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15/f
haha okay so the headline is kinda weird right. Well i have a problem see cause a little over three months ago (in the beginning of may) i hung out with my friends that brought this guy along who i had no idea who he was (his names austin) okay so we went to see a movie and austin kinda gave me peks on my lips and cheek 3 times total and he asked me if i wanted to 'hookup' wiht him i told him no cause i only knew him for an hour and a half and im not a relationship type girl kinda of like a flirtatious swinging girl (not slut or anything like that). Since then (i haven't seen him since) he's just been so obsssed with me and he's been telling me friends that and everything and he wants to hangout only A. i feel weird if i hang out with a guy (alone) when im only 15 B. there are 2 other guys i like better then him C. he looks so young for his age like 12 and its really awkward (i dont mean to be judgemental but it just looks like he hasn't even been through puberty yet and he's like a year older then i am) D. i told him i have a really busy summer (cause i seriously do) and i don't know wht to do cause i don;t really want to be in a relationship with him since he likes me and i dont really like him and i don't think he will listen if i tell him "hey back off" (link)
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If you respect this guy enough, you will tell him how it is...
Leading him on and on and on is only making him think he has a chance, he probably thinks you are playing hard to get..
Talk to him, let him know that you are not intrested at all, tell him exactly that, and that if you were ever actually looking for a boyfriend you'd think about it...
The longer you wait, the harder it's going ot be for the both of you, it's best you do it as soon as possible..
Hope I Helped
Tyler~
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ok i like this guy but i dont know if he likes me.my friends do this stupid game were the people rate what they think of the guy/girl.well jay put that im hot,nice,funny,and then said that he dosent think i like him.my friend molli is best friends with him and his cousin jonathan.she said that she went through a list of girls and he said i was cute and then said i dont know in a sad way.my friends keep telling me that the only way to know if he likes me is if i ask him out but im to chicken.i have to know if he likes me first before i can make a move.he also likes another girl and is very open about it.but if he likes me why is he not as open???HELP!!!13/f (link)
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Well, think of it this way, what if you don't ask him if he likes you, then in 2 years you find out that he did like you, and he doens't anymore, and you ruined a chance of something that could of been extremely special....
Go for it, if you really like this guy prove it to him by seeing if he does like you or not....
So what if he says no? You can say you had the guts to follow your heart, which is more then what alot of people can say...
So what if he says yes? You'll have a wonderful boyfriend, of which you've admired for awhile, and you can tell everybody that you followed your heart, just so you could have him.
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Tyler~
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18/m
Ok, no matter what i'm always the friend or the creep... somehow i'm always one or the other... i mean i give advice on relationships all the time and help other in real life. WHY CAN'T I HELP MYSELF?!?!
Please help me... This is my last hope (link)
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Friendships usually blossom into bigger and better things, love relationships are always alot stronger when you've known the person alot longer...
Are you sure you've been looking for love? I think your waiting for it, and it doesn't come after you, you go after it....
Look around, there has to be one person you like, maybe one of your friends even, now wouldn't you like to see that relationship blossom into something better??
Maybe you won't find love now, maybe not for awhile, but when you find it, you will surely understand that it is worth the wait....
Good Luck
Tyler~
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Hey guys!!
Im stuck between two guys. They are in the same group of friends. and i really dont kno what to do.
guy number 1: Bob: Bob is a player and hes really flirty and stuff. and i really like him. i think a little more than i like guy number 2. but since hes a player he can flirt with all the girls and stuff you know? and im not even sure if he likes me but i can relate to him and he can relate to me and we can talk and talk for hours without even realizing it. and my two best friends tell me that he really likes me but i dont even know. like today we went to see lady and the water and both guys were there. and bob didnt stay in the movie so i was with guy number 2 and he comforted me and stuff. but i still felt a little guilty because i knew there was someone else. and when bob was talking to me guy number 2 got mad and wen guys number 2 would talk to me bob would get mad.
guy number 2: hes really a sweet guy and all. but he sometimes trys to hard and hes a relationship type of guy. he was talking to my best friend thats a guy and was telling him how he really likes me and stuff. and i really dont kno what to do because i dont feel like i have that connection with him. but its just that i dont want to hurt any of them.
but bob said that hes not looking for a relationship and this was like a week ago. and everyone thinks guy number 2 has a thing with me and that im pretty much taken bye him.
ugh helpp
sorry its longg.
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Think of it this way...
Do i want a boyfriend that will love me? (Guy Number 2)
Or do i want a boyfriend that will love me...and a few other girls (Bob)
The player will only end up hurting you, and making you think you aren't good enough.. Sure he's appealing to you, all the girls like him, he's probably good looking, but good looks aren't the foundation of a good relationship..
