my name is vanessa williams
and i want anyone who has any problems, feel free to ask for advice, i am non judgemental, listen and give you good advice, not what you want to hear but the right advice
take care and God bless
Member Since: May 6, 2005
Answers: 98
Last Update: September 23, 2005
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well i was walking home from school and an old man came up to me he groped me so i punched him in his nose it was the first thing that came into my head,and it started bleeding he told me he was going to press charges what should i do? (link)
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hi there
well i don't think you should have anything to be worried about
becuase he assaulted you, so you responded by a slap
i honestly don't think you would get into trouble
take care of yourself and Gob Bless
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My friend's first and only boyfriend is now in my youth gruop and was hitting on me all through the session, i tried to hint that i wasnt interested, but he still follows me around and stuff, and now my friend (his ex) hates me, thinking i hit on him just to get back at her for something, i try to tell her what happened but she refuses to listen, help me? (link)
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hi there
i am sorry for your pain, well you'll going have to talk to her sooner or later and let her know what's up.
why didnt you tell her when you found out that he was in your youth group
my idvise is to talk to her and be honest , maybe the boyfriend is trying to come between two of you
if she i your bestriend i think she owes you that much an explanation to put her mind and rest
whatever you decide goodluck and Godbless
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I want my left side pierced. Do you know if thats really painful? (link)
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well personally i don't think you will be in extreme pain, like a stabbing. when my friend had hers done, she wasnt in alot of pain, cause it was like a sharp needle in and out and it was over.
when i asked her was it painful, she said not really as i said before skin sensitivity varied from individuals.
one more thing, if you decide on having your lip pierced go to a recognised body piercer because of all the diseases out there
good luck
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I want my lip pierced and for people who have it done, does it hurt bad? I want mine on the side. Tell me about it please?
What should I know about lip piercings? (link)
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hi there
well i used to work for a piercing company, skin feeling varies from individual to individual
Lip piercings - There are very very many different ways to get your lips and the surrounding area of your mouth pierced.
Standard Labret - lower lip piercing
Cheek - piercing through the cheek, usually to resemble a dimple
Scrumper - piercing the gum line
Madonna - piercing above or below your lip to one side or the other
Medusa - piercing above or below the lip in the center of the face
Lowbret - piercing through facial skin below the tooth line to one side or the other
these above are the different types of piercing well after it has been pierced ,
you have to be extremely carefull because of infection, they will tell you what creams, lotions or antiseptic to use on a daily basis which will ensure that no infection is caught
hope i helped and Good luck
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my sister just had a baby and she got many stretch marks on her belly. how long does it take for the stretch marks to turn silver-white? (link)
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hi there i don't know how long it would take for the stretch marks to turn, but using 100% pure vitamin E oil can greatly help in the minimising of the stretch marks
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do you realy think true love still exist?And do trust for guys do? (link)
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hi there
i do think that true love exist, it today's world, love is infactuated with beauty but the true beauty from inside, when we die, our bodies turn to dust,not our spirit, i think that is the strongest love there is love in the heart, bigger than any sexual desire or lust.
trusting guys is taking a big risk, because you are scared of what could happen, some girls don't, they just look what's outside and like say he's so good looking and i am in love, and if guys find that out they could use it to their advantage , even if they don't have any feelings.
i hope i helped
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hi ,i m really confused wat to do .theres a guy in my class whom i really like but i haden't told anyone bout it.then few days back i got to now that my best frnd also likes him.that was too heart broking but then i thought i shud sacrifice my luv for her becoz i didn't wanted to hurt her.but just after few days when i was having headache i was sitting in the class alone,that guy came to me n said that he loves me very much .i was really shocked actually very happy.he said he wants my answer in few days.i m really confused now.i dont want to say no to him but then i also think bout my frnd.wat will she think of me when she will get to know that i m involved wid that guy.plz give me some answer soon!!!!
