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i really love music, its my passion and one of the only reasons i'm still alive...i've gone through a hell of a lot and the music is how i get it out...i've got a band, i love to play drums, guitar, and i love to sing...i love to hang out with friends and i'm in love

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ok im moving ... im painting my room dark purple and light purple ... but i have no clue what colors to paint my bathroom .... here are some of my fave colors

- green
- purple
- pink
- blue
- yellow
- black

p.s i dont just wanna paint it i wanna paint some cute stuff LOL

Anggie

umm i think u should paint with blues...do the trim a white and do the actual wall light blue...that would look cute

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Okay my best friend just told me shes bi..And im a girl to.I dont know what to do, should I still be her friend or should I like not be..Im kinda creeped out cause I dont want her to like hit on me or nething.What should I do? Im only 14 to what should I do

well u should still def. be her friend and if u guys are best friends and she tries to umm...ya know make a move then tell her ur uncomfortable and if she doesnt respect it then she's not worth it...if ur really not into being best friends with a bi then just kind of back off a little...at least she opened up to u

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hey i read that you play drums, i was just wondering what kind you play and what kind of drums do you think are the best and all that? did you teach yourself or did you take lessons? thanks... jordan rae :D

well i've been playing snare drum in the school band for 4 years and i tought myself how to play drumset and i have a ludwig...i've been playing drumset for maybe 2-3 yrs now and i'm not quite sure what the best is that's basically on opioion...are u going to start playing?

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i've been friends with this guy for 4 years now.. we were great friends.. adn he liked me since 7th grade .. well we were just firends and then we dated for a little.. and stuff he was really sweet he liked me alot adn stuff.. but i didn't like him like that well then i went out with him a few months after like the end of 8th grade like march 21 adn we went out for 4 months on and off like he cheated on me wtice i didn't cheat on him at all i swear... i tot about it but i didn't then we hung out every day we stayed over eachj other's hosues but nither of us had friends cause we bother very jealoujs.. then he dumped me (he was very controlling) it was like his sweetness went away now it seems like he likes me but then it seems like he is only using me for sex.. i dont know ne more like sumtimes hes like i lvoe u the next hea's like i hate u.. and i fell head over hells in love with him and i still lvoe him and i dont know wut to do lose him as a b./f a best ffriend or both :-(

he's not worthy of being a boyfriend i can tell u that right now, cheating on u TWICE is unacceptable for ANYBODY at all to do...i know u may love him but dont date him or go out with him cauze he'll break ur heart, and if he's controlling and makes u lose ur friends hes not worth it at all...this doesnt mean u guys cant be friends...it just means that u guys shouldn't be going out

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well theres this boy nd lets call him "carl" so i started likin this guy nd i told him nd i found out he felt the same way but longer for him so we talked nd he was so great so we finaly wen out nd omg he was so great nd i realized i was fallin for him nd then a rmor went around that he had cheated nd he said it wasnt tru but all the signs are right there nd im pretty sure he did it but i think he relaized it was worng nd didnt want to hurt me nd then the day i found out i was cryin in skool for the rest of the day .. so i call ready to break up nd he gave me this crap bout bout he didnt do it nd i sorta beleived him nd it took a while to put it together but that same day i found out .. this girl had been tellin him i had been flirtin wit other guys .. but i didnt .. i got him to beleive me then his firned told him i broke up wit ihm nd he beleived it .. we atill talk nd he tells me how much he loves me nd he wants me bac nd then one of my friend kary was akin if he was goin to ask me out nd if he did i dont kno wat to say .. i really love him but theres one problem .. i moved nd he lives 15 minutes away which isnt that long away but we go to different skool nd i dont kno wat to do if he does cuase i really love him wit all my heart .. please help me ..


* Helplesss

i think if he asks u out u should give him another try...from what i read it sounds like he didnt mean to hurt u, and now that u guys dont go to the same school there wont be as many rumors as before...i think if he asks u out say yes...and just hang out with him on weekends and stuff...he sounds like a keeper... but if another rumor starts up email me tosietins99@yahoo.com

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Ok well I have this boyfriend and he doesnt go to my school or anything. I meet him through my friend from soccer camp. We started talking online and then a while later we started going out. Later he broke up with me saying that he disn't think things were going to work out because we still hadn't seen each other. Now a year later, we still haven't seen each other but we are going out again. I am thinking that now I don't want to go out with him until I see him and stuff. How should I tell him this without hurting him too much? (I have never broken up with anybody before) please help soon!!! Thanx and I'll rate you!

