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My name is Sami.♥ Wherever life takes me, you'll find me with a smile. Feel free to ask me anything, I will give you the best advice that I can :)
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Will a guy want u more if you ignore him
It depends on the guy! Some guys like the chase and some guys will just give up! He may think your not interested or that you are just stuck up. Be careful guys minds don't work the same way as ours. If you want to keep him around don't back off too much! Hope this helped:)
I am a young adult now. I am not independent. I dont know how to pay bills and how to live when i move out and live by myself. So, anyone please tell me what to do first when i move out? What all do you have to do and go before you move out? I wanna be independent. Is it very hard?
Being independent is a lot harder than most people think it should or would be! I know when I first moved out I had the hardest time. Things that have been there for you everyday (soap, bread) get really expensive really fast. I would say so you don't get yourself into a crappy situation is to start getting things for a house or apartment now. Dishes, spices, towels, furniture. things that you will need on a day to day basis. That is what I did. Then when you have most of the things that you will need you can find a place and move in without feeling too panicked with having nothing! Trust me living out of a duffle bag and sleeping with no A/C when its 100 outsite isnt exactly fun! Being independent can be a blast and the best experience of your life if you plan it right! I hope this helped and good luck!:)
I probably have everything that a average guy shouldnt have.Im very shy,have low self respect and have always thought that life was not worth living.Even made a suicide 7 months ago.Have been feeling depressed for quite a long time,all because of my rather bad ug college life. Now im out of college for good and have got admission to do my masters. Im really looking forward to do my pg.Now the problem is that ,the feeling of worthlessness is coming back. Im still in a dilemma no matter how hard i try to get away from negative thoughts. I seriously want to change the way i have been all these years. Would also like to get advice on how to get out of being shy and talk in front of class and with women as i feel rather nervous when trying to talk with them.kindly advise
I don't know if this will work for you but sit down and think about everyting you have done in your life! Getting your masters is a great accomplishment and I'm sure you have done other great things! Sometimes it is hard to look at the positive, but the way I see it, if I wake up in the morning and my family is there and my heart is still beating that is more than enough reason to go on! Go to the gym and work out. This could help boost your confidence. Talking to girls is a difficult thing for a lot of guys! You aren't the only one! Find a girl that you like, or just would be fun to talk to and strike a conversation with her. What is the worst thing that could happen? If you guys talk and get along, great! Turn everything into a positive thought, it will be hard for a while, but after that you will find yourself thinking positively all the time! It may sound crazy but it works! Life is a wonderful thing and it is too short to be thinking the way you are! Hope this helped and good luck(:
I've come up with several names but I can't decide what to call him. Dribbles, Peachum, Gatsby. What sounds the best?
I like Gatsby! I think it is different. Maybe pay attention to the cats personality and maybe one of the names will fit him better! Hope this helped(:
how to make him love me more and get attracted to me ?
Truth is, you can't make someone love you. If you try to hard to get him to fall in love with you; you might just push him away. Just be yourself. Have fun and be flirty. Do all of the things you usually do together. Love comes with time and it depends on the person. If you show him you care he will most likely show the same feelings back.
Hope this helped!(:
So, I start highschool this year. And I'm nervous.
I am kind of shy right now, and I really want to meet the -RIGHT- Guy..
And tips?
I want to become one of those obnoxious girls that get along with anyone. But I'm scared of looking/feeling dumb.
And suggestions on what I should do?
Or any freshman stories to share?
Just need to calm the nerves..
Pretty much everyone is nervous going into high school! Getting through your first week will be the hardest. I know it looks big and scary, but you'll be used to it in no time; plus most people won't have a problem answering your questions if you have any! Meeting the "right" guy... well that is up to you. My advice, don't look for Mr. Right. Honestly don't look at all. If someone asks you on a date... GO! That is what high school is all about, finding out what you like and what you don't like in a relationship. High school is about having fun! I know this is hard advice to take, but just be yourself. Do what you have always done. The people who like you, will like you. Not everyone will always like you and you can't take that to heart! People will love you, for you. You are going to be nervous no matter what advice you get on here. Just take it one step at a time and before you know it you will wonder why you were ever nervous in the first place! Hope this helped(:
18/f
Okay so I'm seeing this guy and we slept together once. Now, I don't want to do that (and he knows) . The farthest I wanna go is making out, but it makes me SO wet. How can i get the most of making out and not go back on my word about sleeping with him?!
