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But he does care about me and he isnt forcing me i want to have it with him but i dnt want it to hurt and if i am bad i feel like he will judge me! He says that he can not live without me and that there is never a second that goes by that he isnt thinking about me. And i when im with him i feel like nothing can hurt me i mean nothing. I love him but i just dont want to get pregnant if i do have sex with him! He is very kind sweet and he would never try to hurt me on purpose he does love me and i love him i just really dont want to pussy out if i dont have sex with him!

It's going to hurt you're very first time, unless you have been horseback riding since you were 2.. and still it's going to hurt because the skin is still tight.

Again, if he judges you.. then obviously he is only interest in one thing..and that would be sex.

We all feel "when we are with that person nothing will happen", truth is.. it doesn't always last that way.. there 2 guys who have made me feel that way, and one hurt me more (the ex after 2 years together) than the other one did..

Truth is.. I didn't have sex until I was 19.. I didn't do any of that stuff until I was a month short of 19..and I was ready to do it, on my own..and no one pressured me or even brought up the subject. I with a guy for 7 months, someone I have known 5 year's prior.. and he was amazing..I know he was the one just for the fact that he never pressured or brought it up.

To me.. you seem highly unsure.. and it sounds to me as if you are being pressured to it.. just because you don't want him to judge you.. if a guy loves you.. then he would wait and not ask you about sex.

I know you aren't ready to have sex, because you even said you aren't prepared to get pregnant, which again is smart to admit and you that you realize what could happen. From my experience, I had a pregnancy scare at 19, just 2 months short from when I started to have sex.. and to think if I had been pregnant, now at 21, my life would be totally different..and I would not be living the experiences as an young adult. Going to school, working, and having fun with barely any worries.

If you do go ahead to having sex, I would visit your local planned parenthood.. condoms and possible birth control if you can. Remember that even if you are having protected sex, doesn't mean that it is 100% preventable. If you do happen to get pregnant, and he says he will stay by your side.. it's very rare will a guy will stay near by with a child on the way when he's just 14 years old.

If you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask. :)

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Where do exactly to insert penis into vagina. Ww are married and our ages are 26 and 24

It sounds to me as if you're ages are 16 and 14, because at the age of 24 and 26.. you should well aware of how to insert a penis inside a vagina.

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Hey i would like to know how you found all the information needed to work at the mcdonalds. Im 14 and really need a job so I would like to know where I can find all the information

Some places don't hire until your 15,
make sure you have work papers from you're school.
You can ask them of places that can hire at your age.
and I would stop in your local McDonalds and ask.
Best of luck trying to find a job.

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how do i ask a guy out without asking him...hinting him to ask me??

Why wait? Why don't you just ask him out instead?

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I'm a girl and almost 13 and I've started my period, I accidentally fingered myself and it kinda hurt (don't ask, it's a long story) but can someone please tell me... I don't know what's going to happen. I've looked everywhere for advice and now I'm really embarrassed and scared... Am I going to get... You know what... Pre.....?

How do you go about doing that accidentally?
It's a form of nature, there is no accidents..you're young it's completely natural to want to explore our bodies.

You can not get pregnant unless you had sex,
sex meaning a penis inside or around skin contact to your vagina.

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I have a very small sore throat and a bit of a stuffy nose. I wake up every morning with a sore throat and it goes away by the end of the school day, which is around 3. I've started taking a lot of vitamin C and dietary supplements because I am a vegetarian and also drinking a lot of liquids. My boyfriend doesn't want to get sick, so he said he can't get sick if he kisses me when I have a sore throat, so he and I don't french kiss now that I am sick. Can I still get him sick just by kissing him regularly?

Yes, because your germs are still on the outside of his mouth.

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Im 13 and i have been dating this guy for 3 months now and he says that he wants to have sex. I told him that i do want to but i am just scared that it will hurt or i wont be any good. He said that he will never try to hurt me but it wll hurt for my first time. He said that he will wear a condom and not try to go too fast or hard. But condoms dont always work and so the thing that i want to know is that should i have sex with him? And what if the condom breaks i really do not need baby at 13 i already get picked on enough right now! I just dont want it to break and i feel like if i dont have sex with him he will leave me and i DO NOT want him to leave me!
What do you think I should do? I hope you can help me out as much as possible! thnx i appreciate it

Okay.. you're 13.. you're too young and not mature enough to hold an adult experience like sex.

