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Q: I am MADLY in love with this guy that could, well, basically care less about me. I told him i liked him and we have talked since then but he hasnt taken any moves forward. He is EVERYTHING i am NOT...he cusses ALL the TIME, is loud, rude and is a BIT too physical...(he plays football so i give him a bit of a break)...but when we are together in front of my friends or his friends he puts his arm around me and talks like nothin is wrong...I REALLY like this guy....I would DO almost ANYTHING for him....what im wonderin is..Is he worth it......or should I move on? Ive cried myslef to sleep over this guy...so he means a lot to me....I RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ADVICE!!
~*~maddie~*~

Wow, i've read one book in my life. Strange thing is, its just like this situation. Lol its called Frozen Rodeo is you are a reader lol. but if not, then ask him out on a date, spend some alone time with him, go to a movie or something. See how that works, and if yall have fun and everything goes perfect, just continue on that road and see where thing progress from there.

Q: In my Math class(7th period;last period), I sit in a table of 5 people(including me). There's only 2 girls (including me..) and 3 guys. I usually talk to the guys. But anyways. In the math classroom the teachers have phones that the school can get it touch with the teachers and stuff since the school is so big. But somehow i got the number and me and then 2 guys just call the phone and let it ring and as soon as he answers, we hang up! Lol =). And this is during class,too.With our cell phones. I know its stupid and immature but its soo funny because our teacher just gets soo mad.
I told my sister this and she started laughing. But then shes saying how i should stop because my number can come in the bill because the school gets a bill and they could call up the number(my number) and if they find out its a student then i could get in trouble. Can i really? And will blocking my number be any different? Those are the only 2 questions i have. So thanks!

Yes the number will show up on the bill reguardless. Blocking your number only blocks it from caller ID. On the phone bill it will still provide the callers #. I'm not sure if you can get in trouble, if they call and you answer and they say 'this is your school, you've been calling this number' just say like no i leave my phone at home durning school and my little sister must of been doing it. or just get the schools number and save it to your phone and when that number pops up dont answer it...

Q: I asked this girl out and she tells her friends to tell me that she likes me but she doesnt know if she wants to go out with me. Whats the difference? Also, she said her parents won't let her too. I'm not sure what the real thing is or not. What should I do?

Well my guess is.. your somewhere between 13-15. Well some girls just dont like relationships and like being single, therefore just "date her" go out to movies and stuff. Just no commitment. So look at the bright side, when you two arent togeather and theres another girl around, you dont have to worry about "Cheating" but if your like me.. and would perfer to be in a relationship with 1 girl instead of being able to be with who ever walks by.. it kinda sucks. So therefore just date her, flirt with her, treat her special and maaaaaybe she'll fall for you. who knows? you can be the smartest man in the world but you will never understand women.

Q: i really like this guy and he looks at me everyday in social studies and makes a face only once but hes always staring at me and he knows i like him so what does it mean and how do i get him to ask me out?

ah well i'd need more info then that. Do yall talk? friends or aquantencies? if not then you dont "like" him, you just think hes cute. Therefore in that care just bump into him after class and try to start a converstaion about something that happened in that class, make fun of the teacher or something. And if you can tell hes liking the conversation then keep walking with him and talkin with him, eventually this will escalade up to flirting, then at twords the end of the week ask him if he wants to go to a movie with you and some friends. In the movie dont be like all over him with over people there, but like hold his hand, lean into him, let him know you like him holding you, guys love that. And if its ment to happen he will realize he likes spending time with you and ask you out. Good luck!

Q: okk my friend likes this guy. `nd i know for a fact he doesnt like her. me `nd him hung out the other night `nd she called me. `nd shes like oh hes wit u let me talk to him .. so she was talkin `nd stuff .. `nd he got off `nd he was all like "why did u make me talk to her shes so fuckin annoying", then he was goin on about that for a while.
`nd i kinda like him too .. but my friend would get mad at me but he doenst like her .. `nd shes like the kinda girl who juss gets over guys really quick .. but i dont know what to do .. b/c he doesnt like her .. `nd theres chance he might like me .. i juss dont know

hm. you could maybe get him to talk to her? or find her another guy possibly? or just dont tell her about you too. :-D

Q: Is it ok for christans to masterbate? I want to know befor I start. Thanks.

to tell you the truth. No.. its like a sin or something.. but in that case every christian in the world would have a first class ticket to hell right now lol.

Q: Can you get a girl pregnet after haveing butt sex with her and some cum drips on to her vagina

i asked the same question.. well sort of. about a week ago. The whole "withdrawl"A.K.A "pulling out" thing. And its like.. if you pull out perfectly.. like a lil bit before you even get close to cuming, then theres only a 4% chance. On the other hand if your going for a while and you get right at the point and then BARLEY stop in time.. then theres a 27% chance. So theres your stats, depends when you pull out.

Good luck.

