Young, Wild ,& Free. I live my life in a crazy way. I've learned a million lessons the hard way. That I think is the best way. I was told to find this site because I always have friends asking me for advice. Apparently I give good advice. I do not have Masters in psychology. I was legally certified as a genious with an IQ of 186 when I was 14 years old. In other words I didn't have a lot of friends. lol I have acquired a great knowledge and I am here to pass it along to others. I am not a know it all and I do not have all the answers. I am just a person filled with random facts, points of interest, and tons of great advice! Feel free to add me on facebook. I am more than happy to talk outside of this site 1 on 1 and will happily help you through what ever I can over long time periods. I'm not just here to give advice. I'm here to help make lives better by influencing good life decisions and problem solving skills.
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My neighbor and I are really close. She is 14 and is expecting twins...I know its sad but we have been trying to make the best out of this that we can. The babies last name will be Nobles and she asked me to help her name them, since her boyfriend decided that she could pick. What are some good full names that would flow well and sound right with the last name Nobles? (link)
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Could you perhaps repost this question with the sex of the children?
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I see people saying "kik me!" sometimes now but I don't know what they mean? I am guessing they don't want me to apply my foot to them with great force, right?
Help? (link)
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Warning. Kik seems to be the common pervert and pedophiles new vice as it is an untractable app on smartphones and they can send perverse pictures and text without you having the option of denying the message. If you are not at least 18 I strongly urge you to steer clear of this app.
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Hi, we have been together for 3 years and we live together. he's a single father and in his late 40's.
as he's a quiet and laid back sort of person sometimes i find it hard to read him. when we argue i tell him, i don't feel loved by you, i feel ignored and he goes and says, yes i do love you even though i don't show it much, as he's not a showy person. is he telling the truth? thanks. (link)
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This is a very difficult question as it is pretty well impossible to tell how another person truly feels. The way I see it, if he treats you right and is willing to go the extra mile on his own for you... There really isn't a problem. A very wise person once told me " If you ask them 'What do you love about me' and they actually answer with a reason then they don't because love is a feeling not an object, it cannot be described."
My definition of love is giving someone the power to destroy you but trusting them enough not to.
Just think about this... If you left, how badly would he be effected. That should give you an answer.
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So my mom and I went to a bakery and I got a Pink Champagne cupcake. Do you think it has actual champagne in it? And if it does, does it have enough of it that I'll get drunk or something? I haven't eaten it yet, but I'm planning to later. (link)
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There is no alcohol in it. It is just a clever name for a flavor/look. Go for it. Even if there was alcohol in the recipe it would all be baked out in the process of making them. You are fine. Enjoy!
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Hi guys so i know you cannot get pregnant from having anal sex but what if about 30 minutes later you go to the bathroom and his sperm comes out and you wipe it but you wipe forward? So the sperm touches your vagina and possibly went slightly inside but not deep or anything. Thank you for reading and responding!!! (link)
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From what I've just read and studied online and heard from a planned parenthood specialist, yes it is possible but very highly unlikely.
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I serioulsy can't take this anymore. I understand this isn't a medical forum but I've been chronically constipated for a year and a half. I look pregnant right now. I stopped eating wheat, dairy.. and currently nuts to see if I have an allergy. Ive tried exlax, colace, miralax, probiotics. I've tried drinking tons of water and going for more walks. I've tried eating more greens.. things with more fiber. I've tried doing kegels. I had an xray done and it shows all my stool backed up but no blokage. All the doctors I get arent being invasive enough. but they say theres no blockage. I cant keep paying money for these specialists who barely do anything to figure out whats wrong. My stool is hard. I get diarrhea pains that make me fall to the floor but nothing will come out whenI try. I feel deformed. My stomach is not flat like it used to be. I have little energy, always irrtated. I even tried drinking that stuff you drink before a colonoscopy because some dumb doctor though it wolud help. It didnt. I was in the bathroom for 5 hours trying to finish that and nothing came out of it. I need help. Has anyone experienced this and gotten help? What kind of xrays should i get done? Ive seen so many doctors, tried so many things. I can't do this anymore. I seriously can't. I can't take this discomfort, pain, and worrying what is okay for me to eat and whats not. I'm at the point where I want to sop eating altogether. I even had an anal manometry test. It showed that some muscles were weak but kegels arent helping. please give me advice. please direct me to an amazing health forum that can fix me. I'm alwyas in pain. and its not chrons or celiac, they tested. What the hell is causing this constipation???? (link)
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You need a gastroenterologist
Here is a list of renowned Gastroenterologists
http://health.usnews.com/top-doctors/directory/best-gastroenterologists
This is all I could tell with without knowing your State.
