Hey. I'm Amanda. I like giving advice about anything I can. If I think you're asking something ridiculous, I'll tell you. But, even though I think you're a moron, I'll try to give you good advice. Anywho, I'm under a lot of stress right now, and I think helping other people and realizing I'm not the only one with problems is helping some. So, please feel free to ask me for advice. I'll try to respond nicely and sarcasm free, but I wouldn't hold your breath.
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I'm 5'8, blonde hair, green eyes. I'm usually on the high honor roll, although math sometimes prevents it. I'm a Junior. Uh..I haven't gotten my license yet, because of parallel parking. Curse it. Um, and I love Pandas. I don't eat them. It was just an inside joke last year (Pandabalism, I mean.) Alright, that's enough of this. Now..go, scamper, type. I want to read your problems and try to help you. And maybe even laugh my ass off at the same time. Har har.
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MY BF IS MOVING OUT OF STATE AND I LUV HIM SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH! I CANT STAND NOT BEING AROUND HIM AND I WAS GOING TO ASK HIM IF HE LUVS ME! WE TELL EACH OTHER WE LUV EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME BUT I DONT KNOW IF HE MEANS IT I AM REALLY SCARED HE IS GOING TO MEET ANOTHER GIRL! I LUV HIM AND HE SAID HE COULD STAY IF HE WANTS BUT HE WOULD HAVE TO STAY WITH HIS UNCLE. BUT HE REALLY WANTS TO GO! I DONT THINK HE CARES ABOUT ME! WHAT SHOULD I DO? (link)
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Alright, I'm not trying to be a bitch, but are the caps necessary? I don't think so. And, spell love correctly, please. Unless of course you're spelling it "Luv" for the sake of mockery, then it's ok, but some how I doubt you are. Anywho...how old are you 12..13? If so, don't worry. It's more than likely not love anyway. But, you seem like you're a sincere person, so this sucks for you. So, here's my advice: If he moves: you obviously can't date anymore. And, I don't think it means he doesn't care about you. But, we are talking about his life here. It would be foolish for him to make choices (big choices like this) based on how you feel. So, take time to get over him, and then get back to reality. Have fun being single, or find someone else. However, if he does decide to live with his uncle: Consider yourself special.
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A good girlfriend of mine from college killed herself on Saturday after a fight she had with her fiance. She was never the kind of girl I would have ever guess to do this sort of thing. So when she called me that night I wasn't in the mood to go party (my boyfriend and I had had a huge fight)I ignored her call and turned off my phone. She called me four times, that night. Monday morning she was found dead. The police called me Monday afternoon, it is thier policy to investigate each death to be sure it is a suicide. They said that my number was the last one on her phone as a listed call.
I am devistated. I cannot face anyone. I resent my boyfriend because of his picking a stupid fight. I feel as though I really screwed up. I was not their for her and she reached out to me.
But my question is why me? Her and I were good friends in college but we had lost touch since she had been engaged we talked maybe every couple of weeks and only briefly. We're always saying that we needed to make plans but it never happened. She was always close to her mom and I am sure she had better friends than me, I know her best firend lived far away. But Mellisa was the kind of girl who always had tons of friends. Why out of all the people she could have called would she call me? I am always going to carry around this responsible feeling and it really is bringing me down. I just feel so powerless.
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I'm so sorry. But, don't feel as though this is your fault. Because, it's not. Not at all.
Perhaps she was reaching out to you, because you weren't a part of her every day routine, and she felt as though she needed someone new and not in the picture to talk, to. You know, someone who could hear her thoughts and opinions that didn't know every detail and that wouldn't judge her? I don't know if that makes sense. And it seems as though she valued your friendship greatly if she kept wanting to get together. But, things change, and you grew apart. It was hard to keep in touch, and that's not your fault. And neither is her suicide. You had your own problems going on, and never would have imagined that she would do something like that. So, don't blame yourself. Just remember all the good times you had, and be greatful for knowing her.
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i think is is totally gross and disgusting to be a gay guy or a lesbian is it wrong to think that i dont think it is (link)
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I have gay friends. They're cool. But, I don't support them being gay. I think it's wrong as well. But, the way I see it is, it's their life. They'll do what they want no matter what I or anyone else thinks. And, at first I was a little bit afraid to become friends with them, but I learned to look past their sexuality and saw them for them. And they're nice guys, who are cool to talk, to. But, I guess my point is, don't judge people by their sexuality. It's ok to think that being gay is gross, as long as you aren't hurting or making fun of other people.