It may be hard but have some self control. Just kiss him and if things get too heated, stop. Just cuddle or talk. If you give in it will turn into you guys having sex everytime you see each other. If you change your mind down the road, let him know. But make sure that is what you want first! Hope this helped!
he already been to jail and got a restraining order but he doesn't care and he scares me. i dont kno,i still lolve him but he gotta stop being so mean
I apologise it has taken me so long to reply.
First off, you shouldn't love someone who scares you. You should not for any reason be scared of someone that you care about. Change your phone number, if you can move houses. Keep this guy out of your life. He won't ever change his ways and you getting hurt or killed is not worth it. Set aside your feelings and think about your safety! I hope this helped and if you need anything else feel free to message me!
First off call me ice. Ok so today i broke up with my bf,nathen, and he actually seemed HAPPY about it! And plus i think he was flirting with my ARCH ENEMY, a lying mean girl! Ok so maybe he doesnt know that im arch enemies with the girl he was flirting with. But ive warned him about my enemy a lot... WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!
From a grieving Ice
You broke up with him, therefore he is not doing anything wrong by flirting with "your enemy" You guys are obviously better off without each other. Whatever you do dont let him know that it is bothering you.
Hope this helped!(:
So my eyes are really weird. When im outside in the sun they're a pretty blue color but when im indoors they look like a greenish color. So i don't know what color my eyes are. But, i've wore grey eye shadow and people say it looks good, but im wondering other people's opinions on what would go good with weird eyes like mine :P
A lot of people's eyes change colors. Just find what color compliments your eye's the best! Your one of the lucky people(:
Good Luck!
Hi!!I'd like to know how to trust someone you love again when you have realized that they keep on lying to you. THANKS
Trust is the number one thing in a relationship. If you dont have trust it wont work out. You can try your best to trust him again, but the question "what if they are lying to me again?" will always be in the back of your head. If a guy lies about something big once; he is most likely to do it again. If you really care about them; give it a shot, but if they lie again i wouldnt suggest trusting them.
Good luck!
I just started to talk to this guy and he keep's going me hints that he likes me but i don't like him, how do i tell him i don't like him but i would like to stay friends...what should i do?
When he asks you to go on a date or says something flirty, just say something along the lines of "name, i think we are really great friends and i hope we can stay that way; i wouldnt want anything to ruin our friendship" If that doesn't work then your going to just have to come out and tell him that you dont feel for him that way. Some guys will get it the first time around, some guys wont.
Good luck!
HOw do you flirt?
For a lot of people it comes naturaly when you like someone. Just smile and laugh, joke around. Just be playful and fun.
Good luck!
Hello guys I live in the cleveland ohio area and I love and want to volunteer but there is simply know were to go. All of the nursing homes will not allow me to volunteer or even go and talk to the residance. I want to volunteer at my local hospital but I want to volunteer somewere else 1st because it asks if you volunteered before and it would not look good if you just put NO!!! I love and want to volunteer aas I said before. If there is a store that need a bagger or a shelf stocker I am willing to do anything. One of the big reasons y I cant do this is simply because im only 14. If you cold help me and tel me were I could volunteer at I would appreciate SSSSOOOOOO much. Thanks. :D
If you like animals you can volunteer at shelters to help walk the dogs and take care of animals.
You can also volunteer at homeless shelters, or at places for abused and neglected children and their mothers. I have volunteered at these kinds of places many times and i love it. It is fun, and especially around the holidays it makes you feel good about yourself for doing something for someone else!
I hope this helped
my boyfriends birthday is on wednesday and he'll be turning 18 . We've only been dating for two months so I don't want to spend too much money but I really like him so I want to get him something nice. He plays guitar and loves football lacrosse and hockey.
Does he have a favorite football team? if so go to your local sports shop (fanzz) and get him a football with his favorite team on it. (around 20-25) you could get him tickets to go watch a hockey game. Even take him out to dinner on his birthday. Good luck!