You're asking us if you should have sex with him, which CLEARLY states that you aren't ready.

Every guy says the spiel of "Oh I won't hurt you..I'll wear protection..." blah blah. Don't fall for it.

You are clearly smart to know you can not handle a baby at 13, and I have very proud that you can admit that at your age and that you know the effects of sex at your age.

If he leaves you because you didn't have sex with him.. clearly it shows that he just wanted sex from you.

Put it to the test, and keep your morals and respect for yourself.. tell him no, if he stays than yes, he could be a really good guy down the road.. but if you say no, and he leaves.. then clearly he just wanted you for sex.

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i do love my boyfriend but i still like my ex and well it doesnt help much when your ex is at your school and rides your bus! I know i have boyfriend and yes ill get over him but right now hes in my heart right with my boyfriend!

It sounds like right now your heart is with your ex, more than it may be with your boyfriend..

yes it is bad.. but as long as you focus on your boyfriend.. that you should be fine. :)

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how old were you when you moved out of your parents house? did you have a steady paying job?

everyone is different. I moved out when i was 20, almost 21.. and I moved across the country.. my parents helped me..and I was really happy, yet after 7 months I came home because I had the motivation to go finish my degree.. then soon I will return back to where I was..

and question: where is your advice here? yes your asking a question.. but what does our answers have to do with giving you advice?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months and he trusts his ex more then he does me. But i trust him with everything and he has angsiaty and he always cries and when I say whats rong he says i dont want to tell you ask heidi (a.k.a his ex) what do I do i dont want to be jealous and like suffecate him or anything but im just scared that she is taking him away from me and she is a whore just to fit in there so.... what should i do?
I hope you can help me thnx

I would sit him down, and discuss with him your relationship. You should not have to go to his ex at all to find out what is bothering him..

Personally I do not believe ex's as friends, they are an ex for a reason..

Three months is a long time for a relationship that has the ex involve in this type of situation. You're not being jealous or anything, you are standing your ground as HIS girlfriend. If I were you I would have him choose between the 2 of you, that's were you will find out what you really mean to him. I know it's blunt but it's what I would do if I were you.. because trust me.. I have done it.. and it isn't easy I know.

If you need anything else feel free to drop one in the inbox. :)

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Hello, so I'm the type that thinks a lot about the future..and I worry a lot to haha. Okay, so I'm a Sophomore and I'm worried about college.. my brother who's started college tells me that I have to take a math class, which is needed..and that's my most TERRIBLE subject, and I don't want to flunk out of college 0_0 I want to be a lawyer or a writer..nothing with math.. really..

I'd just like to know if anyone who has trouble with math, did you do alright in college?..
I know this is a real stupid question since how young I am right now, 16. I'd just like to know..

Thank you!

For myself, I was okay in math, usually my best subject..and then my senior year I took math for the college bound, which was a pre-intro of college math..which was basically 9th grade math all over again..and that gave me a feel of what it was like. I did go to the math lab at my school when I needed help. You can always find tutors and staff that are willing to help you out. Also if math is not your strongest point you can take the lowest/easiest course. Being that your in 10th grade, that means you have 2 more years til college. Which I find is a good amount time for your situation. If I were you I'd go to your guide counsler and talk to them about what you can do to make yourself prepared for college math.

I know how you feel.. I am photography major and by state requirements I had to take a science lab, I barely passed.. because it wasn't my strongest point.

But you're on the right track of where you need to be in life, if you have anymore questions feel free to inbox me. :)

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20/F

I've always been lucky enough to have clear skin. Aside from occasional spots, I've never had break-outs or acne or anything. Recently my skin has been much worse than usual. I've been getting a lot of pimples, especially around my chin, jaw and forehead. I haven't changed my skincare routine at all and I'm always careful to cleanse, tone and moisturize so I'm not sure what could be causing the sudden change. Any ideas?

