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Q: ok! so my boyfriend and i were having sex while i was on my period.. and the condom broke, but he pulled out and he said he pre-ejaculated before he went inside of me, so my question is even if he did ejaculate in me, since i was on my period and it was heavy that night.. could i still get pregnent?
Yes, even if you're on your period, you can get pregnant.

Q: has anyone ever not gotten approved when trying to sign up for the victoria's secret angels rewards card? what does it mean? i've had my credit card for an year or 2 now.. i don't constantly use it, but i have used it in the past with payments on time.
I got denied when I applied. I can't remember exactly what the letter said, but it was because I have no other credit cards so they couldn't check whether or not I was "safe" to give a credit card to.

Just get your payments in on time (or, better, pay it off right away) and you'll be fine.

Q: hopefully someone out there can help me. i know some of the symptoms of appendicitis but im not positive. im 14/f and probably about the end of June or the beginning of July i started getting this random pain out of no where in my middle back on the right side. hurts so bad like a knife is slicing my back open but at the same time it feels like liquid pain surging through my back in a line at light speed. then starting around august 30, i just felt, ick. i was dizzy, nauseous, tired and weak. however it went away the 6th and hasn't been back since. during it i was active and went on with my life. on the 5th i left for vacation and i just got back and i was fine. now im getting this sharp pain on my right side almost like a cramp. i want to think its just hormones or puberty but something just doesn't feel right. my friend just got his appendix out and it partly sounds like his case. please help. if it is appendicitis i would like to know because i am not completely sure that i can afford the surgery. and what happens if my appendix bursted inside me? thank you sooo much!
Hello! I had appendicitis in the seventh grade.

When I had it, I felt incredibly sharp pain, somewhere below my belly button. A couple of hours later, it transitioned to the right side. And when I say pain, i mean PAIN. Like it hurt so bad I had to go to the hospital because I couldn't take it anymore.

Now, you say that your pain is in your back, and it's been kind of on and off. This doesn't really sound like appendicitis (but I'm not a doctor - I could be wrong). BUT it does sound serious. You should see a doctor right away.

Q: Okay, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. It was in the spur of the moment, and there was no condom. God, I had that part. I NEVER thought I'd be that girl. I swore I wouldn't. But it happened, and now I'm scared.

He didn't cum, it was only a few minutes. But can you get pregnant from precum? And can you tell if you precum? Like, my friends say I should be fine. But I'm a little paranoid. I'm gonna try and get Plan B to be safe. But can someone tell me if I should be worried? Like...can I get pregnant from precum? Can you tell if you precum? Okay...thanks.
Precum itself doesn't have any sperm in it. But as it travels down the guy's urethra, it can pick up sperm along the way.

So yes, it can get you pregnant. There's a VERY VERY small chance, but there's a chance.

Q: 15/F

I am a girl and the whole school thinks I'm gay. I'm not a homosexual though at all. I like guys. I'm VERY attracted to guys. The problem is I like guys that are a lot older and it's embarrassing to tell anybody because they'd think I'm nasty. By a lot older I mean, well, A LOT.

So, I don't tell my friends when I have a crush on a boy and I don't find the same guys they find hot attractive. They haven't ever seen me with a boyfriend BUT they never saw me kissing on a girl or something that would make me a lesbian.

I do have short hair but it's in like a pixie style that I really love and I've had the haircut for a few YEARS now so it isn't like I chopped it all off overnight. I'm not butchy or anything and I love the color pink so I'm always dressed up and I usually wear bright colors. I think I'm decently pretty, I guess, and I'm definitely no tomboy.

So, why do they think I'm gay? Should I tell them I like REALLY old guys? Should I change my hairstyle or my clothes? I'm confused. I don't want them to think I'm gay any more. It makes me sad and like I don't fit in.
It's just retarded society. For some reason, if a girl doesn't have a boyfriend, people see her as a lesbian.

I've been there, too. In junior high, I honestly thought EVERY GUY there was unattractive. And I was a bit of a tomboy. My sister decided that that meant I was gay. And told my mom (luckily, my mom didn't care either way). I thought it was completely ridiculous that just because I had different taste in guys, that automatically meant I was a lesbian. I took a lot of crap for that.

Your friends are just ignorant. Your taste in men or your appearance doesn't make you straight/lesbian/bi. If you love your hair, keep it. Don't change for them or for anyone, EVER. I know it may be hard to put up with, especially since you're probably in high school and will have to see these people for the next couple of years. But don't let this change you. The world needs more people who don't give a shit about stereotypes and who want to be themselves.