Hope this helped.
Sami
hi ya, i want the advice from guys please. my boyfriend says, ''we don't need a baby yet as we don't have a enough money to look after and we just can not afford the baby yet, he says.'' is he not want to,'never' or what does he thinking actually? we've been together for two years now. cheers.
I am not a guy but I can give you some advice... babies cost a lot more that most people think. He knows both of your financal situations and does not think you can afford it. Talk to him and see if he wants to have a baby any time soon, and if he does, maybe you guys could set up a bank account to save for a baby. When you both feel you have enough you can plan to have a child.
I hope this helped and good luck!
Sami
What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with?
If a guy is with a girl and ashamed of her then he shouldnt be with her in the first place. If he still sticks around the girl should leave him. She needs someone to be proud of her and want to show her off like she deserves!
Hope this helped, if you have any other questions feel free to message me personally.
im 18 years old and a dude.
how do i heal from a heartbreak? ive dated this girl for a year, and now we broke up. how do i get better? it sucks honestly, but any tips?
Go out with your friends. Do anything you can to keep your mind off of her. I know it is easier said than done but if you stay busy it helps. Don't go places you two went, put anything that you have from her and put it away in a box, and put it in the attic. If you kept her for a year you can find someone else i promise! You don't have to start dating right away but call some old girlfriends of yours, or go out and get some cute girls number.
Hope this helped! if you need anything else feel free to message me personally(:
Coming from My Heart
Okay, This is going be Long becouse I have Hard time explaining how I feel in a short message. I know that the Advice Column People Don't like it very long. Sorry but it hard to me to explaine what My advice question going to about becouse it going be more just one little problem, not like big issue but it seem like it is. Please try to bare with me.. let me tell me about my self so it be eas for somone understand why it hard me writ and try help others people understand what I am tr to say. I am Hard of Hearing and I am mabe 4th Grade Reading Level and I have Reading Comperhion problem and yet spelling so I ty best to spell wirth and use good grammer. I am 26 years old, I don't Drive. I live with my parents and I babysit a boy that is hard of hearing and have problems and he is 3 and i babysit once a week becouse he is in preschool now. I also have Klippelfeil and Cleft lip and palate.There few subject I will tell why I am righting this "Relgion" I belive in God and I have a Big heart, I understand the Bible Little Bit some of the stories and Celebrated Hoildays and Me and My family are christains and we Go church with my parents. untill now i met somone and dated guy for a year. he is very nice and funny and get along pretty good. he don't aruge or anything but hase alot of option abut things. well thing hs he say him and his famil were catholic untill one of there family Member met somone whoes is different, they go to like a small church fo family who read the stright out of the bible and that they don't belive man made laws and don't like how "We others" celbrated Hoildays and that they say the crosses are pegans. Okay I do understand wh they do it. i mean i know seem waste time people do hoildays and stuff. but thing is from my Heart i feel like God know why people have there poupose and we belive we are soppose to serve God. and I know that. but thing is that I don't know i feel right going there chruch and my boyfriend like it when i am with him. but it hard for me hear what Lady that they have there talks. she little off and give me headache when she talk. thing is frist time i met her she not know me at all and Frist thing come her mouth asking me where i go church and i told her and she seem like roll her eyes over. ok maybe i know some poeple take there eye ball move over look like they are rolling there eyes. other thing si that I do care and love my boyfreind. and i know we all accpect who we are he try not change me or anything and try help me understand like ido have angel on m selff and i don't worship or anthing and telling me one of God comment says don't make Imange of heaven and the earth. I understand that but i don't see why its so evil about it. i mean i know that there more in heaven then we think. but thing is my Heart can't take it anymore it like people Being oppessed with Policts and i like keep quest and I don't know what to do and Another topic "Sex" okay remeber I say I have Klippelfeld? ok here what it is Klippel-Feil Syndrome is a rare disorder characterized by the congenital fusion of any 2 of the 7 cervical (neck) vertebrae. It is caused by a failure in the normal segmentation or division of the cervical vertebrae during the early weeks of fetal development. The most common signs of the disorder are short neck, low hairline at the back of the head, and restricted mobility of the upper spine. Associated abnormalities may include scoliosis (curvature of the spine), spina bifida (a birth defect of the spine), anomalies of the kidneys and the ribs, cleft palate, respiratory problems, and heart malformations. The disorder also may be associated with abnormalities of the head and face, skeleton, sex organs, muscles, brain and spinal cord, arms, legs, and fingers.
