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Q: ok my area 'down there' is kind of like swollen. im a girl and i noticed that the flaps are kind of stucking out. are they suppossed to be like that?

eew that is discusting

Q: hi well you know those pink bracelets for breast cancer? where do you get them/order them? please help me!
signed ,
desperate 4 help!

Target.com has them

Q: I love volleyball... but i fucking hate my coaches... they are such dush bags... should i quit or should i stick with it? if i quit i would def. play soccer... HELP!!

if u want you can just play volley ball somewhere else or if you are ready for a change go for soccer! just think about both options and i dont think that you can go wrong! i hope i helped and let me know whaat happens!
~Jen

Q: okay in like 3 1/2 hours my next door neighbor is having a birthday party and im invited. i have no clue what to get him! hes 12 , likes baseball , basketball , rap ! any ideas?

u could get him like an eminem cd or something like that. you could also go to galyans and get him a gift card or a basketball. hope i helped!

~Jen

Q: okay when my hole sophomore year of highschool,i always talked to this 8th grader online..she seemd pretty nice n stuff and we got to be really close friends, but through the internet..she went to school like 5 mins away from my school and she was a friend of my (ex bfs) cousin who im REALLY close with..so yeah we alwaysss chatted online,we gave eachother advice, and told eachother everything...but remember this was ONLINE..i always told her that i would have her back when she comes to highschool, (because she was going to go to the same highschool as me the next yr)..so now im a junior and she is a freshman..and she goes to my school now..ive talked to her in person now, and she is the MOST ANNOYEST PERSON I KNOW. she tries to talk all ghetto, like she'll be like, WHUSSUP NIGGA and like oh shit wuss good giRlllll..and she tries and acts allll tough..she has like NO FRIENDS at all. she thinks i like love her and have her back, but really she is the most stupidest lil kid ive ever met..i never knew she was like this because be4 we usta chat only online so i never really really really knew how she was..i dunno how to like stop talking to her because she is some1 that i kNOW that i wouldnt like if i randomly met her at school one day without us talkin on line for that hole time be4..plzz help!!

what i would do if i was u is just avoid her as much as you can. if u want to you could tell her that she doesn't seem as cool as she did online but in a nicer way. i hope i helped and let me know what happens!
~Jen

Q: my parents will kill me if they see my test score what should i do?

they r just like my parents! once i got a B+ on a quiz and they grounded me for 3 weeks! once after that i got another BAD test score and i needed to get them to sign it for hw but i didn't for 2 weeks. well my math teacher graded me WAY DOWN cause i had like missed hw for 2 weeks. try to tell them lightly so u dont cause a RUMBLE! hope i helped

Q: i went all the way how can i tell my mom

you don't necessarilly have to tell her unless you get pregnant or something like that. if you feel really guilty you can just tell her that you made a mistake and you know it was wrong. if your mom is like my mom than she would get SUPER pissed off at me but as long as I wasn't pregnant she wouldn't be mad for too long. the worst that can happen if you are not pregnant is loose a fw privlages. let me know what happens and i hope i helped!
~Jen

Q: ok i like this guy... ALOT! but there seems to be this little rat face bitch always in my way. and she keeps flirting with him. and i know she is doing it to piss me off. but i dont know what i should do?

if shes just doing it to piss u off then jut start flirting with another guy until 'she' starts flirting with him, then start flirting with your original guy again and if she goes back to flirting with him again he will get the message...guys aren't THAT dumb lol. let me know what happens and i hope i helped!

Q: ok i do alot of modeling. ever since i was little ppl told me i should b a model. im like 5'5 and 98 pounds. im not anorexic even tho ppl think i am but i dont care lol. well i spend alot of time modeling and im really tired n dont have alot of time but i dont want to cut back. should i cut back and model a little less or should i just deal with it? thanx much

i think that you should either cut back a little bit and get more sleep or just take a break for like a week. you would feel better. i hope i helped!
~jen

Q: Theres this girl. We were dating for a year( i know thats preety sad) Now i want to break up with her. How do i brake up with someone without hurting their feelings?

what i do is i say 'i had a really good time going out with you but i feel like we have more of a friend-type relationship.' except i am a gurl and i dump guys that way...but its ok with most gurls too i think.
hope i helped and let me know how it goes.
~Jen

Q: Okay. As you all know Halloween is coming up and I have a problem. Halloween is on a Sunday, and my mom set a curfew of 9:30. (that aint cool!) What can I say to make her let up on the lame curfew?

HELP ME!!!!!!!

you could be like 'mom i can never get to sleep til' like 11:00 anyway so i might as well just hang out with my friends' or something like that. if u keep saying things like that she will give in, trust me the same thing happened with my mom..(gosh parents) lol~
hope i helped and tell me how it goes!
~Jen

Q: Hey I am a 14 year old girl and I really like this guy at school and he knows I like him. He used to like me but I'm not sure he does anymore. Any advice on how to be more flirty or drop a hint that I like him. And how do I figure out if he likes me? Thanks alot!! Ill rate!!

hey!
the same thing is happening to me except for me, the guy that i like is moving to Hong Kong in January! he used to like me but i am trying to figure out if he still does..its hard

what u should try to do it get an excuse to sit by him in class or something, like if there is a spot between him and some1 that you know just sit there and and talk to him a lot. if you have an old inside joke with him bring it up and/or talk about something that has happened b4 with you too. you can also ask him questions like 'do u know what the homework is in math?' and stuff like that.