If anyone calls you gay, just correct them. Don't get defensive because that just fuels their stupidity. Don't treat it as an insult, either. Don't make a huge deal out of it. Just calmly tell them "No, I'm not" and be done with it.

You also don't have to explain yourself to them. If you feel uncomfortable sharing some things with them, then don't. If they demand an explanation, just tell them you have different taste. If they honestly think that "different taste in men" immediately means you're gay, they're not even worth arguing with.

This type of behavior you just have to ignore. It may seem like forever from now at the moment, but in a few years, these people will likely be out of your life. I'm graduating high school now and I can tell you that I will probably never talk to most of my classmates again.

Q: Okayy so i am going to be a 7th grader.. I had a few dischargez, cramps...... Is that the sign of me getting my period. When will i get my period?!!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!!!?!?!?!?!?>:(
It's very possible that you will get your period soon. However, nobody can tell you exactly when; your first period pretty much sneaks up on you. (Luckily, I got mine in my sleep and not in a public place)

If you're afraid of possible embarrassment, carry a pad with you just in case.

Q: i wanna have sex with my bf but im scared it will hurt like when the dick goes in meh
When you have sex for the first time, it may or may not hurt. See if it hurts if he fingers you.

However, if it does hurt, you can't let that get in the way. If the time is right and you're absolutely sure you want to have sex and you're protected, don't let a fear like this stop you. You don't want to be putting off sex for the rest of your life because you're afraid of a little pain.

It may hurt the first time. It may even hurt the second or third. But don't worry. First-time sex is going to be awkward no matter what. You just have to get the initial awkwardness out of the way before you can start really enjoying it.

Q: can brith control help your periond be regular
Because of the hormones in it, it regulates your period. That is why certain types shorten it (the pill I'm on claims to shorten it down to only three days, other types are supposed to only give you 4 periods a year).

Q: I need the real answer to this and not some sugar coated lie. If a girl gives a guy a blowjob (head, oral sex, sucking, whatever you wanna call it) and he finishes up in her mouth then can she get pregnant if she swallows it?

My friend just got a blow job and the girl spit it out. She told him that she does that so she doesn't get pregnant. Is she lying or telling the truth?
Absolutely not. The only way for a person to get pregnant is if sperm makes it up the vagina and meets an egg in the uterus or fallopian tubes. There is NO pathway linking mouth to vagina/uterus/fallopian tubes/etc.

The girl is either lying to get out of swallowing or just plain stupid. If it's the latter, tell her to take a health class before she does anything else with a guy.

Q: Okay me and my boyfriend were making out today on the bed and things got a little hot and heavy and he got an erection. So he was "hard" and i was on top of him and we were kissing and i was wearing shorts like really short and a pad just in case anything came out of my vagina and underwear. He was wearing gym shorts you know the baggy ones and there like flannel and like cloth and he had a wet spot by his penis so im guessing that was semen and i backed off a bit because i was getting a little paranoid. My lower body half didn't touch there but i might have noticed a little late and if i was on top of him and the dot was there is it possible for it to get into my vagina? it didn't get on my shorts or anything. anyway he left and now i feel queasy and tingly and clear jelly like substances are coming out of my vagina and i keep wetting my underwear during the whole situation and when i think about it to.. what does that mean? And my tummy is rumbling and i don't feel like eating really anything and i pooped and im having alot of gas but i don't feel nauseas or anything its just my tummy feels so queasy and unsettled so i feel like i'm pregnant? is it possible i don't have any money to buy a pregnancy test so i want to know if it possible and some symptoms. I am only 13 years old and i have never been sexually active before. this is the closest ive ever gotten to being active. i'm so scared and i really need some help. I just had my period before this whole thing happened so.. does that mean its more likely for me to be pregnant?
No, you're not pregnant. Sperm can't travel through clothing, especially all the layers he and you were wearing. And you said it didn't even get on your shorts. So there you go. You have nothing to worry about.

Like the columnist below said, it'd have to be a MIRACLE for you to get pregnant.

Q: When I get really turned on by my boyfriend my panties get wet. I mean, sometimes they get pretty soaked even when he hasn't touched me or anything down there. I don't really know why it happens but it does.

Ok, when my boyfriend cums it's wet, of course. His pants get a little soaked and it's similar to when my panties get wet we're making out and stuff.

Is it the same stuff then? I mean, if getting wet and cumming the same then? Sometimes I don't even have an orgasm before I get wet or cum or whatever it is! Is something wrong with me? I'm really confused about this.
They're completely different. Both normal. One is a result of being aroused, one is caused by orgasm.

