Member Since: February 2, 2006
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First off, I've been single for a really long time. Last week I met a really great guy. I have really high expectations and he met almost every one of them. Anyway, I know I kinda brought it upon myself but I sent him one of those typical surveys about "what you would do" and "do you like me" types of things. He marked that he wanted a fling with me but not an actual relationship. Should I go for the fling, do what a I want and have a valentine this year or just stay friends and be alone for a really long time? If it helps, I go to an all girls high school & see guys.. never. I'm 15 & female. thanks! (link)
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I wouldn't check off the box saying "long term" if I didn't know the person, but if I thought there was potential, fling would fit. I think he just wants to get to know you first. Don't push so hard! He's as interested in you as most guys are interested in the girls that eventually become their girlfriends ;-) Relax, and keep an eye on it, but don't take the "pulse" of the relationship through surveys, especially often.
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umm i like this kid Gibson sooo much and he asked me to semi formal dance but he couldnt go (ironic) but he asked me to the next dance also. is this a sign he likes me? or how do i get him to like me?? thanx a bunch (link)
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Would YOU ask someone to a dance that you didn't like? Now, would you ask someone that you didn't like to a dance that you didn't even know if you could go to? Would you then ask that same person to the next dance? Boys are not of an entirely different species, so unless he's just looking for a date (and why look for a date to an event you might not be able to attend), he wants to get to know you, too. Ask him over to do homework when your folks are home, or something of the like. Might work out...
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For our one week of Winter Break, me, and my parents are going to California to visit my relatives. I want my best friend to come along.
She needs a place to stay for Winter Break cause her parents have to go to court [long story]Both our parents work for airlines so we'll fly for free. We'd stay at my g-ma's house [ so no hotel fee] Me and my bff have tried to go on several vacations together and my dad usually says yes but my mom ALWAYS says no. She gets mad when I ask and starts screaming. She said having my bff come along will just put stress on her.
How can I convince my mom that my friend should come to California with us? [ I need a resonable answer, that would be put in a sweet way. My mom can get very agrumentative and mean] (link)
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Explain to her that although you'll both (you and your friend) enjoy it, the real reason you are asking is because she's going through a rough time. She could find another place to stay, most likely, but with what's going on with her parents, it would probably be better for her to hang with a family she's familiar with and feels welcomed by. Promise to be on your best behavior (perhaps give her a code word that she can use if she's quite serious that you're out of line to remind you that she's gone out on a limb to bring the friend along) and actually follow through! Be a good daughter AND a good friend. Understand your mom's point of view, too.
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My problem is that I am always thinking so critically of myself. It started a few years ago when I realized I was obese. I have lost a few pounds since then, not enough to be rewarded for but I still feel fat and ugly all of the time. Technically, if you went by my BMI I am overweight still. I wish I did not feel this way about myself because I have always admired confident people, you know? I want to be like them. Its like, I tried to slim my body but NOTHING works so I have given up on that. Yet when I look in the mirror I see a fat, ugly person that everyone hates. What should I do? Life is miserable this way. Please help... (link)
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I wish everyone who felt as you do would think about exercise in a different way, if only for a few days. Don't think about it as an end all, I'm doing this to lose weight kind of deal. Push yourself, yes, but do not PUNISH yourself; who wants to keep up a punishment regimene? Find something you enjoy doing and do it for it's own sake. It will help you feel better in general to be moving your body, plus, as a terrific side effect, you might become more fit! I personally am somewhat lazy and enjoy stretching for about a half hour every day while I watch Oprah and on other days walk my puppy (I'll "explore" with him and attempt to keep the leash from pulling by keeping up with him). Good luck! Love yourself.