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hi there
well this is a tough one, first of all if you have any respect for your friend you wouldnt approach this guy, its not like you're getting married, is it worth runing a friendship over, think about it if the table's were turned would you like it if your friend treated you this way which means she went out with the guy you really like,
i don't think you find many loyal people in thisworld but i have always believed in doing the right thing
if you are going to get involved with him regardless it would be nice if you have a mature talk with your friend. i can't say its the right thing to do , but you have the final say in what you decide to do with your life
whatever you decide good luck and God bless
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I don’t think people have anything to live for at all. Most people live for other people even thought everyone will eventually die. I think life is pointless and there is no such thing as “making a difference” because in the end none of it matters. My teacher says everyone wants to be remembered after they die, I don’t want to be remembered. Some people live for God, which I think is stupid because I don’t believe in God. If I did, I would hate him, why? Because he has control over us. Killing yourself is wrong because you’re interfering with “God’s little plan”, right? That doesn’t sound right now, does it? Everything happens for a reason doesn’t it? If something happened to make you want to kill yourself then is killing yourself still wrong? If God doesn’t want it to happen then it shouldn’t happen because he makes everything happen, doesn’t he? Can someone help me understand this whole “God” concept? (link)
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hi there
first of all, all i can say is that we were put in this earth for a reason, ii don't know why and someday i'll find out.
i also think that living is different from being lived, not everyone would want to be remembered when they are gone. forinstance, i think if a person accomplish something to other it would seem that they havent done anything at all.
i also don't think people live for God, God created us and i believe we are suppose to treat every individual as how we would want to be treated,
i sometimes agree with the theory on everything happen for a reason, i honestly don't think that God would want us to kill ourselves.
i believe God gave us the path to make the decision Good or Bad and we shall be judged on that.
i also ask my self this question, why does horrible things happen, well i have come to believe when the time is right all will be well, where there's a will there's a way.
do you belong to any religion?
it would help you a great deal i am not saying you have to belong to one.
whatever you decide good luck
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ive liked this guy for a while .. but one of my friends has liked him for two years. even though me and her arent that close id still feel bad for making a move or anything even though he acts like he likes me too. i dont want to hurt her but i dont want to not have him either. what do i do? (link)
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hi there
well i think if you had an respect for your friend you wouldnt do anything, because if the tables were turned would you like to be treated in this way
whatever you decide you need to at least tell her how you feel, if she can accept you and the boy involved.
Good luck
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okay im 16and me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 2 years now we had a massive argument da ova day and he put a knife to my throat and ses he would kill me if i shouted at him like that again i really like him thought and he dont always act like that but now im scared just to have an argument with him ive talked 2 him about it and he ses im being stupid bt i dont wana break up with him what do i do? (link)
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hi there
well i am so sorry for your heart ache, first of all i wouldnt say he isnt a good boyfriend
since you've been together for two years, has it occured he has certain issues that needs resolving .
could be a temper , which could be with his family, try talking to him, it could be that hw wants to be in control and controlling you in that situation makes him feel good , i am not sure but this is just a perception
i would say try talking to him, to find out inside what is wrong with him, which could be related to him past maybe he has an anger problem
it seems that you love him, try talking to him, because you don't want to get married to him and finds out his bad behaviour worsen
before its too late
take care of yourself
Good luck and God Bless
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I want this one Japanese movie that has English subtitles. Problem is NO ONE has it. If you could name stores or websites that carry the movie, Battle Royale. Please help me out. I will rate high. (link)
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try www.amazon.co.uk it isnt available in american as yet , but you can get it in the united kingdom
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hey i have a question me and this guy are going out and like his family like his parents like arent the fondest of me like she is holding something against me. see me and this other guy went to prom together and the guy im going out with now is obviously pretty bummed about this so his mom is constantly holding this against me and just wont gimmie a 2nd chance! So i plan on writing her a letter. I need some help on what to say to her. Like explaining why i did go. I went because he proved 2 me it was so important and that he wanted to go with me. Well this guys mom (my bf) is obviously protecting her "little baby boy"... well trying. but i cant tell her why i wanted cuz she'd hate me more. So please help! (link)
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i cant really tell you what to write, well you can try talking to her instead of a letter, this shows maturity and that you want this relatonship to work, keep the past in the past, even though it influences the future
all i can say is talk to your partner's Mother and i wouldnt recommend saying that ( i went because he proved 2 me it was so important and he wanted to go with me ) this statement shows immaturity that you don't really like him, you are just going with him because he proved himself,