When we're aroused, the body's autonomic sympathetic system kicks in - heart rate goes up, breathing quickens, and, for girls, you "get wet". It's basically your body preparing for sex..like a natural lubricant.

Cum is completely different from this. It happens after the guy orgasms, for one. And its contents are much different, too. Cum contains sperm + other things that are supposed to help the sperm get from A to B.

Q: I masturbate a lot. I know you can get STDs from having sex. Sexually transmitted diseases. Makes sense. Masturbating is sort of like sex with yourself though. So, does that mean I can actually get STDs by masturbating? How common is it, if so? And are there any ways to prevent it then so I don't get STDs from this?
Er. An STD = sexually transmitted disease. Meaning the disease is transmitted from one partner to another during sex. You say masturbation = sex with yourself; that means to get an STD you'd be transmitting the disease from yourself...to yourself. Meaning if you have absolutely no STDs, you can't GIVE yourself STDs. You can't magically get AIDS or gonorrhea after masturbating.

However, keep track of other sexual partners you have. If they're infected, their diseases can spread to you. If you somehow get herpes on your hand from someone else, it may spread from your hand to elsewhere if you masturbate.

Q: Can sperm travel? Like if my boyfriend came on my leg by my vaginal area can i get pregnant, can it travel towards it? We always have unprotected sex and i was just wondering because he has came in my stomach or once even right next to my vaginal area and i was scared but it was a moment of passion but none got in that area, but i was just wondering if it can?
Just DON'T have unprotected sex. It's a reckless and stupid decision. Seriously, get on the pill or have him wear a condom. I know it may be annoying, but taking one pill every day or buying a condom is easier to do than taking care of a child for the rest of your LIFE.

Even if he doesn't cum inside you, there is a slight chance that pre-cum can get you pregnant.

Sperm isn't intelligent; it doesn't have a mental map of where it's supposed to go. So if he cums on your leg, it's probably going to stay there. Just wipe it off quickly.

If you're going to insist on having unprotecterd sex, tell him not to cum anywhere near your vagina, though. The chances of getting pregnant from that are low, but there is a chance.

Q: so i woke up in the dream and my mom handed me a pack of cigarettes and said "here you can smoke if you want to". so i smoked the whole pack in less than half and hour. i was smoking a cig and i ran into this kid i yoostah know. I was like wasup jakob then he said hey... then i gave him a hug and he was surprised and said *gasp ur nice to me... then im like ofcourse then he's like but you wont be nice to me tomorrow. then i was like yes i will. then i went up the stars to my house... it was the end of the world and we expected rhinos and elephants to be going wild so we packed and waited for it to happen.... (note.I DON'T SMOKE AND MY MOM IS STRICT AND WOULD NEVER SAY ANYTHING LIKE THAT TO ME.)
I don't really know what you want us to do.

It was just a dream. People get weird dreams and it doesn't mean anything. I had a dream once that rainbow robots were taking over the world. It meant NOTHING.

It's not a big deal. Just move on with your life and don't let stupid shit like this get to you or you will become an emotional wreck.

Q: i think this girl is pretty & i want to do my makeup like hers. any idea?
Uh. That doesn't look any more than red eyeshadow + eyeliner + mascara.

So put red eyeshadow on (lightly, you don't want your eyes bright red). Spread it past your eyelid but not all the way up to your eyebrow. Also, you should blend the edges so it's a soft fade. (I'd recommend getting another color of eyeshadow if you have really fair skin - it'll make you look sick)

Then get some black eyeliner and line the top lid of your eye, then the waterlines of the upper and lower lids. Also, feel free to drag the eyeliner a little past the outer corners of your eye. Be generous with the eyeliner, but not so generous that you look like a zombie.

Then get some black mascara and put it on.

Q: music like we the kings?
Here are some similar(ish?) bands:

Anberlin
The Academy Is...
Acceptance
The All-American Rejects
All Time Low
The Appearance
The Ataris
The Audition
Bowling for Soup
Boys Like Girls
The Cab
Cartel
The Classic Crime
The Click Five
Faber Drive
Fall Out Boy
Falling Up
Flight 409
The Getaway Plan
Hawk Nelson
Hidden in Plain View
Hit the Lights
Holiday Parade
Ivoryline
Jimmy Eat World
June
Lifehouse
Mayday Parade
My American Heart
My Favorite Highway
National Product
New Found Glory
Number One Gun
Over It
Panic! at the Disco
Plain White T's
Quietdrive
Relient K
The Starting Line
Taking Back Sunday
Thieves and Villains
Valencia

Q: i have a question when we do sex does it bleed for women.
It's possible.