Response to feedback.
Keep trying. What is happening to you could be deadly. my friend just had surgery for the same problem. He was diagnosed with a perforated bowel. It almost killed him. This may not be the same thing wrong with you but your problem could be just as deadly. For your sake. Please keep trying.
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Hi. I'm 21 and I'm thinking of becoming a 'webcam girl' so to speak. Does anyone know a safe website that is a reliable with payments? Is there anyone who has gone through the process of signing up and getting started, who could help me out? Please only useful answers, if you don't agree with this please keep it to yourself, I'm not looking for advice just help getting started. Thanks in advance :) (link)
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A couple female friends of mine have done this and from what I gathered from them is that none of the sites that are online that they have gone through are reliable. Also, they told me that the pay rate is just insanity and they never actually pay you what you earn. They tac on fees like " web space rental" "server rental" and what not. They also told me that they got docked pay for doing things wrong like, some sites don't allow you to use "props" of "toys" and they deduct from your pay or take your pay completely for doing so. One of said friends told me they took her pay for wearing a ring during masturbation and told her it was a prop and she could not have it because it could be used as a stimulant. It was just a plain old Wal-Mart sterling silver band. Be very fateful with these things. If you would like to talk to these girls feel free to contact me and I will ask them if they would be willing to help you out. My information is in my main column page.
Good luck.
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I'm 17/f
So my mum has always been like really overprotective of me and things, as in she barely lets me walk out of the house alone and when I do I have to bring my phone and text her, and she also tells me what coat to wear and things, despite me saying I'm old enough blah blah blah to decided.
Also, we always get in arguments. Like she woke me up today, just by coughing in the small hours on the landing but really loudly, so I jsut, you know groaned. And she went BALISTIC.
All day she's been going on how I shouted at her in the night and things, and I feel like saying well I'm just a teenager, and occaisonally I do get moody. But she doesn't understand!
I am going to Uni inSeptember, but want to solve this now.
What should I do to solve this? (link)
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You are a teenager and with your hormones changing you do get moody, but women in their mid life also have hormone changes called menopause. This also makes them moody. Google menopause and see what she is going through and you may possibly understand why she is the way she is.
Response to your feedback
Actually in some rare cases women can go through menopause slowly for years and years. My mother went to the doctor because she felt strange. (She is 47) The doctor ran many tests on her and come to find out she has been dealing with menopause since my birth. (I'm 26) That is 26 years of menopause. I say this because your situation sounds exactly like my childhood. I despised my mother for always snapping at me and yelling and complaining about every stupid little thing she could. Some of our arguments could have been classified as war. So don't rule it out completely. They put her on some type of medication that helped her go fully into her menopausal state and she is now out of it and now she is a completely different person. I truly enjoy my moms company now and we even go hang out in places I normally would never take her. She has become my best friend.
Then again it could just be her personality.
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Since most of our users are 13 year olds, we do not encourage them to develop personal relationships with advisers on this site. We discourage them from going off site with anyone since we do not personally know the advisers.Pedophiles are everywhere these days.
I will forward your concerns to the site owner & his lawyers. You can explain to them why you feel the need to pursue children off this site.
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Personally I find this statement disgusting and offensive. Indicating that my intentions were to (pursue a child) and stating that pedophiles are everywhere was highly inappropriate. You insinuated that I am a pedophile and that I was trying to sexually intending to pursue "a child" By reading the original question asked and looking through my advice column you would be able to easily see that was not the case. The nature of the question was not that of sexual orientation. I will be speaking to the owner of the site about the removal of your status as a moderator and I will be looking into formal complaints with the FAA and if need be the FBI. What you have subliminally accused me of is defamation of character as stated by federal law. Seeing as my wife runs an in home daycare, that could be detrimental to our way of living and I will not tolerate it nor take the chance of your words ruining what we have accomplished.
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Hi there,
One of the mods sent me a note that you were threatening legal action because she didn't like you luring 13 year old girls to your facebook page?
I am sure there is something else at play here, but I see why she was thinking this.
I read your banter back and forth, and I see both sides. Something that may not have occurred to you is that you are asking someone who has asked a question on a safe zone, where they are anonymous, to contact you, thereby revealing their identity.
I will add something about luring people into revealing their identity on an external site when I next revise the TOS.
In the mean time, I am hoping that you weren't trying to do what it looked like to that moderator. I read the rest of your column, quickly, and believe you are really trying to help people.
So, in light of the revelation that you would be trying to get someone to reveal themselves, no matter if that was your intent or not, I hope you will understand why the mod responded as she did.
