it was love.. but now i just don't ~understand~. Help Me!!! i have no one else to ask
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You're right, that was a guy.. I didn't pay enough attention to the question, I thought it was my friends goofin off lol.. Well, in my opinion this is a bad boy case lol..It sounds like he either doesn't want his friends to know you are talking or he wants "something else" from you.. I think you should tell him that you don't want to sneak out cus if you get caught then your parents will never let you two see each other again.. tell him you think you should go to the movies on a Friday night or something like that.. If he understands then maybe he's not such a bad boy and if he doesn't then he's not worth your time anyway, even though it sounds like you have it bad for him, never let a guy talk you into doing something you don't want to, believe me later you will truly regret it.. If you have any more questions just ask..
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Im not a lesbian this is a guy asking you that question about the best friend lol so I really am in love with her what should I do? (link)
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Im so sorry, I don't know why I thought that lol.. Well I think you should tell her how you feel about her, and if you don't know how to tell her, then write her a letter, (we love that kind of stuff) lol.. Tell her you never said anything before because you never wanted to hurt your relationship.. If she's a good friend, she'll understand & she probably could be thinking about you in the same way.. After all, words never said are the most painful.. if you don't tell her now, then you'll always think how things could have been.. I say go for it.. Hope I helped.. (* Aleshia *)
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Aliesha, I really need help I think im in love with my best friend we talk all the time and i think shes beautiful what should I do? try to go with her or just stay friends (link)
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I don't know what to tell you, personally I don'y believe in lesbianism...
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hey im dating a girl that I think likes somebody else I cant really trust her ive dated her a zillion times and she has cheated on my before but im in love with her and she claims 2 love me too! what should I do?! (link)
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I think you should talk to one of her friends that you can trust & tell her that you really like your g/f.. tell them that you think shes cheating on you & you really love her & don't want to get hurt..She'll prolly understand & tell you the truth about what your g/f has been doing behind your back.. If you have any more questions, just ask me.. =)Aleshia(=
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Dear Advice lady,
This is Ash again. Well I took your advice and dumped my bf . At first I was like ok. this isnt sso bad but omg now im like so heart broken! WHAT SHOULD I DO? I kno that my ex bf wont take me bak now =( Please help me
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Hey Ash, Im sorry that you're feeling bad, I understand completely.... The best thing is to just.. (if this isn't too cliche lol) let it burn.. I know it sucks right now... My advice to you is mope around for a few days, eat some chocolate, and then after a while you'll start to relize how sucky this guy was in the first place for not respecting you..Another good thing to do is get hooked up with somebody, not as a rebound, but for fun.. believe me, if you like somebody else then you'll forget all about this loser guy.. If you tell me how old you are I might be able to hook you up with some of my friends lol.. MSG me on ICQ my number is 266-602-114.. Hope I helped
~!AlEsHiA!~
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Dear Advice Lady,
I think your column is pretty good, and I think you give good advice. Especially to the reader who asked if she was a whore because she has had sex with like 17 people. Yes, she definitely needs to use a condom, but that doesn't make it right or completely safe. Condoms are not 100% effective. Anytime you have sex you are taking a chance, and if you are not ready for the responsibility of having a baby or ready to get a disease, then you better not be messin around! Anyway, someday she will meet a very special guy who really cares about her, and she will wish she had waited to have sex with that special someone. God intented sex for married people, and I don't think he will let us get by with twistin it all up to be a big "fun" thing that has nothing to do with commitment or marriage. It just scares me because I know there are consequences to EVERYTHING we do. And we're not just hurting ourselves, but the people who love us. Even though they may not know now, the truth ALWAYS comes out.
Keep up the good advice. (link)
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*!~*Thanks*for*the*comment~!* =)
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Dear advice lady: My b/f and I go to difernt scools and we both perticapate in sports and stuff. THe scools are rivals so we fight all the time. What should I do? Should I break up with him or just take it when he puts down wut i do and stuff??? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -ash- (link)
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Well Ash, I think I would tell him that you don't wanna fight about it anymore and that you think its stupid that he tries to bring you down..Just leave him a msg on icq, or have a friend tell him for you if you don't feel comfortable doing it...See if this works and if it doesn't then the only then left to do is to break up with him, then maybe he'll understand how stupid he was and he'll change for the better & you guys can try it again.. Hope I helped.. If you have any other questions just ask me.. ~!*Aleshia*!~
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Hey Mrs.Woody(Aleshia!!)
This site is so dagon funny!!! Well my question is.....hmm.I gotta think of one!! Do you really love Mr. Woo Woo? lol I know that I really love Mr. Akers! Yes I do.. Well I'm going now! ta ta!
Answer Me FAST!!* haha....! (link)
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Hey Britt! I really do love J WOO lol.. believe it or not.. He's a great boyfriend lol.. and of course you lOvE Kenneth lol..
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Hi,whats is a really good love song? I can't seem to think of one. (link)
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I don't know your music style, but if you like country I would suggest Shania Twain, if you like Jessica Simpson, there are lots of new & old ones from her that I love...then there's Keith Urban & Lonestar & Rascall Flatts, and Kelly Clarkson.. those are some of my favorites.. hope I helped
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Hey,Well I'm datin this one guy ok..and He says he loves me and everything he never calls me or even says hey or hi to me when i see him..But there is this other guy who seems to really like me..and i kinda like him but NOT really..What should i do stay with my boyfriend and out whats going on or break up with him and go out with the other guy? PLEASE help me (link)
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You should break up with him and go out with other guys,it might not seem like it right now,
but once you start datin other guys, then you will feel more comfortable with other people, and you won't even think about this guy... good luck...
