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I'm a one of a kind kinda woman, that much is true. My life experiences are amazing; my lessons have been many and many more to come! I've lived about 28 lives, and have acclimated to each one of them; so I'm a bit of a gypsy; able to be one of the locals whenever I land somewhere. I've had alot of pain in my life and alot of lessons have been learned; that's why I'd be a VERY GOOD PERSON TO LISTEN TO: I know........alot. I hate it when people suffer; I'll listen to anything and everything you have to say and you may ask me anything you'd like. Rhona xxxx
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me and my boyfriend got a new kitten a few days ago. he's about 3 weeks old. when we first got him, he meowed alot, and wanted tons of attention. he crawled all over everything, and on top of us. which i can understand, him being scared and wondering who we are. but he still does it. he always wants to sleep with us, and next to us, he crawls all over us, paws on our faces, everything. even when we're eating, he gets on top of us and wants to get our food. i really am starting to feel like me and my boyfriend arent getting a whole lot of alone time, cause the cat wants to be with us. is this normal for a kitten? or are we doing something wrong?
Through experience, I've discovered that the very best way to drive a wedge between you and your sig. other is to get an ANIMAL!
Read and find out how to get it to become a more independent creature; we sleep with 2 italian greyhounds and gee, they don't like it when we're making love, and I HATE IT when they're anywhere in the vicinity. It sucks.
Sorry, but at least with a kitten you can train them!
My fiance mention, for like the third time, that he would like to try new things in the bedroom. His main interest seems to be on a threesome, which is something that he knows I have done in the past. The thing is, I don't want to share him (that's why I commited to him, because before him I only had friends with benefits) and I've told him how I feel. Knowing that he wants a threesome makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him, and like he doesn't really want ME. Am I overracting? I do understand that he has only been with me, maybe he wants to experience someone else... or experience the things that I did before meeting him. I really would like a possible explanation on why he would ask for something that he knows bothers me to even think about.
Hi,
Tell him he's not going to be your fiance if he asks that question a FOURTH TIME!!!!!! (I wasn't finished with my answer and it disappeared!)
If you're going to get married, I'm assuming it's to ONE MAN; not one man and some chick off the street. Men are ALWAYS game for threesomes, so tell him that he;s got 2 choices: To shut up and never ask that question again or bring up the topic (since it's passed; dead and gone) OR to go find someone who's into 3somes and do it (till he realizes it's really just a fantasy and has no 'SUBSTANCE' to it like marriage does!).......It's either YOU or he can take a ride on the way-back machine and try to re-live a past that he'll never be able to locate! Of course you're not overreacting; he's deliberately saying something to you that bothers you..........DOES THAT MATTER TO HIM? Ask him; are you good enough TODAY to be his wife?
Good luck girlfriend,
Rhona xxx
20F.
So before things start getting all hot and heavy with a guy, I'd thought I'd be nice and warn them that I'm a virgin. Well ..no guy ever believes me! They're all like ..yeah right your lying! I don't believe that one bit.
It's not like I come off as a slut, I carry myself well but I think it's because how I look. I'm a pretty girl, I know guys are interested in me which probably doesn't do me well. I don't know how to feel about this, should I be pissed that no guy believes I'm a virgin? I don't know what to do about the situation I guess.
Guess what? People are gonna think what people are gonna think and there's nothing you can do about it. Why should you care? You know what's true, so screw them for trusting you so much that they can't even believe something that's actually NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS IN THE FIRST PLACE!? Ignore,ignore, and ignore their ignorance. You just keep smirking cos you know the truth: that they're ignorant and you're not! What do you do?
BLOW IT OFF; THEY'RE NOT WORTH IT!
And good for you for being a 20 yr old virgin; nothing whatsoever wrong with that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
xxx Good luck, girlie,
Rhona
As I am growing older (19) I want to learn more about how real estate works. I have a really big comprehension problem, so for me it's really confusing to interpret how mortgages work, refinancing, interest, etc. I was wondering if anyone can tell me how you purchase a home, what those terms mean and how they apply to real estate. If there is some youtube video showing the explanation in pictures ( I don't know if that's possible) that will be very helpful too. I have looked all of this up this past hour, and still am confused. Thanks
Hi,
I'm in the midst of selling my house, so I'm knee-deep into it. But do I understand it? Just the peripheral stuff.
