Ask a serious question if you want a serious answer. Chances are, I'm older than most of these kids who think they have a degree in psychology. I can offer real advice, just drop me a note. Bullshit questions (and I can tell) will be either mocked or ignored completely, so ask at your own risk.
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okay, this might seem really nasty, but i don't know how to have sex. i just don't. and i need someone to tell me... soon.
what are some things we should do?? i'm sooo clueless... i don't know what to do!! (link)
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My advice is as follows: If you do not know how to have sex or what goes where, you should not have sex. Learn as you go. If you really are "sooo clueless," you should not be having sex. Great responsibility comes with sexual intercourse and if you don't even know how to do it, chances are you will not know how to be responsible.
-Maisie
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Ok, here's my situation, I really care for this guy who is turning 18 in July and im 15. Me and him both really care So0o much for each other and know this only my parents don't liek the fact that hes turning 18 soon and that hes black...we don't want to stop doing what we're doing with the worry of my parents putting a Restaining order on him or have him sent to jail. What do I do? Is it legall to date him with out parental consultance at 16? (link)
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Dating is legal, period. As long as he doesn't hurt you or show any threat of hurting you, your parents should not be able to get away with filing a restraining order. HOWEVER, laws state that pretty much any physical contact between the two of you is illegal until you are of an age of consent. I don't know what the two of you do, but if it's anything physical, you should definitely keep it to yourselves. Keep in mind, though, that it is not illegal for your parents to make you have a physical, which may reveal to them more than you would want them to know.
-Maisie
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OK i'm not blonde but it's just an expression. I think this is how people see me... just a dumb brunette. A lot of people say that I remind them of Jessica Simpson. In some ways I'm flattered (shes pretty, nice, funny, has an amazing husband) but also she acts ditzy. I know I do a lot of the time too but it isnt on purpose. I say things being serious and others think I'm joking... when really I dont know. Also whenever I'm hanging out with people I am ALWAYS the person who gets made fun of. I try not to let it bother me and I know I dont show it that often. what do I do with this?? (link)
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In my opinion (always just an opinion) I think you're doing things backwards. Let them know it bothers you. Maybe not when you're in a big group of kids and someone cracks a joke and someone ends up making fun of you, because letting them know right then that it hurts you could be bad. However, you should take your friends aside individually when you think about it and just let them know what bothers you.
-Maisie
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mmmk.....well i've liked this guy for eh 3 yrs i think and we r pretty good friends. i like him A LOT but am scared to make a move cus i dont kno if he likes me. i keep getting mixed signals and stuff from him so i have no clue how he feels. its driving me freaking crasy. i have no way of getting in touch with him cept for AIM and he is never on! i have asked his friends to tell him but they never get around to it and i just really need to have a way to tell him b4 its too late! the reason i didnt tell him during skool was because i dont like rejection(even tho it happens i kno) and i felt like i was being pressured to tell him. also if he did like me and ask me out i would go otu with him but whenever we broke up i wouldnt want our friendship to b akward or not b friends at all. what to do?! (link)
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If you have no way of getting in touch with him, perhaps you should begin looking for someone that you CAN keep in touch with.
-Maisie
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Ok i need some help. I'm 15, 5'2, kinda pretty I guess?? not the prettiest and not the ugliest girl in the school. The problem is that I'm shy. I know people tell me this all the time. I'm not shy around my friends at all, but when it comes to meeting new people I just dont know what to talk about! Nothing comes to mind when I'm around new people. and i dont want to say something stupid like "wow the weather is nice" or whatever. Help me! What should I say?? How do I become more outgoing with people? I think If i were more outgoing I might meet new people and meet new friends. am i right or wrong? (link)
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You've got the right idea, kid. Be outgoing. Go out more often. Hang out with your friends at social events more often. If you've met someone new, find some way to compliment them. It's cheap, I know, but it'll get them on their good side and there's a good chance they'll be the ones to start your next conversation. Pay attention to new people; close attention. Find things you have in common and point them out. It really helps, I guarantee it.
-Maisie
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how do u tell when people are flirting (link)
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Just ask them if they're interested. You can't go on assuming someone does or doesn't like you. Asking can't hurt any. If they say no, say "I'm sorry, I got the wrong impression." If they say yes, act on it.
-Maisie
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well my friend really annoys me should i tell her that or what (link)
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Don't say flat out, "You're annoying me." Instead, say it nicely. "Hey, chill out a bit," or "That's enough." Everyone has friends that bother them. As long as they don't know they're bothering you, they'll keep it up.
-Maisie
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As an update, I just read tinibikini's "advice" (sue me if I got the username wrong) and I'd like to say that that is absolutely terrible advice. Why in the world would you want to lose your friend? If letting her know throws some bad wind between the two of you, discuss it. Don't lose a friend just because she bothers you sometimes.