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ok now wht makes popular people so popular i mean what is it about them? i mean theres like a bunch of popular kids at my school and i dont see how they r so great i mean all they do is talk behind eachothjers backi mean im not in the popular group but in like the semi-popular i guess is what its called and we never do that top eachother i mean i cant stand these popular kids and i wann know how they become so popular and why? (link)
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Hm.....at my school, the "popular" kids are hicks that use the word "yenz" and smoke marijuana all of the time. I guess that makes them cool. I don't know? I'm glad I'm not popular. Because, you always here stories of how the popular girls were at a party and got wasted and licked each others twats. And then the guys, sit there and get wasted and are all like, "Yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo. Nigga." And basically act like jack asses. *Note* The "thuggness" doesn't work for the boys here, although they think it does. You see, I'm from a rural part of Pennsylvania, and theres Amish people and farms everywhere. So, to sum it up, popular people are lame. And, I wouldn't worry so much about what makes people popular, just focus on being you. And you'll be a much happier person.
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if my neighbor came over andh e was on my trampoline and i was in the spa and he kept like talking and showing off and looking at me does that mean he likes me??? shouldi tell him i like him or ask him how he feels about girls or what??? (link)
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It sounds like he's interested. If you really like him, sit down and try to talk to him about it. And, if he doesn't like you, and he was just showing off, don't worry. Cause you have a spa,a and a trampoline, which are 2 very fun things. And, I'm sure you could find someone much better.
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WOW... I am only 16 and my ex (for now) saying we are getting bak together very soon.. back to point today we had unprotected sex and like he went all the way what the possibilties of me getting pregnant? hes 19 and hes says hes in love with me and he will never leave me (like a permant basis) and like there is this girl thathe asked out and like she sed no but hes saying hell never ask her out again.. what should i do (link)
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First off, no more unprotected sex...ever. Unless you're married and want children. Secondly, if he asked another girl out and she turned him down, I'd say he's just running back to you because he doesn't want to be alone. Don't get upset though, theres always that chance that I'm wrong. But, that's just my guess. I would talk to him, and sit down and decide on whether you really love each other or not. Oh, and having unprotected sex, well the chances of you getting pregnant, I don't know the exact number, but I would definently say they're high. And, one more thing, if I am right, about why he asked the girl out and now he's back to you, tell him to fuck off. You are better than that, and deserve someone who TRUELY loves you.
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What are everybodys (And I know some of you have to have been through this) results of still liking an ex after you broke up? (link)
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I've had this happen to me. Liking an ex, that is. I find it's best just to go about your business and kind of go with the flow. If it's meant to be, it'll happen.
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There is this guy in one of my classes, and I'm not sure but I think hi MIGHT like me. he's on tha honor role but he's not a nerd. HE's actually kinda cute, but we've only really talked once. we were on a field trip and he just came over and started talking to me. Later I decide to eat lunch with him and he asked if I wanted his oreos. I know that sounds like a question a friend would ask but the way he said it was so sweet a kind (not like other people). So I'm confused. Does he like me or doesn't he. Kinda sounds like a question Shakspere would ask (to be or not to be? That is the question.)
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It sounds to me like he's interested in you. I would just keep talking to him, and flirt. Hehe. It's important to get to know him, if you're really interested, be his friend. And from what it sounds like, I think something will come out of it. :) Good luck!
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does anyone have any good advice on how to have the perfect hairdo or style so u can make boys heads turn when u walk by? (link)
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Don't style/cut your hair to get attention from guys. Do it because YOU want to do it. That way, you're happy and confident with your hair, and your happiness/confidence will show. And that is what will get guys heads-a-turnin'.
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What do boys REALLY like in a girl? All these magazines & stuff say that they love what's inside, not outside. Is this true or is it crap? (link)
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It's true. You can't love someone based on looks. It wouldn't work. Yes, boys are attracted to girls who are pretty. But, you could be the most beautiful girl in the world, and if you had a shitty personality, boys wouldn't like you so much. So don't focus so much on the outside, but on the inside. Just be you. Look the way you want to look, and act the way you want to act, and as long as you're not a bitch, guys will like you for you, inside AND out!!!!!
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I know it's not really polite to pick your teeth at the dinner table with toothpicks (well, better those than your finger I guess, but that's not the point). So if you keep toothpicks on your table all the time as just part of the centerpiece art or whatever, does that make you trashy or what? (link)
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Haha. No, it's not trashy.