I have one rule in dating, and that rule is...
You don't find him, you find each other...
Right now, you found bob, bob hasn't found you yet, maybe he won't, but Guy Number 2 has found you, the question is, are you going to find him too?
Guy Number 2 sounds like a sweet guy, a guy that would never ever want to hurt you, and that would stick with you, not you and a few other girls. Only you, because you would be his, and nobody elses, and nobody else would have him...
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Tyler~
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17/f
Okay, I'm friends with this guy, and for the past few days we've been talking about dating. He's been telling me a lot of stuff convinicing me he wants to be with me or whatever. Well, I'm best friends with his niece. They're only a few years apart in age, & he's four years older than me, so don't freak out lol. Anyways, we've kissed & made out & he was supposed to take me to a movie last night. Well, he got back from work and said something came up, so I asked him what and he said he'd tell me later. I found out from someone else that he spent the night in a couples hotel with his girlfriend. He didn't tell me he had a girlfriend, so now I feel stupid. I don't really know what to say to him about it. Any ideas? =/ (link)
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Well, if you want to let him know your serious, don't sugar coat it, let him know straight up you've been hearing things and you want to know the truth...
So let's say he says he never did anything like that, your next question would be, do i believe him or not?
Talk to him about it, talk to the people who said they heard he was at the hotel about it, see if any of it lines up at all, call around, see if anyone saw him...
If this guy likes you enough, he wouldn't do anything that stupid to ruin his chances with you..
If it turns out he was with his girlfriend, i'd like you to picture a red warning light in your head, meaning, no, bad bad bad bad bad do NOT start a relationship with this guy...
Things like that only lead to trouble..
I wish you the best of luck..
Tyler~
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Now we all kno that most guys like a little bit challange when it comes to girls. Well id like to know how to be that challange without totaly driving my boyfriend away.
any idea (link)
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If he asks to kiss you or something, say something cool like "maybe", or if he wants more then that, say "i don't know," even if you want it as bad as him.
I've found that girls that do this are less likely to be nick named a slut if they were to ever break up with that boyfriend, because you acted like you were not really intrested in doing whatever he wanted.
But the thing is, i'm a guy, and i hate when my girlfriend has to be a challenge when it comes to some things. It just sometimes gets annoying, so don't be surprised if he breaks up with you for you being understandable and him "not knowing whats gotten into you".
My advice? Stay the way you are, that's what he's in love with.
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This guy who is about a year older than me came here to florida to visit my friend's brother for a week. After knowing him for about three or four days, I started to like him. Yes, I know it's kind of sudden. He's incredibly funny, hot, smart, etc. But he's going back to Wisconsin today. I'm really sad now. Ughhh. Should I just try and stay in touch(If so, HOW?!) or just try to forget him somehow? (I always try to forget about a guy and it never works because a few months later something will remind me of him and it makes me really sad) (link)
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First of all, love has no boundries, you can stop your head from thinking about the guy, but you can't stop your heart from loving him...
Keep in touch, maybe someday all the keep in touching will pay off and you guys will be closer to each other..
Being long distance, you can talk to him and get to know him and find out if he's a player or a lover.
If you try forgetting about him, it'll only make you sad, so why not keep in touch incase something were to ever happen when you could see him?
I wish you the best of luck. :-)
Tyler~
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ok my friend.. is soo amazing... she is absolutely beautiful... infact all the guys say she is the prettiest/ hottest.. out of our school (we have a very big school)... she is 16.. and she is soo freaking awsome at sports she has lettered varsity for both tennis and track and was like number 1 on both.. like got all the track girl awards and went to state 4a both years in track and is just pure amazing.. she also has a 4.0 and im pretty sure she is teh smartest in our class... she also is soo incredably nice, and funny, like she is soo much fun to hang out w/, and soo crazy, but in a good way... like she is real not one of those fake girls... and she treats her boyfriends soo good but they always end up treating her like shit... i dont think she picks bad ones but somehow they never treat her good.... she deserves the best and i dont know what to do... like the theme song to her life would be lucky by britney spears... i just dont understand y guys arent better to her (link)
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The thing i've noticed in girls is the prettier girls get the worst guys, because chances are that the guys are going for the body, not the girl.
Less prettier girls always end up with the great guy, because obviously if they aren't as pretty they aren't going after there body, they are going after there heart...
Talk to the girl, let her know that she needs to take it slower when getting into relationships so that she can find out what the guy is really like, and talk to his ex's maybe, just to see how they were treated.
