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14/f/freshman
and i'm like nervous ha. he's going to be meeting my stepdad and i don't know. i don't know what were gonna do, should i rent some movies? should i get them before or like have him come with me? ahh i know i sound like a dork, but everything i do turns into an awkward situation.. any ideas and advice would be awesome :D
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take him with you so both of you can choose movies you both like and then there shouldnt be any complication. Dont be worried just dont think to hard about like one thing because then if you do figure that out then its to late to figure something else out just take them as they come and i really do think everthing will bo ok. Just tell me if you need anymore advice.
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okay 14/f
I just turned fourteen this month, and I still have never had an actual boyfriend. I havn't really kissed a boy either. I mean not to brag or anything but people tell me I'm really pretty. But I sort of feel lonely because it seems that everyone already has someone, and don't. I'm not one of those people who just go out with people for the heck of it. I just need someone who will make me feel good, because I'm sick of having no one. Please help me! =) (link)
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well there is someone for everybody and i mean it might take a while to find someone and maybe the first boy kiss could be you one true love and dont let anybody tell you that your to young to have a true love cause im engaged and im in love i proposed to my fiance when i was 14 years old and im just 15 but im very mature for my age im actully by doctors terms im 21 but i aint rushing my childhood and my fiance is 18 but is a child at heart and we love eachother so much and you know you will find him like i tell everybody it takes time and just look at the signs closely.
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Okay so I had this boyfriend, Adam. He cheated on me. I'm really angry at him, but I'm going to forgive him eventually; it's just going to take time. Now there's this really nice guy I just hung out with recently, Ryan, who I kind of like, and I'm not really sure if he likes me. But, one of my best friends likes Ryan, too. Now, I'm not sure what to do. Adam is aware I like Ryan, my friend knows I like Ryan, but Ryan doesn't know I like him. Part of me thinks that I shouldn't even be be trusting Adam; what he did was so stupid and hypocritical and just really hurt. But I don't even know if Ryan likes me, and my other friend really likes him, so maybe this whole thing with Ryan will just mess up my possible second chance with Adam AND my friendship. Would I be a horrible friend if I were to ever date Ryan? (which is totally hypothetical because it just seems like he likes me, I don't actually know) I don't know what to do... advice? (link)
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Ok well first Adam he really needs a realty check he does not deserve a second chance if he cheated on you once then he will do it again i help teens with getting over people that have hurt them by cheating on them and i really dont like it and if your friend is really truely your friend she will understand that you like him and is going to try there is a old saying that goes love is in only in the heart of the beloved which means love will only be with you if you choose to chase it down and grab it even if it takes alittle sacrifice. I really understand how you feel after he cheated on you i was cheated on alot of the time but you know i was about to give up and something told me not to give up and a week later i waited and suddenly i got a call from one of my family friends and she asks me if i would like to go to the mall and movies with her and her cousin which i didnt even know she had and i knew her my whole life and didnt meet her cousin until then and now her cousin is now my fiance and we are so in love and i guess you probaly didnt want to hear all of that but all im saying is dont guide your heart let it guide you and if you need any more advice just ask.
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ok so id seen this guy around school and we kind of knew each other just through other people. so i sent him a request on facebook. but rite wen he added me, he sent me a message that just said, wassup. so i messaged him back, and basically our conversation lasted for 2 days, because we both got on and off in between. we werent really talking about anything special, but it was definitely flirting and i was starting to like him. we exchanged numbers and then we started texting A LOT. and at school after our conversation, he would give me hugs and like to always get hugged up with me, but i dont know why. and this was at the beginning of the week and now he doesn't do much. then on facebook he just changed his status to, "will u be mine" and i havent really seen him talking to anyone else so im thinking its me. basically i just want to know what he's feeling about me rite now, but id really want to ask him, bcuz hes the kind of person who would try to avoid me after asking a question like that. what should i do? (link)
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Well you know he's giving you a big flashing sign and you know you really should go for it because he's pretty much is saying you know make a move on me cause i really want to know if you will go for it and notice it so go for it hes telling you he really likes you but might be shy so you know show him you like him and want to be with him.
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16/m
My girlfriend always thinks I'm lying to her. For the smallest things. And I don't have a history of lying, so I don't know why she thinks so.
