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So, I'm 15, 4'10'', and 93 lbs. We did BMI and Body Fat Percentage in health, my BMI was 19.5, and my Body Fat Percentage was 20. Is that bad, considering my size? I saw kids who were technically over weight with percentages of like, 18-29, so obviously I'm sort of curious. I mean, I've got the common girl issue of the lower stomach being kinda ehh, and I'm a 32 C. Does that make a difference?
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o0h gosh hun, that is definitly not fat and i doubt that you're ever going to hear that from anybody! btw i am 16, 5'3 and im 115 lbs. and people tell me all the time that i am darn skinny! haha you have absolutely nothing to worry about:)
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Ok, i am 16 and from michigan.
so i weigh about 135 and i am 5'4, and basically im sorta skinny, except i hate how "thick" my thighs are. I know i shouldn't, but sometimes it gets to me.
Anyways, i was wondering what kind of outfits would look good on me. I don't wear a lot of skirts or anything.
I have really long reddish brown hair (its either wavy or straight and goes about 5 inches above my butt) and hazel eyes, athletic body. i have freckles that seem to almost disappear in winter. i don't like wearing makeup and also, i have some acne (not real bad).
Any help would be grately appreciated. thanks =]
P.S. sorry it looks so long. (link)
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first off, most guys find big or thick thigh attractive. it's sexy:) i do also, and all my guy friends compliment that. and as for what looks good on you, i totally agree with the girl below me!
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I just moved to a new area (for my job). All of my friends and family are a great distance away from me now. A coworker here has invited me to a New Years Eve party that she is throwing. I don't want to show up alone but it seems like that's my only option if I am going to show up (which I do want to go to her New Year's Eve party as a friendly gesture).
I'm not dating anyone and have no male friends that would be suitable for a party of this sort that live nearby. I want to make a good impression at the party but I'm not sure if having a date (or not) influences that.
Do you think it's tacky (or pitiful/sad/overall bad) to go to a local New Year's Eve event by myself? I mean, can I go to a New Year's Eve party alone?
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yeah, if you go with someone you won't feel so alone, and you'd have someone to enjoy the new year's eve with, you might end up feeling depressed or upset in the end if you go alone, have fun!
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Warning: This will get long. 14, Female.
When I look in the mirror, I hate what I see. I think I am one of the most disgusting looking people on this planet. The boys in my school don't make this any better either. One day during a class I was fixing my eye make up and my teacher was like "Don't do that in here, save that for you're time. You're pretty without the make up anyway." and on of the boys made a comment that really, really hurtful remark and still does to this day it hurts, which was "HA NO SHE'S NOT" That was one of the meanest comments I have ever recieved, and it makes me cry.
My best friend is commonly agreed as the prettiest girl in my grade, not just by us freshmen but by everyone else too! When I stand next to her, I feel so gross. I hate it, honestly I do. I used to cut and I'm trying so dearly hard to refrain from it, but each day the temptation gets harder and harder to resist. I know I'm skinny also, but I feel like an ogre to put it in simpliest terms. I feel like I'm overgrown and horribly fat. It's disgusting.
I'm on pills right now for controling Bi-Polar, and that makes me feel even worse about myself. Like I'm incredibly "fucked up" and I have to take some stupid pill to be a normal human being. It makes me cry at night. I can't help it though.
Anerexia and cutting never looked so good. I'm heading in the wrong direction and typing this had made me cry, showing how much it affects me. I sometimes wish I would die, and get it over with, so all the sadness will disappear. When I'm going to take my pills, sometimes I consider taking them all so it would all be over.