If you want to converse with people more, that is completely OK. What I ask, however, is that you make some attempt to answer the question and then add that you would be open to talking more in the future, rather than completely ignoring their question and posting something like this as your complete answer:
"Send me a message. www.Facebook.com/mo.ruthless"
If you would like to discuss this further, please hit me up on Skype: DangerNerd
As far as I am concerned, this is a non issue, as long as you work within the spirit of the site.
Remember, when quoting someone's TOS to look for this:
"Advicenators.com may terminate passwords, questions, answers, users, or any other content at any time and for any reason."
The one thing no TOS is complete without. ;-)
Thanks,
Russell... (link)
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I think that it is clear by the way I have actually shown that I am here to help people with their problems, that I am not here to make personal relationships with these people. However some things have to be answered only after knowing someone's personality or "profile" I do not have a Skype, but I would like to chat with you a bit. The person I wrote that to did not contact me. Which goes to show that it is their choice to do so and it should remain that way. That is the freedom that built what we all know as the world wide web. The freedom to go and do anything that you please within legal boundaries. I and my attorney do not feel that I have done any wrong. Presenting it to him was just a way of covering myself should said moderator actually have deactivated my account. If I feel that outside contact is necessary in order to help someone then that is what I am going to do. As far as privacy of the person, I completely respect that. In my line of work in the nightlife scene of. LAS Vegas. I am entrusted with information on thousands of female dancers and hundreds of male dancers. By information I mean Social security numbers and copied cards, State identification, addresses, phone numbers, everything down to where they have tattoos and piercings and photos of those tattoos and piercings. Pretty much everything I would need to ruin thousands of peoples lives. With great trust comes great responsibilities. Hence why I told you said child did not contact me. You don't know if they did or not. Point being, (It is their choice) They have the choice to get the long term help they need/want should they choose it. Facebook is my means of communication with people I don't know. Hence why my real name is not on it. I'm not giving my information out to people I don't know. There is only enough information there for me to use it in a way that I must for work and social interaction. I know all about internet safety. I've been "white hat" for over a decade. You being a programmer, (Yes I actually took the time to look into who I'm talking to) I'm sure you know exactly what that means and you know that I am not here to do harm. I enjoy helping people and I will continue to do so as I please. Until I legally do something wrong. I don't see the point in fussing over it.
I do think you should look into some type of mobile messenger app that people can use to privately (by private meaning only a moderator may see it on the server) chat with the people that have a complex or time driven situation. I'm not the programmer type or I would have already gotten started and ready for presentation upon this conversation, but I think it would be a great asset to your site and would be a great addition and tool for helping people. After all.... Isn't that why we are all here... To help people....
Regards
Mo Ruthless
Ps. Sorry for any auto corrections. Cell phones can be awfully irritating with that.
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"i am from Tanzania" How can i convice my virgin girlfriend to have sex with me (link)
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You don't. If she has to be convinced then she isn't ready. Don't push her to do something she isn't ready for.
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My boyfriend is moving to a new school next year and will probably won't be able to see him again! We're so damn close together that I cry everyday knowing that! Might there be some advice to prep for this and what to before he leaves? :( (link)
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I met my wife on MySpace years ago and we kept up a long distance relationship for 2 years faithfully from 2018 miles away from each other. Just remember....
If there is a will there is a way.
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her 22 year old sister is in jail for one year for financial crimes. I have decided to allow her younger 17 year old sister to visit but I don't want her to be affected badly by the visit and I am not sure if she really should be in a prison environment, also she might sympathize with her sister and want to "join" her in some weird way or want to get involved in criminal activities as well. I am still wondering if this is a good idea at all. How can I prepare her and what should I tell her beforehand.
is it even a good idea to let her visit? (link)
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With all do respect... (I'm expecting bad feedback over this) How long are you going to baby your child. There is a point when you need to let her learn for herself. I agree completely with the other advisor before me. I'm just adding my input to it. I understand you want to protect your daughter, but she is almost a legal adult and you are afraid visiting a family member in jail is going to effect her.... What ever you have taught her up until this point in her life is who she is. You should know how she reacts to situations and influences. So I think with the fact that you have to even ask this question you are showing that you don't know your own daughter. Possibly because you spent so much of your time thinking helping and worrying about your other daughter. I'm just simply profiling right now and I could be totally off and wrong. Only you can verify the validity and truth behind what I'm saying. So ma'am. If I am correct.... I think you need to just let her go see her sister and then start spending time with her to see who it is that you raised and get to know her on a more personal and friend like level. That will tell you how much you can trust her with what she sees hears and experiences. Then you won't have to ask jerks like me. ;)
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Hi! im a 15 year old freshman and im about 5'3 and 120 lbs. im not a bi girl at all im literally all muscle from cheer. me and my friends are the popular girls and all around the same size. we have never drank before and wanted to know some alcoholic drinks that arent to strong and will get us tipsy and kinda drunk but not to the point where we are puking and hungover after. things that have lower alcohol content and any new drinking tips in general! thanks! :) (link)
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Alcohol has adverse effects and can ruin your broth process and your brain development. Is losing your cheerleading stays really worth it.... C'mon now... I do a lot of work for clubs, bars, and events. I've watched full grown adults ruin their lives with alcohol and have witnessed alcohol related deaths from over consumption. Its not worth it kid. Don't even try it. Besides... It tastes like shit.