I'll say something like, "Today I went to the store and got skittles..." and she'll be all "stop lying to try to get attention." I don't know why she thinks I lie. I don't make a big deal of it though cause I don't want her to get mad.
Any help here? (link)
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Well she could have dated many guys in the past that have either cheated,and or lied to her. What I think you should do is sit down with her and ask her if there was past realationships that have lied to her and has made her worried that every guy lies, and or cheats on her. It seems like she has alittle trust issue's and you know she need's a gentleman that will hold her with trusting arms and to let her know that she can trust you with her heart and words and love, you know just show her, do something amazing for her that she could never believe.
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Theres this guy, we'll call him Joe. I've known him for about 3 years and we're not really "close" but we can pretty much talk about anything and enjoy seeing each other. Were both flirty towards each other but we go to different schools now so its not easy to spend time together. I think we both see each other as an potential boyfriend girlfriend, but haven't talked about it at all.
He's conservative and wouldn't be outright "promusicous" I guess you could say. He's had a girlfriend before, but there relationship was pretty conservative as well.
What I'm saying is, how can I get him to make a move? I have a formal coming up, and I'd really like him to go with me, but I dont think he has any idea I like him! What can I do to subtly let him know I'm interested without being too forward and let him know its okay to make a move? (link)
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i say just talk to him and tell him how you feel because most guys like the girl to open up to him and tell him stuff and they like how a ladie will show her independance sometimes they dont but most of the time they do so go for it and you know yall will probaly be together.
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ok so i have a boyfriend problem. (he just turned 19 and i'm 15 going on 16 in february.)(that's not the problem though) so anyway, he tries to control me too much. we threaten to break up with each other but we never really do. He has a court date in 2 days for "trespassing" into my house. (It was behind my dad's back and my dad caught him in my room). i really don't want to break up with him, but he said that if i say no to him one more time about something, he'll smash my head into the sidewalk. I don't know what to do...i say no to him when he asks me to not talk to any of my guys friends, not to see my friends on the weekend, or to call him twice a day, everyday. i just don't want to and i think i should get my freedom... (link)
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Listen you need to talk to your dad and get a retraining order on him and get him for threating you because how dare him even ever think about hitting you or any women in that matter he must be a wimp. get protection from him by telling your dad and going to the police ok ive delt with people before they are crazy just get help ok.
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There is this girl at my school and she is amazing. She is always happy, extremely nice...and i swear she is friends with everyone! I'm really falling head over heels for this girl. I've noticed she acts a bit different around me now a days...and I was wondering...did i do something wrong? She always looks at the floor and has trouble keeping eye contact with me. Plus, she giggles a lot? Is she laughing at me..something I do? Anyway, it would help if I knew what these meant. A few weeks ago i started a secert admirer thingy. I've sent her flowers and wrote her short little love letter/poem things. Any chance she found out or something. Should I stop with the whole 'secert admirer'...do girls think that's lame? Well, anyways, I'm planning on asking her out, but I'm really nervous and I'm not too sure how to ask. I really like this girl, i want to impress her, put a smile on her face.
Any suggestions? Thanks in advance! =) (link)
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Well it seems that she obviously like you come on shes falling over you the reason why she is looking at the floor and not keeping eye contact is because she most probaly has a crush on you and the giggles are a girls way to be nervous around you which obviously means she's admireing you or crushing on you either way is great. I really truely think that you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel and well the secret admirer thing it really only works if they end up knowing who it is but really when you do tell her if you do just be yourself if you lie she will know just be yourself cause they will find out and only you lose if you do lie to her but Go for it and tell her how you feel.
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like if once someone has a crush on you but youre not sure whether they do anymore..? because if someone liked you in the first place then didnt would it be possible for them to like you again? there must have been something there that they liked? (link)
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yes it does in some cases and the reason for that is in the mind of indivduals have like a little button that when the cutain peson comes along that the button is pushed and were the crush starts and may end but its never erased its still deep deep inside of the mind just like every memory you have its just asleep and just one scent or touch of an object can awake that feeling or memory but yes to anwser your question yea most cases they can be awoke.
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Okay, so here's the deal: I have a boyfriend and one of my friends has a crush on him. I haven't been friends with this girl very long either.