Please someone help, I'm loosing all hope in life, and I don't know what to do. (link)
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you're not alone hun and trust us on this. what you feel about yourself or what you see in the mirror isn't what you should always believe. and what the boy said is most likely 100% not true. b/c boys at your age can be just so immature and they say/do things to bring others down b/c they think it'll make them feel better about them selves. so do never listen to what others say or think of you, its what you think of yourself that matters. and do not compare yourself to your best friend, or even anybody else at all. she 'may' be a bit prettier, but that does not make her a better person then you are.no one is better then anybody. maybe the reason why you feel that way about your image is b/c you are bi-polar or something. its very common in people who are bi-polar, and i should know b/c i've suffered from it too. i wont lie to you, ive been in the exact same position that you are in right now. i had even questioned myself whether i should even live anymore. that is why i am here now to help you, it doesn't matter what others say about you, b/c from what i know, you are a good person, and being beautiful on the inside is what makes you beautiful on the outside. if anybody ever say things like that about you, ignore it. you shouldn't have to listen to things immature 14 yr old boys say, who are they to judge you?! you deserve better and you know it. keep your head up high and be strong, do never show them that you're weak. and one more thing, happiness isn't hard to find, it's been there all along, you just got to let it come into your life. do NEVER lose hope. i hope i helped. :)
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I am married and have been having an affair with a married woman. I am a complete fool as I fell in love with her. She repeatedly spoke to other men whilst with me and admitted she did. She also has a very dubious past, as she possibly worked as prostitute in her homeland. She worked in showbiz and admitted she had taken certain'steps' to ensure the furtherment of her career. I know I do not have a leg to stand on morally. The affair has ended as she claimed she had found God. She has done this in the past but always seems to find other men to speak to. I know she is is contact with another man at this time but do not know what has happened between them. Should I tell her husband? My motivation is revenge, and I know it`s wrong. I am thinking of commiting suicide, as I cannot let go of her. Iam so deeply in love with her. I have tried it in the past but was unsucessful. I pray to God each day to end my life as I cannot bear to be without her. I accepted the end of the affair, but begged her to at least let me text her once a month, but she went back on her word and this has left me desperate. I know I`m in the wrong as well here but what should I do? I`m lucky to have a loving wife, but I do not deserve her. If I tell her husband I will have to tell mY wife and she will leave me. The only thought that gives me any peace or solace is the thought of suicide. I cannot bear to live a moment longer. I am 32 but have high BP and have been very ill of late. I mentioned this to her (not to get sympathy) but to finally establish whether she cared or not. She said she was busy and did not want to talk and this told me all I needed to know, depste her always claiming she loved me. I just want to die. I am a worthless human being with nothing to offer anybody so what is the point of going on? I really wanna know whther I should tell her husband as well, though I know this will end her marriage. This is wrong is`nt it. I kow she won`t shed a tear if I left the world. I just cannot go on. (link)
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that would be a stupid reason to be killing yourself for. no one should ever have thoughts of wanting to die. if you really wanted to die, you would have done it already instead of going to this site for help. but you've come to the right place, but in the wrong situation. she isn't worth it, move on and find someone better, more worth of your time and life. don't show her your weakness, it's the things like this in life that you just have to overcome and be strong and fight. don't give up on yourself and question suicide, you deserve better.
i hope i somehow helped you.
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is there anything you can do WITHOUT any kind of surgery or anything to make your butt bigger, or firmer, ANYTHING?! haha i'm not saying i don't have a butt, it's not like completely flat but i wish mine was more "round" if you want to call it that. any exercises or anything i could do? thanks! (link)
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on this site you can see all kinds of exercises that that get your butt in shape and look good haha,
http://exercise.about.com/od/butthipsthighs/tp/butt.htm
but if you don't wanna read it then I'll just tell you something, doing squats 30 times a day will make your butt more in shape:)
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What is the minimum wage in the United States right now? My mom said it was like $6.55 but when I was working a job last year it was $5.85. My best friend says she doesn't know what minimum wage is right now, but heard it was going to be $7.25 soon but doesn't know exactly when that will happen.
I'm curious any way it is. What is the minimum wage right now and when is minimum wage going to go up in the United States? When the minimum wage does go up what will it be then?
THANKS! (link)
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your mom is right, it's currently $6.55
i got it from this site:
http://www.dol.gov/
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I was sitting in class today and I overheard my best friend telling the teacher that she loved her (as a teacher, of course). I know there are different kinds of love and different ways of loving someone but...
What is love actually? I mean, I know love is an emotion, right? What does love mean though? People say "I love you" all of the time but I have no idea what love really means now that I think of it. I think I love certain people but then what if my definition of love is wrong and, really, I have a totally different feeling toward those people than I thought?