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You need to stop asking people to contact you on facebook. Either answer questions by giving advice or don't answer at all. If you continue to do this your account will be deleted.
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Some things need to be answered over time and looked into after getting to know a person. Not all things can be answered in a flat out message. I am here to give advice to others and I will continue to do so in my personal way unless you can show me where there is a law against what I am doing. I will print a copy of your terms of service and have my attorney look through it. If he does not find an infraction in what I am doing the terminating my account would be grounds for me to start a lawsuit. Perhaps instead of harassing me, you should develop an app or a messenger system so that facebook would not be necessary to help people with more complex questions over a time span.
The only thing I have found that states anything about other commercial sites is this. In which I'm not selling or exploring anything in any way shape or form for any personal gain. Therefore you have no grounds for the deactivation of my account.
Posting links to commercial sites for the purpose of promoting sales is prohibited.
Thank you for wasting both of our time.
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I'm 21/f and I've been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, we're both very happy. Where I work there is one guy who I've been having dreams about every other night for the past 2 months. These dreams get more and more steamy to the point where I wake up feeling as if I've already cheated. Me and the guy at work are friends, and to make matters worse he has a fiance. I don't plan on pursuing these feelings but every time we stand even remotely close to each other at work my hormones go into overdrive and memories from past dreams almost push me into doing something stupid. What should I do before I completely lose it?
Thanks for any advice,
StupidHormones (link)
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I don't know why anyone would tell you to tell your boyfriend. That is horrible advice. Regardless if your boyfriend is a jealous guy or not telling him such things would male him insecure and that would put a strain on what seems to me as harmless infections. Guys are very simple. We are beyond easy to please. Just let us feel like we ate the only one you see even in a room full of people.
Ok now as for this other friend that is a guy. That is normal to be attracted to other guys. Shit happens... That's life... Its natural. Just make sure you don't put yourself in a compromising position. Don't go out with him outside of work. Do your best to not be alone with him. Most of all... Remember that he is a co worker and if you act on this and mess things up you still have to see and deal with him every day.
This is my advice from a male perspective.
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My boyfriend and i have been together for a year &1 month i really he has anger management issues and he agrees but he doesnt like talking about it so he takes it out on me but at the same time i deserve happiness to i really want to keep him he IS the one i know it how can i be a dream girlfriend? (link)
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I completely agree with Alexis. You can not spend your life trying to please someone and make them happy. There are too many guys that will be happy with who you already are and you won't have to change anything. Don't live a lie for someone else when you could be much happier living the truth with someone else.
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What turns on a guy?
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Dude... We are guys... Just walk out in a thong... Women think to far into this stuff. You wanna know what turns a guy on... Skin. Flat out. Skin. The second we see it we are down. Most guys won't make the first move for fear of being shot down. just show some skin and do anything that hints towards what you want and its on.
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I like this guy, but he never talks to me. He probably thinks I'm uncool because the most popular girl in school says she doesn't hate me but I feel like she does. He talks to me every once in awhile. But I don't kno if he's scared to talk to me, if he just doesnt like me or something I want to talk to him but I'm just scared. Help!!?! (link)
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Don't be afraid. Confidence is key. Confidence can make the nerdiest person in the world sexy. I used to be quiet and shy... Kept to myself. I was afraid to talk to girls period. When I finally started trying, it got easier. Remember this quote. 20 Seconds of immense courage could change your life. So next time you see him... Just be brave for 20 seconds. Walk up and talk to him. Before the conversation is over, ask for his facebook. Then talk there. Sometimes its easier to talk through a screen.
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I want to see this scary movie coming out next week, but it's Rated R. I'm 13, so how can I see it? Can I see it with a parent? (link)
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Yes. Most theaters will allow in any teen with an adult. Most of them don't care if it is a parent or not.
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