Okay- she was flirting with him a lot...and it was bugging me. So i talked to her about it. The first time she was all like "oh, sorry.okay" She didn't stop. So i talked to her AGAIN! and she said "oh my god! i's so sorry! I hate it when friends think that! Okay, I'll stop. It will be hard, but I'll try." (link)
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Ok well she is taking you as a joke after you asked her to stop the first time should have been enough and he really shouldnt let her even touch him exspecially since she has a crush on him and even if he doesnt do anything back she's getting what she wants she's trying to get yall apart dont take her as being dumb because people like this they act like it but they know what they are doing she know's if she gets you all wilded up about her and you get pissed and him and she thinks thats going to lead up to you breaking up with him and then she gets the rebound so you need to face her and tell her off the way it is with out phisical outbursts because then she will have her share but i tell you you let it go and sooner or later she will get more envolved with him and its just going to get more and more bitter to get her away.
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ok srry if its long... ok so i like my best guy friend and he is seriously my best guy friend...he tells me stuff that he doesnt tell his friends..and he used 2 go out with my best friend but she broke up with up with him. .and i just found out a couple months ago that i have feelings 4 him and like i asked him if he wanted 2 go with me and a couple friends and he said that that would be cool and i said cool and my soon to-be uncle asked him on aim if i asked him out what would he say and he said he would probably say no because were just really really good friends but he said yes when i asked him 2 the movies even though i no its not a real date or anything...anyways later that nite on aim my soon 2 be uncle asked him if he thought i was pretty and he said that i was and then my uncle said i thought u didnt like her and he said i dont but she is pretty...but idk wat 2 do about any thing anymore plus im getting a cold that i dont want because i want 2 go 2 the movies with him plus were getting our report cards this week and i no im gonna get grounded because i have"D" in english but i wanna go 2 the movies because of him and because im getting surgery next monday on the 19th on my knee and i wont be able 2 go any where..oh yeah and he said that he was definitly gonna call me as soon as i get out of surgery...(when were on aim he gives me a winking smiley everytime 1 of us is about 2 log of)....but i think hes giving me mixed signals... and since im sitting out of gym once hes done gettin his gym clothes on he always comes and sit next 2 me and when gyms over he always comes and sit by me until its time 2 go then he just walks me 2 my locker or my next class.....
thanx in advance!! (link)
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You know really he might really like you and not tell you and he definitely will not tell your soon to be uncle because he know's that your soon to be uncle will tell you and either he is playing had to get or he's smart because you see how great yall are together as best friends well he might not want to risk yall's relationship as best friends and yea he might feel the same way that you do but he just doesnt want to lose you as a very close friend while risking that if yall do get together and then yall were so close that it really messes up yall realtionship as friends But you i really feel that if you can sit down with him alone and talk to him and if it comes to yall going out just take it slow and im telling you right now dont let people tell you that you will never last together because if you keep communicateing and take it nice and slow or how ever you feel yall would like to go. So just sit him down and ask him go for it.
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Hi, I'm 19 years and I have been with my boyfriend for close to a year now. We love each other very much but we disagree on the idea of marriage. He thinks its just a security blanket for many people and being with one person forever and having kids (without the legal bond) could be just as fulfilling. But for me, it is a bond that causes two people to work hard for the relationship, it is respected and all kids want their parents to be married. Is it smart to sustain a relationship where 2 people disagree on something so important? I know were stil young but a few years down the line if someone doesn't change their mind, it would be that much harder to let go. I'm very confused about this. I don't want to be someone's girlfriend forever but I don't want to break up! Please help (link)
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Well then if you love him and he loves you well then he should understand that you really want to get married if not be now but later down the road and see you just have to think if you really feel that you want to be married and then have kids well you need to sit down with him and really truely ask him if he truely loves you and ask if he feels that even a little strongly about getting married to you and if he doesnt then maybe you should think about not breaking up with him but see other people and then if you find someone that you think youll go better with then fine but maybe hell see that you feel strongly about it and think about it and just put your heart into everything before you say anything to him.
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If a guy likes a girl, why do their pupils dilate? Is it just a nervous reaction? (link)
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Well it could be that their lying or in most cases they really do like you or whom but are nervous and are really afraid of what you might say or whom might say to them and most of the time guy's have a hard time with taking denial because some guy really do like a girl and if they say no they are lost but i would count on that he really does like the girl and that is why most of the time girls have to take action and ask the guy out if she belives he likes her.
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