Anyway, what is love? (link)
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love has a different meaning to everyone. some people mean it some people don't. love is something most people would fight for and risk everything for, while some people think nothing of it. there's a kind of love that just means you really care about someone, like a family, or a friend, and then there's a love that can be painful or it can be something that brings happiness into your life. when a person says "I LOVE YOU" they should mean it, they can be just words, but words sometimes hurt others if they aren't really meant, or true. Love is considering and honoring others, their whole being. when you love a person, you don't see their imperfections or the mistake they make, but you see way past that. you only see perfection in them. and another important thing, love is always respectful. :)
"Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
--Paul in I Corinthians 13:4-7
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Well next semester I'm taking a lot of really hard classes (statistics, organic chemistry, philosophy, business administration, and history). I will have class twice (sometimes three times) a day five times a week.
I'm feeling quite overwhelmed, and the semester hasn't even started yet. Taking less (or trading for other classes) is not an option.
I have a little (no, HUGE) procrastination problem. I mean its horrible. I'm hoping that because I'm taking so many units I won't have time to procrastinate, but I really am not so sure about that.
How do I stay focused and motivated to study and do homework? I really want to give it my all this semester (because I learn what I can get away with to pass the class, and I always do, but I just don't have enough A's on my transcript). I really want to be a hard working diligent student next semester. How do I do that?
Oh, and I understand I won't be able to have a social life (or any life really), if I'm going to be that hard working. Study groups don't work for me whatsoever.
Oh, and I'm a sophomore in college.
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make a LOT more time for yourself to study and do your work and save the wknds for going out, and always make sure you have your breakfast everyday b/c it's important to have that meal before school each day other wise you'll feel tired all day and not be able to stay awake or have any energy to do your work. and staying focus and doing homework isn't that hard actually. trust me I used to be the type that never does my homework but now I actually know how important it is b/c i know that if i want a future I really need to put a lot of effort into school, set goals for yourself and remind yourself to do your schoolwork, and thats all I can tell you really but I hope I helped somehow.
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so next year..i have to take a foreign language.
my school only offers French and Spanish.
i dont really know which one to take..people say that french is easier..but that ill use spanish more.
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that's true, french is easier, but spanish is more interesting and keeps you awake, it really depends which really interest you more though. if you take frech and you're lucky, you'll get chocolate Croissants :)
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ok for christmas i'll be getting new MAC makeup and i want to buy a new eyeliner since my old ones always smudged. which pencil eyeliner from MAC should i get? i'd rather not get liquid since i have no idea how to apply it. also, what other stuff should i get like eye shadow, foundation, mascara, and lip gloss? i don't wanna buy the wrong stuff.
here's some pics of me:
http://i41.tinypic.com/1j1zdf.png
and
http://i41.tinypic.com/1zd3top.png
what colors would look best on me?
any advice will be appreciated
thanks in advance
& merry christmas :)
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awh seems like you wont need a lot of makeup since you're naturally pretty:)
but since you asked, go for black eyeliner, never brown eyeliner. green, blue, brown, eyeshadow would look good. and go for the light colored lipgloss, like the ones from the tinted lipglass collection of MAC. but really though, I dont think your gonna need the other stuff cuz you're super gorgeous, and this is coming from a girl who wears 10 freakin' lbs of makeup.
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I want to start getting into photography because I got my own camera for Christmas. Can you give me some tips so I can take good pictures and show them off to people!? (=D)
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its all about angles and creativity, you can always take photography class b/c you can learn a lot, or go to this site:
http://www.wikihow.com/Category:Photography
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I'm a senior (male) in high school, and my friend (female) is a sophomore. We met about 2 or 3 months ago, and we've gotten fairly close. Anyway, a short time ago I learned that she had feelings for me (I'm like 98 percent sure of this).
I don't feel the same way about her. I mean, I wish I did; she's cute, funny, smart, blah blah blah. I just don't, and I've tried. Anyway, if she were to tell me her feelings, what do you think I should respond with? She already knows that I'm not into anyone, but there's the chance she doesn't believe me because no one does, for whatever reason. This would probably be over AIM. I want to remain her friend without awkwardness and such, because I do really like her.
Any help would be verrryyyyyy appreciated. (link)
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just tell her straight up that you only want to be just friends with her and that you don't want to ruin your guys friendship, if she really likes you, she'd understand, hope I helped.
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when you get defrosted can you/are you back to life? (link)
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some scientists has done experiments like that i guess and yes it's possible to be.
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in the movie titanic 2 [which never made it to theatres] where leonardo dicaprio was de-frosted, was 2002, how come he was young there? how did that happen... and did leo really act it out in the movie.. i dont get how it alll happened! AND I REAAALLY WANT TO KNOW. (link)
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yeah what the other person below me said, it's all fake it's not an actual movie, they're just scenes from his other movies, completely fake, but the person did a great great with making it look real huh?
