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Ok so this is really a question but also advice.
So there’s this boy in my Church group and I think he likes me but I’m not sure.
This one time (the first time I laid eyes on him) he kept smiling at me. And even when he knew I was looking he was still smiling for a few moments and I did too. But then looked away. Then later he asked if he could trade spots with the guy next to me so he could “talk to the other guy next to him” the guy said no though. But anyway, today I came in and I all the seats were rounded in a circle and so I walked in and there was a seat right infrount of me. It looked like all the other seats were taken. And it was right by him. I don’t know if he was saving a seat for me because his stuff was there and he moved them when he saw me come in. But I’m not sure. So then I sat down. And he actually started talking to me. Full attention, and smiling. He asked me questions and asked if he could see my phone. Then I cought him once or twice lookling at me. And I’m not sure but I THINK I saw him put his foot near mine. But I was looking up, but I think I saw it at the end of my eye but I’m not sure. So mabee that doesn’t count. So does he like me???
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Yes, he likes you.
Keep it light - focus on becoming friends.
Luyah
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I dont have a best friend, I never did, I am not in a clique, and I dont have many friends. Sounds fun, right? Yeah right. There is a major clique problem in my school-- I figure, If i cant fix it, find the clique I fit in. Idont fit in any clique. The popular kids rule the school. I'm friends with indivudual Pop ular kids but together, i'm a no one. Most kids in my school dont like me, dont ask me why but i really want more friends. I tried out for cheer. and kick. and didnt make it, I was dissapointed because I really wanted to be part of a team. And have those girls to sleepover with and have my 'group'. Help?
I rate high!
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Work on being a good friend to others.
The better you get at this, the more easily others will want to become friends with you too.
Luyah
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ok soo.
me and this guy, Allen, have been i guess "talking" for about a week or so.
and we are ALWAYS together at school.
like, after every single class he waits on me.
and we always write each other notes and stuff.
and he comes up my house all the time and we go to the movies, or go eat or something.
he's told me he lkes me, and he knows i like him. and he calls me like everyday.
but he wont ask me out..... ?
it's killing me. lol
why wont he?
btw, hes a senior. im a freshman.
is that why? (link)
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Maybe is hasn't occured to him that that's important to you, or he doesn't know which things you'd like.
Help him - like ask if he'd like to go out .. maybe to a specific movie or restaurant that you've heard of . Suggest things that are within his budget. Gently negotiate/clarify who's paying for what at the time the date is set - gracefully be willing to chip in for part of it if he's not comfortable offering to pick up the whole tab.
Luyah
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well their this boy and we went out for like 3 months and in that 3 months he told me he loved me and then i realized that he meant it and that i loved him too! well their was rumors going around about him cheating on me and i believed but in my mind i knew it wasnt true i just didnt want to look stupid if it was! so i decided to get him back by kissing someone n front of his friends so that they will tell him and he would get mad! well that happened and he really got mad and broke up with me i was hurt but at that time i still kinda believed the stories! so we didnt talk 4 a while but we hung out at the same place! i knew he still liked me and he said sorry 4 the rumors and i said sorry 4 listening to them well we started to go back out but he wasnt the same as the first time! we finally had sex the second time we went out but after that we didnt talk that much! i just realized i still loved him and i think he may still love but even thought we havent talked in a while but i miss how he use to be and i just wanna kno wat should i do? i tried moving on but i keep realizing i love him plz tell me wat i should do i need help really bad!!!!!!!!
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Talk to him
Find times when you both are not stressed and tired, and talk about casual stuff as well as how you feel about each other.
Go get something to eat together.
Work out a few rules that you both are comfortable with for how you are with each other in a relationship and as friends.
Don't assume so much. You're over-thinking. Talk to him more. Listen to him even more than you talk.
Luyah
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I like this kid named Justin a lot and I confronted him about it and he told me..
that a relationship will be to difficult his senior year and he honestly likes me and that he wants to get to know me better and that we will become really good friends and then see what happens?
i really like him and i told him im fine with the friends thing and i understand where hes coming from. and i doo but i just wish me and him could be more. And i dont know what to do anymore, if weather or not i should try and move on and ugh i just dont know :[ help pleaseE? (link)
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It's always good to have really good friends.
Relationships that are more than that are always stronger and saner when they are based on a good friendship.
Sounds like he's saying "slow down a little" which is a lot better than "stop". Sometimes guys are a little (or a lot) slower in the relationship department than girls are, especially if they're busy with something and/or less than 20 years old.
Him focusing on school and wanting to do a good job with that is a good thing in the long run. Support and encourage him to do that, and be the kind of friend who helps him, not distracts him from his goals and career plans.
Also refocus yourself if you start to get so involved in thinking about him that you neglect your own goals and career options.
Luyah
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me and this boy fell in love the minute we talked to eachother. we had a lot in common and hes a pretty good kid and for a little over a week we were seriously in love. then this week we got in a tiny "arguement" but we made up and and he said he still loved me. he hadn't IMed me for 3 days and usually he IMs me every time we are both on aim. so i IMed him and he was just talking to me like i was his friend and nothing else so i asked him what was going on he said he still liked me a little but not as much. i think its because he found another girl. theres this girl he seems to be getting close with, he hung out with her and they were leaving eachother myspace comments and last night he went to her house and i was soo jealous i was afraid they were going to make out or something since we arnt officaly going out yet. he always puts on his away message how hott that girl is and i keep saying i love you and once he said i love you back but other times he would just put up his away message up the second i said it and never answer me back. he says we need to hang out but he always says hes too busy. he tries to get me jealous and he will say "im hanging out with GRACE today" (the girl he says hes "just friends" with) last week he would littarly IM me every time i signed on or returned from away, and now i am the one who has to IM him first.i dont know why hes not as interested and he wont talk about it he says nothings wrong.i dont want to give up on him because he says he still has a feelings for me a tiny bit. but i want him to fall back in love with me the way it was last week and since he never has "time" to hang out with me i have to try to get him back either by the phone or online, and he doesnt go to my school. i dont him him going out with grace i want to be with him. but apparently he has known grace for a few years and ive only known him for a few months and ive heard shes really pretty and im just average. so how can i show him that im a better choice than she is??? (link)
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Don't be so available, and don't "chase" him.
Find something to do that will help you feel more beautiful about yourself.
Cultivate other friends that you can be "busy" with.
Practice some skills or talents in areas of interest to you - and tackle getting better at something that you are really bad at.
Occasionally casually invite your semi-ex-boyfriend to do something you're interested in, but don't pressure him. Mostly use that as an opener to ask how he's doing, and what he's been doing lately.
On a part-time basis, be interested in him, and what his interests are
But avoid being just interested in him being interested in you - making it an obligation on his part takes all the fun out of it, for him and for both of you.
Your best course of action is to work on being "just friends" with him for a while, minimize any stress and drama, and to energetically cultivate your talents and the other things that make you beautiful.
Luyah
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