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Q: http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2926792/0~2376778~2372811~6005140~6005809?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6005809&P=1

where else can i buy those shoes? i loveee them, but i cant find them anywhere else, and nordstrom doesnt have my size. and please dont say search on google, because i did. specific websites or stores? pleaseee=]

thanks!

--Edit*-- Mkay well, I know that Ive seen them at my pacsun before. & In malls.. So Sorry.

pfff. pacsun has them.
www.vans.com
www.css.com

go to www.simon.com and find your local mall thats closest to you then browse the shoe store websites and see what they have and done have

You can also try ebay and amazon/overstock

Or simply type in vans slip on on google.
i typed in vans slip on and got alot of pictures matching the one you gave me

Q: how do yal know if you have an orgasm? is it the same thing as masterbating? what happens?

Orgasming is the result of masturbation. Orgasms are different for everyone that has them. Generally you'll feel an urge to push down with your legs and push your body up a little, and your vaginal area will feel like its spasming kind of. And you get this rush of amazing sensation, which feels really good. Generally some girls are tired after they orgasm and feel drained of all energy. I guess those are some signs of how you know if youve had one or not.

I would google it and see what you can find also, cause its different for everyone & there might be another site like advicenators that provides peoples opinions on things

Q:
my cell phone is being stupid
like its forzen
but its not cold
like it wont let me type
and the sim card and battery thing is in it
?
any ideas
and it wont turn off.
help!!?

it wont let me dial a number or click anything. like it does but it doesnt work

please help
if it helps
its a razor phone.

Well in order to turn it off I would take out the battery and sim card and dont put it back in. Wait for a few minutes then put them back in and turn it on to see what happens

Razor phones are kind of shitty and break real easily cause theyre so thin

I would take it to your phone company and have them take a look at it. If its still under warranty (i think its a year with verizon) theyll replace it for you free - but if its after a year you will be required to pay for the expenses it takes to fix it.

Q: Are there any excersises that can help you get rid of muffin tops?

mm.. I disagree with the person below.

Its not about losing weight in one area its about losing the fat and turning it into muscle.

For example.
You can have toned arms without having toned legs, right? Right. Because you dont need your legs to work out your arms.

So. Whatever area you arent satisfied with, do exercises that would help tone it and make it look good. If you want a toned stomach do crunches, If you want toned arms, do push ups/pull ups. If you want toned legs, run a mile.

So on & so forth. I'm not a health expert by any means but I think its kind of just common sense lol

& In the process, you'll lose weight if thats what you're trying to achieve

[: good luck dollface!

Q: Ok so I got a lot of new clothes but I have a problem. My school has a dress code and I got this REALLY nice top that I really want to wear but I need something to go under it. Its a red top that is like a tank top but it only has one sleve. What I mean is it starts on the left hand shoulder and the neckline curves down so it ends under my arm. What can I put under it? Something that will look good...

White & black go good with red. It depends on what your dress code allows. If you're allowed to wear spaghetti straps I would wear that underneath, probably a white one. If you're not allowed to wear skinny straps, than I would wear a black or white thick strapped tank underneath. So only a little arm/shoulder would show.

Or you could always wear a half zip up (those zip ups that only cover half of your stomach), and leave it open. That way you can see all of your shirt and it doesnt completely cover it up.

Q: Should soft drinks be sold in schools?

What are the pros & what are the cons?
PLEASE don't tell me to Google it-I have.
I just need people's opinions. :)

Thank you in advance!*

I think that they should be. I dont feel that the school should restrict kids from drinking pop if they want to.

I guess it would depend on the grade level; though.

I would think it should be allowed to be sold in high schools but not middle or elementary

Caffeine stunts growth and makes the kids hyper and when theyre hyper they dont necessarily concentrate.

There isnt real definite pros that I can think of. Its not like caffeine is benefitial unless theyre about to go into gym haha

Cons; caffeine, sugars, not healthy

thats about all I can think of, sorry.

It really is quite a debatable issue - I think it should be up to the parents to allow or not allow their kids to drink it.

Q: I have a bad habit of biting my nails. Someone once told me there was something you could put on your nails to stop you from bitting them.

Whats the name of that product?
Are there other things I can do to stop myself from bitting my nails such as homemade ideas?