Hope I Helped~
Tyler~
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There is this boy who really likes me and I did like him...we were a 'thing' for about 2 weeks and then I realised he's too serious about it and I'm too young and stuff. He still likes me but I don't! I told him that we're better off friends and seriously that's a good thing right now.
How do I get him to get the clue again?????????? (link)
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If you keep leading him on and on, it's going to be harder for you to tell him straight up and it's going to be harder for him to take it when you tell him straight up..
The sooner you let him know, the better, don't sugar coat it, tell him how you feel, you shouldn't have to hide your emotions..
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Tyler~
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ok so heres the story i saw this kid i liked when i was in seventh grade and he was in 8th and i never thought he'd like me. then i moved to florida before 8th grade and i forgot about him. so i go back to ny in the summer for vacations and i saw him playing hockey and i thought he was really hot and he thought i was hot. so i got his screen name and we started talking and he asked me if i ever made out and then he asked if i would make out with him. i said if i ever got the chance than yes. We want to get together next summer and i really want to make out with him but im wondering if he's just using me. Should i not do it and i talk to him online and i never know what to tlalk about. i mean i dont want to just blurt out questions. i want to start a real conversation. and how can i make him really fall for me? Please answer all 3 sections of my question or i WILL NOT RATE. Thank you.Please Help (link)
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Sure, talk to him online, the more you talk to him the more he will realize you have feelings, and they need to be respected, if you talk to him and talk to him and realize that he really just doesn't care, obviously he wants you for your body.
If he simply said "Hey, let's makeout", didn't ask about you, your feelings, your intrests, yes, he's most likely using you.
If you talk to him enough, and hang with him enough WITHOUT making out, and if he sticks around he probably wants you for you...
Tell him your intrests, and a few days later ask him questions about the intrests you told him a few days before, see if he was paying attention to you, or paying attention to YOU, if you get what i mean..
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Tyler~
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Hey everyone,
I know you guys hate these types of questions, but when I talk to my crush I become completely tongue tied and always end up making small talk that goes NO WHERE. I really want to get closer to him and this just isnt cutting it. Someone please help?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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If your getting that tongue tied, obviously he knows how much you like him, that is if your feelings for him are obvious..
Your mouth hasn't drove him away yet, maybe he's crushing on you just as much as you are on him, but maybe he's just acting a bit smoother. :-)
After awhile, you'll get to the point where you are talking to him just like any old friend, crushing takes time, hehe..:-)
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Tyler~
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I'm eighteen and I've had a FWB relationship with a guy that I've had a crush on since my sister and he had graduated. Didnt see him again after that until I met him at a party one night and we hit it off.
We establsihed that we would just be FWB, but lately we have become like B/F and G/F without the title.
We both don't have that great of a track record of relationships, both our hearts were broken.
But I'm tired of this because I want to know what is up with this.
I don't want to weird him out - but I really do want to know how to approach him about it in a non pressuring way. I don't want to ruin what we have now to because I like it. Advice please? (link)
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The thing is, you don't know what he's thinking, what if he's wanting to approach you but scared that he'll approach you the wrong way?
The thing about questions are you never know the answer until you ask, and if you don't ask the question you'll go on wondering what the answer would of been...
Approach him lovingly, and kindly, ask him sweetly if he likes what you have, and if he'd ever think about taking it up a notch, to go "steady", if you will.
Let him know you'd love this more then anything. :-)
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Tyler~
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what are some things I can do for a guy to make him feel special and aren't overly gooshy? (link)
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You can never be overly gooshy, thats like saying, oh well i'd rather not love him too much..
Look into his eyes, tell him you love him and that he means everything to you, kiss him, hug him, buy him a sweet gift, just let him know that he's yours and your glad it's like that.
He'll enjoy that greatly. :-)
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Tyler~
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to get to the point my boyfriend has this friend. who stole car radios blammed it on my boyfriend. he stole a cell phone and my boyfriends friend told the cops my boyfriend did it. he recently (couple days ago) showed up at my boyfriends house wanting to hang out. i called my boyfriend and his friend in the back fround was making rude comments. about me trying ot think my boyfriend was cheating. my boyfriend promised he would make him leave his house by the time i got there i pulled up in the drive and didnt even get out of the car his friend was still there and was going to be hanging out with us. (my boyfriend and i have been fighting lately we needed sometime alone to work things out) so i pulled out of the drive and left this happened yesterday. he left and hasnt been home since then. hes at that kids house. i dont no how to get ahole of him i been in panic for over 24 hours. and im pregnant. im scared. i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP (link)
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Surely this is stressful, take a few breaths, remember that your boyfriend loves you, and if he truly does love you he WILL come back. Maybe he just finally got overwhelmed, maybe he's having alone times to think things through about the way things are going, if he was hurt, you'd get a call, he's coming home sooner or later, just await his return. :-)
He's got a baby on his concious too, so that'll bring him home all the more faster.