if you try comunicating with his mum, tell her how much you really like her son, show her some respect , even when it seems she's in the wrong,
i don't think she hates you she knows women because she was also young try and understand from her point of view this is no consulation
but i suggest you talk to her
Good luck
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Okay, I went out with this guy in November, we didn't know eachother all too well, rushed into a physical relationship, and ended up breaking up in 2 weeks. We've both seen other people since then. Recently, we've hooked up and been talking more, now that we're both single. We've hooked up a few times recently and Im afraid that if i become emotionally attached to him again, he may not want to get back together. Question is, should I get back together with him if the subject comes up? Should I let him know that I may becoming emotionally attached to him again? Im 14/f he's 15/m (link)
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hi there
i think you should let him know how you feel, if you still have feelings you should let it be known, because he might want you still
if the subject by him, comes up you should let this be know because you'll never know what could happen in the nearer future, anything can happen
whatever you decide good luck and God Bless
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When is it acceptible to say "I love you"? How soon is too soon, and when is the point that if you havent heard it should you wonder? 20/male (link)
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i there
i think you should only say it when you mean it. for instance an infactuation with appearnace could be considered love, like i love the way you look
if you love someone are you in love with that person ? well if you are and you want to let the person know how you feel i say go for it
there isnt any timescale on how long or how little if you are sure that what you are feeling is love not lust or based on physical appearance
well whatever you decide good luck for the future
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Can you be in love with someone, and not be physically attracted to them? (link)
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hi there
when yo usee someone the first thing you go fo ris the physical attraction, but that fades when that fades what is there to love
to me love comes from within , not based on physical appearance so the answer is yes it is possible to love someone you arent physically attracted to , beauty beauty is only skin deep, true beauty comes from the heart
Take care and God Bless
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There's this guy @ my school.. he asked me out a while ago and I rejected him.. but now I like him a lot, and everyone says he likes me too. Being shy, and a girl, I don't wanna ask him out. How do I hint around to get HIM to ask ME out? I already flirt with him. Anything else I can do/say? BTW, i need help FAST, cuz tomorrow is the last day of school. Thank u!!!!!1 (link)
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hi there,
well i don't know if i can be of any help , since tomorrow is the last day, you could talk to hime in a private relaxed enviroment
good luck
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can anyone think of something to do on a rainyday. (link)
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hi there
since if its raining no one would want to come out, well you could use this opportunity to pamper yourself, like having a herbal bubblebath, a foot massage, what about watching a film.
chating to your friends ,
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hey im 16 next year but i dont know what to do. because i live in the uk sweet 16 parties dont happen over here, but i want to celabrate my birthday.i have no idea what to do!can anyone help me! id liek if you have had a 16th party tell me how it went adn what you did.i dotn know what present to get! i cant drive till im 17.
please help! (link)
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I THERE,
how are you? well there is alot you can do in the united kingdom, try having a house party, or renting a legal club for the day that is always a big hit, well i don't know where you are if you live in London there are loads of safe places you could rent, you could book a resturant for you and your friends there alot that you can do ,
well if you need any specific advice
feel free to ask and i hope you have a wonderful birthday
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My Boyfriend and I broke up a couple of days ago and i still cant stop crying. Any tips on getting the pain to go away?? (link)
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hi there i am sorry for your sad news i would help if you knew why you broke up in the first place.
don't rebound date its bad for you. i know this is saying alot, since you don't know me give it time,time is of essence, some people say
time is the best healer for the sore hearted
give it time, and i know that it isnt easy
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I have eczema on my stomach, thighs and knee, i was wondering is there any medicines that will help it go away? (link)
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hi there
i am sorry for your pain, first of all Eczema is
Eczema is an inflammation of the skin which may cause dryness, flakiness, heat, and probably most importantly, itching.
Dermatitis is a term which is sometimes connected, in people's minds, with exposure to chemicals. It really only means inflammation of the skin, and could be used interchangeably with eczema, as it often is by doctors.
Eczema can be caused by a number of different factors, and may result in just a small patch of skin being affected, but can affect skin anywhere on the body
Certain creams and lotions, could be applied to soothe the skin which are,
E45 , since your skin is sensitive, you need to speak to a doctor or a dermatologist which test can be carried out where the level of the eczema will be determined and also the right prescription can be used
try going to your pharmacist, where you can use lotions, soap bar, etc try to use sensitive products, because of your skin.
Good luck
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