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California Please.
For our one week of Winter Break, me, and my parents are going to California to visit my relatives. I want my best friend to come along.
She needs a place to stay for Winter Break cause her parents have to go to court [long story]Both our parents work for airlines so we'll fly for free. We'd stay at my g-ma's house [ so no hotel fee] Me and my bff have tried to go on several vacations together and my dad usually says yes but my mom ALWAYS says no. She gets mad when I ask and starts screaming. She said having my bff come along will just put stress on her.
How can I convince my mom that my friend should come to California with us? [ I need a resonable answer, that would be put in a sweet way. My mom can get very agrumentative and mean]
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Explain to her that although you'll both (you and your friend) enjoy it, the real reason you are asking is because she's going through a rough time. She could find another place to stay, most likely, but with what's going on with her parents, it would probably be better for her to hang with a family she's familiar with and feels welcomed by. Promise to be on your best behavior (perhaps give her a code word that she can use if she's quite serious that you're out of line to remind you that she's gone out on a limb to bring the friend along) and actually follow through! Be a good daughter AND a good friend. Understand your mom's point of view, too.
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If your friend's parents approve of this, why not ask them to talk your mom about it? Technically, they are asking your mom to take care of their child for a while. So they should be the ones to bring it up.
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Your mom has a right to be mad. If your friend got hurt her parents could sue you. Car accident anything like that.
Ask your mom if your friend can come over and help with chores. Then maybe she will see that she is responsible.
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Well if she does go with you, you realize whatever happens to her is your responsibilities and maybe your mom doesnt want to be in that situation and if its no then theres no way to convince her to say yes.
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First thing, before trying to convince your mom of having your friend over, why not try asking her what about having your friend come along puts more stress on her. This is a hard thing to talk to parents with especially the younger you are because your parents don't look at you as someone that you would not know what you are talking about. If she starts acting out on you when you bring it up, you need to learn to walk away from her at that time. Then when things feel they have settled between the two of you, you could try approaching her once again but this time asking her what about the situation gets her so upset? In truth I can't beging to konw what your mother is thinking but it is clear that unless you have that information you aren't going to even be able to argue your side and really be able to convince her. Now as for your dad, it's obvious that if you get her on board, he's open to the idea. I know that you might feel it hard to do, but you have to keep yourself cool if you attempt to bring these things up to your mom, that will show a little bit more maturity on your part. That might help your cause.
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If dad usually says yes, why not go to him first.
Explain to him how much you would like your friend to go and see if he won't ask your mom for you. Tell him how she will probably argue its not a good idea so he will know ahead of time.
I think she will have a harder time arguing with him about it.
Good luck. :)
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