Question Posted Wednesday September 15 2010, 6:27 pm
First off, I just turned 14 and Im a virgin. Im trying to stay a virgin. Its not a religious thing. I just heard its better for girls to be virgins because its easier to find a husband that way. Like Im afraid if Im not a virgin, future men wont like me. When I ask guys about it, they tell me it doesnt matter and that the more sex you have now, the better Ill be at it later which makes sense but I dont know who to believe anymore.
I sort of went through puberty early so Ive dated a few guys especially older guys. When I was younger and we would kiss it was nice but I never wanted more. They would want me to kiss or touch their dick but I would always so no. When I was 12, one of my boyfriends kissed my breast which felt so good so I let guys do that which my friends say is second base. I dont think its that big of a deal so sometimes I let my guy friends kiss my breasts and sometimes they rub their dick between my breasts. Then this older guy showed me this thing his older brother told him about. He put his tongue on a very specific part of my pussy and it felt so good. I told some of my guy friends about it and they wanted to try it so we tried it and it felt good too.
Well last spring towards the end of school, my girlfriends got mad at me and told me that I was a slut. Im still a virgin so how can I be a slut???? I think their just jealous that all the guys pay attention to me and want to be over at my house.
RavenRun answered Friday September 17 2010, 6:17 pm: To start off, I would not engage in sexual activity with someone I don't really care about. You are getting into a dangerous area when you let your friends do sexual things to you it's called "friends with benefits." Also, a word of advice is to not go into a high school already having a reputation.. Sooner or later you will care about what people see you as, obviously, because you are upset that your friends are calling you a slut.
Secondly, you should only stay a virgin if that's what you want.. If you do later in your teenage years find someone you are truly in love with, have been with for a while, and think you are ready to have sex, then have at it, because someone that can't accept your past sure as hell shouldn't be in your future.
Thirdly, boys "paying attention to you" will only get you so far, after awhile people will realize that they are only hanging around you for your looks. Honestly, I think you should probably stop fooling around with guys you aren't in a relationship with if you don't want to be labeled with a derogatory label like "slut." [ RavenRun's advice column | Ask RavenRun A Question ]
flare answered Friday September 17 2010, 1:50 pm: LOL, i hate to break it to you, but, some people may think you are a slut.
You dont need to have sex to be a slut. Taking part in sexual activity with loads of different guys can tag you as a slut. You take part in sexual activity with a wide variety of guys, both old and young, even your guy friends. I hate to say it, but this is what they are refering to. You say its not a big deal, but frankly, guys licking you out, and you offering your body out like hotcakes to guys IS indeed slutty. You cant do all that then be suprised when people call you a slut.
Either realise what you are doing is slutty, or accept the fact that people will call you a slut.
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