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I had sex and the condom broke some time but we didn't realize it until we were finished. How much sperm comes out when a condom breaks anyways? I want to know how worried I should be I guess LOL thnx (link)
It totally depends on how long you guys were having sex, and how much he cummed.. When a condom breaks, I would think that all the cum comes out..


Okay, so my mom just saw me publicly swear in a comment of a picture I was tagged in and now she's all up in my grill because I said the f word on Facebook. Aside from this, it's really annoying how all my family members are friends with me on Facebook. I seriously don't know what to do. I feel like I'm choking. I'm thinking about making a new account and just add family members there, but that'd be too obvious. What's the right thing to do?? Please help! I'd appreciate it bigtime.:( (link)
Well, I had a sorta similar situation. My father that lives in a different state thought it would be cute if we kept in touch through FB. I was fine with it, until he kept commenting on my statuses about "studying" or "you're my favorite daughter." So, I kinda warned him politely. I told him that if he didn't cut it out, he would be defriended. I guess he didn't take me seriously, and he found himself unfriended. He was mad for a little bit, but he got over it, so tell your mother and family that FB is not a place to keep their eyes on you, if they don't accept it and keep making references to it, then just simply delete them, as harsh as it may sound.


im making treats for my bffs birthday. what should i make?i want it ti be unique. (link)
http://chinesefood.about.com/od/diningout/r/fortunecookie.htm

I think this is a cute idea. They actually come out nice. I have seen one of my sisters make them before. (:
Hope I helped!


First off, I just turned 14 and Im a virgin. Im trying to stay a virgin. Its not a religious thing. I just heard its better for girls to be virgins because its easier to find a husband that way. Like Im afraid if Im not a virgin, future men wont like me. When I ask guys about it, they tell me it doesnt matter and that the more sex you have now, the better Ill be at it later which makes sense but I dont know who to believe anymore.

I sort of went through puberty early so Ive dated a few guys especially older guys. When I was younger and we would kiss it was nice but I never wanted more. They would want me to kiss or touch their dick but I would always so no. When I was 12, one of my boyfriends kissed my breast which felt so good so I let guys do that which my friends say is second base. I dont think its that big of a deal so sometimes I let my guy friends kiss my breasts and sometimes they rub their dick between my breasts. Then this older guy showed me this thing his older brother told him about. He put his tongue on a very specific part of my pussy and it felt so good. I told some of my guy friends about it and they wanted to try it so we tried it and it felt good too.

Well last spring towards the end of school, my girlfriends got mad at me and told me that I was a slut. Im still a virgin so how can I be a slut???? I think their just jealous that all the guys pay attention to me and want to be over at my house.

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To start off, I would not engage in sexual activity with someone I don't really care about. You are getting into a dangerous area when you let your friends do sexual things to you it's called "friends with benefits." Also, a word of advice is to not go into a high school already having a reputation.. Sooner or later you will care about what people see you as, obviously, because you are upset that your friends are calling you a slut.

Secondly, you should only stay a virgin if that's what you want.. If you do later in your teenage years find someone you are truly in love with, have been with for a while, and think you are ready to have sex, then have at it, because someone that can't accept your past sure as hell shouldn't be in your future.

Thirdly, boys "paying attention to you" will only get you so far, after awhile people will realize that they are only hanging around you for your looks. Honestly, I think you should probably stop fooling around with guys you aren't in a relationship with if you don't want to be labeled with a derogatory label like "slut."


I just started talking to this guy that I work with (at a fast food restaurant). We have been texting every day all day for about a week. We have talked about hanging out in person outside of work and I don't know what to expect because...This guy and I are definitely flirty, but I literally just got out of a 1-year relationship and I honestly don't know how to tell if this guy is a player and is talking to other girls or if he genuinely likes me. What are the signs -- how do I know if this is just how he is with all girls or if he has a thing for ME only? (link)
Well, my best advice to you is keep your eyes open until he proves that he's different.. Since you just got out of a year relationship, I wouldn't rush into anything anyway, so just keep things simple and unofficial, don't go too fast either. Hang out with his friends with him, and trust your gut. Just remember if something feels wrong, it usually is.


17/f
boyfriend left me for another girl, one month before our one year. i can't eat, i can't sleep. i know in time i'll be better but i sincerly do love him with every ounce in my heart. so my head tells me to fucking never talk to his ass again, but my heart screams his name every time it beats in my chest. I know i'm only 17, before him i had another boyfriend for 3 years. Yes i'm young, but i know that i want a loving boyfriend, because my moms marriage is horrible hes abussive and not the man she married. How do i move on? How do i possibly breathe and not think about him.. (link)
I always handle my break ups with having one good night to cry, and then letting go. The best way to not think of something is to stay busy. Hang out with your friends, learn something new, get involved with your school, or get a job just do something to make you not think of him. I know this sounds bad, but sometimes even rebounds work. Just live by this quote for right now: "Never regret something you once smiled about."