ALL you have to do it hit GOOGLE and type in RE 101 and you'll have more answers than you ever dreamed of!
Good luck!
xxxRhona
---------------------------------hi again..........as I go through the process of selling my own house, I've come back to tell you that I meant the answer I gave you to say what it really is: THE HARDEST THING I'VE EVER DONE. SERIOUSLY, I wasnt being a jerk; you've got to have a serious education for all that craziness"\
I wish you all the luck
xx rhona
So there are always ants in our house during the summer time and it frustrates all of us because we only eat in the living room and the kitchen and we clean twice a week.
Do you know how else the ants can get into our house? I don't see any cracks where the walls are and we always have all the doors closed.
And it's just downstairs. I don't know if it's because we have carpeting up here and that's why there's no ants up here or what because it's very frustrating that I call my parents every time I see an ant (because I'm very scared of ANY bug) to kill it.
And we got this bottle last year where you just put it on some sliced cucumbers and I guess the ants will eat some and die. But near the end of summer last year they just started going around the cucumbers sooo it doesn’t work. Plus it leaves this clear film like glue guns, very annoying.
Do you know how to solve this problem? Or maybe even how to prevent it from happening next year? Maybe there's something you can spray outside in front of all the entrances?
Your advice is GREATLY appreciated!
Would you believe they won't cross a line of Arm & Hammer baking powder? Wherever you want to put the stuff (it's kid and animal safe) then put as much down--which is usually equal to the aggravation they've caused you. If they're inside and 'stay behind the line', they'll die. If they're outside and stay behind the line, they're not a problem anymore.
IF ALL ELSE FAILS, CALL TERMINIX; ONE SHOT OF THAT TOXIC MADNESS WILL KILL EVERY CREEPY CRAWLY FOR YEARS!
true that!
Good luck!
Rhona (let me know how it turns out)
Hi Im in between 10-14 (I dont wanna say my real age) and female. Im highly sure that I have a Generalized Anxiety Disorder but Im afraid to and dont know how to tell my Mom and I cant tell my Dad or Step-Mom cause they dont even believe that I have asthma (and I do) But everytime I say like I dont feel good or my asthma is getting a little worse (which it kinda is) then she just rolls her eyes like Im being a hypercondriac (same with my Dad) and Im not old enough to go to the doctors by myself and I dont even want to go to the Doctors cause Ive been there lots of times for other non mental issues. How do I handel this before school starts again?!
Hi Sweetie,
I have GAD, too, and it's just what it is: a problem you're having that's preventing you from living your life with the freedom a 10-14 year old should have.
You need to sit your parents down and tell them your symptoms; get your facts from the internet and print them out and TELL THEM/SHOW THEM that THIS is how you feel and as your parents, they need to address the situation and get you on some meds or therapy or SOMETHING before you end up being miserable all the time.
You can do it; your life depends on YOU standing up for YOU!
I'm a dancer, and I have to choreograph a dance to one word: Purity. That's the theme. Does anyone have any song ideas?
YES I DO~~~~~~~~~~~~George Winston; GOTTA HEAR HIS WORK. It's all piano but the loveliness of the strain of sounds he produces creates images of fairies, love, conflict, reinvention, sorrow, joy.............December may not be the name of the cd, but it's got December (and other seasons I think) as his song titles. His work is as pure and lovely as it gets. His music will inspire you beyond inspiration; I promise!!!!!!!!!
that was easy,,,,,,,,,,,,,let me know what you think and how it goes, k?
xxRhona
I recently took a mid management position with a retail chain , this being after I held a temp position at another retail chain. While working the temp position I was basiclly tormented and then assualted by a black coworker for no reason other than she just did not like me. I now have the duty of supervising a "young lady" who is also black and has given me hell since I walked in the door. When it is convenient she bullies me and will go to "the bathroom" and talk on the cell for for up to an hour if possible. I am a married woman, I am 5'0 tall, slender because I work my --- off, blond and blue eyed and at the same time probally 20 years older than this employee-but was told that she resents me because of my appearance. - I have already talked to my manager but she makes sure she acts okay when he or coworkers are watching.
