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Q: My best friend I and both like the same guy. He recently asked her out, and now everyone thinks that I'm mad at her; and I'm not!! I think that she might belive what thery're saying, and I don't want our friendship to fall apart. PLEASE RESPOND ASAP!

~Liz

if you think shes going to believe those rumors then tell her that your not mad at her. Its pretty simple becuase your best friend should believe you over some rumor. Just talk to her, if shes a good friend she'll believe you.

Q: i feel like im so clueless all the time i dont know whats going on ever with my freinds and i kinda feel like im invisible and sometimes i feel like my freinds arent really my friends and im just there with them and not really freinds i dont have a best freind i thought all my friends were my best freinds but i dont think so what do i do? i feel like moving to another school but that wont do anything so ive just decided to be miserable....

Dont be miserable...thats lame, no offensce:-(

if you really dont fit in with these people then just make new friedns. there has to be other poeple at your scool that you can become friends with. So what if there not popular or whatever the problem is. As long as your happy you shouldn't care what other people think.
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Q: ok well a guy found out i liked him and he likes me but im not positive i like him becuz i like other guys too. what should i do when i see him tommrow? AHH ill rate u a 5!

wHEN YOU see him tomarrow you should just hang out with him like you are really good friends. See what happens, if you really like him as a boyfriend then you should ask him out or something. If not, and you wanna go with one of those other guys, then just treat him like a friend and be his friend!!
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Q: (14-f) Okay..i met this guy ova tha summa...n we r real g0od friendz..well i am crushin 4 his older brother big time !! hes a junior(im a freshman) and he can drive..well last night he came ova to my house n it was me him my friend steph & one of his friendz...well we were hangin out n stuff n it was SOO AWESOME !he has a g/f but they r sorta...ech right now...they r both confused n yeah but anywayz...i like him alot n last night we hugged n stuff..n today i was tlakin to my mom n she said that since my friend Steph wont be in town tomarrow i should call up th guy i like n ask him if he wantz ta go see tha movie Saw with me tomarrow...just as friendz...i like him so much..n i would pay for myself n stuff so it would be as friendz but it would be so nice to hang out wit him like just us !! n my mom REALLA approves of him n yeah...my mom n sisters n stuff think i should call n ask him but wit tha phone im SOO NERVOUS !!! PlZzZz help ! should i just go ahead n call him ?? PLZ HELP ! Sm0ochez

if you really really like guy then ask him. You guys will have an awesome time. Think about it this way, THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN IS HIM SAYING NO. Go for it!! I totally would. good luck, sorry if this is really short !
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Q: im 14 years old and i think that i am losing my friens. I say this because they dont invite my to partys anymore and dont really talk to me!.....am i crazy or are they still my friends?

It's okay, this happened to me also. Maybe you guys don't have as much in common anymore. Highschool is usually a time in your life when you change and find out who your REAL friends are. Try to get to know some different people, maybe you'll be able to fit in with a bunch of new friends. See a guidence conselour or something if this is making you really sad and deporessed and stuff, but don't worry it happens to everybody!! Good luck
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Q: **OK my friends name is Nancy.(changed to be confidential)Her idea of fun is drugs. Any time she can get a hold of a drug she takes advantage of it. The drugs "I KNOW OF" that she has tried is coke, aderal, and defently weed! Chronic is what she lives for, everyday after school she smokes with her sister. Any other drug she usually doesnt tell me bout. She also drinks. I dont think she does alot. Whats the problem your asking? my friend just turned 13 4 months ago!! Yea...so everytime i try to tell her "Nancy you're so much better than that and you kno it!" she just goes "Dude its nothing it cant hurt me" Nancy is a smart girl, she could do much with her life! I never kno if an ingrediant in any of the drugs she takes she could be allergic to. I need help, what do I do?!
**Anoynomous**

shes not very smart if she thinks drugs can't hurt her!!
All I can say is....TELl your guidence conselour or some adult

or tell nancy shes killing herself, slowly and in a really gross way, and that if she wants to live, she needs to stop!! NOW!!! Beacause its true!!

thanks for your time

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Q: I just got a Virgin Mobile phone for my b/day.. Thing is, I've already spent $70 on it in phone cards.. And I've had it for a month. I REALLY need minutes on the phone, because I ran out a week or two ago. Thing is, I'm flat broke & my mom isn't willing to buy me a phone card. Any ideas on how to make money? And don't say babysitting!

yeah....well I have no clue where you live ([{its okay!! im notstalking you}]) but heres some ideas
lawn mowing
pet walking
mothers helper
car wash
leave raking
pool skimming
pet sitting
yard sale
get a job (depending on your age)
or you can search for sumthing on google.com

hang up flyers w/ ur name and ##and let people know what your doing. People will see them and ask you to do work for them

good luck!! \

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Q: Me and my really good friend got in alot of fights and we used to be bestfriends for two years but things changed. We started fighting alot and she told me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore becuz we fight so much. When I think of all the fun times we had when we were friends I really miss being her friend but she also said some really mean things to me so sometimes I think maybe we shouldn't be friends. I've tried apologizing to her but she doesn't listen.What should I do??