Want to tell this guy how he makes me feel but don't know how to.he has been hurt before (link)
I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now, and at the beginning it was VERY hard because he was afraid of getting hurt. The best way to show someone your feelings is being there for them all the time.. You telling them is not going to make the difference, at least it didn't with my case. You can tell someone something so many times, but they have to see it to believe it. So just be patient, and try to be there for him as much as you can without pushing him away by being overbearing.


I've been in relationships since late 2008. It being mid 2010, I'm EXTREMELY used to having a boyfriend all the time. I've been single for about a month now, and I'm over the ex and everything, I just miss having soemone there. I'm a junior in high school and I know a relationship especially now is just asking for disaster, but I love having a boyfriend... it keeps me happy and balanced. So, I'm trying to stay away from boys because of the constant heartbreak. What are some GREAT advantages of being single? I'm NOT used to this at all and I miss the idea of a boyfriend so I just need to be more confident about it. Thanks :) (link)
What I've found out about not having a boyfriend is you obviously get to focus on yourself more. Having a boyfriend is nice, but once and a while, you need a break. Think of it this way, more time to hang out with your friends, family, find new hobbies, and learn more about yourself. The right boy will come along when you're least expecting it, so just have fun and enjoy the ride. (:


i bought a size 24 shorts hopind id loose weight to fit into them.
and i did, but not enough. throughout the summer i would try them on every day and see the transformation.
now they go up my legs and close but rather then my stomach hanging over them (like in the begiinging) it kind of just centers my stomach fat, and all my belly fat is highlighted which obv isnt flattering at all.
im so happy they fit, bc this is the most they fit all summer but im wondering how i could fix the current fitting issue.

obv im loosing weight but any exercises or naything you could reccomend? (link)
With exercising, cardio is the best option to burn calories fast.. If you belong to a gym, as someone that works there what they recommend, but until you lose the weight, just wear a flowy shirt. :p Good luck.


So my boyfriend joined the army and his graduation is coming up, i know it'll mean a lot to him if i go he sent me money. My dad however is old school and he said no. But this guy means the world to me and i want to be there for him and i dont know how should i do it, Im gonna go, but i dont know what to tell my parents. and i dont want to go and come back four days letter wthout telling them anything because i dontwant them to punish me by not letting me see him the 10 days he'll be here (link)
Well, if this boy is your boyfriend, I'm assuming you've met his parents.. Ask your dad if he'd feel more comfortable if you go with them, and that would probably mean a lot to your boyfriend to see you getting along with his family.

If you are not comfortable with doing that, compromise with your dad, try to see his side on things, there is probably a good reason he doesn't want you going, but talking to him and being mature about it is the best way to go on this type of thing. (:

Good luck!


So to day at school my friend said that i was a flamer and i asked what dose that mean she said its a dragon secret ???? i want to know what dose it mean because if i don't find out now i will be so sad because its not nice to keep SECRETS from friends :(.... BY Fatima 9\13\2010....time 8:27...P.s thx (link)
"A very flamboyant, effeminate gay male; One who flames"
^ This is always the definition I have heard for a "flamer."
Hope I helped.


So a little bit about me... I'm fifteen and a sophomore. I have a boyfriend, seventeen, junior. I LOVE cheerleading and tennis I dedicate a lot of time to both of them. My problem is I feel like my boyfriend is overprotective. He gets really worried about me when I'm out of town for cheer and stuff. He's also always telling me to eat more or be careful or remember a jacket... I know he does it because he cares but it feels like he's trying to be my dad anddd my boyfriend sometimes... haha and that's just weird! He's also really protective when it coems to other guys. One year at our county fair a guy grabbed me and took me off behind a ride, he tried to take off my shorts but I got away before anything happened. When I went this summer my boyfriend wouldn't let me out of his hold the entire night. I feel suffocated sometimes. It also makes feel kind of... down. He's always bringing up how small I am and how much I need to be proteced... And yeah... I know. I'm 5'4 100 pounds... I know I'm small, you don't have to make me feel even more tiny and pathetic. I just don't know what to do. I KNOW he cares and I love him to death but I've told him to back off and he doesn't get it. How can I make it more clear?? (link)
Some boys have to be in control, and they also take advantage of that. You have to make sure that one day he won't use that power against you if you're a tiny girl.
You also have to know when your breaking point is, if you can't deal with his controlling personality then you shouldn't be with him, you can't change someone to fit you. If you say to him "Hey, I would like to have a little more space and be independent" and he doesn't understand, there should be a red flag for you that it's time to get out of the relationship.




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