I dont know the name of the stuff, but I have a few friends that have done it and said it worked. Its this nasty tasting nail polish. You can go to a walgreens or CVS and ask them and they might know

something that helped me was putting on acrylic nails. I applied alot of glue to make sure it wouldnt come off, and painted them so I could see whenever I bit my nail cause the paint would chip. & Youd just be biting the acrylics, which gives your nail underneath time to grow.

When they need to be redone (2 weeks) do them again & repeat the process until you break the habit

Q: Is there anyway I can delet the websites I have been to. If so, how ? I went to properties and clicked clear history, but that didn't work. Anything else I can do?

--Edit*- Cookies are what stores passwords used to access websites. For example when you go to a website and it has an option to "Remember me the next time I login" It stores a cookie in your computer that remembers your username and password so you dont have to re-enter it the second time.

Temporary internet files are the websites stored in your URL bar(where you type the web address) It stores there so you dont have to type in the website everytime, you can just type "A" and advicenators will come up (for example). Temporary internet files are also websites that are stored, like in your history. To just keep a record of what you have been too.

You can also delete those by going into my computer, double clicking C drive, double clicking windows folder, then going into the prefetch folder - and deleting all the items out of there (theyre just temporary files that have been stored from websites youve visited)

If you have the new internet explorer

go to tools, internet options, delete & hit delete all.

If you have the old internet explorer in properties and internet options you have to delete everything. Temporary files, cookies & history

I think the temporary internet files will delete the URL bar.

Q: okay well im 117-120 now.
im going on vacation july 14th.
im prob getting a swimsuit like maybe around may?

i wanna lose like 17-20 pounds.
is that possible in that amount of time?
like if i stick to it and really comit.

Go here
http://www.caloriesperhour.com/index_loss.html

You type in the information and it will tell you everything :)

Q: what exactly is a head job? is it the same as a blowjob?

Well. It depends. It can be the same as a blowjob, or it can be the act of just licking the tip(head) of the penis without actually inserting it into the mouth.

Q: Hey. Just yesterday my average feedback rating was a 4.79. Today it has gone down to a 4.76 but I don't understand why because my three newest feedbacks were all 5's. Does anyone know why this would happen because I'm probably missing something. Thanks so much in advance =).

It would go down because some of your ratings could have expired ; making the number of ratings going into the average number, decrease. & with less numbers to average into the overall - the number might not be as high.

Q: So on Saturday night, I went with my best friend Bridgette to a movie night at a boy named Robert's house. She only knew her boyfriend and Robert, and I didn't know anyone. There was a couple other people there (girls and boys) but there was one guy in particular that i was interested in. and it seemed that he was interested in me as well, his name is Jacob.
after everyone left and it was just Bridgette, Robert, Jacob and me. and Jacob made me scoot over on the couch so he could sit next to me.. theres about 3 other couches in the room and he kept flirting with me alot.
and then his phone died and he needed to call his mom so he asked to borrow my phone, and so i let him. and he goes "now i have your phone number. i'm gonna text you at like 2 tonight okay?" and i was like so excited about it. we've been texting pretty much nonstop since then.. and that night i asked him if he was single. and he said he'd been with this girl on and off for a year and nine months, but for the past 3 months all they've been doing is arguing and he said he knew it was going to end soon, which is why he was flirting with me so much.
and this morning he tells me that they're over, and that he cant wait to hang out with me this weekend, so he can really get to know me better.
and i just dont know if he is just wanting some ass, like a rebound. or if he really did know it was ending with his girlfriend, and he really did fall for me.
i could use all the help i could get.
so help, please!

Well its hard to say what goes on in guys minds, lol. I wish I could give you a solid answer so that you wont get hurt, but Im unable to do that. So let me try help; Generally when a guy wants a "piece of ass" he doesnt spend hours on the phone/texting alot/spending time with them(without sexual stuff). When thats all they want they generally go in for it right away, and once they get it their done. If you really like this boy I suggest taking it slow and let him get to know your personality before any physical things happen that you might regret. Its okay to kiss and hug but I wouldnt suggest doing anything else further.

It could very well be a rebound - but if he says it was ending for about 3 months than I dont think it would be because he seemed interested before they broke up. Rebounds generally happen immediately after the break up occurs when theyre feeling vulnerable - which it doesnt sound like he is.

I woiuld just go for it and hang out and become friends and see where it goes from there but make sure that you feel comfortable with him before doing anything you might regret - and dont rush it.

If its real, you'll have all the time in the world to do those things.

Q: how do you masturbate if you're a girl?

