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She tickled him? Uh, i shouldn't be too worried-right?
Okay, so here's the deal: I have a boyfriend and one of my friends has a crush on him. I haven't been friends with this girl very long either.
Okay- she was flirting with him a lot...and it was bugging me. So i talked to her about it. The first time she was all like "oh, sorry.okay" She didn't stop. So i talked to her AGAIN! and she said "oh my god! i's so sorry! I hate it when friends think that! Okay, I'll stop. It will be hard, but I'll try." << Okay...WHAT!? it will be hard but i'll try? But i let it go. Now today, she was tickling him. I don't know why this bugs me so much because well, i know it doesn't mean anything really. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and stuff and he said he would never do anything to hurt me. And i know he meant it because when i was bummed out about her flirting and stuff...he was upset. He blamed himself for the pain i felt. I told him not to, but he did anyway. But ANYWHO that part was solved...at least i thought so. well, she's tickling him now. Should i really be bothered by this? I don't really want to say anything more to my 'friend' because i'll sound like she cant be friends with him because he's my boyfriend. I don't want to be the girl who wont let her boyfriend have other girls as friends. Another thing, a group of students (including me, my 'friend' and my boyfriend) are going to quebec next semester, and this girl threatened my boyfriend that she would tickle him the whole way there. I don't know what to do anymore. I realize that this girl flirts and stuff with everyone's boyfriend and all kinds of other guys, but could she at least...i don't know, stop? I realize that people can't just stop suddenly, but if she made a better effort than maybe i wouldn't be so bothered. So, what should I do about this?
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Ok well she is taking you as a joke after you asked her to stop the first time should have been enough and he really shouldnt let her even touch him exspecially since she has a crush on him and even if he doesnt do anything back she's getting what she wants she's trying to get yall apart dont take her as being dumb because people like this they act like it but they know what they are doing she know's if she gets you all wilded up about her and you get pissed and him and she thinks thats going to lead up to you breaking up with him and then she gets the rebound so you need to face her and tell her off the way it is with out phisical outbursts because then she will have her share but i tell you you let it go and sooner or later she will get more envolved with him and its just going to get more and more bitter to get her away.
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yes i agrre with the person below me and just wanted to let you know that you can't let her pull any of that okay it will be hard but ill try crap! because obviously it's hard for a reason! it wouldnt be hard if she didnt like him and she was a real friend! also if she was a real friend she would back it up and stop huritng you like that! gosh this sounds exactly EXACTLY like what happened with me i was like i dont want to be that gf who doesnt want his bf to have no friends! i want him to know i trust him and stuff which im sure you do but i understand that you dont want some otehr girls paws all over your man!!!! pshh id get so mad at her right now! hmm well if i were you i'd just try and tlak to my boyfriend more and maybe tell him to tell her to stop.. get him to be like i dont think ____ likes it when you do that or something??/ hmm but you really dont want this "friend" to get in the way of your relationship if she really is the friend she says she is
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Right now, you're looking at your friend when she flirts, one day... look at your boyfriend and see how he reacts when she flirts. If he flirts back, interrupt the moment and say "excuse me but I need to talk to you, NOW!" and then be like "what are you doing? you're flirting back with her!" BUT, if he is not flirting back with her, take your friend and once more tell her what she is doing. Then tell her that you don't feel comfortable when she is doing this to your boyfriend. Also tell her what your boyfriends expression is like. So if he is all like "ugh, get away from me" then tell her that he feels that way and that she should open her eyes and see whats going on.
I'm sorry to say, but you were born with a soft heart. Now i'm not saying thats a bad thing, its a really really good thing, but right now you're too much of a softie. Try to toughen up a little and talk to her and say "HEY! If you keep on doing this, I'm gonna get pissed, and you do NOT want to see me get mad."
If she keeps on doing this, take a small video camera (or a phone camera) and secretly record her while she is flirting. Or maybe even have one of your other friends record it for you and just be like standing next to her. Then later show it to her and be like "see what you're doing?"
Oh and I saw this in a TV show... maybe have one of your other friends be like a spy. Like they hang around her and ask her questions like "do you really like (your name)'s boyfriend?" or "are you flirting with (your name)'s boyfriend to get back at (your name)?" or "are you jealous of (your name)?"
I hope everything works out!
-volleyball2150
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You shouldn't worry- trust his words. a little jealousy i think is good in a relationship- but if it goes too far it will ruin any bit of trust. i was in the same situation a while ago- get your boyfriend to tell your friend to stop flirting with him. he will if he really doesn't like it most likely- i dont know him so i cant really say for sure. but im sure your friend having a crush on him will most likely listen to him than you.
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