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Well. I'm 14 and I have been madly in love with my neighbor ever since I moved here when I was 9. We write each other e-mails and we sometimes talk on the bus and stuff. He's 18 and he's going to be a senior this year and I'm going to be freshmen, many people that are freshmen date seniors so I don't think its the age. My mom said that he's probably just waiting until I'm older cuz I'm young but I dunno. He knows I like him because my friend would always yell out the window to him that i was in love with him. He asked me last year if he wanted to get a ride to school with him everyday this year, and I said yes. I really like him alot. Should I tell him? Or should I get a friend to ask him stuff?! I dunno what to do. PLease help!! I rate!!
*amy
Hello. I think you should let him know that you have feelings for him. After all, he's a senior, and who know's how much longer you will get to see him for, because he's going to be a full-fledged adult soon, and may be leaving off to college or something. Just make sure that whether or not he has feelings for you, he's a senior, so I don't think a relationship would be good to form, but that's deffinately you're choice. Thank you for you're time, and I hope things go well.
-SilentHelper
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ok well this is kinda long but ok..ever since i was little i fell in love with gymnastics, i was about 6 when i saw the olympics and was just amazed by it. i used 2 sit and do cartwheels in my livingroom and stuff. well i beged my parents 2 let me join gymnastics and they never did...about a year and a half ago they finally let me take a summer session but i didnt learn much..now the olympics are on tv and i dont no it bothers me alot that its liek my dream will never come tru and it makes me mad at my parents, i feel like they never encouraged me at all and it may sound stupid but i dont now hat 2 do 2 get rid of this feeling, and i just feel liek im not good at ne thing anymroe, please help
Hello. You're situation must be hard to deal with. In a way, I can relate to it, but not completely. I am "in love" with soccer and I am allowed to play and have been playing for a long time, but when I watch it on TV I think sometimes "I will never be that good" but my friends and family give me encouragement. You're parent's may have made some wrong decisions for you but that doesn't mean it's too late to become as great as the professional olympians that you see on telivision. One thing that keeps me with a positive attitude when watching professional soccer: I say in my head "I have great potential and will continue to work hard and they have had YEARS of training and I have YEARS left to train so I can be as good as them if I work for it." However, I don't say it that way, heh. So just think that way if it's possible and know that there's a possibility that you'll be as good as the professional gymnasts someday. Thank's for you're time, and please take my advice into consideration, even if it isn't the best.
-SilentHelper
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ok so my best friend thinkz that theres a guy in our class who likes her cuz shes been asking him who he likes and hes giving off clues in a way. but i talked to him and from my point of view, it sounds like im the person that he likes cuz he said its a "very close friend of hers" that he likes. so if its ME that he likes and not her, and he told me not to tell anybody, should i tell her that shes not the one that he likes? this is a very serious question and i could loose my friendship with both of them if i just make one wrong move
Hello. I think you should tell you're friend that you have a feeling this boy may like you and not her and explain you're reasonings. If she gets mad, calmly reason with her and explain to her that you deffinately aren't interested in forming a relationship with him and that you didn't want her getting hurt. It may be better for her to find out from you ahead of time rather than be let down by him and find out that he liked you the whole time, which would make matters worse. If things don't go well, then I'm sorry; however I don't think they will. Good luck, and thank you for you're time. Hope all goes well!
-SilentHelper
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okay. what I am talking bout is that um last years these 2 guys made fun of me and i got tought in a crush.. so i was little oppsessed. but not anymore i change alot last year till now.. thing is guy drop out and every thing.. i amad commmmenat yesterday that i necver talk bout him and see him and think of him. well what i am asking is happend i go back school.. there be some people i sard some or somedsay someone ask me bout him or think i know him i dont want to say and i want lied say i dont know who they talking bout but i want good exuse to say so i never have 2 explaime what happend last 2 years.. oh yea if you dont undertand my question ps do not send cruel message.... oh befoer i had qesstion my hair i did put lemon juice in it and it coming out pretty good. thanks :) sorry long
amanda
Hello. I think you should stick with your commitment when you said you wouldn't talk to him but you can't stop seeing him and thinking of him because of what happened... You deffinately aren't obligated to forgive for the past years but you shouldn't like when people are talking because it's like you're letting him accomplish what he tried to do, which was make you embarrased and traumatized. Just try to avoid the subject when people bring it up, because you weren't the wrong one here, and you won't look like the goon, he will. Thank you for you're time.