Take a strong stance, look them in the eye and tell them that if theyve got a problem with you, then they need to work through it cos you're the woman in charge. Pull them aside and tell them that you're not there to make them like you; you're there to do a job. And yes; you're exactly who THEY want to be so they bully you. Don't cower, but don't become aggressive. Be strong and stand up to them and either ask them SPECIFICALLY, "What is your major malfunction, fool?" or ignore them and laugh it off. If they go to the loo and talk for an hour, surely you have an hour to find a supervisor; right? ONE THING TO DO FOR SURE: keep a record of what happens with them, what they do, just write it all down, time, date, the whole bit. Women of all colors have always acted like they hated me without knowing me FOR MY WHOLE LIFE. They;re jealous but they're stupid; I'm a great person and fun to be with so they will never know and will live with that feeling of hatred inside of them forever, since admitting they're jealous is NOT going to happen. Don't be their friend since youre middle management and can't do that, but you CAN be friendly, tell them specifically what you need them to do, (write it down) and ignore the foolishness that comes out of their mouths. I have lots of black women who are my friends because they're BLACK, PROUD OF IT, and dont even give it a second thought; they're just women, like me!!!!!!! My daughter was threatened in High School by 'a gang of black girls' who obviously were ashamed of being black, since they;re givng you shit for being WHITE AND PRETTY AND PETITE. They're ignorant. And if you don't dog your bosses with this problem everytime it happens, then your bosses suck so you're stuck on both ends. That's when you re-type your resume and get the hell out of there and find work that gives you pleasure; not conflict~~ I JUST KNOW YOU WANT TO LOVE YOUR JOB- so find one that suits you better and never look back. It's just not worth it; think forward, girlfriend!!!!!!! And have pity for them; ignorance and prejudice; bad combo. Who needs it?
xxxRhona
hi, i am 18 years old and have just found out i am pregnant. My boyfriend is 20 years old, we have been together for a year and he is being incredibly supportive. I am meant to go to university in october but i do not know my options in regard to this? If i keep my baby i still want to go to uni but how? i know i can defer a year but after that what are my options? if i start in september i would be due in feb/march so would i be able to take lectures from home etc after christmas and then start my second year proprely? if anyone has any information or knows anywhere i could get this information from i would be so grateful as it may determine me keeping the baby or not. Thanks.
Hi,
I wonder how you feel about being pregnant at 18. IF you feel good about it and your boyfriend does too, here's something to think about:
Having a baby with your supportive boyfriend may seem like a 'good sign' to you NOW, but after that baby comes, a few things will happen-
1. You're going to find out that the things that kids do between 18-28 *the years you learn THE MOST* will be impossible for you to experience. Your friends will be out partying, but not you; you're taking on a HUGE responsbility, and it will rob you of those essential years.........
2. Daddy might just be overjoyed when you have your baby, but he'll soon see the work involved and suddenly it will be YOUR baby, not OUR baby.
3. You don't know enough about life- though I'm sure you're intelligent (except for the getting pregnant part) so you won't be able to share your wisdom with 'it' since you have so little experience with life
4. 2 things; I was pregnant at 18 and I chose to have an abortion because it was the best thing I could do for the litte zygote inside of me (look up zygote and trust me, had I been any further along, I would have probably HAD the baby and put it up for adoption; VERY MATURE THINKING; but tough to imagine...............then I wanted to tell you I have an 18 year old daughter who is suddenly talking about getting a kitten or puppy (she's got an apartment off campus) THEN she started talking about babies and WHOA! This information was just talked about yesterday and I had to ASSURE HER WITH EVERY DROP OF HONESTY that her 'biological clock' was probably 'just formed', giving her a very maternal feeling. I told her that other than HERSELF, she will be responsible for another living creature (cat dog or human baby) and it will prevent her from being free to work on herself and enjoy the next critical 10 years when you're "supposed" to be out there having fun and learning how to become an independent young lady who will grow to be a woman who's got her shit together and will conquer the world!!!!!!!!!!!! You will, instead, be STUCK. I promise you; you don't want and you WONT be happy when you're stuck in the house with a screaming infant. And that's what youll have; an enormous responsibility that you likely will RESENT HAVING (though no doubt you'd love your baby).
