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alright so a little over a week ago i had unprotected sex with my current boyfrend and yesterday we chilled again and he fingered me and i started bleeding it was sort of brownish but i was wondering if the reason i bleed was some sort of minor misscarriage? is that even possible?

i know one of my friends had a misscarriage and what she described sounded like what happened to me

i wondering is that possible or is this theory even probable (link)
i think its a little too soon for any of that but i'm no doctor. sometimes that brownish stuff come before or after a period, sometimes out of the blue, it doesnt happen often but its kinda like all the junk it needs to get rid of. at least what my mom told me.

check online or go here:

http://www.funadvice.com/q/brownish_vaginal_discharge_before


i know it does happen to some of those who have miscarriages but i think a week is just too soon.

hope i helped!


WHat can i get or make a girl for christmas? (link)
make her a blankettt (:

go to like a craft store, where i'm from we have like michaels and jo anns fabrics, and you can get one yard in a solid color felt, and then get another yard in a patterned felt, one that she would like, and then place them evenly on top of eachother with the pattern on top, and then cut slits into both fabrics at the same time.then tie it together and your done! no sewing!

then fold it and get 3 of her favorite candy and 2 bags of popcorn,maybe a movie you know she likes and you'd possibly wanna watch with her (: then put the candy down on the blanket, with the popcorn next, then the movie on top, and take a big piece of ribbon and tie it over it all so it stays all cute.(:

haha its not tooo expensive, and she'll like it because you made it.

other wise get her a braclet or a necklace, even a sweatshirt from her favorite store, idk theres so many thingsss.

good luck hope i helped (:


15/f i'm an honors student but my dad is sometimes not understanding of the level of my courses this year, and he pressures me too much and calls me a failure when i get a mere C.
this report card, i'm getting at least 2 Cs and i was very upset because of it. i proceeded to cut myself with my mom's razor blade ...on the inside of my left arm. they're pretty damn deep.
this isn't normal.

what ..can i do?

i'm helpless, weak... (link)
the way i look at it is, never cause any type of harm or anything to yourself because there isnt a single person who will be worth it in the end.

dispite how harsh your dad is, he just wants whats best for you, and C's are concidered "okay" parents never want it to just be an "okay grade" they want the "best grade" but you know you've tried your best and thats all that matters. Its your dad and i really think dads are supposed to be tough. But you gotta hang in there and be positive. Next grading period try focusing a different way, or spend alittle more time studying in those classes rather than the ones your doing best in. We all have our weaker subjects except for those genious kids lol (:

cheer up girl, enjoy life, do your best, in the end your dad's going to be just as proud i can assure you. (:

and like the other folks have said, try talking to him about it, ask him for help and see what he might be able to tell you. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship with friends or family.

good luck and pleaseeee dont cut yourselff!


Which is much better between the 2?

A.) A guy/girl who will love you but you don't love/like him/her

or

B.) A guy/girl that you love/like you, but does not
love/like you

( I know that's it's better when you like each other but the question ask which one is better between the 2) (link)
see now for me, i'd rather love and not beloved, because i know that feeling, and for me to know i'm doing that to someone i'd just feel way too sorry.

however.. maybe if you chose your first one you could try to be friends and help them get over you rather than just saying sorry i'm not interested and never speaking to them you know?

thats tough, but for me it'd be the second one.


will a yeast infection go away on its own (link)
yeah they can depending on if you take care of it.

drink cranberry juice, try not to wear cotton underwear so much, wear silk or mesh, and stay away from tights. shower alot and just make sure you keep it clean and dry.


How do you judge a song to be your favorite?
( I just want know how other person judge the song to be their favorite)

Me I like songs depending on the message of the song (it's lyrics) and the tune of the song and how it is played with an instrument and also how it is sang. (link)
me too. my favorite songs are the ones that relate to me most. its like listening to your life, or what your going through and for some reason it just keeps me going no matter if i'm having a good day or bad day. (:


okay so my ex [the same guy who hurt me 2 times before/took my virginity/and so on] and I have been talking as friends he broke up with his ex [the one hes been going back in forth between me and her with] i was so happy!! you have no idea how much i love this guy but im afraid to love him cause idw to get hurt again [he said he would never hurt me again and that before he just wasnt sure but now he knows] i think he loves me i'm almost positive =] seriously but im still not sure i just dont want him to leave me for her again. i just want him to be the 'one' i told him i WILL NOT go out with him untill he knows what he wants but we're still talking [and kissing after skool] but we do everything on the down low cause i know everyone will be so dissapointed...im just still not sure if im doing the right thing by giving him another chance...i just dont wanna give up on something that might be meant to be (link)
heres the deal, if you know everyone around you will be dissapointed, you should REALLY re-think all of this. Personally, if he really loved you, he wouldn't have been confused in the first place. Guys try and keep us girls as their fall backs in case things with another person don't work out. Yes guys do get confused and not just guys but us girls too make mistakes when it comes to relationships.. but if he was so confused he shouldn't of been dating either of you. he should've been friends with you both not going back and forth in and out of relationships.

theres so many guys out there and as much as you love him and want things to work, you need to be prepared to just move on in case. i wish the best of luck and i really hope this time he means it, but dont let him have it all so easy. make sure he knows your not playin when it comes down to you guys getting back together. dont have him just tell you he wants to be with you and only you, make him show it.

if everyone around you is going to be dissapointed because they know what hes done to you, or they dont think too highly of him, then he needs to step up and show them that he does mean it. a guy who really cares will you do anything to be your everything. (:

good luck girl,and remember theres plenty of fish in the sea (:


well i tried sushi for the first time a couple days ago. well, it was a california roll. my mom (im 13/f) doesnt really want me to eat raw foods, but idc as long as its fresh. i get the food at some place near a library i volunteer at in the summer, so i can just get some sushi from the restaurant without her knowing. anyways, what other things besides california rolls (i liked it, it tasted great with the soy sauce!) should i try? i didnt know what to get when i first went there so i went with the lady who owns the restaurant's opinion. so she got me the california roll and next time she says i should try like some kinda shrimp roll thing. is that good? and what other things are really good and wont make me sick if its raw? im not sure how some foods like.. octupus tastes like, but if its good.. then idk. how about sashimi? is that good? i also want other suggestions. and i dont want the food to be too expensive. i only have a budget of about 10 bucks, lol. (link)
well i work at a sushi bar. and the hard thing about this question is every sushi place is different. i mean we all have the basic CA rolls, and what not but the good stuff (i l0000ve sushi) varies at different places. so my sushi place may have something that they've never heard of.

personally sashimi is good! i prefer salmon or tuna.. and as far as good rolls.. let me tell you about one then you can usually create your own..

it has two tempura shrimp cucumber avocado and crab salad (crab mixed with mayo) on the inside, with rice on the outside, salmon and tuna, then it has alittle bit of hot and sweet sauce over it. it goes about $9.00 but it seriously has alittle bit over everything and tastes AMAZING! that was the first thing i ever tried sushi wise. bombbbb.

try something new everytime you go! read about the special rolls they have and see what ones you like!

takee careee♥


heyy..okay everything started out like amaazing. i loved him so much you like dont even no..but then he was always asking me where i was and what i was doing like 24/7. i thot that was sorta cute n stuff. but then i got this text message from my friend whitney that said and i quote! [[cuz nobody believes me unless they've seen it.]] "michael loves you so much and wants to be with you the REST of his life." and that just weirded me out. i dont reallii wanna marry someone whose my boyfriend going into eighth grade. i thot that he was taking r relationship ...WAYYY to seriously. so i decided i needed to end it otherwise he might just get more attached. yeah it was a sacrifice but i didnt wanna hurt him worse then i already did because if he got even more attached it could have been ALOT worse. he already hates me and doesnt wanna be my friend. and i didnt wanna make him like go into depression or anything. so i decided it was for my and his own good that we break up. and now everything turned to crap. him and all of his friends are SOOOOO MEANN to me. and like there whole group completely hates me. it reallii hurts..some of the thing that they're calling me. i dont no what to do anymore. i still wanna be friends with him..but he told me he hates me and never wants to see me again. do you think he'll get over it? and do you have any reasons why he's acting like this? any ways to ignore it? thanks in advance♥ (link)
girl honestly ignore him and his friends.. hes just upset and of course there his friends so they are gunna give you crap about it.. however i think talking to him and just tellling him why you did what you did might be the best thing.. if he continues to be this way then screw him because if he cares enough about you he'll want whatever makes you happy dispite if its him or not. just put it behind you and find other guys live up your life and make it amazing cause your still young. someday he will look back on it and be like "wow how lame was i?" he will get over it.