i think u need to be totally honest with him, tell him the truth, but dont be to harsh...just say..."i'm sorry but, we don't ever see eachother...and i don't want to go out with someone i never see, maybe sometime if we start hanging out together and we see eachother on a regular bassis then it might work out" i think maybe u should start trying to hang out...bring up some things like "hey i here this movies coming out, i really want to see it, wanna come with me?" and then maybe u guys will start hanging out and u wont have to break up with him

hope i helped,

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I am 18 years of age. My family and I have dreamed of moving to another country for 12 years. We finally have the opportunity to do so and we have taken it. However, my sister now has a boyfriend and is threatening to stay behind. She wants to marry him as soon as possible. She is 16 years old. This boy is 19, has quit school, has been unemployed for most of the last 3 years as he is continually fired, and is known to lie frequently. How can i make her see that she is too young for this and that he is not worth giving up her family and her future for?

try talking to ur sister about it...she needs to realize maybe he's not the one i'm sorry about what's happening but i think u just really need to talk to her about how u feel

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What would you do if things in your life were always downhill and uphill like big time. I have delt with it all...family in jail family getting divorced rape drugs sex everything in the book ive been through it, and im 14! Ok so I have always had trouble getting through anything and I always feel that i need an adult to talk to..but theres no way i could talk to my mom. So i have 3 people who have helped me in the past. One was my moms friend, one was a teacher and currentley one is my cousin and godmother. Yeah well it seems that everything just got better. Good right? No wrong becuase now shes moving away to south carolina and i live in michigan. I am afraid that everything is going to go back downhill. I have recentley decided to keep my life up and look at the good side of things and take control of what i can. But now i fear i will slip back and go into a deep depression once again. I dont kno what to do im confused..someone please help me.

wow, that really sucks and i'm really glad u talked to someone...but now that they're gone i really and truley think that u should tell ur guidance counceler at school...she'll talk to ur mom and then u can get help...please tell ur guidance counceler...i also think u should go to ur doctor and get a check...make sure u dont have aids or anything cauze i mean u did say stuff about rape...can u email me or something...i'll talk to u about it and i'll try hard to help tosietins99@yahoo.com

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hey. there's this kid i like. and he sort of likes me but, im not sure. and i dont want to get too obbsessed over him in case something like..crashes and ruins everything. how do i stop myself from being over obbsessive?

signed,
--> me.

well i think first u should find out if this kid really likes u or not...and sometimes u just cant help the feeling of being obsessed...but i mean if u figure out if he likes u or not then loving him and him loving u wont be such a bad thing...to stop urself by being over obbsessive u could i guess back off a little...dont talk to him as much, but if i were u i'd figure out if he liked me back first....get back to me when u figure that out and i'll help u with the rest

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Some times I feel like my parents don't love me. My sibling always make fun of me. My family always says they wish I'd run away. I have tried to kill myself before. but my mom and my friend came into my room so I had to come out of the closet. I don't know if they noticed but I had a thin red line across my neck. I don't wanna die but sometimes I feel it's the only way to get my family to love me. please help!

o gosh...if ur family wants u to runaway they're all jerks...i mean honsetly, a family sticks together and ALWAYS loves eachother NO FUCKEN MATTER WHAT! look, suicide IS NOT the answer... if u really feel this way get help from an adult, someone ur comfortable with, if u dont wanna die then DONT EVEN TRY to kill urself...its totally not worth it...if ur family treats u like such shit u wanna kill urself i honestly think u should tell an adult so they can have social services get u out of there...if its that bad u need to listen to this advice and get out of there

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im a cutter. i have scars all up and down my arm. only 2 people know about it. but every time i see my boyfriend i have to cover it up, and make sum sort of excuse. i HATE lying to him! i feel like i should tell him, but i dont want him to think im crazy and dump me! but like.. i cant stop cutting. its always been my way of calming myself down...

i used to, but i didn't lie to my boyfriend...u HAVE to tell him, that way ur not lieing anymore, and no matter what even if he dumps u at least you would have told him the truth...look if he leaves u because he thinks ur crazy that's not love, and if he stays then it means he really cares about u and he will help u through it...i also think u should tell a parent or a guidance counceler or even an adult u TRUST, someone older needs to help u, go to counceling, trust me, u'll slow down and be able to stop...please help urself...and stop thinking about what other people will think, email me tosietins99@yahoo.com