Q: Hi..I am the typical girl ( age 23) confused by a guy:S There was this guy I was seeing for about a month. We hung out a few times as friends (met through a friend) and then we went out one night to a club and ended up together the whole night..dancing and then he kissed me and was holding my hand. So anyways we left the club and went back to his house to eat takeout. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I tried not to and he stopped a couple times because he said it was up to me but I couldn't resist the urge sp I told him to keep going. I don't usually do that type of thing but I hadn't had sex for 4 months and couldn't help myself:S Anyways I figured okay this is it. I just ruined the friend thing..even though we only knew eachother about a month. But after he wanted me to cuddle up with him the whole night and we fell asleep like that. He set his alarm for me because I had to get up early and then I went home the next day. A couple days later he called me to hang out again. So we ended up going out for about a month, we never had sex every time we hung out but when we did have sex we'd have it at least 2 times that night. Finally after a week of me calling and him not having time to hang out or whatever I gave up..Then a couple weeks later my friend met him in a club and he asked her why I stopped calling him..He said he thought we had a good thing going. :SShe asked why he had stopped calling me. He said he lost my number because he used to just use the caller ID and call me back when I had called. So anyways I ended up running into him again later that week and we chatted and he asked me to call so after a couple days I figured why not. So that night we went out and hung out with his friends, then got fast food and ate it at his house. Then he wanted me to stay because it was late and I told him I wasn't having sex with him that night. So he said that was ok..we'd just cuddle and go to sleep. So that's what we did. We cuddled up together and talked until I fell asleep..

I am soo confused because he never used to call me much ..I used to have to call him.Now he wants to go out again and I don't know what to do. Does he just want to have sex with me?? Because we both admitted that it was great when we did.

I just need to know what your opinion on how he might be feeling is?

Thanks I would really appreciate it

Confused..

Believe it or not i read that whole thing. I dont know why he stopped calling you or anything like that... hes in his 20's... very busy time in a persons life. Maybe he just needed some space for alittle bit. No big deal. And if you want to find out if he just wants to have sex with you... first off if thats all he was using you for... he would of never stopped calling you lol. But he also wouldnt say he is fine with "cuddling and falling to sleep." Maybe he would go along with it the first time... but if he was looking for sex and you kept not giving it to him.. and he still stuck around then theres your answer. But dont deprive him... i mean sex might not be all he is looking for... but everyone has their needs.

Q: how come guys get horny so fast and girls dont? i mean it takes my bf 5 minutes to get horny and then like 30 minutes for me. how come? and is there a way to change that? thanks

get him some enlargment pills lol

Q: My sister has been smoking for over 6 months. She's only 16. I live with my mom and my sister so out of us three I'm the only one who doesn't smoke. I hate second hand smoke and how they don't even care enough to smoke outside. I've asked them numerous times to smoke somewhere else but they tell me to deal with it. My other sister who is 27 comes over with her boyfriend and they also smoke. My brother and I are the only ones who don't smoke but he doesn't even live here. I get so mad and my sister and I get into fights over this. What should I do? They don't think I have any right to be mad or anything and it's just not fair.

Go out and buy a 10 inch subwoofer. Put it in your room. Crank that bitch up alllll the way. Shake the damn house. And when they tell you to turn it down, just say "ill be glad to if you keep your cigarettes outside." and if they dont... then at the moment still turn it off. But then at 3:30 in the damn morning, turn that mother allll the way up... and keep doing it. It will eventually get to them :-)

Q: I used to be a really bad kid, like Id sneak out with guys and get drunk and do sexual things. Around New Years Eve (04) I got caught from this and had to go through a drug class. Then in Febuary (05) I got drunk with some guys and got rapped. People have been saying stuff about me because of this. My friends boyfriends tell them not to hang out with me because "I attract niggers, drugs, and alcohol." And my friends parents will say "if you keep hanging out with her youre going to get rapped by black guys." Im not a bad kid anymore, I have moved on from this and do not do drugs or sneak out with guys anymore. I have started being nicer to my mom and decided not to keep anything from her *so everyday I tell her everything that happens even stuff I do with guys.* Is there anyway I can make people stop saying this and realize I am not the same person I was?

Well if your mature enough i would say, if you really care about your friends and what people think about you, then just call them and ask if you can come over and talk to them. And tell them exactly what they told me. And if they have a heart the would acept it and give you another chance, and if they dont then they are a pathedic human being.

Q: ok so ive had a crush on this guy since my freshmen year (Kyle). And then i find out from a friend (Jason) that Kyle's intrested in me too, and he thinks i am cute, has a good personality.. blah blah blah. But as i'm asking Jason about all this he says Kyle is confused and he doesn't know if he wants a relationship! what am i suppose to do? This guy doesn't really know how crazy i am about him. But i mean, how do i get him to think of me as more then a friend? PLEASE SEND WHATEVER ADVICE U GOT! haha thanks!

Ah case of a simple mind game us guys play. Well hes just having to pick between a relationship with one girl, or a fling with what ever girl walks by. What you have to do to win him over is show him that you are better then all of the "flings." Spend some time with him. Basically make him want you. Flirt with him, Kiss him, Tease him... what ever you have to do to make him come back for more. If a guy has a crush on you, and you two just have a date like to a movie or walking around at 11 pm in the park looking at stars, i dont care but i promise if you play your cards right he will want to spend time with you alot more often. Lemme know how it goes...
-CrW-

Q: Alright you know how guys wear condoms while having sex for protection so that when they cum it doesn't enter the vagina and fertilize? When they DO cum while wearing a condom what happens to it? Like does the condom expand..with the cum in there..and it's all soggy-ish, or what?