-SilentHelper
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in the past weeks since schools started..theres been this guy and his friends that have been hanging around my locker..and well this guy came up to me one day and asked me for my name...and well...we kinda talked like once in a while in the hall way..but today..he asked me for my number..ah so i gave it to him...1 problem..i have a boyfriend..and well this guy is really awsome..and so is my boyfriend, and i just dont know what to do..about this guy...idk i think i kinda have feelings for him but idk i jsut really dont know what to do...
Hello. Although you have feelings for this other boy, you made a commitment when you entered the relationship with you're boyfriend, and unless you really aren't happy and things are really bad, you should deffinately stay with you're boyfriend and sill become friends with the new boy. Thank's for you're time!
-SilentHelper
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Around the beginning of July, I went into a chatroom and met this boy. I know meeting people online is a bad thing but this is different. Lets call the boy I met "Jim". Ok Jim is turnin 15 very soon and I'm turning 14 very soon. Jim lives in Connecticut and I live in New Hampshire. He is the most sweetest and kindest person I have ever known and met in my life. I sometimes talk to Jim on the phone (passed 9pm on my cell phone so I don't have to pay lol). He is so hot lol. Well anyways, he flirts with me all the time online like he'll say "cough cough you're hot" or "guess what? you're hot" and he'll say sweet and kind things too. I think he likes me but there's just one problem, he likes another person. Jim says I am hotter and have a better personality than her. I don't know what to do like I'm not the type of girl who will ask a guy if they have feelings for me. I think he likes me because he wouldn't say sweet and kind things and he always flirts with me. He's not a player so don't say "he's only saying that to get in my pants" lol. I like Jim as a great friend but I don't know if I like him. I flirt with him sometimes but when he flirts with me, I get these feelings inside of me that makes me wanna like me. Like I said before, I don't know what to do. Please help me lol. Thanks for those of you who are taking your time to read this and might wanna answer this lol.
Hello. "Jim" seems perfectly harfull and really into you. I mean, do you really think that a guy of fifteen years old would flirt with an online girl when he can just go and be with any girl near him or the girl he likes? NO WAY... unless he likes you, that is. This guy must have feelings for you, even though he still likes someone else. She's near, you're far... However there's deffinately no harm in asking him to express his feelings, because there are most likely more than just friendly relations going on between you two. Thank you for you're time and if I didn't help, then I wish you luck.. Ask me anything anytime or IM me anytime... Good Day.
-Silent Helper
-(ANG)
ok i really like this girl in school and i gave her some chocates and a note telling her how i really feel and now she is not my freind anymore and she is dating one of the most popular guys in school please give me advice ill rate u
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boy in denile
Hey "boy in denile." I'm not positive but the reason this girl isn't your friend anymore and is dating a popular guy now may be because she has feelings for you. As crazy as that may sound, it makes sense because when she found out that you liked her, her feelings for you could have been something she wanted to keep to herself and knowing that you felt the same way would have given her reason to form a relationship with you, which she may not have wanted. She might not have wanted to be with you because of something reguarding her reputation or maybe wanting to stay friends. Another reason she could have stopped being friends with you and dated someone else could have been because she didn't like you that way and thought that if she stayed friends with you that you would continue liking her and keep telling her and that may have made her uncomfortable, and she may be dating this new guy to try and tell you that she doesn't like you. However, reguardless of what anyone says, dating someone else and ending a friendship is deffinately not the way to tell someone you don't want to be with them! If this girl needs to take these unnesscesary measures in order to cover something or get her point out, then she is either not worth the time, or confused beyond the helping point... I don't think I helped very much but thank's for your time anyways.
-Silent Helper
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Hey! Well this is to anyone thats good w/ all this web crap! I was wondering can you get a www.WHATEVERHERE.com web sight w/o having to pay anything or you always have to go to free sights like geocities?!?! and if it is free to do it! Can someone explain to me in deatail what to do. thanks so much! -me
I only know of one website that gives out free domains but it isn't a dot com domain its a www.yournamehere.tk and the address is www.tk
Can you have sex when you are pregnant??
I am pretty sure you can, but not positive.
is it weird that i don't like anyone? i mean all my friends obsess over who they like, but i seriously can't think of anyone that i like. and im 14!
It's not weird at all... Sometimes it just means that everyone around you isn't worth you're passion... don't worry about it because it's not like you'll never like someone.. and you're friends might feel the same way you do but are just obsessing because they are too afraid to NOT like someone but maybe not.. just keep your options open and NEVER force yourself to like someone... see ya- Silent Helper