good luck girll (:


okay so there is this one guy i met on myspace, and he goes to the other school in my city, and our schools are rivals, but he knows all of my friends, and we are really hitting it off, but we have not met yet, and we have a date comingup, but in one of his pix it looks like he has some acne, and i think to myself i get too shallow, and i dont want to hurt this guys feelings, but what if my shallowness effects the way i feel about him? (link)
wait til you meet him and stuff in person and look for yourself, then if you feel your not interested just tell him. you cant help how you feel. good luck girl (:


Ok. Me and this guy talk alot on the computer and we laugh and hes says Im the only one who ever laughs to his joke and none of his friends do and he will talk like 30 or 1hr extra with me when hes not suppose too. But When Im around him we never talk!! And Im too shy to ask him stuff and I dont know if he like me or not! Does that mean he likes me. Because along ime ago he said I was pretty and asked me if I consider hm as a friend...becuase we were playing to questuon game. So Does he like me?

Help. (link)
its very likely that he is somewhat interested in you girl (: but the only way to find out is to ask.. so play your little question game or something and ask questions. im sure when hes around you he wants to talk to you but is maybe to nervous? so talk the next time you talk to him just ask him "would you ever be interested in me? are you interested in me?"

and see how it goes. good luckkk (:


What kind of makeup can you wear for rigorous water activities (tubing, boating, waterslides, swimming laps, etc.) that won't rub off when you sort of wipe your eyes off with your hands after you come up from being underwater in a pool?


please include brand names too. (link)
theres so manny!

i personally dont spend a lot of money on make up.. like i do but not on just one thing..

go to walgreens or rite aid longs etc.. any local drugstore.. and just look in the make up section.. anything that says "waterproof" wont come off..

personally i like the maybelline Lash Stylistâ„¢ Waterproof Mascara

looks like this
http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Eye/Mascara/lash-stylist-waterproof-mascara.htm

anywayy that same brand has many other kinds of mascara and make up stuff that is water proof just take a look around on the website.

havee funn (:


SO me and my gf had unprotected sex yesterday and she is only gonna stay with me until she gets outta high school (she just turned a senior now) i dont know what to do
should i stay with her or end it here? (link)
well for starters.. dont have unprotected sex with her especially if you dont even know how you two will end up. dude plus, you say shes only staying till the end of highschool, then sounds to me like its already settled.. i think you should just maybe move on, theres so manny girls in this world who deserve a chance.. otherwise talk to her and tell her how you feel.

good luck dude. (:


Ok so i really like this guy and me and him would talk sometimes at school but now it's summer so i added him on myspace and i want to message him but i dont know what to say to him i mena i dont want to tell him i like him i want to become friends with him so what do i say???? (link)
just play it cool and have a conversation...

say "heyy youu (: hows your summer?" and it will go from there..

good luck my dear (:


OK, so this is gonna be long but i`m so sorry but bare with me PLEASE i need help...


so there is this girl, "g" and we became best friends ever since the begining of the year. we were both new and she was still attatched to her other two BESTBEST friends, "E" and "A", so we hung out allll the time! and we went to the mall, EVERYTHING together. however, toawrds the end of the school year, she began ditching US, me and my other best friend "M" for her OTHER friends. we fought and then made up and THEN, yesterday, there was this banquet thing and she went to her friend "A"'s house and didn`t come to the banquet. But that day, when we were like, so youre ditching us for HER and she was like yeah. and i was like ok then youre saying we shuldn`t be friends AT ALL anymore? and she was like yeah.
and we were all WTF.
but today was the last day of school, and we were ok-ish, not bffs.

in two days, i`m having this little get together and i invited her.

but yeah, i still want to be friends with her but shes not coming back to my school next year and shes going to surf camp with two of her friends this year E & A.