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I don’t know what to do anymore, my life seems to be dying slowly even though I am alive. I don’t want to live anymore; I have imagines everyday of me jumping out my window. My life just seems all messed up. It may seem like nothing to you but all my problems put together are just killing me little by little. No one understands. Today I came from school all upset I couldn’t take it and told my grandmother I don’t want to live anymore. She got mad, called my mom and dad and was yelling at me telling me how lazy I am. She kept saying I’m just a lazy person that wont get anywhere in life without studying. She kept yelling and talking and now her and my mom got into a fight over this. My grandma tried to make this all seem like she’s the victim and I’m taking advantage of her. She kept saying with a grandchild like me the one who cries for every little reason she should just take an overdoes and die. Why on earth would she say all these things when she knows how I feel about life! I go to her are you crazy you bitch, don’t you understand why I want to kill myself you are one of the main reasons. I don’t have a main reason its juts that I’m very unlucky, I have really low self cofidecne, some people tend to make fun of my face, since I have acne and put a lot of cover up on. Which hurts the most because I had acne for about five years and I tried everything, I went everywhere, took her pill possible, and nothing works. It’s like a long rode that never ends no matter how hard you try. You keep running and running until you think you got to the end but it just keeps on going. That’s how my life feels. Now we got new teachers and new students in our classrooms. I hate most of my classes, and most of all I hate my math teacher. Now I’m really bad at math I mean really bad I don’t even know what 7 times 8 is unless I think about it for half an hour. Yeah sad I know. Hes really mean and trys to bring people who are not as smart as him down. I tired getting out of his class but my counselor is such a bitch! She told me to come early to school today so she could change my singing class since they put me in the wrong one. They put me back to the one I already took, so I would be learning everything all over and I passed her class with a 90. I come back at the end of the horrible day I had and she tells me the teacher said its okie and I can stay in that class. I was like butt … she stooped me and said theres nothing I can do. I was like but wait im learning everything over again I don’t understand. She goes yeah I know but then we would have to change your whole program I was like sooo you do it for everybody else. I know shes just a fucken lazy bitch that needs to get fired, Counselor my ass. I don’t know what to do! I hate schhol and wanna quite im only 16 but I don’t see school in my future. My grandma makes me feel like shit about this but I don’t know what to do!!! Please help and don’t say talk to her because that wont work ill just end up killing myself faster. I don’t know what to do with my life. Please answer if you ever felt like this about school and juts ur whole life and tell me what you (link)
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It sounds to me as if you are depressed. Remember, depression can be brought on by little events or big events, but they pretty much ALL seem to be life changingly BAD. My suggestion would be to sit down with someone you really trust, and talk to them about it as objectively as possible. Tell them that you feel like the world is closing in on you and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Tell them you remember a time when things didn't seem this dark, and you want help. Medication will probably help you if it is an option for you. In any case, spend time outside, even if it's not DOING anything. Do your homework out there, sunbathe, walk the dog. Sunlight tends to alleviate some of the lesser symptoms of depression. Good luck, honey, and remember, life's not truly as bad as it seems at this moment!
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There is a girl I've known for a good long while, and recently I made the effort to get back in touch with her and be friends again. I assumed it was going pretty well, we talk online and go out shopping and stuff sometimes. I do like her, but recently I've got the feeling she is just using me to take her places (into town, to see bands) b/c she's not allowed on her own. If I suggest just hanging out or something, she'll always just brush away the suggestion. If we do see each other we get on well though. I'm pretty much her only friend as well, and it sounds really mean, but I thought she'd be kind of pleased to have some friends.
So what should I do? (link)
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People can be very strange sometimes, can't they? There's something to be said for instincts, as you might be picking up on slight signals she's sending you. Instead of testing her, pay attention to how she acts when she IS around you. Does she act standoffish when the two of you are around people she may know? Keep your eyes open, but try to trust her. Life is nothing without an optimistic outlook.
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ok well my friends met this kid at a amusement park. then they started talking to him. this is all in the summer btw. so blah blah, i would talk to him online too. so about maybe in early october we started like talking, like really talking. so now its feburary and we both have feelings for each other. but i have never seen him. but my friends have. i have talked to him on the phone and whatever but not acutally seen him. hes planning on driving down soon. (he just got his liscense) do you think it will be okay?! pleasee hellppp.
btw, he lives an hour away. does that matter? (link)
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It might very well be strange, but there's a possibility you two will bond right away. BTW, just because your friends met him doesn't mean he's a good guy/ a safe guy to meet up with. Be careful!
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I love reading romantic books. Like teen ones, that are simple but really cute. I just read guitar highway rose, and i loved it. DOes anyone know any books like that? That are romantic but easy to understand?