Ance can also be caused by stress and hormonal changes in your body. I know I tend to break out more when I'm stressing over school.

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i have this scab on my knee and on my foot it wont let me move or if i do it kanes i really just want to know how to make the scab...not so tight thanks!!

You can not make a scab looser, the process of a scab is to heal the broken skin. By loosen it before it's ready can cause damage to the skin and scaring. Let the scab heal on it's own, I know it can be hard.

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im12 i just got a boy friend 1or2 weeks ago and his little sister is my only girl friend / best friend and shes mad because i'm spending more time playing with him and not her.witch one should i choose mbest friend or boy friend and i dont want to break up with him ill just stop hanging out with him instead ill play with her

Your 12,

One you should not be on this site until your 13.

Two, you're 12 and should not be dating until your older like 16 years old.

Three, by saying you "play" with him.. and that you'll "stop hanging out with him instead ill "play" with her" means that you are still playing as a child.. and you're still in the kid stage..you should not be having "boyfriends" at 12, you should be focusing on just friendships and playing as a child... because before you know it.. your child life will disappear.

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Hello,
I am about to purchase the Nikon D5100 DSLR, and I know that if I'll buy it, it will come bundled with at least one lens.

As I am yet to learn more about lenses (I know basics) but am not going to rush off and spend a lot of money on lenses yet, I was wondering if the basic lens that may come with my camera will be good enough for decent but still high quality photos?

Thanks in advance!

18-55mm usually come with a basic DSLR. I used that lens for 3 years now until I finally got the money to purchase a higher price/quality photos.

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hi my name is emma i am 13 and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me what do i do

You're 13..

One, you're too young.

Two, you're asking us what to do..which clearly states that you are not ready.

Three, tell him that you are only 13 and you aren't ready.


At 13, you shouldn't be sleeping around and what not's. You're still a child, continue to do child/young teenage things. Don't try to grow up to fast. When your ready to have sex, you will know you are ready. Sex is an adult thing.

If you need anymore things, feel free to inbox me one.

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how can i tell if a guy likes me??? he always hugs me , holds me from behind, make me laugh , but i cant tell if he likes me or not. i mean i like him and i make it easy for him to figure it out... but get this he already went out. 2 years ago.idk there is just something about him and i dont want to ask him because what if he doesnt im going to feel real dumb!!!!! what should i do ???
thx xoxox
:D

One, can you speak proper english and not "eye decay my bee eff eff jill" lingo.

Two, what is "but get this he already went out. 2 years ago." Is that suppose to be "he" or "we"?

Three, it sounds like he likes you, but again he can also be a player..because obviously you said yourself that you make it obvious.. and if he plays these cards.. and he knows you like him..and he wants to "lead" you on, then I say forget him.

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kay so.... I have a crush on my best guy friend, and he knows.... But the problem is that he's never had a girlfriend.... How do I get him to notice me as more than his best friend?

You can't make someone like you, it comes naturally to them.

Also, Speaking from experience, dating a best friend can be risky..because most of the time.. when the relationship dies, so does the friendship.

Be careful, best of luck.

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What does "White people stole my car" mean to people? All my friends told me to google it... but these are these are the same friends that told me to google two females and a glass if you get my drift. so before I go and put something else like that in my brain forever I would like to know what, exactly is so special about googling that phrase?

I have never in my life ever heard of that...


and these "friends" don't sound too much like "friends"

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im ten me an bff are fighting alot beause her brother is my boyfriend how should i talk to her to make her stop crying over it

Your 10!

First you do not belong on this site until your 13.


Second, I'll state the same crap.. sorry was that too much for your young ears... I'll state the same facts as I state for every young girl who wants to date at 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15 years old... do you really want to look back down the road when your 19-20 years old..and say how you have been dating for 10 years now..

Do you really want to carry all that baggage when you get older, or look down the road at how many heartbreaks you have had..

Third, When I was 10.. I was outside playing sports and acting like a child.

Fourth, I am now 21.. and I wish I was a kid again..because being a kid was so much less stressful than it is today at 21.

Stop trying to grow up so fast, and be a kid before you can't be one anymore!

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