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Im a really cool person who loves to talk and give advice.i love volley ball and soccer and im makin all As and Bs in school(finnaly)!!!i am currently single and supa excited to finnaly be in highschool!-anyway I am really good at writing and really want to wright a book but i know i dont have the patients for it. ive been through alot of stuff and im still here so im thankfull for that. i truelly hate people who constantly complain about the things they have because they want something better. Kids are much more fortunate than many people in other contries.they should be proud they have the freedom they enjoy and the beautiful life they live. i apprciate everybreath i have and every day that i am on this earth living the good life i live. heres some advice to people who need it now. if you have a problem always ask for help. dont think you can solve any problem on your own. youll just make the situation worse. also dont think less of yourself at all. some people dont understand that u are as powerful as the most powerfullest person in the world if you just beleive in yourself. feel free to ask a question because i will answer!!!!!!!!!!!! lots of luv ! peace!!!!!!!!!!

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what are some cute funny things i can put in my myspace headline? thanks :) 14/f.

----take me drunk, im home---dont hate me becuase im beautiful,sike you can hate me!lol!hope this helped---never take life seriously,nobody gets out alive anyway---there are no stupid questions,just stupid people---it takes 45 mushard work never killed anyon,but why take the chance---cles to frown,but only 3 to flip the bird---if love is blind,why is lingerie so popular---when theres a will,i wanna be in it---the road to success is always under construction---car service,if it aint broke,we'll brake it---whatever it is,i didnt do it!----lmao!well thats all ive got!hope this helps!!!!!!!!

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ok my bf and i arent sexually active and havent gone past making out and right now we dont want to go past making out but i want to know how to turn him on and get him excited just by touching him and stuff but not anywhere near his pants lol. and nothing having to do with nibbling anything please haha we havent been dating long and i dont want to move fast. just what i can do thats sexy and stuff and please i know every guy is different i just need suggestions. and also i know i can always ask him :] thanx

while your holding his hand play with his fingers or massage his fingers with yours.while you guys are making out you can genlty run your fingers threw his hair.slowly running your hands down his back or arms gently is another thing you could do while making out.you could also trying sucking on his neck but if you think thats to far then just stay with gently kissing on his neck!maybe if you two enjoy dancing you could grind on him if thats not uncomfortable to you,or him...although most guys tend to like it alot!well hope this helped!!!

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What is the 'g-spot' in your vagina, and what does it do? I feel really stupid for asking this, but i have to wonder. What does it do also?
Thanks in advance.

: a mass of tissue that is held by some physiologists and specialists in human sexual behavior to exist in the anterior vaginal wall and to be highly erogenous but whose existence and function are doubted by others because of insufficient objective evidence called also Grafenberg spot ....i dont think it does anything but it is used to give the female pleasure during sexual acts..hope this helped!

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Hi, i really like this boy at my school. I'm not sure if he likes me.My best friend said ok well he likes you because she said his best friend told her! "I'm like omg!!YES!" But then sometimes i wonder if that is really true. Like most of the days at school i look at him, he looks at me for like 7 seconds then looks away right after. If i flash him a smile he gives me a weird crooked smile. We don't talk after since elemantary school and were both in middle school.He knows i like him 2.

So is he sending me mixed signals!?
Does he like me?!

please give me advice a.s.a.p

at this tender age guys are very weird with communicating with the opposite sex.he most ikely does like you but is not aware of how to show it without being weird.your young and still in middle school so i say you should be the one to brake the ice!just ask him i he likes you.life is to short and you dont want to go on for the rest of your life wondering if there could have been something good between you to.trus me it is easier said then done but he is just one guy.if it turns out he doesnt like you move on to someone else.and be carefull about what people tell you.hearing news threw the grapevine is almost never accurate so you really dont want to rush to conclusions.the best thing to do is just ask him yourself then youll know for a fact.if your to shy to ask him,write him!well good luck!

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(15/Female)
Recently my mom found my Xanga, I swear I had it on a private lock so I used it as a private journal to deal with my depression and everything going on.

Well, she found it and read everything. She read about my anorexia, fooling around with boys, cussing, smoking, drinking, the one-time pot smoking, the times when I hated her. To make things worse, she was admitted to the hospital the day she found it. She hasn't talked to me about it yet because she's still in the hospital but I overheard her telling my dad she found it. This will be the third time I'll be in trouble this Christmas break. (She already found out about the messing around with boys thing, also about the pot smoking) But still, I'm afraid she won't be able to forgive me.

