For the past two years I've been on 30mg of Adderall XR a day and it's made a lot of positive changes in my life. For some reason I'm starting to feel bad about being dependent on this substance. It's an addictive drug and I'm paranoid that it will harm my long-term health. I know I will have to be off of it eventually, so should I try to get off of it sooner than later? My concern is that the longer I stay on it, the more my whole life will depend on it. I'm scared that when I go off it my life will completely collapse and and it will force me to reset everything, including my personality.The medicine has helped me to be more in touch with my surroundings, which has given me life-changing social confidence. Since beginning adderall, I've been at a healthy weight whereas before I was overweight and I REALLY don't want to go back to that. When I have to miss a day, I feel depressed. PLEASE tell me this is a withdrawal symptom and not my natural state. Should I try to go off of it in two years when I'm no longer a student or now? In general what should I do??
I have adhd too. I only take it on days I have school.I was on it in high school everyday and when I got off ..it was so bad withdrawals. I had to drink an energy drink everyday in the morning. And I still felt horrible. There's nonstimulant adhd or add meds. But now that I take adderall a couple days when I need it at school. It helps me get my work done. Do what's gonna work for you though but that is my perspective. Get off sooner than later or only take it when u really need to study for a test and do homework or somethimg. Up to you. If you have anymore questions you can message me. Get off when you are out of school though definitely too. Hope it works out! And again if I didnt answer all questions u can inbox me..
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I can't talk to my best friend about this because I'm afraid she will not take me seriously, or she won't know how to respond. I'm having some questions about my sexuality. Are you comfortable talking about this with me?
I will give you a little background first so hopefully its easier for you to see where I am coming from. I'm female, and 24yrs old. I lost my virginity when I was 19 in my first serious relationship. However, when I was about 13, I was in a sexual encounter with a girl. I was unaware of what was happening because I was half asleep, she started kissing me and touching me and when I realized what was going on I woke up and tried to rollover. She then put her arm around my side and tried to touch me again, thats when I got up, left the room and told my parents.
I have always loved men and don't have any issues with being with men. It was after my first real relationship ended horribly that I started sleeping with other men and I noticed that my relationship attempts have been failing. It goes one of two ways, I find someone I am interested in and things are going well and then it just ends, or a guy is more into me than I am into them.
I have had sex with a girl before, it was a close friend of mine and it happened twice. I did really enjoy it and I often fantasize about doing it with her or even other woman. In fact, I mostly only watch Lesbian, or group porn.
I am very attracted to woman, but I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is real or just a temporary fantasy. Am I bisexual? Am I just going through a phase? Should I try dating women to see how it goes?
It sounds like bisexual to me. One of my best friends is bi. Yes I think it would be best to explore a relationship with a girl. Not just physical but date also. Then you will know if it feels right or not. You know? That is just my opinion based on what you mentioned. :)
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I just recently started taking birth control after experiencing a pregnancy scare.
The pill that I am on is mononessa, and I am scared because although I have not missed taking any pills, sometimes I take them an hour later than my scheduled time. My own research told me that you should not take the pill any later than 24 hours from your last time.
I have an upcoming pap smear and I am going to bring it up with my doctor. The only concern I have is that I tend to not like condoms when having sex with my boyfriend, and I thought that birth control (which is supposed to be 99% effective) would work at preventing any unplanned issues.
If I take it an hour later than usual is that okay? Should I use back up?
Yes it is okay. And do not take more if you miss it for a few more hours. I had to get Nuvaring because I would forget to take it. And during sex you can take it out for an hour and put it back in after and the birth control will still work because it is slowly released throughout the day so it is still working for that hour you take it out. ((I asked my obgyn b/c my boyfriend's thing hurt when it hit it) But if you like what you are on then you will be fine..you just have to remember to take it sometime everyday. DOnt worry about the exact time. It is just easier on a schedule.