Q: Okie, here's a little background...my guy and I have been dating for almost 11 months, and we're really serious.
Recentlyish, my mom's been focusing on EVERY little "mistake" my guy makes. For instance, today he was late picking me up for school and she kept saying "I hope he's really coming, because you missed the bus and I'm not driving you." and stuff like that., and I wanted to smack her...Lol. I HATE that she keeps doing this. She takes the tiniest things, like lateness, or the way he's so tight with money and turns them into huge flaws.
I pointed out to her that she makes me think she doesn't like him, and she tells me she's just "looking out for me" and "making sure I see things/the whole picture". Honestly, the only thing I see wrong with him is that he snores on his back...
My guy also thinks my mom has issues with him, and I suggested maybe HE should talk to her about the impression she's giving off, but I doubt he'd do it unless I bothered him about it enough.
The thing is, I've been really careful with this relationship and am able to take myself out of the picture and see what's going on because I want it to work more than anything.
The confusing thing is, mom says she actually likes him. I don't understand her. How do I get my mom to shut up?

my mom is the exact same way, she wants to know EVERY DETAIL OF MY LIFE. it can get so annoying! just tell her to back off a little. i said that to my mom and she was kind of mad at me for a while but she got over it. i think you should just be like 'stop putting my boyfriend down because he feels bad about it and so do i. you can have your opinions but just settle down a little because he is really important to me'. i know it sounds cheesy..lol...but just say something sort of like that..i think it would work..hpe i helped and let me know how it goes!
~Jen

Q: Well there is this guy i liked since i met him ( kind of like love @ first sight ) he likes me too he tells me he loves me all the tiem but we dont go out . Well i liked this other guy ( Dakota ) since last year and when i asked him out he said he had a girlfriend well today he broke up with her and he stares at me at lunch now and there is this other guy ( Brian ) and he has always been there for me since the get go i love them all IM NOT A HOE but which one should i choose ?!?!

does Brian like you?
first you have to decide which one is better. and it would probably be better if you decided to only like one of them. think about which one has always been nicer, more caring, easier to talk to. would it be akward if you were going out with one of them? take everything into acount, and if you still can't decide, then flirt a lot with both of them and see who responds better. its totally up to you and both of them sound really nice so i don't think that you can go wrong! I hope i helped and let me know how it goes!
~Jen

Q: For anyone who actually reads this, thanks.Well, I had a boyfriend, we'll call him "Tod". We went out for about 3 months. Well, all these people were coming up to me and saying, "OMG!Are you going to be okay?!" Honestly, I had no idea what on earth they were talking about. So, I asked "Tod" and he told me that he kissed another girl on the lips! Me? Upset? Yeah, but I could deal with it.I told I didn't care. He told me that he couldn't stand to hurt me again, so he said it was over.Well, about 2 months later, he asked me out again, and I said yes. And just recently, we broke up. Everyone was telling me that he told them it was "another girl". This time, I had it with him. I was through with getting hurt because of his freakin mistakes when I didn't do anything to hurt him! So, I'm never going out with him again. But..I think that there might be "another guy" for me. We'll call him "Justin".He's one of my friends ex-boyfriends.They have been going out on and off like me and "Tod".And my other friends are telling me to not go out with him because she might get pissed at me.Well, first of all, I know she will, but I think I really like "Justin" and just the other day, I told him that I really like him. He told me that he really likes me too. But we're not going out. Yesterday, he was talking to my sister, and she asked him if he and I were going out. He said "yeah" and my sister said "since when?!?!". Then he said "since now". But I asked him if we were really going out, and he said he doesn't know! What's that supposed to mean?!Sorry it's soooo long! -Alex

some guys just think that going out and liking some1 is the same thing. that could be the case for this but who knows? and as for your friend there are petty much 2 choices of what you can do . You can either A)Tell her that you really like him and that you are sorry but since he isn't still going out with her you hope that is doesn't matter, or B)find out what he meant by "i dont know" and/or secretly go out while trying to hide it from her. think about both options, the choice is totally up to you! let me know what happens and I hope I helped!