A baby will take over your life, and if you choose to keep it, you're going to have a huge mess on your hands. They are difficult, you're not sure what youd "do" with the baby while you attend uni, so your question really gives you all your answers. IT'S CONFUSING (your question) because of all your 'unknowns', so that should tell you what you need to do. I assure you, uni is IMPORTANT AND DIFFICULT, but it's age-appropriate for you; being a mother is not-not yet.
If you dont keep your baby *how far along are you?* then what would you do? abortion/adoption. Search your heart and KNOW that you're not ready to have a baby (you'd lose your mind at such a young age), and the only other option is adoption, which is what I wish more teens would consider, since there are adults out there who are married, in love, have the means to raise a child and are deeply troubled by their inability to have their own child. My opinion is that as you start your life, doing something completely unselfish and yet something that will bring such joy to a couple who yearn for a baby would be the MOST HEROIC THING YOU COULD DO; and the most difficult. But you CAN do it, and don't jump up and send me to hell, but let my words sink in a bit and pray. Ask whatever you believe in (god, allah, jehovah; anything you care to call the universal energy) to give you a clear answer. You're guaranteed to get it.
I had my 2 babies at 35 and 37 years old, and it was COMPLETELY OVERWHELMING...........and by the way, babies don't mean to do this, but they can drive a wedge between you and your loved ones/or your boyfriend in about a week. It simply complicates your entire life, and then the fighting comes in (from your utter fatigue at meeting that little bundles needs) and soon you'll find yourself raising a child on your own; once the deed is done- you're MOTHER FOREVER--------don't you think you have time to grow up a bit and will KNOW when it;s time to start a family? You've got heaps of time, lil girlfriend, now the question is: Which path will you choose? whatever your imagination is telling you about all the cute little baby stuff is SO OFF BASE-BABIES ARE WONDERFUL LITTLE HASSLES, SO I SUBMIT TO YOU: Live YOUR LIFE without being responsible for anyone but YOU, and when the time is right, you'll know it. Whatever you do, don't listen to your boyfriend, because despite his mighty heroic words, whatever he says ain;t gonna happen cos he has NO IDEA WHAT HE'D BE IN FOR. NOT A CLUE.
One more thing; if you should happen to know of other teen moms who are HONEST, you should talk to them. Watch out though; there are teen moms who will tell you it's WONDERFUL and they're saying that so they don;t appear stupid by saying, "I wish Id waited". I forsee a nightmare on one hand, but by making the right decision, I would consider you FAR MORE MATURE AND UNSELFISH than most 18 year olds. Adopting your baby to a couple who've been spending thousands and thousands of dollars trying every medical 'trick' to get pregnant would be SO HARD; but it's the pain in life which teaches us the most, but pain DOES go away, and once it does, you can hold your head up with pride and consider yourself well on your way to becoming a compassionate young lady who did the right thing- your self-esteem will soar and your education will be free of conflict, and in your heart you'll always know that you are a loving enough person to realize that you cant provide a baby with everything a struggling older couple CAN. Tough love. That's what being a parent means: you do what's best for the child and you take yourself out of the picture, since this isn;t about you, it's about the future of a life you're carrying around. What I'm about to say sounds HORRIBLE, but couples pay women heaps of money for a baby, and they take care of you while your preggers. SO BADLY do they want a child that you are the focus of their lives; you're their angel send from God. Consider that. Nowadays you can interview couples and pick the ones you would love to see your baby grow up with. There is no greater sacrifice you can make in life, and it would go a VERY LONG WAY in determining the type of person you are. All the uni and daycare and this and that just shows you how you'd literally be carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders; and you will hate it. You're right to ask those questions, but let me tell you something; THERE'S ABOUT A JILLION MORE QUESTIONS THAT COME WITH YOUR QUESTIONS so please, do the right thing and I can feel that you're a sweet girl who would definitely do her best, but who doesnt have a clue as to what all is involved. google '18 and pregnant' and see what you find. One thing's for sure; youre a high-risk pregnancy since you're not fully developed yourself, and you CANNOT WAIT to make a decision; if my zygote weren;t just a zygote (it's just what babies 'are' before they get a heartbeat, etc, so that's how I justified mY abortion so long ago) then I would have had the baby and put it up for adoption..........but in my day it wasn't as acceptable as it is now; google adoption too. you need a very knowledgable woman to help you and I'd talk with someone at an adoption agency first.