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My grandpa's wealth has distributed among my 2uncles n my mom didn't take any pi of it..but my uncles and their wives don't look after my grandma..so my mom brought her to our home..they even fraud her conspiring withthehouse builder...so our relationship with them was fading away day by day...but recently a few days back my elder uncle passed away n my grandma couldn't bear the shock n she was in ventilation nursing home..my other uncle n his wife n cousins didn't even go to see her ther..n they don't even call her n keep in touch...she doesn't complaint for this to us but we can realize her pain..so I tried to tell my cousins to call her or talk to her..but they insulted me in return n isolated me..they spread rumor about my mom n grandma that because of them my eldee uncle has died..actually what happened was when they did cheat her with the property my mom appealed for the injunction in court n construction of the building was being stopped b police came to the building o hang the legal notice up..n now they are saying that as police came my elder uncle got scared n had heart attack..all my relatives are now like our opponents..i know they are doing sin n my mom is right..but they are isolating us..what to do?
Unfortunately, and I know from personal experience within my own family. My mom's identical twin sister pretends that my mom does not exist (& has done so for over 20 years) and tells people all these horrible things about her. ANYWAY I tried to resolve it when I was younger because I wanted everyone to get along right? But it didn't help. My aunt still does not talk to my mom.
My point being I realized we would just have to move on or wait til she comes around. Sometimes they never do. It's really sad because you want to be like other families and have good times. Just know it is not your fault. There is not much you can do if they just keep hurting you. I'm so sorry this is happening. I mean you could try having a conversation. But I;m guessing that's already happened. Just make the best of times with your grandma and mom. I hope it does work out though. I do not want to discourage you. I am just saying sometimes people act irrationally and they are stubborn sometimes and there is not much you can do if they are going to keep being that way, You know? It's hard.
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I am a 16 year old girl. My boyfriend is 15. We have not had sexual intercourse but we do engage in oral and sex play from time to time. Two weeks ago we were doing what many hormonal teen couples do and he ejaculated outside ( he never went in) and some semen accidentally got on my vulva. We stopped immediately and I cleaned up as best as I could. I've searched all over the internet but I can't seem to find an answer. I understand that there's a low chance but I can't seem to get the possibility out of my head. My boyfriend is also very worried and is providing support and reassurance. My period is extremely irregular (I once spent 6 months without menstration) so I can't just wait to see if I missed it. I haven't taken any taken any pregnancy tests yet but my boyfriends bringing me some this Sunday. If I am pregnant I don't want to have an abortion but I'm not in the position to raise a child. I take the SAT in two months and I'm six credits away from graduation. I want to still be able to see my son or daughter if I choose adoption and one day be able to take custody but I have a feeling it won't be that easy. I'm so ashamed I've disappointed myself and I'm probably going to disappoint every one around me. I have plans and they're all gonna go to ruins if I am pregnant all because I felt as though I had to make him come. What should I do? I'm so scared....
If you are worried, there's a pill you can get at the pharmacy plan b or they probably have other stuff now. It's been a couple years since Ive taaken it. It's like a day after pill but you can really take it 3 days and some I think even 5 days after you had sex. BUT if he didn't go inside of you...you are fine. If he pulled out you are fine. :) Hope it works out girl! I'm pretty sure you are not.
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how do I tell a girl no to a date and that I'm a gay guy?
Maybe tell her ...
-you do not want a romantic relationship with her
-you are seeing someone else
-you are not trying to get serious or date anyone right now
-you do not think you would be the right person for her and that she deserves someone that can give her their full attention
-you have your eye on someone else (bad timing)
...just a few suggestions if you are trying to avoid telling your sexuality for the time being. probably whatever is closer to another reason (other than your sexuality) so that way you are still being somewhat honest and do not feel as bad. Good luck!
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Okay, so I go to a uniform school, but on the day before Valentines day (which is Friday the 13th 😫) ewe have a dress down day. I want to wear my black skater skirt but I don't know what shirts to wear with it. I also want to where high knee socks with that. So can someone please help me with a top that's would go nice with these requirements.
I'm not sure what style or kind of style you prefer or maybe you try different things but I can give a few ideas (all with the knee socks) ...
---a long sleeve shirt (tucked into the skirt) and a skinny belt ..,then if you can wear ankle boots that would look cute. or whatever shoe you think looks best.
-a rolled up like 2 to 3 rolls button-down shirt (tucked in or not...either or ..((i just like tucked in b/c it looks more put together)) plus a skinny belt with that if it is tucked in :) ...also you can pair that with a jean/leather jacket or vest ....or a cardigan
---or you could not button the chambray shirt at the bottom and twist & tie the bottom of your shirt around your waist to the front with a cute tank or short-sleeved ( v-neck or crew) shirt underneath maybe flats?