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Go to AMAZON.COM and start a free account. Then enter in that you enjoyed that book (the steps elude me at the moment, but I don't think it's that complicated) and it will refer you to other like books. Happy reading!
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hey i was just wondering: what is the difference between ethics and morality? i've asked around, but people couldn't give me a good explaination, just said it was different. i looked it up and it basically said the same thing. if it is different, how is it? (link)
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Ethics is more a legal term, in my mind. It's a "these are the general rules, not to be bent or broken" kind of deal. Morals are more of a personal nature; I think they're more what feels right to YOU if you truly listen.
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I recently found a 2 books in my library.
I probably have them from my grandparents, but i didn`t know about them.
A friend (the same one that directed me to this site) told me they might be valuable.
The books are:
1. "Pe culmile disperarii" (On the Heights of Despair), Bucharest, "Fundatia regala pt. Literatura si arta" publishers, 1934.
2. "Cartea amagirilor" (The book of deceptions), "Cugetarea" publishers,
Bucharest, 1936
Both books are in romanian and are the first editions of the philosopher`s first books.
I`m really curious how much they`re worth.
Can you help me out? (link)
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Look on ebay. I bet you'll get a good idea. DON'T SELL THEM AFTER THAT, THOUGH. Get them appraised first, just to be sure.
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there is this girl that i realy like
(she is in 8th grade and i am in 7th)
the only problem is that our parents are going out... what should i do? (link)
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It will make it strange that you two might be quasi-siblings. DO NOT PURSUE. There are other fish in the sea, you are young yet. Trust me, it will be better for YOU if you leave it as is.
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is 16 years old too old for a 14 year old?
because i don't think its a problem and it never ever seemed like a problem until one of my friends brought it up. hes totally cool with it. and he doesn't like force me to do anything. its nice. but is he really too old? (link)
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It's all relative. Ask someone older that knows you both (or just you quite well) and LISTEN to their feedback. They're not the enemy.
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I've been dating this guy for two and a half weeks. We've been close friends for a year before he asked me out. I have a pretty good idea of what I want to give him for Valentine's, but I need advice.
I'm planning on painting a guitar pic (since he plays guitar) and I'm going to paint on it "Happy Valentine's Day" and have a cool design on it. I was thinking of baking him cookies and putting them in his locker. Then last but not least, I want to get him Fall Out Boy concert tickets sicne we both love them. The tics are about twenty something dollars, and I was wondering...too much for a relationship this short? give me your opinion. if you ahve any other ideas, alterations, or suggestions they are appreciated! (link)
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You might want to make the guitar pic a keychain so he'll think of you everytime he uses his keys. Plus, it's less intense than a "Hey, I've taken over your guitar playing!" that might be heard if you give him a pic.
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my friend that i like a lot as more than a friend used to work at the same place with me but he quit to go to the military to get his GED or something... i really miss him and i dont even know if i will see him again.... what should i do becuz i really wanna talk to him but i dont kno how to reach him && i keep having dreams about him and it doesnt make me feel any better.... what should i do? (link)
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If you truly cannot get in touch with him, "write" to him in the form of a journal. It will get your feelings out, and you'll know exactly what your thoughts are when you do get ahold of him.
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Ok.
So I have a best guy friend.
And we have always liked each other on and off, but lately we have been hanging out much more than usual. I think he is starting to like me again, I dont' want him to because things are going so well as best friends, and I like this other guy who likes me too. I don't know what to do. I am going over to his house tonight to watch a movie and I wish we could just be friends. I still want to hang out with him, and I don't really want to stop just because he likes me more than a friend. What should I do? (link)
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Just make it clear to him that you are not interested in him like that. You don't have to do it verbally. A lot of communication can be done non-verbally. For instance, if he has been flirting with you, perhaps agreeing to a night movie with just the two of you is not a good idea... Be your same sweet self but don't flirt (you'll know you are as it may give you a little internal kick to get the attention). Don't want to get into further detail as I don't want you to become awkward, but if the non-verbal chit chat has some misunderstandings, TALK to him. I'm sure he'd appreciate you not leading him on.
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