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Tyler~
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14/f
i've been having dreams about this boy. he's not a stranger to me, but he's not a good friend either. the last time i saw him was sunday, july 30th at a party. i would say that i'm attractive to him, but not in a crush kind of way. that night, i had a dream about him. it was about me and him kissing in my room. i thought that i dreamt that because i love seeing him and that, like i said, am attractive to him. then, two days after that, august 1st, i had another dream about him. this was about us seeing each other in a store, i hugged him, he asked me out, then i gave him a peck in the cheek. it was more detailed, but i don't really wanna make it too detailed. i told my good friend about this, and she thought that it was weird that i was having dreams about him and that maybe i'm starting to like him. well, since sunday, i've been paying attention to most things that makes me think of him. i think the hug from sunday gave me this feeling. before i left the party, we hugged. it felt really good, and i wanted to keep holding on to him. since then, all this has been happening. i still don't think i have a crush on him, but it seems like i do. i think maybe it's just beginning? he's really cute, with dimples to die for! he's funny, and he's pretty smart. everything i would want. i don't know if i'm starting to like him, but if i am, i don't wanna get too attached, because i don't think i'm his "type", although i'm not so sure. but it just doesn't seem like something he would do - ask me out.
i was wondering what you think about it? what should i do and stuff?
thanks in advance. (link)
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If he asks you out, obviously you are the right type for him, why else would he want you?
Obviously you want him to, theres one rule i have about finding people to be with, you don't find him/her, you find each other.
Talk to him, see how he is what his intrests are, maybe it'll turn out that the kind of things he likes you don't like, which make you not like him as much, just get to know him before you make your final decision about him.
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Tyler~
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Ok well i keep hearing things about my boyfriend that he is cheating and stuff and im hearing this stuff from my so called friends. And i know my boyfriend isnt one to cheat and no offence but the girls my friends say he is cheating on me with are nasty. But i dont know why my friends would say that, and i want to beleive my boyfriend. But it bugs me and hurts me so much because for the past few days 3 of my friends said he was cheating or trying to. and i dont know who to beleive my friends or my boyfriend. and i just need help on who to beleive, even though i think my boyfriend isnt lieing, but i need to know how to gain his trust/ (link)
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Well, if these friends are your true friends, believe them, if they've always been there for you, believe them.
Friends are forever, boyfriends usually aren't.
If the people telling you he cheats hate you, or don't like you that much, then why would you believe them? They want you to be hurt, they want you to lose something that could turn into something great, the question is, is it great?
Does your boyfriend love you? Talk to him, see where he's been, act non chalant about talking to him about his day and stuff, see if things don't match up, then ask your so called "friends" where he was and how they know. See how it works out, it'll play out all in the end.
If you do find out he's cheating, don't wait to catch him in the act or have him breakup with you for someone else, it's way to embarasing and makes it look like he's been playing you the whole time.
the minute ure sure, break him before he breaks you
Hope this helps.
Tyler~
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13/f
i need one. badly! im not ugly not gorgeous.im not skinny. im a bot overweight. and im real nice. but no guys ever talk to me. i dont wanna be mean but my friends that are less attractive get a b/f. and not just one. like 3 in a week. what is wrong with me? i try talking to guys but they think im weird bc sometimes i get a little weird. they think im a short pipsqueak bc theyre usually 16. im like there annoying little sister. ughh. i wanna find guys my age. who wear most perferably tight girl pants. and usually have long skater hair. but its hard to find guys like that. of course i want them to be nice and funny and sweet and attractive. but how do i find guys like that?! schools starting soon. how do i get guys to notice me? what should i wear? like how do i throw myself out there without begging for attention. i want to be the girl with the best b/f! idk im like overreacting and i want a b/f. please help. i dont want like "youll find one soon" i want some like details and crap.
p.s.-sorry for seeming desprate. i almost am!
and sorry it was so long. (link)
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I'll be honest, you could weight 500 pounds and guys could still like you.
Sure, maybe most guys go for looks and the like, but if it's a real guy, and he likes you for your personality, then trust me, thats the guy you want, cause guys that want you for your body will just get tired of you after awhile, just look for that right guy.
Just remember, it doesn't matter if you find somebody, you have to find each other.
:-)
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