Well all girls masturbate differently. I cant really generalize it. Some girls bring themselves to orgasm by penetration (inserting a finger into their vagina and going in and out) & others bring themselves to orgasm by clitoral stimulation(rubbing or touching the clit).

Alot of girls are into different types of things, it all depends on who you are. But from who has talked to me about it, I'd say that the majority of girls bring themselves to orgasm by clitoral stimulation.

Q: uggh its so annoying, but teacher says oral sex all the time, but i have no clue what it is?? what does it mean?

Aw, Its alright. Oral sex in general can be performed by either a guy or a girl. When a girl performs oral sex on a guy they stimulate the boys genitals(penis) with their mouth/tongue by sucking or licking. When a boy performs oral sex on a girl the boy stimulates the girls vaginal region(clit) with his tongue.

It sounds gross, I know. Some people are into it and some arent.

Q: what does fingering or dome mean?

Fingering is when a guy inserts his finger into the girls vaginal area or stimulates them clitorally with their finger. Dome is when a girl performs oral sex on a boy.

Q: I'm memorizing the peom
My Hobby by Shel Silverstein
for school. You can find this
poem in Where the Sidewalk Ends
I was wondering if anyone had
the exact words to this poem
striaght out of the book ?
It starts like this..
When you spit from the 26th floor
And it floast on the breeze to the ground
Thats all I know
THANKS!

As I spit from the 26th floor and it floats on the breeze to the ground,
does it fall upon hats? or white persian cats? or on heads with a pity-pat sound?
I used to think life was a bore, but I don't feel that way anymore, as I count up the hits, as I smile as I sit, as I spit from the 26th floor

Q: i have some pictures on my computer that i was to get rid of completly. i deleted them and then emptied my recycle bin. does that mean there completly gone? if not how do i delete them?

Nothing that you delete from your computer can ever really be destroyed or deleted off your hard disk unless you throw it into an incinerator. However. Deleting them manually and emptying your recycle bin will prevent anyone from recovering them unless they are the FBI or a computer specialist and know how to recover deleted images off a hard drive. But assuming youre not going to encounter those people any time soon, youll be fine

Q: ok i don't get it.. i've searched everywhere but nowhere does it give me a proper answer..why the heck did britney spears shave all her hair off!!!?? is it to sell her hair & get a million dollars? or is she crazy? what???????
--britney spears fan

Well. Apparently she went into a barber shop and demanded that they shave her head, they refused so she did it herself. She has been in rehab twice and she left early, and then that little episode happened. It has been said that she is having a breakdown, which is common after having kids and going through a divorce. She then proceeded to bear KFeds car with an umbrella. She is back in rehab and will have her kids taken away from her if she doesnt stay there the amount necessary. As for her hair- I dont know why it was sold but I do know that it was up for auction and I dont think she was tied to that. Her parents had said that shes a very sick girl and needs emotional and mental support right now.

Q: so i have my ears done A LOT.. like 11 times..
and well on my 4th one, i have like a bubble.. its been there for awhile now.. i thought if i took out my earrings it would go away, but it hasnt.. any ideas how to make it dissappear?

If it has a bubble that generally means that its infected. Sometimes a bubble will form on the back of it or on the front. 9 times out of 10 it forms on the back of the ear and it means that theres an infection there. I would try and clean the area thoroughly. You shouldnt have taken the earring out because the leaves room for more infection to grow from air particles that might get into it, and leaves the infection there. If it hasnt disappeared I would try and break it open and clean it with alcohol and peroxide. See if that works, if not you might want to consult a doctor if you feel its a big problem

Q: Can someone explain to me what the relationship between the brand new song "seventy times 7" and the taking back sunday song "theres no "I" in team" is? and explain to me what the taking back sunday song means?

Well. Jesse fromm brand new was best friends with Adam Lazarra from Taking Back Sunday. Jesse was dating this girl and Adam hooked up with her. Hence her cheating on Jesse with Adam. Their friendship then ended, Jesse left TBS and joined Brand New and wrote an opposite song of taking back sundays. The lyrics co-incide in most. The basic conclusion you can draw from it is They were friends, and he messed up and thats not what a best friend is so hes resentful about it.

As for Adams side.. Im not quite sure. I know that that was the story behind it. I think adam felt that he deserved it and Jesse was telling his side in Seventy times 7 saying he was a horrible friend and best friends means he pulled the trigger. its rather confusing but thats the gist of it.