Q: is there anything in your underwear when you get your period????
a pad.

Q: I'm taking the SAT and ACT in June. I wanted to know if it really is hard, and how exactly can I study for it? And do colleges really look at your scores and does it really matter? Because I do somewhat well in school, but I am terrible on the SAT. =[ Please and thank you!
Okay, so I've never taken the ACT, but here's what I know about the SAT:

There's like 10 sections. One is an essay, the rest are either reading, math, or writing (grammar stuff). In each section, you'll pretty much be pressed for time.

The reading sections = basically reading one or more passage and answering questions about it. The most common questions are about main idea, tone, etc. But one that pops up a LOT is "in line [insert number], what the author meant by '[insert word]' is similar to:..." and you have to pick a word that is synonymous with the one in the question in the context of the passage.

The reading section also starts off with vocabulary questions. I hated this the MOST. I would suggest buying flashcards of SAT vocab words and learning their meanings ASAP.

The writing section is basically all the rules of writing. This encompasses the essay (which is Section 1 on all SATs) and the grammar sections:
> For the essay, you will be given a quote. You have to agree or disagree with it and support your answer with two examples. Now, these examples can be ANYTHING, but I'd recommend a book, movie, or (better yet) an example from history. Things like this are usually much stronger points. If you write that the quote is true/false because "my mom told me one time", that's a WEAK point.

Also, do your best to write as much as possible in the time period you're given. Statistically, longer essays receive higher scores. Just make sure it's a GOOD essay and you're not throwing irrelevant info in just to take up space.

> For the rest of the writing section, you will basically be a peer editor. They'll throw very short paragraphs at you and ask which sentence is grammatically incorrect. They'll give you one sentence and 5 answer choices with that sentence reworded in some way; you'll have to pick which version of the sentence is grammatically correct. They'll give you a "rough draft" of an essay to look at and ask you random questions about how to fix it.

The math section is very VERY basic math. Know your precalculus and you'll be good to go. Knowing calculus might help, but it's not required or necessary.

In each section, the questions start off easy-peasy and get more and more difficult.

The best way to study is to get a review book and do problems. You need to get familiar with what they'll ask you. You'll need to learn random tricks that will help you get ahead on the tough questions on the test.

And yes, the SAT DOES matter. It's important for colleges to see how you stack up against the country, not just your school. Colleges know that each school has different standards; a 95 average in one school may be a LOT harder to attain than a 95 in another school. So they use the SAT to help them.

Moreover, SAT (and PSAT) scores can help you get scholarships and other good stuff. For instance, the college I'm going to gave out full scholarships based solely on the Merit Scholarship (which you qualify for by scoring high on the PSAT). Though my friend has a super high average, she didn't qualify because of her PSAT score.


The best advice I can give you is to practice your ASS off. I can't answer if it's hard or not because it really depends on who you are and what you're good at. I know people who got a 2400 on it and people who got a 1600. I thought the math and writing sections were easy as hell, but did poorly [ 570 :( ] on the reading. If you're more of an English than a math person, you may find the reading questions easier. So it all depends.

The SAT is a stupid and time-consuming exam, but it really does matter. On the bright side, once you finish applying to college, NOBODY gives a shit about it anymore. Nowhere in college will anyone ask you what you got on your SAT.

Q: 15/female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and he ia joining the marine core in three years, he is 16 years old. He told me that he loves me and cant live without me and I feel the same way about him and he said in a year or two he would marry me and I said that then if he still wanted to join the marine core i would marry him and wait for him untill he gets out. But I am scared that he might get killed and maybe he will get really hurt. I am not sure what I should do. Are militay relationsionships really hard?
You're young.

Do yourself a favor and don't tie yourself down like that. Why would you want to be married at 17?

Trust me, in the next few years, your outlook on life is going to change DRASTICALLY as you mature and grow older. And what may change along with you is the people you are attracted to.

You're young; you should be concentrating on BEING young and living life while you can. I'm 18, and as much as I love my boyfriend, I don't even want to THINK about marriage until I'm SO much older. Why? Because I have school. I have my stupid hobbies. I want to travel my ass off. I want to study in Spain and Australia and wherever the hell else. I won't be able to do that if I'm married because I'd have to take into account my husband's feelings every step of the way.

Because once you get married, that's it. You have a permanent commitment and your life is now no longer all about you. You're going to have to make big sacrifices for your significant other, the biggest of all being waiting around for him to get back. Think about all the psychological torment you're going to have to go through - every day, you're going to wonder if he's alive or dead. Every day will be a possibility that you'll become a widow.

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