I'm not sure how I should handle this and how I should get my life back on track. I used to be a straight A, cheerleading, loving life kind of girl.

trust me around your age teenagers tend to have a strong urge to experiment with different things.you might not know it but your mom might have done some of the things youve done!i think the best thing to do is talk to your mom!not to much your dad because he wont be as understanding.at the moment your mom is probably feeling a strong left out feeling because you kept all these thing away from her.she probably feels a certain feeling of dissapointment because she thinks that it is her fault that you have done all these things and kept them away from her!you really need to understand that at your age life is extremely confusing and teenagers feel the need to fit in and be perfect because they think that life would be less stressing.take a moment and try to figure out why you felt the need to do the things you did...explore the possibility of the friends you hang with, what youve seen on t.v.,soomething you read,or maybe problems at home.once you find the problem you can try to solve it.at the time that you did these things it might have felt good at the moment but trust me over time it will begin to become mentally and physically damaging to you,friends,or family(your mom).think about how your actions affects you and the people around you.once you understand the extreme danger of it i think you will be able to cope with your need for unnecessary experiment and be able to turn your life around.please remember that it is not to late to turn your life around and get your life and mother back! you just have to be consistent and believe in yourself!good luck!!!

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heyy. Okay ive been having major issues with my apple ipod nano [regular not video] i'm not going to ask the question here because it requires a lot of explaining and i dont want to waste anyones time. so, if your an ipod or itunes expert or you know a lot about it, please answer this question telling me and i'll ask you personally. thank you so so so so so much in advance. its really been pissing me off. =]

lauren

welllll i might be able to help you depending on what the problem is...so what is it?

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ok my boyfriend likes butt. HOW DO I MAKE MINE BIGGER? like without getting surgery or something

LOL!Well what you can try to do is poke out your butt.If you keep your back straight and stick out your chest it will make your butt look bigger!It might seem kinda akward at first and maybe uncomfortable but it also helps your posture!you could also try to find some nice booty tight jeans that will make it look better and trust me their are always jeans out there that make your butt look bigger!hope this helped!please rate!

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ive been with my bf for almost 9 months and we havent done much sexually only make out he hasnt made much of an attempt and when i do he shys away i asked him a couple of times what going on and finally he opened up a bit and he said that he has a small penis and hes worried about it
i told him i love him and it didnt matter
so eventually he showed me his penis and well it isreally small and hes still embarrassed about it
im not sure what else to do im not going to force him into anything but i love him and i want to have a relationship with him so what can i do?

all i can say is to make sure that you try not to worry yourself or him about the situation! relationships cant and doesnt always have to be physical! i know you really want to take the next step but u have to understand how he feels about the situation! he must not be that physically ready for u to take the next step or else he would openly give himself up!not everyone takes a short amount of time to feel that comfortable.hes probably that way and i think you should find a way to respect that.soon enough he will feel comfortable and it will be well worth the wait!!!hope this helped and everything works out!

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My bf and i are thinking about having sex for both first time so does it hurt a lot? my bf has smaller penis and i talked to a friend of mine whos experienced said her bf has a small penis the first time for her hurt a bit at first then it felt good and that it gets better then person said the same so im still a little nervous does it mainly depend on the size of a guys penis if it hurts a lot?

um..well im a virgin and i dont really know many people that are not virgins so its gonna be hard answering this...but...my guess would be that it depends on the size of his penis and your vaginal area..if you have done something to stretch it out (like masterbating) then it probably wont hurt as much! but if u havnt it probably will hurt but the pain will sonn subside and be filled with pleasure--so the pain i guess is worth it!! hope this helped...sorry i couldnt answer it better(lack of experience)...dont forget to use portection!!!

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I need to know if i'm in over my head. I have this boyfriend, that I love very much. But there's a problem. When he's not around, like going to a friend's house. I like freak out. I start crying for a long time. and I call him as soon as he leave's. I didn't want him to go. But the day after that I left and spent the night over my cousin's house. and I felt bad about going some where. and not letting him go any where. He went but he came back and got me, and I went will him. Is that bad? I can't do anything without him. That I can't be away from him for a day. I don't know what to do. I'm losing my mind. What do ya'll think?

i think you might be emotinally unstable. im not sure what caused this but you should first find out why you cant go one day without him---it could be your not getting the love you need from your family---youve never had a bf treat you good and you might blame yourself so your doin everything to make sure this one works! im not saying any of these are the reasons but just think about them! i think what you need to do is take time away from him! being to clingy can scare him away and i know you dont want to loose him! one thing a guy treauseres is his privacy and personal space like a woman does also and when woman start interfearing with that they get upset! i know being away from him will be extremely hard mentally and maybe physically for you but you have to learn that he isnt going to be able to be with you every second of everyday and once you learn that youll be much better off! hope this helped! best of luck!