Aleshia
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You know sometimes when people think that getting high is cool or getting drunk? Well, sometimes I only do it because they do and I want them to like me and think that i'm cool. Is that completely wrong of me, to want to fit in? (link)
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Well, I think getting high & getting drunk are both relly stupid...If you feel like you need to fit in around them because they drink & do drugs then these are not the kind of people you belong with in the first place, I think you should try to talk to your friends about it and if they understand then thats cool, but if not then you should find some other friends that support your decision.. Im always here if you need me, best of wishes.. Aleshia
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I used to date this girl who i really liked, but i treated her like crap and went out on her with this skanky girl from my school. Then, I went and told the whole baseball team about it so everyone knew. Now my ex girlfriend is dating a senior from her school and wants nothing to do with me. What should i do? should i settle for the skank? or try to get my girlfriend back? (link)
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OMG you sound just like my ex boyfriend DJ, hes a real loser.. (no offense) I think if you really loved the girl in the first place you would not have cheated on her, especially if the girl you cheated on her with was a skank.. but if you really love her, follow your heart, but I think this girl is smart, not to want anytihng to do with you
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Do you think that if i have sex with all kinds of boys that i will get a disease? I have had sex with Lots and Lots of people, and i enjoy it. i like sex. It's fun. But ppl call me a whore..do you think i'm a whore? just because i like sex doesn't mean i'm a whore does it? i've only did it with about 17 people. Please answer! i'm feeling bad about myself. (link)
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I don't know what to say about that, honestly I would think you already have a disease or two.. and three or four more brewin down there..I think you should always make sure to use a condom.... thats VERY important.. and I think you should find a guy that you really like.. and then you can do it all you want (its called marriage)
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okay,
I have a friend who is very pretty, and boys like her. but there is just one problem. i think she likes me. She puts her hand up my shirt and always asks, "what does your underwear look like?" Well, anyways, I am not gay. and i am not even into her touching my boobs, so what should i say to her? She is my best friend and I don't want to be a lesbian.. should i try it out? and be openminded? or should i leave her alone and just not be her friend? (link)
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No way, do not try it, tell her how you feel..(that you do not want to be a lesbian with her) She prolly just wants to experiment.. & she thought she would try it out on you because you're her best friend.. good luck...
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Dear Advice Lady:
I am 14 years old, and I am going to high school this year. Do you think it would be okay to wear my mom's old Chic jeans from when she was in high school? (Some would call them vintage).
Thanks. (link)
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Well I guess if you like them.. But I wouldn't tell everybody that they're your moms, cus that would just be embarassing...If you could send me a piture of them to my e mail I could answer you better.. lol..
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Aleshia,
I need your help. I am short, very skinny, tanned from the tanning bed and I dye my hair blonde. Most guys think i'm pretty, but they also think my sister is pretty too. We are twins. Obviously people just think that we are pretty because we wear small clothing and we have fake tans and fake hair color. But my problem is, is that I am WAY prettier than my twin sister, and i just can't find a way to break it to her.. Do you have any suggestions? Because she is killing me because our mom lets us do whatever we want and she thinks that just because she is dating some loser guy who has already graduated that she is cool, and i just don't want to hurt her feelings. But one of us has to be named the best looking.. and i would like to let her know that it is me. Thanks.
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well first of all..you need to make sure that you really are pretty..try putting your hair the real color and staying out of the tanning bed..and wear a t-shirt an jeans, and I don't mean abercrombie either, just somethin simple.. do this for a couple of weeks and if guys still think you are pretty than you just may be.Well, tell your sister that some ppl think that ya'll look different..you know..like some ppl have smushed faces or big noses or beady eyes..and your mom well she needs to give your sister rules and you too or you will both just go wild. And being cocky about it does not help...good luck..
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I need some help...Me and this guy havebeen tlaking and well he wne ton vacation a week before i did and he met another girl and he claims to like me but i dunno....So should i believe him or forget him... (link)
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I think you should believe him because most of the time when you meet somebody on vacation you don't really like them you just get caught up & do things & you dont think anybody will know and then you regret it, so I think he prolly does like you & you should consider giving him a chance.. I hope it works out, Good luck..if you have any other questions just ask me..
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Hey*Ok..Me & This Guy Have Been Talkin For Along Time..& We did go out but i broke up with him & then we started talkin again!lol.. But this stupid girl wont leave him alone.. he says that he dont like her but she still calls him & everything..what can i do about this?signed: I hate Hooker!hehe (link)
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I think that you should go back out with him,its just the girl that keeps gettin in the way of things..I think she sounds like she possibly could be obsessive lol.. Just try your best to ignore her, Im sure he does the same thing...If you still don't feel like you trust him, just have his friends spy on him and then tell you, but Im sure this loser girl is the problem and she can't take rejection.
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Hello..My boyfriend thinks im annoying.I dont know what im gonna do about it.he said he loves me but i am just annoying.And that i act like a little girl just because i like to wear ribbons in my hair and stuff.Why do you think he thinks like that about me? what can i do to not be so annoying and childish? Should i break up with him? Should i be mad at him for thinking i act like that?Is he just a craphead? I dont know what to do! I need help from you Aleshia! (link)
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I think if he can't accept you for who you are, then you should break up with up with him because if he really likes you he should love the good things & the bad.. even if you are suppposedly annoying lol...
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