---if you wanna be more casual maybe a graphic tee and a bracelet & earrings
----a sweater and ankle boots would be cute with that too maybe a scarf too
---a tank tucked in with a cardigan OVER that and a skinny belt around top of skirt,,
---a sweater over a button-up shirt
---a striped long sleeve tucked in?
PLUS of course great earrings, necklace, bracelet(s), rings etc combo & whatever shoes you think look best!
I'm not the most up to date fashion person but based on what I've seen, those looks seem to be the most reasonable and school appropriate. hope this helps. if not sorry. i tried lol.
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Is it normal to feel slightly high after been eaten out ?
Yes climaxing has been known to be like an antidepressant so that's probably why you feel awesome :) ...and it just feels really intense during (in a good way) and kind of leaves you in a daze afterwards. I know exactly what you mean!
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Me and my ex broke up about a month ago, and I'm really missing him. At first it didn't really bother me, I was sad for about a week and started to move on, but just a couple days ago, he came into my work ( local grocery store) and went through my line. Ever since that day, I've become really depressed and have been thinking about him continually. My feelings and emotions have gotten the best of me. I usually talk about this with my friend but she recently met a guy and has been hanging out with him 24/7. It's making me more depressing seeing how happy she is, knowing I was that happy when I was with my ex. Yes, I am happy for her, but its hard for me seeing couples right now. Idk what to do?! I'm really upset, crying. Please help.
It took me over a year to get over the first guy I fell in love with. I drove people sick sometimes I know. I agree with the person below as far as it depends on why. When you miss someone you usually remember the good times. However, when they were with you was it not fulfilling? I know for a while I had a thing for the wrong guys. I do not know if that is your situation or if he broke it off or what. I'm just saying it took time for me to find the right person that treated me right. If you were not being treated and respected the way any person should be then try to keep yourself busy and make it a point to throw anything away that reminds you of him, delete him from phone, fb, etc basically delete him out of your life. If you really want to move on that's what you have to do. The more time you spend thinking what if or what went wrong, the longer you will be stuck on the past and you might miss someone even better. Just saying. I know it's hard. Some people are not meant to be in our lives forever. If it's meant to be it will happen. At least seem like you are moving on and eventually you will. If he's really meant for you and he sees you're happy and doing other things, he will miss you more (and be more likely to approach you) than if he hears you are talking about him all the time, etc. I hope this doesn't discourage you. It seems like there will be no one else but there will. I promise you.
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I'm not here to judge anyone by their response but how many parents believe in smacking their children on the butt with a belt or paddle when they're bad? Growing up I had this done to me and always wondered if it's right or not and where other people stand on this issue.
A lot of the parents generation (40-60 years old) grew up getting spanked. I do not think that is beating your kid. They used to have paddles in school. I think it teaches discipline. I do not think it should be used all the time or in an incorrect manner but it is not abuse. People are so sensitive now that every little thing is over analyzed. However yes a paddle or belt can be misused like if a parent or guardian beat it all over the kids body until they bled or something like that...that is wrong. People that actually get beat will have bruises and scars in places they are not supposed to etc. Verbal abuse I think can be much much worse. Of course physical abuse can hurt more and is completely wrong but spanking with a paddle or belt I do not think is wrong if it is used correctly. I do not have kids but I have nannied and babysat and I was a kid lol and I am friends with younger parents. I have seen kids that are not disciplined and spoiled and that is more wrong to me than when a child is not learning his lesson and to spank them on the butt a couple times. I have known abused children/grownups and it is not the same thing. Sorry but that is just my opinion.
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I just recently bought a HUGE enclosure for my 4 year old male chinchilla and i'd now like to get him a buddy! Chinchillas are social creatures and being a mother i dont always get to spend the much needed quality time with him anymore.
My question isnt HOW do i introduce them, its CAN i introduce a 4 year old MALE with a younger chinchilla? and also would it being a female MATTER at all?
I dont want them breeding, and my 4 year old isnt fixed yet so i thought about a male but ive heard they can be awfully territorial and im worried they might NEVER like each other and then what am i gonna do!? i only have ONE cage here!
should i be looking at males or females? should i get my 4 year old fixed and then look for a female? or try to find another male and HOPE they like each other??
ive done lots of research on them but i havnt found any answers on this issue specifically.