Q: I know it's long, but I'm looking for some good advice!
Okay, sometimes a teacher of mine can say some terrible stuff about our class, once or twice she's said it about our class, and my sister is in her 4th period, and so is a close friend of mine, and the friend told me stuff she's been saying, and I asked my sister if it was true, and she hesitently said no, and the next day I confronted the teacher and she said she'd never say anything about our class.
And yesterday, she had a terrible headache during our class, she said it started a little before 1st period, then she said today that she was feeling a bit better during her yesterdays 4th period, but she still felt sick

I confronted friends from both periods, asking how they thought the teacher was feeling, because she seemed like she was going to cry, and they all said what are you talking about, she was totally fine.
I know it's not really verbal abuse, but what can some of us students do to get her to admit how she feels about us, or atleast have her stop telling other classes rude things about us? Oh, and I have proof, I actually hid a tape recorder in her room after my class, and then I picked it up the next day, and she had said stuff about us the only bad thing is I dropped it, it was raining and it slipped out of my hand, and fell down the sewer drain (what luck) I've also passed by her classroom while she was telling another class about us. So I do know for a FACT she talks about us, but is there anything we can do to get her to stop... were not really that bad of a class, just 2 or 3 of my friends mess around, and make jokes, which she btw laffs at.

that is really terrible that she talks about all the other classes! If you feel really strongly about it then maybe you and a group of friends should go to your principle/adminustrator (scuse my spelling) and tell him/her about what your teacher is doing but do not bring your recording of her talking. If your principle/adminustrater doesn't believe you guys then say something along the lines of 'what if we could prove to you that she talks about us?'if you want to then you should show the principle the recording. what your teacher did was terrible and she has no right to do that! I hoope I helped, let me know what happens!
~Jen

Q: I have 2 change schools in 2 weeks and i wont no any1 @ my new school and + ive never been 2 a public school before. What should i do?
from,
Alicia

i am a really shy person, which sometimes really sucks lol. anyway if you are shy too, then you should really try hard to be social and make friends fast! make sure that you and your friends from your current school stay in touch! i had to switch schools once and it didn't take very long to make friends because i tried really hard to talk to people! I'm sure that it will work out fine...if you have any other questions feel free to ask me! I hope i helped and tell me how it goes!
~Jen

Q: Sorry it's long, but I need some help

Okay, no offense to this kid, or anybody out there, I'm just describing him.

There's this one realy geeky, kind of overweight kid (I'm a few pounds overweight too, so nothing against him) Well he likes me, and he does whatever he can to talk to me. I know he's trying to be nice, and his best friend said he liked me, but I have a boyfriend, and he doesn't seem to understand that. Today, we were waiting in the commentary during school, and he came up to me and started to act like a real loser (he's a loner with only a few friends) but he made all my friends leave, and when I tried to walk away, he'd get in front of me. I'm stuck sitting next to him in 1st period, I have tried talking to the teacher, and I told her I felt like I was being sexually harassed, because he has tried touching me, but she wouldn't really liste, because she knows hit too well, and he just wouldn't do that type of thing, so I can't move seats, I've tried talking to an administrator, and everything, the only thing I haven't done was talk to him. I'm not sure if he's mentally challenged, and I don't know how to say anything without being mean, He never said he liked me, but you can just tell, and his friends have asked me if I'd go out with him

How do I get it in his brain, I have a boyfriend, and I DON'T LIKE YOU!! I don't want to be friends, I just want him to leave me alone!!

that is really nice that you don't want to be mean to him and i think that i know what you can do. Find one of his friends and tell them to tell him that you really like him AS A FRIEND but you have a boyfriend and u really really like your boyfriend as a crush. If it doesn't stop then you might have to talk to him about it. Just tell him that you want to be friends but you really like your boyfriend. if he keeps hitting on you then get someone else involved. He has no right to do that to you. I hope i helped! Let me know what happens!
~Jen

Q: Is it wrong to like a guy, and love another? Does that make me a hoe?...lol I give advice, but every1 calls me a hoe b-c of that!! But after u r done reading this then check out my site...sExY_LiL_BoO_BeCkY

-*Thanks a bunch!*-

-bEcKy-

becky,
its perfectly ok! are you going out with the guy that you love? cause if you are, then i think that maybe you should try to steer clear of liking that other guy. not that it is a big deal if you do like someone else, but for my class and maybe yours, its' really dramatic so if anyone found out about it they would make a huge deal about it. I personally wouuldn't worry about it...hope i helped!
~Jen

Q: so he cheated but im giving him another chance but heres the thing i cheated first. i really didnt do anything all i did was kiss another guy. thats all. but he (who shall remain nameless)slept with my friend while i was away. and made out with another see the making out part didnt bother me but the sex part did and still kinda does. but i love him and i wanna be with him. i mean come on i was engaged for 3 or 4 months. so im giving him another chance and all but then all of a sudden the girl he slept with i hear is bragging right well heres what i did about that i punched her in the face hehe it made me feel so much better and i dont regret it one bit. but then all of a sudden this other girl whom i did nothing to is all freaking out and saying shes gonna sue me for mental anguish hah my ass she will. but yeh shes telling my boyfriend i had sex with sum guy in front of her i no i like kinky but im not that kinky. but yeh so now all this shit is happening and i really dont no how to handel it anymore its all really messing me up and i dont no what to do somebody help me please im gonna loose me mind. oh yeah im 17 and a chik

Thanks

that is really sad!
it is really wrong of him to have slept with another girl and if my boyfriend did that to me i wouldn't give him another chance. i think that if you want to, you can stay with him. But since you are only 17 i think that this is a perfect time to explore and meet new guys, that way, if your boyfriend is better than any guy that you met, then you will see how good he really is and spend the rest of your life with him!I hope i helped...let me know what happens!
~Jen