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My friend Meg is totally vain. Whenever she sees me in the same place she is, she gets all mad and calls me a "leech" who follows her around. She is only like this in certain occasions, and I don't want to stop being friends with her since she is nice and friendly when she isn't all mean. I get terribly offended by these names (puppy dog, leech, tick, etc.) since it isn't true. We have the same friends, and I see her and talk to her, but I don't "follow" her around. Trust me, I would be aware of it if I did. What should I do?

okay ive been through something similar to this!(trust me)!!honestly what i think you need to do is stand up to her when she says those rude comments! put her in her place! the only reason she does it is because she feels that your weak and dont have the courage to say anything back and when you dont it just makes her feel better about herself(by bringing others down)! she doesnt say those things beacuse she thinks you follow her to much...she says them to make her self look better! talking to her might help(might). but i think what you need to do is the next time she says something like that, put her in her place! if she calls you a tick tell her "well you look like a f-n tick"! i know its sounds mean but what she says is just as mean! or if you cant find it in yourself to be mean then when she says something stand up for yourself--ex.---do you think saying something like that to me is nice? because its not? you call yourself my friend but you constantly talk down to me and im tired of it! if you cant treat me with respect like a real friend would then i personally dont think we should be friends!!! i deffinately think that will make her aware of what shes doing and she will stop...but if she doesnt you really need to stop hanging around her because if a person who calls herself your frined constantly calls you rude names she isnt worth a minute of your time!!! well hope this helps!!!

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I have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?

wow! this is a toughy! only because i prob wouldnt talk to you ethier but...im going to try to put myself in your girlfriends shoes!okay she, i think would first prob be angry at the fact that you didnt tell her!i totally understand that people make mistakes but you dont have a true realationship if you dont have trust!she trusted you and in her eyes you have failed her!if you really love her like you say tell her how you feel! explain to her that you were extrmely drunk and dindt know what the hell you were doing! explain to her that youd rather die then loose her and that it was the biggest mistake youve ever made.explain how you wouldnt be able to live if she werent in your life.tell her your miserable without her!tell her that your so sorry you didnt tell her and that youd do anything to go back and change what happned!and finnally tell her that you love her with all your heart and make sure she knows you meen it!i believe you are sorry for what you did and i believe that you really love her... now all thats left is to make her believe!just dont be afraid to por out your feelings to her! it might seem kinda gay but its the manliest thing to do in a womans eyes!especially in this situation!

well i hope this helped you in some way and good luck to you!

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hey

ok i just moved to a new school and so there is this guy i really really really like and i have neva seen anybody nore cuter than him but the point is that he likes me but he flirts with me too but othere poeple too and i flirt back but everybody dont want me to go out with him but everybody tells me that hes a perv.!!!
but idk
i really like him but at school im always hyper and i cant calm down everday i try to but i cant!!!
and i really want him but this girl likes him too and my sister likes him too and my sister always gets the guys

please help me guys!!!!

let me tell you this...there is a time when you need to go off your own feelings and there is also a time when you need to listen to what others are feeling! if by the slightest chance you even think he is intemently flirting with other girls and also you, you really dont need him! guys that flirt with every girl they can, are dogs! i know at this point in time he might seem like the cutest guy you have ever seen but if he doesnt respect you he dosent deserve you.boys like that play with girls emotion.boys like that use girls and trust me it hurts bad to be used!please dont find out the hard way because you will get your heart broken and it is a painfull thing! he doesnt like you if he flirts with other girls!trust me!now sometimes guys just try to be nice to every girl and it might come off as seeming like flirting!what you need to do is test him!see if he really has strong feelings for you and know one else.dont worry about how your sister gets every guys she wants!if you really want him hes yours and if he really likes you he wont even glance at your sister.

to tell you the truth unfortanately when other people start to tell you that he flirts with everybody 95% of the time those people are right so please make your dicision wisely!

hope this helped!