PLEASE HELP;
i still wanna hang with her over summer.
thanks (link)
keep her friendship as just a FRIEND.. you obviously cant count on her if she leaves you hanging like that.. and make sure you dont let her feel like she can have you as her fallback friends whenever she wants.. get to know other people live it up.. shes not worth it i promise.

you can invite her theres absolutely nothing wrong with that.. but if she says no say "okay" and leave it at that.

good luck my dear (:


this guy smiled at me! does he like me?! (link)
mm i wouldn't make an assumption like that based off him just smiling..

talking to you, being flirty anddd smiling then maybeee.. but not just a simple smile..


long story short me and my best guy friend felt each other up the day after his girlfriend broke up with him. he was cheating on her with me but nobody knew it. i told one of my friends that we felt each other up because she had been teasing me about not getting any, but thats not why i felt up the guy, i felt him up because i liked him alot and he was finally single. ok so i told my friend because normally she's a down to earth person who can keep a good secret. my guy friend really didn't want anyone to find out because he was still in love with his ex and wanted to get back with her. now for some reason three months later this b***ch decides to tell all of our friends, including the guy's ex that I SAID we made out and that he cheated. first of all, we never made out, i never said that, i don't lie, and he did cheat on his girlfriend but absolutely nobody knows that except me and him. so everyone thinks im a liar because when they asked the guy about us making out he denies it because we didn't do it, therefor making me look like a liar because "i said we made out". the guy was PISSED at me for telling people because he believed this girl who said i said all that b.s. well after 2 months of this drama, the guy finally realized im right and apologized to me and now we're better friends than before. meanwhile this girl and his ex keep telling more and more people that im a liar, im not a liar, she's the F'n liar. i've walked in on them twice talking about me. im about ready to punch this lying rumor spreading bitch but she has 3times the muscle i have (im about 105lbs, she's about 150 pure muscle) and she's about 5 inches taller than me, and could deffinately kick my ass. im not friends with her or his ex anymore because of this yet i still see them all the time because my 2 other bff's didnt want to get involved in the drama, even though they were on my side, so they're still friends with them. i don't know what to do about this. part of me is just saying "fuck it, i got my guy back" and the other part is still furious with her because she just keeps continuing this bull shit drama. help me deal with this girl. this drama started in February!!! (link)
okay first off i dont blame the girl for it and you shouldn't either. technically you took her man and now you've got him back so im sure shes just gunna run her mouth because shes still upset by it.. if you let it get to you then shes gunna continue.. worst case you need to walk right up to her and say lets TALK. no attitude be cool about it.. and tell her exactly how it went. remind her that you "dont care if she believes you or not, and that your trying to be the bigger person by talking about it instead of fighting about it" let your man know you want to speak to her..

hope i helped! oh and technically you werent cheating.. it says up there you never made out but you "felt eachother up" when they broke up.. so thats not cheating.. if you kissed him and what not then okay yes it is cheating.. just wanted to clarify..

good luck my dear (:


I really want to know because everyone else has already lost it and I'm 14 and I havent! (link)
girl your so young! im sorry i dont think theres a specific age but 16 i think is still to young! i lost mine when i was 17 and i've been with him for two and a half years.. (im still 17 this was a few weeks after my birthday)

just make sure you really know the person so that way its not just some jerk whos gunna use you to get it and thats it. it used to be something special but now adays all these crazy kids are trying to act too old.

enjoy life be young. do it whenever you feel as if your ready theres no right age my dear (:

be safe as well okay?!


so im having a birthday party tomorrow night, me and 6 gfs are going in a limo into like this beachy city, out to dinner and shopping and stuff, it should be really fun. ive gone thru a rough 2 years .. and everytime something is supposed to be fun, it's not. it's my birthday today, and i dont feel happy. i feel just so tired and upset by everything going on, it happens alot. how can i just let loose and have fun? i wanna forget whats happened and move on, but i just cant. pleaseee help (link)
happy birthday girl (:

seriously.. you just need to realize that, life does this. you have your good days your bad days, the rough times and the great ones, and you cant ever pick your family. plus things happen for a reason but the only way you can feel better about it is just to accept the fact that its happen, smile and say, im okay. its only as fun as you make it. (:

cheer up love its your birthday! another year older and you've got this great night planned! dress cute, look hott and have an amazing night!

hoped i helped dear (:


Well tonight, I gave head.
It wasnt my first time or anything, than after that he stuck in me for like literally 5 or 6 seconds, and then i jumped off.
He deffinetly didn't cum at all,
and then I finished giving him head and after a long time ,he finally finished and i swallowed a tiny bit of it.
I know there is a risk or me being pregnant but is there a very high risk or a low risk? (link)
well the only slight way of you even being pregnant is if while he was in you, i dont care how long theres still pre-cum.. and it comes out randomly.. swallowing it does nothing to you. so i'd say a low risk, but its possible.. so be careful girl (:




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