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im in a tough position and im lost to what i should do about it. My boyfriend of 5 months, Alan cheated on me with my cousin well i lost my virginity to him and i was in love with him. It took me several months but i found someone else.. Dylan we dated for 8 months i took his virginity everything was good. Meanwhile my cousin and Alan dated for a bout 1 year and a month and then she dumped him for a knew guy well in the back of my mind i still had feelings for Alan, hes 19, im 16, and Dylan is 16. Alan invited me over and we started talking and he was crying and all this other stuff happened and well i ended up forgiving Alan. I broke up with Dylan and he was heartbroken i mean dylan and i had our problems to the biggest was i never saw him a lot because his my mom is a very strict lady and didnt want him seeing me because she "knows my family" meaning she thinks my family is bad well her family is bad also they sell pot out of there garage and shit but she likes to think there perfect and dont have any problems. Now im dating Alan its been 2 months when im with him its perfect but when im not all im thinking about is Dylan i cant get him out of my mind i see him with this new girl and it kills me in school like i cant handle it i have feelings for him to. Part of me wants to brake up with Alan but if i do i know ill miss him. What should i do? i have no idea and its driving me crazy if i were to brake up with Alan his sister is my best friend and she would like hate me for hurting her brother.. but i dont know what to do please help! (link)
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you're gonna end up hurting two people's hearts. you really have to make up your mind, who do you like like. From what I see Alan isn't really a good guy b/c he cheated on you in the first place and now he has his heart broken and wants you back, which means he thinks of you as his "REBOUND GIRL". thats not good, stick with the guy you're with now, don't leave something good for better. Alan cheated on you once, I doubt that he isn't gonna do it again. i hope i helped.
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okay im 17/f and (after the holidays lol) im going to be trying to lose 7 pounds! im only going to be eating organic/natural foods but at school for lunch our school only serves unhealthy greasy fried foods usually. i need to bring my own lunch but im not sure what i should bring? whats a healthy lunch i can bring everyday for lunch? (no bread) (link)
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yogurt
fruits, casseroles, and sandwiches.
those tuna packs
those salad mix are also great
bagels
as for drinks, smoothies and apple juice is good, don't drink too much of those energy drink like vitamin water b/c too much sugar isn't exactly healthy either, hope i helped!
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heyy, well let me start out no time soon am i looking for that magical kiss buuuuttt...i do want to no how to do it when the time comes so my 1st question is how do you do the simple kiss on the lips is it just as easy as it looks..just kiss?? and my other big question is how in the world do you kiss when you go all out (like french kissing) how do you turns your heads, what do you do with your tongue, what do you do with your hands??? PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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it's actually as simple as the others say, it just comes naturally when you're kissing with someone you really like, dont think or stress about it, just relax and kiss:) as for the hands thing, there's lots of things you can do with them, run your hands through his hair, or hug, or hold both his hands hahaa its kinda cute, or behind the back of his neck, just be creative:)
hope i helped!
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ok this is a pretty embarrasing but i have to say it to ask the question so bare with me please lol..i have fingered myself before but i dont see where it feels good at all unless you are messing with your clitoris...where does all the sensation come from when a mans penis goes in and out when to me that doesnt really feel good...is it just me or am i mistaking how it works?? Any help is appreciated (except for calling me retarded):D thanks all (link)
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i agree with the other person, it is a LOT different, and intercourse with someone you have a deep and caring relationship with is a lot more pleasurable.
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Lets say you were intoxicated to a point where you ended up blanking out and dont remember every detail of the night, and someone tried to get you to have sex with them by touching you where they shouldnt but you you managed to tell them no you cant do it so you didnt have sex, didnt kiss them, or touch them back. Would you consider that cheating??
PS: drinking is only ok in moderation and I dont think I will be touching any for a long time. That could have turned to a dangerous situation and I am aware of that. (link)
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nope, that isn't cheating but the fact that that person was trying to take advantage of you is molestation and it could of been worse, so in the future try to be more responsible when drinking or have a trusty friend with you always so you don't end up in a situation like that again, and you should also consider reporting that guy or something b/c he could do something like that again later on to someone else and that person might not even get the chance to stop him and that can mess up their life.
hope i helped,
:)
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