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so there was this guy and like i really like him and stuff.. and he told me before he likes my friend.. but now he says he doesnt.. and yesterday we hung out and like he had his arms around me like the whole time. and then right before he left he kissed me.. it wasnt like a big kiss but still it was like my frist kiss and like theres a "secret" that my friend told him which was to ask me out..and like i just kept trying to get it out of him and he said when he gets back he'll tell me... but hes in mexico now until next wednesday.. and im scared he wont like me when he gets back...so am i just being paranoid or will he prolly do it??

lol! what makes you think he wont like you? trust me u dont kiss somebody go off to a different country for a week and forget it all happned unless you get some sort of brain damage and loose all your memory! but i highly doubt that! dont sweat it! he will deff still like you!and its not like hes gonna meet the love of his life over in mexico!hes only gonna be gone for 7days! just think...hes probably counting the seconds till he gets to see your face again!try not to be so paranoid!please!

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14/f

i'm not really religious at all. my family doesn't go to church or anything and one day my parents found out i don't really believe in god. and they kinda like freaked and said we're going to start going to church and stuff [we never did]/ k so i have some questions about all this religion stuff.

-who wrote the bible?

-i mean really how is it possible that theres some great god up in the sky?

-who all thought of this? like there had to be someone who came up with this?

-who created these so called sins?

-if being gay is a "sin", why did this god create them?

-how do people know anything of what they looked like or did?



thanks =]

many preist wrote the bible over time.the first was the prophet Moses. well im not really sure if its possible or not for a great god to be up in the sky!its all in the eyes of the beholder-meaning it depends on what your beleifs are!it is never really said what the sins where in the bible but according to the bible preist simply took what was wriiten and made them according to what the bible said was wrong or right.god doesnt create gays!during your life you make the choice to be gay! you arent born gay!im not sure if i undersatand the last question...but im thinking you meen in your past life?this world is full of so many beliefs and religions that its hard to tell whats true and whats made up!some religions say you can spirtally see your pass life and others say that thats pure which craft or not true! hey they could all be true/wrong but that is mainly on the person that decides to go on that certain path!you have plenty of time to figure out what your true beliefs are so dont worry about what your parents are telling you! noone can force you into believing in god! i still am not sure what i believe!you have plenty of time to decide so please dont rush!hope this helped!

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Does anyone know how to delete your account off espin? i hate the emails and i just wanted to try it like a year ago. how do i get rid of it.
thanks soo muchhh!

hey!i did some research and hefre it is!

To cancel your eSPIN-the-Bottle account, follow these steps:
1. Log in to eSPIN-the-Bottle by entering your username and password.
2. Click on the words "edit profile" on the top, blue navigational bar.
3. Click on "edit/update" in the top section (network information).
4. Find the line at the bottom of the page that says "Click here to cancel your account."
5. For security purposes, you’ll be asked to re-enter your password.


im also bout to delete mine!(same reason)!lol!

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Me & my boyfriend have been dating for a year what are some sexy ways i can get him hard. It's not like I can't but I wanna try something unexpected. Got any ideas?

lol! well u can try giving him a lap dance or like phone sex or something! or some sexy dances with him( u know like grinding or something like that)!hope this helps!

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I need some really GOOD, HATEFUL songs about someone betraying you! THANKS. :)

three days grace--(i hate)everything about you
Eamon--f**k It(i dont want you back)

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im almost 15 and ive got a very small penis
its really embarrassing will i get bigger?

it most likely will! you might think that your old enough for your penis to be at its biggest size but dont forget you are still growing and it most deffinately will keep growing! porfection takes time! and always remember its not the size that counts, its how you use it!lol! hope this helped!

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As you can tell im an 11 year old boy and theres a girl in my grade that I realy like and I think she likess me to what should I do. And also if I meet a girl and start talking to her and we like each other should I kiss her. And last if I see a girl how do I make the move to go talk to her.

your young so dont be afraid to take chances.if you like a girl and there is any feeling that she might like you ask her!!!! if you wait for her to or you posepone then her intrest might change to someone else!your young and just remember if she doesnt feel the same way you have many years ahead to find someone else!shes not the only girl your gonna have a crush on!!when your talking to a girl its best to wait a while till you guys start to get phisical! you dont want to pressure her or make it seem like you have to kiss her and she has to kiss you.always make sure that she is ready to move to the next level.kissing is a bigger step then some people seem to think!!and last i beleive that for most guys the hardest thing to do is talk to a girl they like. heres some tips! start by giving her compliments about what shes wearing or her hair( i just wanted to let you know that you look really pretty today)! something along that line! then you can start making convorsation( anything from how her day is going or what shes been up to lately or her intersest/dislikes) its really good to try to confort her if shes every upset/mad/or sad about something!let her know you care! let her know that shes has someone to talk to if there is ever something bothering her! let her know you care about what she has to say!and remember you dont always have to say it in words! your actions sometimes speak louder then your words!!!hope this helped and good luck!!

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