Thats sad :o( I think you should tell her how you feel!! remind her of the fun times you guy had together.
You guys can make it your goals not to fight with each other. I hope it works out...sorry if this adivce is crappy!! I hope it isn't!!

Q: Pleez tell me what you think!!!!??? Should you go a party of a girl you hardly know rlly with your whole school or should you go hang with your best friend because its her birthday that day???? pleez help and say what you would do or think.....??!! xo

okay, its really your choice, but heres what im thinking...
go hang with your best friend. It's her/his birthday!! They'll probably be pretty crushed if you ignore them, of all days. Or if you really wanna go to the PARTAY, then see if your friend can go to! but if not, i definately think you should hang with you bf!!
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Q: hi
I'm 27 years old male from Windhoek,Namibia.
my girlfriend and i broke up after two years of healthy relationhsip.i still love her very much though and i'm pleading day and night for her to give it another try.i know her decision was made by the influence of some of her family. her family pretents alot with me,but i don't have a problem with them.altough i'm now living 400km away from her i still can't get her out of my mind.she was and still is the best thing that has ever happen to me.
please help me..what do i do to get her back.
Thank you
Haroldt

ohh, thats so sad!! If i was in your shoes and ther was no way i could get her back, I would distract myself. I would focus more on work/school what ever you're doing. Eventually you'll move on, time heals all wounds. Someday you'lll find somebody new.
If this isn;t an option for you, than talk to her, and maybe do something really nice for her or help somebody she loves. I hope everything works out!!
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by the way...where is Namibia???

Q: Everytime i leave my 1 year old puppy alone, like when i take my brother to work in the mornings, and there is nobody up to watch him, he always gets into things. Like this morning, he chewed my clock, and my medicine *was way out of reach* was in the floor chewed on. Thankfully he didnt get any of it though. My question is, 1. how can i stop him from chewing on things that he is not suppost to, and 2. is there other way other than locking him up in his carrier?

HEY!! Ihave alittle bichon frise and i have the same problem
we keep him in his crate, becauseit is the recomended training. But you can also put him in your bathroom or small room whilke your gone,. If he chews on your stuff alot then you can buy a special spray that tastes really disgustijng for him. then he won't want to chew on it anymore. You can purchase it at a local petstore. You can also take your puppy to Puppy school and get help teaching him not to eat your stuff!!! good luck
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Q: my brother smokes pot and well he is 21 and he has done drugs since about 5th grade and i know he does it but he wont just come out and say it his friend is so stupid he got high of a air can while me and my little sister were ther in the room right next to them and my brother made up that he might have just had a cesure should i tell him that i know he does drugs and i think it is stupid or just keep quiet and not get involved please help i am worried about him

OKAY I SAY THIS TO EVERYONE BUT..... ou should {soooooo} tell your parents!! I know your probably thinking that he'll get mad BUT he won't be mad when he relizes your saving his life. yeah drugs will kill him, sorry!! But you can help. if you don;'t wanna tell your parents then tell a older person you trust!! I don't have older siblings that are involved in drugs or alchohol, so my advice might not be helpful at all, I hope thats not the case!! SOoooooooooooooooooooooo, good luck!!:-D
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Q: (I'm a 16 yr old girl) Me and my 2 bffs are throwing a halloween party for 15-20 of our friends. We are having it at one of my 2 bff's house- a million dollar mansion! How should we decorate it? I was thinking it'd be so much fun to do a murder mystery- but is that too juvenile? What activities should we do? Anything else you want to add would be great too. I'll rate if it helps!

Luv Y'all!
Becks

Hey!! A murder mystery party would be wiked fun!! But it might be tough to plan. You could also make somekind of haunted house, but you guys would dance and play games and stuff. My friend did that once and it was wiked funn!! We didn't play really childish games like bobbing for apples and stuff, ( except for a few!! lol it was fun though!!)) but those can be fun too! You can go to google.com or yahoo.com and search for halloween party ideas!! Any other questions, ask me!!
thanks
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Q: hi. there are like 10 guys that want me right now... and its kool n all but if i break up w/ my bf or whatever.. next period someone asks me out and then after that someone else does like if they didnt no that the first person did. i like all of them! they are all soo hott lol but i mean i alwaysssss have a bf and never have a chance to b single and sometimes u just need to b single ya no. i dont want to hurt there feeling or have them not like me anymore.
what should i do?
lol thanx!