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How di I win back my ex-boyfriend that cares for me and I care for him but he doesn't want a relationship right now? I mean we flirt, cuddle, play around, and hug. It's very comfusing. (link)
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Hm...well this is a tough one. Just try talking to him about it, ask him why he doesn't want a relationship..and I would play sort of hard to get, meaning...I would not flirt as much. You could try making him jealous, but I don't reccomend it. If you do decide to try that, don't go out with anybody else, just flirt with someone else in front of him. I hope that gets you some where. Let me know what happens! :)
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I am confused because I like this kid and I think he likes me but i can't tell how do i know? (link)
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Just keep talking to him, and flirt with him. If he likes you, then he will eventually make a move. And if you get tired of waiting around for him to make the move (because maybe he's shy), then ask him to hang out or something. Good luck. :)
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theirs this boy named Dorian I really like him but he doesnt want a relationship and when he does he's confused and I really want it to work and dont know what to do Should i keep trying or give up what should I say to him (link)
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Hm...I think if you really deeply care about this guy, then you shouldn't give up. Just keep being his friend, and go with the flow. I mean, if it's bound to happen, it will. And if it isn't, he'll either find someone else, or tell you that he doesn't want to date you, or you'll lose interest and find someone else.
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ok here we go ..... Im soo ugly ... my boyfreind now x boy friend dumped me after he had sex with me and now i think im pregnet.... he sed i was the uglyest person alive and and i belive him!! i havent seen my parents since i was 5 cuz im they ran away cuz im soooo ugly!! so my uncle tells me everyday of my life... :-( i have no friends... no 1 wants to be friends with me.... at times i think seriously about suicide cuz its the only way out that i can see... i dont want to have a baby or be UGLY n e more... so if n e of u no a good plastic surgun or a good abortionist let me now PLEASE!!.. and if n e one knows a good hiT MAN let me kno so i can give my xbf wat he deserves.... !!!!! (link)
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Ok, first of all..if you were SO ugly, do you think your boyfriend would have been interested in you and dated you in the first place? I'm sure he's just saying that stuff about you, because he's afraid he's going to be a dad. This may sound stupid, but I'm sure you've watched talk shows, right? Well, did you ever notice that the douche bags on there, that are being tested to see if they're the baby's dad..did you ever notice how immature and stupid they act? My guess is, because they're afraid that they are the dad. So, try talking to him, or maybe just leaving him alone for awhile. And go to the doctor to see if you are pregnant. I'm sorry about your parents. Life is hard, I know. And I know what feeling like your ugly is like, and so do a LOT of other people. And your uncle is a moron. Just get some confidence, and find someone you can talk, to. Like a school counseler or try befriending someone. There are good people out there who can help you! Good luck!
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ok my xxbf sed i kissed to rough and my lasted xbf sed i kissed to low like on his lower lip! i wanna be a GR8 kisser.... soo how do i do it?? my xbf was SUCH a good kisser and left me breathless but how do i kiss then?? HELP!! me!!!! thnx
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Hm...I read in a magazine one time, where a girl had a problem like this and she wanted to know how to become a better kisser. The editor, told her to practice with orange peels, or on a mirror. Ha. This may seem silly, but hey...it might help you.
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My friends are bugging me to go to this party tonight, but I'm sick. Seriously. They don't believe me, they just think it's me being anti-social. Should I go anyway and make them all sick just to prove a point? (link)
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No. Unless you're feeling up to it. But, why have to prove yourself to anyone? If they're your real friends they'd believe you. I mean, seriously. And if you're feeling like you need to show them you're not being anti-social, then set up a get together for when you're not sick. That way they can see that you are very social, and you won't have to feel so bad for missing out on a party.
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I like this kid named Orlando...I just look at him and I melt. But the thing is, I've never ever talked to him before, and he's never talked to me before and I'm so confused because I don't think it's just a crush, and he is just so cute and funny from what I've seen from him.
In the beginning of the day at school all the students have to go into the cafeteria because classes didn't start yet...and usually I walk in and only him and his friend are there and he looks at who came into the caferteria and I feel like I'm gonna trip or something because his stare catches me off guard....
As you can tell...I like this kid, and my mom works for the Board Of Ed in that particular city, and she lets me do some extra help with her work and she pays me for it. Well, since he goes to the school in the city my mom works for, one day when i was doing a job I came across his address. So my question is, do you think it would be like I'm stalking him or something if I write him a letter just saying how I felt about it...because I'm only going to write it when this school year is over so if anything happens I'm not there. (I know..but I'm shy and I feel like this is the only way I could do it) If I explain to him in the letter that I'm that girl (because he's seen me before, and noticed me) then do you think this is a good idea? Please help me...I really want him to know, but I'm extremely shy.