OKay about sex organ.. I not start my period ever. I have to take Birth control to start and hel with my hormones. well thing is I can't feel anything i mean when i grinded i gusse i feel little and goes away. but thing is i am not even sure i well be surpise some of girls who read this i don't know if i like Sex that much. i am not Gay please don't judge or say something like that. i think it my Hormone level is very Low and that I do enjoy kissing and i touch him yes there. but sometimes i not sure even right back to Reliigon. I feel like God not want us use our body only for make babies. I always try stay postive and want love him and i think his parents and family like me and i know my family like him too but i don't know if i feel it aymore and i like being with him and he like being with me alot and I am afaide hurt him. not want him think it all of Religon stuff and htat. i think it jut part who i am maybe not ment have A boyfreind or i don't know. maybe i just enjoy havbing somone talk to and be with. and another thing is about living with my parnets and not driiving. i seem get little lazy. i mean i am on compture alot and on facebook i know everyone is. i try to be more like engery wise. like i do Loundery and clean stuff. and i have freinds who i don't see or talk to much. becouse busy and livie far away. I am Happy and sometimes i do kinda wish I do mroe. like go school or be a writer or et maybe hopley with new Goverment people help people with disbity get a job and stuff. i try that programs they not quillfy me. don't know what it is. I am looking for more postive outlook and hopley somone understand. and i try explaine it to my boyfreind but hard to explaine i don't htink he gets it. hopely somone dose.
thanks. Little Butterfly...
okay sweetheart... if you dont feel comfortable going to his church just talk to him about this. Tell him you believe in something different and there is nothing wrong with what he believes in you just cant do both it makes you feel like your doing wrong. There is nothing wrong with believing in something else than your boyfriend, many people do this and they are still together you just have to meet each other in the middle on some things.
As for the sex situtaion maybe talk to your doctor. maybe there is something you can do or take to make you have more feeling down there. If you can feel a little bit that is better than nothing. Not everyone likes sex. and you wont be the first or the last. If you dont like it dont feel weird. Maybe you guys need to try something different to make it more enjoyable for you. If you dont feel comfortable doing sexual things dont do them. No one is forcing you to sweetie. Talk to your boyfriend about this issue too. If you guys have been together for a year you have to feel comfortable talking to each other about things right? It is always good to have an open relationship where you both know what is going on in the relationship and what your partner is feeling also.
Everyone likes having someone there for them, but it sounds like you and your boyfriend have a healthy relatioship. You have been together for a year and you dont argue much. That is a very good thing. If you love him i think that you should stay with him. You guys make each other happy. Yet if you feel it is wrong to be with him or you dont want to be with him anymore this is something he needs to know. The choice is up to you.
Wanting to do more with your life is normal. Why dont you and your boyfriend plan a couple of activities a week. Go for walks or something fun yet simple just so it gets you out of the house and makes you feel like your doing something. There is nothing wrong with being on Facebook and the computer a lot. There are people who spend all day on the computer.
I truly hope this helped atleast a little bit.
If you have any other questions feel free to message me personally!
-Sami
My ex boyfriend (who broke up with me 3 months ago) text me saying he still loves me and can't get over me. But he isn't sure what he wants. He apologised for how he's treated me since we broke up and the day later he text me again saying he did mean what he said yesterday.
I'm so confused :/ What does he want? Attention?
Well he obvously cares about you just isnt sure what he wants. You need to talk to him and tell him that he needs to decide what he wants because he cant just keep dragging your heart around like this. He either wants to be with you or he dosnt. End of story. If he wants to be with you, he will. If not you guys either need to stay friends or quit talking period. But it is really up to both of you.
Hope this helped!(:
If you need anything else feel free to message me personally!