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Ok my boyfriend and me had been going out for about...2 months...we had been pretty close friends for like 5 months before that. Well, he really was a sweet guy, but I kinda cheated on him with this dude...well not exactly, the guy kissed me. anyways, my boyfriend forgave me. but today he was like, "i think we should take a break. im not breaking up with u exactly, but i just think we should take a break for a while. i will probably want to get back with you in the near future." what do i do? wait for him??? im just confused right now.

dont wait, if i were u i'd go have fun and be with other guys...heck, why be with them just DATE...u dont exactly have a bf...ur just kinda seeing eachother, that way if u really like this guy when he comes back around then go for him...but if it seems he wont be comming back for a long time then forget him...he might come back to u in the long run...maybe he's afraid something will happen with u and another guy again when u and him are going out

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i dont know what to do anymore. my ex boyfriend mike and i were perfect for eachother. we were from different towns but i went to his house and hung out or we went some where else. anywayz we went out for 9 mounth but like every once in a while we broke up and got back together agian. then he dumped me and went out with someone else and they went to second base in 2 days! and i went to 1st with him and we went out 9 mouths. and then he dumped her after 2 mounths because he said he still loved me. so i went out with him for about a mounth and then he broke up with me for this other girl in his school and i was like crying for ever. and then after a week he asked me back out and he was still going out with that other girl (but i didnt know) and we went out for like 4 days and he cut me because "his parents said he had to" which was a lie.. i tried to OD and i was in the hostipal for over 2 weeks for it, and everyone knew about it and as soon as i got out he called me and said he loved me.. i just broke down crying because i still loved him. and he asked me back out and i was soo week i said yes and we went out for like 2 weeks untill i found out he was cheating on me agian so i broke up with him and i havent been out with him since. then like last week he called me and was like talking to me and i told him to never call me agian because i was over him and then after i hung up i cried because i still love him but i cant call him cuz im not allowed to.. his parents would freak. (they think im crazy) and i dont know what to do. i love him but i hate him too. hes my first love. and i miss him. theres just so much pain inside of me im like crying. i miss him. i think im gonna kill myself. because i cant live without him. please help me over come this.

i'm sitting here crying...i know exactly what u've gone through and trust me i know EXACTLY how u feel...me and this guy went out for 6 months, did everything but sex, then i cut myself for everything i went through plus i was going through a lot at home, and then after he broke up with me he told like the whole freaken school i was a cutter, then i got help and i still love him deep down inside, i mean i'll always have something but urghh hes over with, and done...i wanted to kill myself to and please please u have to do me a favor and GET OVER HIM! he's a total asshole and he ESPICALLY doesnt deserve u because ur sooo strong to pull through it all and he seems like a complete jackass, do me and fav and email me, SOON ASAP

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So, My really good friend just commited suicide and I really wanna read up on reancarnation. Does anyone know any really good books about that?

look, i know u are really upset with what happened to ur friend...but hun, god did it for a reason...maybe to show something...maybe to give someone a sign, a heads up...on anything...reincarnation is NOT the answer...u really just have to move on...but NEVER forget, and it shows how strong u really are...u may really love this person, but she left, and there's nothing u can really do about it except pray she's okay wherever she is now...and even do ME a favor, pray that she's happier now then she was on earth, thank u and i hope i helped

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I'm 16 years old and recently my boyfriend and I have been giving each other oral sex. The other day he fingered me, and when he pulled his fingers out, there was a little bit of blood. Could my hymen be broken, and if it is, do I need 2 get an exam?

no, u dont need an exam, it seems like it but u really dont...its just the first time u get fingered u bleed, its just something that happens to all girls u cant really happen...but if u like it and u keep doing it as time goes by it wont happen anymore.

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Okay me and me sis have started a band yet we dont own any instrument or know how to play. But i can feel it in my soul that im am destined to be great.i need to work up 170 dollars by next month or my guitar that is the cheapest one i could find will be sold. any suggestions to make money. i will try to rate you .
stay away from oommpa loompas!

well, i have actually started a band of my own and i know that feeling of being destined to do what u want to do...look, do chores around the house...i'm not sure how old u r but if u have a job save up...try cleaning...like for ur neighbors or friends that need the help, and if the guitar is sold then find another...look it's the quality u need, i know its hard cauze u want that guitar so bad...but if u really wanna get good u also have to pay to get lessons...which costs more money...and u dont want to have a crappy guitar...so give urself more time so u can save up more, get a better guitar...have time to learn, and get good! rate me

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