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Alright well Im 16 yrs old..Soon to be 17 and I've slept with 7 different people. Is that considered a slut? I dont think Im skanky or anything, I just enjoy sex! Is that wrong? Im very open about my sexuality and people think Its wrong to be, Alot of people joke around and say that Im a nympho and shit like that..I need advice and I want people to truthfully tell me what they think. Dont be afraid to tell me the truth..Be straight up!! *Thnks* (link)
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As for all these people calling you a slut, ignore them. They're full of shit. This is an advice column, for God's sake, and that's not what you want to hear.
Here's my advice: slow it down a bit, kid. You've got an entire life ahead of you and when you're finally ready to settle down with somebody, the less people you've been with, the better. Certainly, do not let it get to you. If you sleep with more and more people, one of these days you will be turned down and it'll sting. You're still young. Wait a bit. The more often you have sex, the better a chance you have of getting pregnant or getting some kind of STD. Life is far too short to cut in half because of one dumb mistake.
I hope this helps.
-Maisie
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here it goes my friends that are mad at me keep calling me and saying that they gonna make a fool out of me and i noe they will cuz they so friggin mean well do u noe what i should do. (link)
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First things first: stop calling them your friends. People that are willing to do this sort of thing to another person are not your friends. Second, just ignore them. People will be mean all your life. If you let it get to you, it'll only get worse and worse.
-Maisie
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I gotta lotta problems. okay so last year i had a ton of friends and i fellt on top of da world. But den I moved to anoter skewl and I only have 2 friends. I dunt know what ta do. Everything was so gooooooood befor an now I try to hang out wit other peeps but it seem like no one wants to git to know me. wassup wit dis?? i need sum helllpppp (link)
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First off, drop the pride.
So you had friends at your old school. So what? New place, new beginning, new everything. You didn't start off with that many friends at your old school. You had to make friends with people. Try it.
-Maisie
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This is a very personal question and i feel weird to ask this but do yalls shave your pubic hairs? Cause some guys don't like it and i was wondering if it was ok if i mowed my lawn? Please Help if you can sorry if my question bothers you :/ (link)
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Do what you want. Many girls shave, and many girls don't. Hell, I know guys that shave as well. If you're currently seeing somebody, take into consideration what they may like to see. If you're not with anybody, it's all up to you. In any case, think about this one: if they don't like what they see, they can find something else. You shouldn't want to be with anybody that can't accept you for you.
-Maisie
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this guy wanted me to break up with someone for him.. so i did because i really liked him but when i did he starts pretty much ingoring me.. and doesnt talk about liking me and is in love with this other gurl.. I cant move on that easily because i had been with that guy for 5 months!.. so does anybody have idea on how to move on? thanks so much! (link)
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It's the hardest thing in the world to do, but talk to him. Ask him why he pretty much ditched you after you did this for him. Let him know how you feel (regarding him and regarding the situation entirely) and ask him if he still wants to be with you. If his answer is yes, then go for it. If no, then you'll have to think about moving on.
As far as 'moving on' goes, it's hard, I know. I've been there. The best way, I've found, is to go out and meet people. If you feel you must be with somebody, then find somebody else you like and try to get close to them (but don't get too close, it may frighten them a bit). If you just want a friendly relationship, that's easy. Go out more often, hang out with your friends and have them invite more people, go to parties, etc.
I hope this helps.
-Maisie
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I HAVE A REALLY BAD HABIT ;; I SUCK MY THUMB I HAVE ALL MY LIFE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO TO HELP ME STOP IVE TRIED EVERYTHING NUTHYN SEEMS TO WORK ;; MUCH LOVE KATIE (link)
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You have an oral fixation. I've got the same thing, the only difference I solve my problem by biting my nails and smoking cigarettes. I know, very unhealthy, but I'm trying to stop.
Here's my advice: I've known this to work for many people. My father quit smoking by sucking on Tootsie Roll Pops. I know you're not smoking, but it's the same problem. I quit by chewing gum. It really helps. Consider it.
-Maisie
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hey im katie (( female )) i weight 160 .. im also 5'6 and 14 .. i know im only supposed to weigh like 140 sumpthyn but i cant seem to lose weight i hate the way i look my parents are always giving me a hard time i cry sometimes because i cant be a size 5 or even a 7 or 9 i try so hard to diet and work out but nuthyn seems to work for me i get so depressed sometimes cause of the way i look i hate going to the beach and stuff with my tummy and i have the hardest times finding cute cholthes that fit meh right i always get stuck with oversized shirts i need help i mean i dont really have any questions i just need help to make meh feel better ;; much love Katie Sumner (link)
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Katie, I know this will sound cliche and lame, but everybody is their own person. You are an individual and, coming from somebody who was once overweight, I can tell you that as long as you don't let anybody else's opinions get to you, you will be very happy. You're only 14, and one thing that comes with puberty is metabolism. Chances are, I know, that you've already hit puberty, but that doesn't mean you've completed it. You have a very good chance of losing weight within the next few years, as I did during puberty. Just keep your cool. I know so many overweight people that are proud of themselves. Appearance is nothing, Katie, and you shouldn't worry about it. Just do whatever makes you happy.
-Maisie
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