Sorry I know that sounds stupid.

lol your supose to leave a little bit of space at the top of the condom. Dont pull it all the way down, if you do that it increases the microscopic holes in the top of the condom, increaseing the chance of pregnancy. So if you leave a little bit of spce, it has somewhere to go without increasing the hole.

Q: this is the saddest ? ever nd please dont tell me "only u can decide" cause wuts the point of even answering my ?. w/e. back to my ?. my bf has been my best friend for like 2 yrs but has been my bf for like a month. he is in love w/ me nd he tells me, all my friends tell me and all his friends tell me! i dont like him the same way ne more. im like in love w/ this other guy! can u tell me how to brake up w/ my bf? hes already suspicous of the other guy that i like. . .

Holy shit... im in the EXACT same situation. Except you switch the genders completely. wow that is so weird. Exact same story cept the genders are changed. Well if you get an answer hit me back lol

Q: My mom is 45 and shes been havin some mood swings. Like she'll offer to take me shopping then the second we get there she'll start yellin cus I tried on a few clothes, She's done this a few times, like if i ask for friends to come over she'll ground me.
Is she goin through Menaupuase? Or is something else wrong?

Perment Pms.. its like a gene all females have now-a-days...

Q: Okay, I asked a question a while ago saying that I went to the movies with my guy friend & that there were hints that he liked me. Well, I got alot of great answers so thanks to everyone.

I've decided I want to tell him that I have feelings for him. If I don't, I know it will be on my mind ALL summer. Anyone have an idea on how I could go about doing that?

Hey there friend, im pretty sure that i answered that question saying he definately liked you. Well i say keep flirting. Every chance you get, if you want to, spend time with him. Keep flirting more and more each time you get around him. Gotta kiss him first... most guys wont go out with a girl until they know if she can kiss or not. It's a fact lol. Then after you kiss him, just let him hold you in his arms. We love it when we can just hold a girl that we car about. If yall get close you wont have to say anything, he will know that you like him, then hopefully he will open up and tell you he likes you, and go along with it... tell him how you feel... then before ya know it your married. Lol jk but good luck babe. if ya need help AIM me: FadedBlade666

Q: TOTAL BLUSh! I have blue vains going all down my CHEST and on my breasts they're so embarrasing i cant wear a nice bikini or a low top. How can I make them look not as noticable all my fat goes to my but not any where else really! Im only young so plastic surgery aint' a option any help? Ta x

Lay in the sun. tanning bed. My guess is your very pale... beacuse when ever ya go to a lake and you see a chick with your problem... shes albino. So try a lil sunlight sweet heart ;-)

Q: Alright! I really like this boy and he thought we broke up because i didn't reallt talk to him because when i sit near my friends and with him, i am more tempted to talk to my friends. well, he broke up with me and asked this other girl out who he said was annoying. My brother was talking to him and he told him that he broke up with me because he thought that if he went out with me for a long time, i would talk to him more but i didn't realize it. He said he doesn't hate me but he wants to be my friend. How do I get him to like me agtain????
I rate high!!!!!

Depending upon the age. But lets see if your anywhere from 14-17 im guessing just one day ask him to go see a movie with you. I doubt he will decline. But go see a movie with him and just have a good time. Flirt a little, ya know kinda get close to him. Then if it comes down to it.. even though your the girl and hes the guy, but if it comes down to it, try to kiss him. I dont think he will turn it down, since you to have gone out before and because hes only been with this other girl a few days. lemme know how it goes.

Q: i have a black silky skirt for graduation and i got a size that is too big for me. i dont have a dryer so i cant shrink it that way.. what are some ways to shrink my skirt because i dont have a dryer.. i tried to put the skirt in hot water for a few minutes and then blow dry the skirt with hot air.. this doesnt work so what are some ways to shrink it?

honestly... no offense but then is a case of... no commen sense. Why wouldnt you take it back and get a smaller one?

Q: Last night I went to the movies with my guy friend & my friend (who he used to like). I have a crush on him but I don't know if he feels the same way. Some stuff happened last night that made me want to believe he might like me too.

-For example, my friend sat down, I sat down on one side of her & he decided to sit on the other side of me.
-We flirted the whole movie, throwing popcorn at eachother.
-We shared the armrest & I had my head rested on our arms.
-He kept talking to me during the movie.
-He let me take sips of his drink.
-When I said I was cold, he said if he had a jacket on him, I could have worn it.

I'm not sure if it sounds like we're just "pals" or could possibly be more? I really can't tell so I was wondering if someone who was more experienced in relationships could help me out. Thanks! Sorry it was so long!

JaMiE x3

Can almost guarentee he likes ya. That sounds like a fun time at the movies. You might not be ready to be a couple yet but i promise ya hes crushin on ya ;-) good luck lemme know how it turns out