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Q: i was laying on my bed and out of nowhere..my left leg started to have a really sharp pain and i can't walk right now. it's right at the back of my leg right below my knee. what could of happened? i played 10 hrs. of volleyball today - could that be the cause?

YOU PULLED A MUSCLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
just ice it and rest

Q: I have a problem with my clothes. I don't mind the way I dress or anything...I just feel I need to change something..add more style to me. I usually wear jeans, skateboarding shoes, hoodies and fitted tees/layeredtees, what can I ADD to this to make my clothes more......exciting? Lots of tips would be great, and I'll rate you a 5 no matter what.

colors=bright orange, hot pink, lime green

were hats, chokers, bracltes, and don't be affaride to let your inner self shine through

jk
don't let people judge you. just be yourself.

Q: I have this one friend, but she gets really annoying sometimes. She'll talk on and on, and i never get a chance to say anything, and im not the quiet type. She always dominates the conversation, and is always being bossy. Most of my friends think she's annoying too, but i dont want her to have no friends, but also dont want to be her friend out of pitty. what can i do?

you need ot tell her ot stop. tell her by writting her a letter or just ask her to nto talk as much. try ot start the conversations youreslf.to her before she starts talking.

Q: What should I do to remove my leg hair?

i wouldn't try any of the stuff that comes in a bottle. it will give you rashes. trust me. i've tried it. just try to shave. it's not that scary, just don't shave your arms. soap up your legs first.

Q: dear advice giver,
I am 13 years old and I do not like my body. I am young for my grade and I am considered rather small in my grade. But what bothers me the most is that I have no breats. I can't even fit into a size A yet. All my friends have breasts but I am as flat as a cardboard. Consider this, I am a size 34 in sports bras but not the size A to go with it. My mom is a 34B and she says that she grew at a slow rate. Please help.
-sign, flat as a wall

i undsetand your problem. most kids your age a just like you. don't try to grow up to fast. your friends should like you for who you are. try push up bras. don't worry. you'll grow up soon!

Q: Well okay, here's my situation... My parents work all the time and I usually need a ride... Well my friend opted for the position and I know I do at times get annoying and ask a lot of her parents to take me around and do errands because my own parents can't... So, I give her parents gifts and things like that to thank them for taking me around... And now my friend is really getting agitated about her having to drive me around all the time when her parents don't mind at all... So.. What should I do because I mean I'm always nice to her and her parents but she is just getting on me for asking her parents to take me around...

i think you should jsut stop and talk to her. just tell her to stop and knock it off. i think that shes not getting enought attation and that shes upset try to be nice and maybe walk home or get a ride with somebody else.

Q: Hey, I have a scenario for you all. female responses would help the best, I have this friend at church, that I hardly talk to, and in the last 3 day,s we have gotten closer, she gave me her cell number and we talk all the time. So I told her 3 day's ago that we should hang out, and she said yeah, we should. So today, saturday, Im gonna call her and find out what time to pick her up, and find out where she lives. Since it's just me and her, and we have gotten closer, what do u think this means? She just wants to be closer friends, or is this a date and we're not just hangin out? what do u think, anyone help me?

form what you have told me, she sounds like a true friend. its not a date. if you guys go out and she starts hitng on you , then you need to tell her to stop

Q: im 16 in high school this year we had a new history teacher.im dislexic and he always picks on me about it and sends me out of every lesson since september.for reasons that are pathetic like asking questions too loudly.on friday he sent me out of the lesson within 3 minutes.i dont know what to do,i like the subject its interesting but im thinking of dropping it because of the teacher.what shall i do?shall i drop it?pleese reply asap

you should talk to this teacher and tell him how you feel. talk to the principal too.

Q: ok well my mom is a slut and always sleeps with guys she meets online. she never spends time with her kids and whenever we try to talk to her about it she gets all kissy kissy and does it all over again. she stays out until 7 pm to 3 am and comes home with dumb lame and unbelievable excuses. we really need help from someone because she is going to end up hurting herself as well as her kids. please help!

ypur mom is problet sad about your dad what happened to your dad? you just have to sit her down and look her straught in the yey and tell her jow you fell. leave little notes telling her that you love her and try not to let her out of the house.

Q: I had a dream about my bestfriend (he's a guy) ok well i had a dream about my bestfiend this is what happened:I the dream we are like 17 or 18 still i high school.(but we really ar 13&14)we were on the phone then he asked me to come over and i did.Then we were in his apartment hanging out.Then this wome around the age of 40 came over.I openedthe doorand then he(my bestfriend) asks me to leave so i do but i come back and i see them 2 having sex!!And when i see him at school (in my dream the next day)im am so mad at im and i yell at him and push him but he is still there then h grabsmy shouldes and looks me in the eye.that all im cofued i dont know why i was s madcn you tell me what this might mean.thanx

i think that you should forget about for a couple days. try to tell him as a joke or tell him in a letter, or just ask him if he would do that. that happened to me before. it probley means nothing. talk to him on the phone or let it go.

Q: Does anybody know how to use a cake eyeliner? Well what I should be asking first is what exactly is a cake eyeliner and where do u put it? Can u apply it in the eye section above your bottom eyelashes? please give me all this information somebody!! lol I just need to know because I decided on trying a new kind of eyeliner and needed to get some info on it. Feel free to throw in some of your own opinions about them so that i know if i should just stick with a regular eyeliner. Thanks everyone!

-Janine-

i think taht you should just wear regular eyeliner. i dont know what cake eyeliner is but just think of it as putting cake on your eyes.

Q: Ok so I've tried about four different legal, free ways to downlaod music but either they don't downlaod or I can't burn the music onto a cd. What do you think is a good, free, legal, music downlaoding program?

i say you should get an ipod so you don't get mixed in with the law.

Q: ok im kind of a shy person and recently i started making friends at another high school so im mainly with them. they are all so pretty...a lot of guys like them and they're so nice.i just want to fit in with them because when when im with them,i feel like the outsider. i want to b able to open up more...basically what i want to know is how to open up more!? plz plz help i really need it.

do little things a little more than you would do and try to get involved with something your school to get friends.

Q: There is this guy in three of my classes and almost every single class he says things like
"I like you"
"I love you"
"You have pretty eyes"
"I'm gonna call you my boo"
and "You're so nice"
but most of the time when he says these things he says it in a dorky joking kinda voice, and I like him. We're pretty good friends and we flirt a lot but I don't know if he's serious or not. Is he?

i think that he likes you ,but he's to shy to say that. guide the relaniship and ask him out.

Q: my best friend, is worring that shell never have a fist kiss i have from partys and crap but she isnt the person everyonw is dying to kiss....what should i tell her cuz shes really fing worried and none of my guys friends with jsut kiss her to make her feel better..what should i do.>