Sweetie, I wish you all the best and I do hope that you know I feel tremendous compassion for you (Hey! I'm a mom~how could I not?) and somewhere in my heart I just know that the choice you make will be spot on........and one you can live with in peace.
with love and i'll be thinking of you; please keep me posted,
xxxxRhona
This guy asked me out last week and I didn't really know what to say. I DO want to go out with him but does that mean I should say, "YES," or what? I don't want to sound stupid or like a total dork when it comes to this. I fumbled around until we just laughed it off and I think I gave him the wrong impression because he hasn't called since. The next time something like this happens and a guy says, "Hey, you want to go out this weekend or some time?" what do I say back?!
Do your best NOT to be nervous about this question.........although I remember how unnerving it can be. I always had lots of guy friends, so I was able to make a joke like, "A date? With YOU??? hmmmmmmmm, lemme think about it for a-----------SURE!!!!!!! (HAPPILY) Why not? But I warn you; I expect to be treated like a princess (little glimmer in eye, sexy little smile)......so just keep that in mind, Boyfriend!"
ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING WORKS BETTER WHEN THERE'S HUMOR INVOLVED. JUST BE YOURSELF, MAKE SURE HE KNOWS WHO'S IN CHARGE, AND go for it!
As for the guy above, you could always go back to him and say, "HEY! WHAT HAPPENED TO OUR DATE?" He'll say something like "I didn't think you wanted to go" and you'll say, "You've got alot to learn about women; maybe I can teach you a thing or two!"
Just be a smartass! Have fun with it; you've got nothing to lose!
Good luck, Princess.........
xxxRhona
Well im 13 and well ive been masturbating for yearssss like well yuo know how babys, they like "touch themselves" well i figured out the masturbating thing when i was like 5. i didnt know it was an orgasam.... duhhh cuz i was five. but i dont think im normal. Am i? and could this happen to other people too??
Hey, whatever makes you feel good and if you're not hurting anyone, then you're just a normal normal VERY normal kid. Just don't try anything funky that ends up killing kids (strangulation)............stick with what you're doing and prime your pump, my friend, it's yours to do with what you want.
So chill, k?
what are some stupid things to do when you are bored? im a girl 14 so don't say anything like drinking etc. i don't care how stupid or dangerous it is, as long as it's fun haha :) something to do with a friend and/or by myself. i live in florida so there's not much to do :/
anything inside or outside. i don't want anything like prank calling, dance to music, go to the movies, put on a puppet show etc. those things are boring! lol, something exciting! just a list of stuff :) thanx
Hi,
I live in Florida, too, and I agree that there's not much out there for teenagers to do. It's like the passed over the teenagers and forgot about them; leaving them to come up with their OWN things to do for fun- and let's face it; teenage-fun can be VERY dangerous and/or ILLEGAL. Sorry that you guys don't have a rec center or someplace to hang out......If you wrote a letter to your City Commissioner and said you WANT TO KNOW WHAT THE CITY IS DOING FOR ITS TEENAGE POPULATION, that def sounds boring, but you could be the voice of teens everywhere! What about babysitting or dog-walking- start a beaded jewelry business or something else that'd be fun to make and sell and get yourself some $$$$$ ? Go to the library and check out a book; reading's fun when you have a good book, plus it makes you smarter. VOLUNTEER- go to the humane society; I know you hate that answer, but you sound like a smart person who might actually try some of these suggestions! IF YOU DO, I guarantee that the reward of the experience will be WAY BIGGER THAN YOU'D EVER IMAGINED!!!!!!!! just TRY! you'll see. What you'll end up being is a very busy 15 year old who is more mature than the rest, and far too involved with life to be bored!!! TRUE!