If you really like all these guys just because there hott (i know how you feel :o* ) you should talk to them and get to know them. If you wanna be single then GO FOR IT!!! Don't break up with your BF right away thought, tell him you just wanna break and you wanna be friends with him (i know thats what everyone says) You need some time to have fun, and sometimes a BF can hold you back!! You'll have plenty of time for love when your an adult, now just live lito the fullest PARTAY;o)
hope i helped!!
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Q: Ok, theres this guy that I like who I met through one of my friends. Hes really cool and *really* funny, and my friend says he likes me too. Ok, well this has been going on for a while and nothing has really happened like he hasn't said anything, and I don't wanna say anything because he seems like the kind of person that will say something when theres something to say. My friend says to just ask him out, but I'm not going to do that, I think if he wants to go out with me he'll ask me (like I said he's not the kinda guy whos too shy to make the first move) Then my friend said that if I wanna go out with him I should ask him because he like...gets girlfriends fast or something like that but I don't want to ask him because I dont want it to end up like last time when I asked a guy I *really* cared about and he said yes but then i found out that he didnt like me all that much and hes just a fucking man whore but im not gonna get into that because im gonna end up fucking exploding...but basically i dont want that to happen if he wants to go out with me hell ask me, im not gonna ask him and just have him be like "sure why the hell not, its not important" but yeah i could use some help coz im kinda confused i mean would he have said something by now? he knos i like him do you think that maybe he doesnt like me anymore or what...

I think that you should spend some time talking to him, getting to know him better. Maybe if he talks with you he'll relize how much he really likes you, or how much he doesn't (not likely ;oD) You can also ask your friend to talk to him, but that would be a little wierd;) your best bet is to talk to him, and see what happeneS!!! I really hope everything works out, leave a message in my inbox if you have any more questions!!Good luck
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Q: Haha, okay, well i have this like, don't think it's gross, but a 3rd nipple type thing next to my right nipple. Its been there for so long, and every time i have a physical my doctor seems to ignore it. I thought it was like one of those bumps you get around them but this is bigger, and if you feel it...eh its like a normal nipple!! Its so strange, and I feel really uncomfortable, especally in front of my boyfriend, who laughs at me, but still, im so self-concious about it. I was wondering if anyone had this same problem...or somthing...please help!!

I've actually read about this in a magazine!! Its totally normal, sortof like a mole or birth mark. You can talk to your doctor about it and get it removed with surgery. Good luck, i hope i helped!!

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Q: What's the best way to get rid of saddle bags? Mine are starting to show and i want them to go away! Any good excersices that you know of?

You should definetly do situps and/or crunches!! Good luck.
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Q: I'm planning a Halloween party... what should I do? We want to be able to have it be kind of like a make-out/Halloween Party. Help?
Tips n' such. Thanks! (I rate high)

Hey...
halloween partay! awsome;) If your gunna have a costume party don't make it kiddish (if you know what i mean), it could be sorta like the one in mean girls (w/ lindsay lohan) if you haven't seen it, you should check it out...its really funny...anyways.
you should have really good music, spin the bottle and food of course!! type in a search for ideas on goolgle or yahoo!! good luck and have fun!
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Q: first and foremost, i wouldl ike to add one thing to moderators. delete me! i do not care! you may delete at will! i trust you in your power, and the rest of us lower ppl should! quit saying dont delete me ppl! theres only like 11 or 12 levels 2's! if your deleted, theres a reason! so with that in mind, delete to your hearts content. and please, please, from the bottom of my heart, delete the next question that says do not delete. and thank you everyone, for reading this warm, heartful thing on deleted questions. or something. hm, i wonder if this makes any sence, what so ever.

Matt

I agree. People who ask not to be deleted are a little annoying!!
good job Matt ;o)
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Q: i am suppose to be getting a clarinet for christmas, but i dont know which brand to ask for. Does anybody have any good brands?? Also, you could help me out by giving me some really good music sites to order music books and stuff. Thanks so much!!

Hal Leonard is a good brand. Its what my bff has!! If you want to find out more, search online, or go to a local music store, or lastly ask a music teacher @ your school!! GL!!
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