One of my best friends in high school had two chinchillas. (I say had because I havent talked to her in a while b/c I moved across the country). One was a female and one was a male. They had a huge cage and they let them come out sometimes. They always got along whenever I saw them and I saw them a lot. They loved interacting with each other!! I think he (yours) would love having a playmate/friend chinchilla and I know my friend never had a problem. You could always (when/if you find another chinchilla) see if the person selling would let you bring yours to see how they would interact together. I know they're really fast and they have bigger cages so you would probably have to bring a smaller cage to put him in in the car unless your cage will fit...then when you to get the person's place see how they interact in that person's cage or just out and about. But they are pretty hard to catch when you let them out. I'm sure most people wouldn't mind if you asked if you could bring yours to see how they interacted :). Oh and yes you should get yours fixed . :D
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seriously, is it okay to shave the hair on your vagina?
definitely :).. since were not in the seventies anymore, bushes are not cute. and I think its better than going through the torture of getting it waxed ;)
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uhhm so the other day i was giving my boyfrien a handjob and i just looked down and his penis seemed a lot smaller that usual and im not sure if ive just like not seen it properlery or whatever but he was still hard so i dunno.. do penises sort of change size when they are erect? (like one day your erection is 7" then two days after its 4")
Yes thats normal. My bfs is like 7" too but when hes soft it varies from jus a nub to like you said 4". I know it's weird huh..
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Okay so the boy I like asked for my number the other day and that evening we texted for about 3 hours. Anyway, I'm not sure whether to text him again - I haven't seen him since we last texted so there's not really anything for me to text about :/ I don't know if he'll be expecting me to text though because he started the conversation before.
You can just keep it light..say something like how's your day going or what are you up to. Dont stress too much ..when you just start talkin to someone you can get nervous but if he likes you he'll keep the conversation going. Guys arent usually big texters so don't worry if he doesn't talk to u everyday you know.
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last night I had a weird dream, I was in my english class and i looked at the clock, it was a weird clock, only thing i remembered was that it had the omega sign instead of the number 12... all the numbers were replaced by a sign, then i asked a classmate what the time was and he said "we ran out of time" or "there is no time" i dont remember perfectly but he said something like that something that meant time didnt exist anymore. what does this mean? 13/m
I dont know about the omega sign but I know seeing a clock in your dream can mean you may have some anxiety about not being on top of things. So the clock could symbolize the importance of time in a waking situation. You might be preoccupied with a deadline or some other time sensitive issue. The ticking of the clock can symbolize the human heart beat (showing the emotional side of your life). If the clock has stopped it can symbolize death. But unless you are terminally ill I doubt it is aboit death. I would guess it has to do with some anxiety you have in your life that has to do with time. Hope this helps.
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Me and this guy started the same time in the company that we're working for. We go on the same floor but he's on another depertment, more on the far end of the floor. We became instant friends since he's my seat buddy on our orientation.
We have settled on each of our units, and have our own set of friends, but we regularly have lunch and dinner together. Even go home together. We even always talk and flirt over our communicator system.
We have never really defined our relationship. But I really like him, cause he's really funny, sweet, and nice to me.
I have this friend of mine, who also belongs to the same unit as I am, who also have a secret crush on him.
I know that I shouldn't have any issue about it, and there isn't any issue about me and my friend yet, but it really pissed me off. I also discovered that they're chatting as well on the communicator.
I really felt jealous, like my head is going to explode, and my fingers is getting numb, and like my breathing goes heavy.
They've been chatting regularly and it's just breaking me apart.
I tried to ask him if he's alrady seeing someone, or flirting with someone. For which he all denies. I cannot ask him about her, and I can't ask her about him, because I know it's not my place.
We still talk regularly, have lunch and dinner, and go home together. Nothing actually changes, though maybe there is, me.
I don't know what to do, on how to deal with all of this? On how can I remain at least friends with both of them.. I want to trust him that nothing's going on. But I can't demand any assurance from him. And I can't really stop him from seeing someone. How can I do this and carry on?
You should pull him aside and ask him if he sees a relationship, other than friendship, with you. If he says yes,which I think he might by the way you guys spend time together, then ask him if you guys could talk about it in private later over dinner or whatever. Tell him how you feel. I dont think theres anything going on with your friend and him, and if he says he wants a relationship, or to date, then let go of the worry you have about him and her.