I'm very sorry for the length, but Im desperate. (link)
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Well, I can't honestly say that I agree with you about this not being a crush. I mean, you've never talked to him. You've just observed him. He could be a real ass. And you know that saying, "You shouldn't judge a book by its cover." I think that fits well here. Have you tried making eye contact? Or smiling at him? I would do that first. I mean, if he's watched you walk into your cafeteria, then he's definently noticing you. But, anywho..start out small. And I wouldn't write him a letter and send it to his house. That's way to corny, and if I were you, I wouldn't want to take the chance of coming off as crazy. Try making small talk. I know that seems stupid, but saying "Hi" when you pass him will get you far. And if you really feel the need to write him a letter, put it in his locker or somewhere in school where he can get it. I would NOT give it to a friend to give to him, though. That to me, would just seem so juvenile. Good luck!!
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I like this 1 guy and i knew him from my old school. I think he likes me by the way he acts. he isnt all out going and flirty bcuz thats not his personality. My friend said that This boy (we'll call him Fred) asked if she knew me. Since Fred asked if she knows me i seems like he likes me. My friend said she thinks he likes me 2,
Do u think he likes me??
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Well, it's hard to say. He might be interested, and he might not. I think the only way to find out, is for you to talk to him. If you haven't talked to him in awhile, he probably doesn't like you like you. I'd say he's just interested in how you're doing or something like that. So talk to him and become reaquainted (pardon, my spelling. I think that's wrong.) Good luck.
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Once upon a time... I thought I had a really great friend. She and I really spent lots of time together after we graduated from university, we majored in the same programs. One night we went together to a bar, not to pick up guys but just to have a girls night out. During our girls night out she left me at the bar to dance with a guy she met (yes so much for girls night out). I had a drink with me but kept looking at the dance floor over my shoulder to make sure my friend was doing okay since the guy she was dancing with had had quite a bit to drink. I suppose that while I frequently turned to look over my shoulder a man that had been next to me (whose face I cannot remember or recall)had slipped the Date Rape drug into my drink. Now do not get me wrong I'm not a dumb woman, I would never get up and leave my drink and then come back to it, but it must have happened so quickly, just as I glanced behind me. I woke up the next day alone on the couch of a house I had never been to before. I was loosely dressed and can remember only having been at the bar and then waking up. I remember nothing of what had happened that night. I immediately ran out of the house and asked someone what street I was on. When I found that I was only a 20 minute walk from my apartment I snuck quietly back inside the house and tried to find my purse and cell phone. I managed to find my purse but all my money, credit card (luckily maxed right out) and cell phone were gone. I left without them because I was very frightened being where I was. I went home. I went to the hospital later after having discovered differences in myself. I feared the worst and I was correct. I was given a rape test and they found traces of the drug in my body.
I had been raped and knew nothing and remembered nothing. It was almost better that way. The only problem was that I could not remember the man who had been sitting next to me at the bar. I called my friend hoping she could help to identify the man. She immediately told me that she didn't value our friendship anymore because I had deliberately left her at the bar, and as she claims 'and being an embarassment since I was acting so slutty'. I told her about not remembering anything and she called me a liar. I told her that her opinion of me didn't matter, all I needed was to know the name or a description of the man I left with and then I would leave her alone forever if I had to. SHe told me she would have no part in my lies, claiming that she didn't want to be responsible for an innocent man being prosecuted just because "I wanted the attention".
I guarantee you, with the hospital results to support me, that I was in fact raped without remembering.
She continued to spread the rumour that I was a liar and when I had the police contact her she claimed to have never been there with me at all.
All that I wanted was for this man to be brought to justice and that he be unable to destroy someone else's life the way he destroyed mine.
I was never able to positively identify the man and my case remains considered unsolved. Those others in the club told the police that they saw nothing, I'm not really sure if they did or not and the only other person I knew in the bar was my friend.
This incident happened 3 years ago and since I have been able to recover and return to a somewhat normalcy. However, recently (within the past few months) this girl has been leaving messages at my house and work for me to call her. Finally I called hoping she had wished to tell me something she knew or reconcile things between us.
Our conversation over the phone consisted of her telling me that she knew the name and address of the man who raped me, but she still refused to tell me. Saying that she wants me to pay her money or else she will tell me nothing. I'm almost ready to pay her, I want to punish this man so badly. The poeple I have consulted about this told me that she could be prosecuted if I were to tell the police. But I know that if I have her charged or arrested that I will lose all hope of knowing this mans identity, she would never tell me anything if I am responsible for damaging her record.
My question to you is what do I do now? Should I press charges and hope that she will give up the information she knows? Or perhaps should I pay her what she wants and finally get closure? (link)
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I would press charges against her. She's protecting the man that raped you, for stupid, petty reasons. In my book, she's just as guilty as the man. She deserves any punishment she can get. I would talk to the police and have them bug your phone or something, and call her and her get to say all of the things she said before. Bring that bitch to justice along with the man that raped you.
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