If he says he doesnt see a relationship with you then just say good I like it the way it is now too. He might not want to date someone from work ...but I have a feeling he likes you!!
All you can do is try otherwise youll regret it. Prepare yourself for either answer but dont let it get you down if it doesnt turn out how you want because at least you tried. Then maybe you could make him jealous by spending time with another guy :p ..or maybe you guys will actually start getting more serious. But you wont know til u try. Good luck!
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i like a guy named josh and he likes me too. we dated last year secretly and only my family knew and a few friends from school. i broke up with him and he cried allday and i got sent to the councilers office. he also got in trouble by his mom for having a girlfriend.when i wanted to come over to hang out with his sister. he would end up in his pastor with me trying to kiss me but i wouldnt let him. he tried to kiss me on the bus but i wouldnt let him.!!! i really kliked him and this year hes at a differant school because hes a special ED kid he gets in to trouble a lot theres a problem his sister is dating my older brother.i really like him and i want him to touch me without telling him.!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you let him kiss you maybe he will touch you...but you gotta let him :p
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Two of my friends who live I. The same house had dreams about me dying (at separate times). What could this mean?
There are tons of interpretations for death in dreams. Most actually are not negative as you would think. It usually means the end to something in one's life. Ex. End of family feud, sickness, end of job, end of relationship. Possibly the career or relationship are making you unhappy or it's a bad situation. Another interpretation could be the end of one thing and the start of something new and fresh. The symbolism of death is almost always positive...like your worries will end (die). It could symbolize prosperity and longetivity.
When it is negative, it usually means you have a fear of losing something... like a job or relationship..not necessarily a person. Dreaming of death could also be pent up anger/negative feelings towards someone/thing.
Hope this helps and I hope it's not negative!
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Hi, I'm a sixteen year old girl, around 98 pounds, no health issues. I have severe health anxiety and depression problems. I go through left arm pain sometimes, and it scares the crap out of me! I always think its because of a heart attack. I'm having no chest pain, very light arm pain. It comes and goes. No shortness of breath, no sweating, no "sense of doom" . My shoulder and arm just ache for a minute then goes away after I stop thinking about it. Also goes away after I sleep. Do you think there's a reason to worry, or should I continue to ignore it? (I have been to the doctor and she said my heart sounded fine and I have normal blood pressure)
When you're anxious and depressed, you can become hypersensitive so you notice every little ache or pain. Anxiety can actually cause cchronic pain. I think the only way for you to get rid of your pain is to overcome your anxiety. Start to notice your triggers and figure out why you are so anxious because it's probably something deeper that is bothering you. Talking to the doctor about your anxiety and depression instead of your pain might help.
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Im a very emotional person. If I get yelled at or am around any negativity I tend to shut down or cry. I usually tend to be very happy. But can also come off very dramatic. Every little thing that happens tends to be a crisis for me as I get upset so easily. I am looking for some tips to help me control my emotions better. So that I don't always come off as a crazy dramatic psycho...
Sensitivity can get the best of us sometimes. There are a few things that can help. First, don't take your emotional reactions at face value because usually it's something deeper that is affecting you. A lot of times it has to do with our past. When you feel an overwhelming emotion coming on, try to meditate and explore your feelings. Does it remind you of something from your past or does is have to do with something bigger that is bothering you? Next, when you feel that overwhelming anger or sadness, take a deep breath and stop yourself before you react. Maybe take a walk or just try to collect yourself before you do or say something youre gonna regret. Let your feelings settle so you can avoid having to do damage control later. Also try to remember not everything is about you ..and I dont mean that to be offensive. I only mean that when youre sensitive, sometimes you perceive others emotions or actions are the result of something you did to them. But in reality those people arent even thinking about you..theyre thinking about theyre own issues. Also, try not to take on too much. A lot of times when youre sensitive you feel the pain of others or stuff that has nothin to do with you. Try to realize that you cannot save the world and you have to only worry about you first. When you take on other peoples problems it can add too much stress for you to handle. Being sensitive is not a bad thing at all. It means you are very compassionate. Dont be ashamed of the way you feel. Just try to recognize why you feel the way you feel so you can conquer it :)
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