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hey im a younge girl turning 16 ive been going out whith this guy 4 about 9 months but hes 21 hes in jail but i caint talk cause im on my last chance all i get locked up but some people think its ok that where going out some dont its only 5 years diffrence and i fallin in love whith him a now and im really close whith hes family can u give us some advice
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Well if you truely love him then i think you should get through it together. And you should see him as much as possible.
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I know this guy. lets call him...joe
we used to be friends, put we*re not close anymore .
tonite he*s going to try drugs
i am completely against this.
what can say to him that can make him change his mind adout trying them?
PLEASE
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Tell him that even thought your not very close you still care about him and that you really hope he makes a good desision and dosent do drugs and even if he dose tell him that you will be there for him.
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ok well my boyfriend and me have been going out for awhile now. and he had this really good friend that he always hangs out with. well i recently went on vacation for a week and he hung out with his bestfriend all week and weekend while i was gone. so this was my first weekend home and i went to our highschool football game and his friend is not allowed in them she he went to the movies and my boyfriend isnt gonna be home all weeekend so i wont get to see him.
i dont want to break there friendship up i just want my boyfriend to do things with me and not jsut come to my house.
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hang out with both of them!
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How would you describe love in your own words? I just want to know ho other people think about love and how they feel towards it.
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Whenever you see the person you feel all tingily and when they hold you you never want them to let go. Well at least thats what i think.
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does any one know how to contact MTV? (link)
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Mtv.com
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Alright, my boyfriend is turning 14 and I don't know what to get him for his birthday. We've been going out for 5 months&&& we're really serious. For my birthday he got me a necklace that's silvergold or whatever it's called and it's a heart and theres 3 little diamonds inside. What should i get him?!
HELP. any suggestions AT ALL. will help.
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A watch.
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During 4th period yesterday, my friend, Ryan had my cell and I forgot to get it back from him at the end of class. So he had to keep it and his 5th and 6th periods are football. All the football guys know me so I guess they thought they could mess with my phone and it would be alright. Here's just a few things I found out they did:
1. changed my b/f's name to "cock sucker"
2. took pictures of themselves in the shower (surprisingly enough, I wasn't turned on)
3. sent dirty texts to people
4. changed my dad's name to "do not answer"
5. downloaded all these songs and games
6. i have a "never delete" folder for the texts i want and didn't want to delete and they of course, deleted them! (they claim this one was an accident)
7. and changed the language to German
I was furious with them when I saw my cell. Mostly at Ryan for letting them do it. So, I am not talking to any of them until I figure out if they're worth it or not. Specially Ryan. Now, he claims he is mad at me because I had no right to be mad at him because it wasn't his fault! How immature is that? I don't care that they used up my texts or downloaded stuff that cost money and I don't want them to pay me back or anything but what should I do?
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Im really sorry but that is kinda funny! I mean i would be pissed for a while but then i would end up laughing! I dont think you should be mad at any of them just change it all back! Its no big deal. And then next time you have his phone do the same thing(LOL Not really i mean unless you want to).
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13/m Long story short, I like her a lot, I told her, she doesn't like me back. Here's my current problem: I think she's ignoring me. Like at schoool everything's just too weird to talk to her. Awkward, let's say. So I've been trying to patch things up. I tried inviting her over one day. Saturday, she was babysitting. Sunday, she had rehearsal for a play. Same thing happens week after week after week. Just today I tried asking her to come over. Same story. No good. I really want to make things all better. I want to be able to just talk to her, which we haven't done in months except for on AIM. Our only 3 classes together, we're across the room, which sucks. So we don't even see each other much. We used to goof off a lot as friends. Like all the time. Things were cool. But now they're not.
Last night was a school dance. I had asked her a few days earlier. She said she had rehearsal. So I went with three of my friends to eat food and drink punch & soda. And guess who was there, that's right her. So those three guys were like pushing me to talk to her, bribing me, etc. Eventually, I talked to her. Apparently, she sent me an e-mail (I checked this morning, it didn't go through) saying that the rehearsal was cancelled. Then this girl started teasing me about my e-mail address (I made it up when I was 7) and the one I like hugged me.
It's not the first time. Third, actually. First time was last year in science. I told her I was feeling like crap. She hugged me. I got scared, never having hugged anyone outside of family before. So I rejected it. Second time, we were at a carnival. She had persuaded me to get on all the wild rides. Hardly anyone was there yet, so there was no line. After the fifth one, I started vomiting. "Oh my god, are you OK?" and hugged me. I stood there and just murmured that I was fine. Third time was last night at the dance. It's my best one yet---I stood there. Yes, that's right, I just stood there. Then I did the stupidest thing in the world---I cut it short for the $5 I had been bribed for.
I'm such an idiot. I've been waiting for another moment in which she would hug me, and here it is. What do I do? I run away to get $5. (In the end, all he gave me was a quarter...) But I couldn't help it. I literaly couldn't think! My mind was drawing a complete blank! The only thing going on in my head was in my subconcious, saying "Get out of here, fast!". My concious side was just scared and confused, and didn't know what to do. For those of you who have read Flowers for Algernon, it was exactly what Charlie was feeling. Whenever he got too close to Alice, his inner child would pull him back and prevent him from doing anything. I guess my inner child was still scared of commitment and everything. I want to hug her, considering it's the first of many steps to a successful relationship, but there are no opportunities in the halls at school, and as I said before, there's never a good time for her to come over. So I guess I'm just doomed to be a hopeless freak with subconcious fear of so much as a hug...
I guess my three big questions here are:
1) Is she ignoring me?
2) If so, how do I prevent it?
3) How can I hug her?
I know it sounds really pathetic. All I want is a hug. There's all these people here asking about banging and stuff, and here I am, eager to get a hug. But you have to realize that I've never had a relationship before, and I don't believe in dating unless there are true feelings. And if you believe that teenagers don't know love, I acknowledge that fact, and I'm not the same as every teenager on Advicenators. Besides, it's important to get a feel for what dating is like before we start the real thing, eh? And don't treat me like a little kid. I may be 13, but I'm not stupid. I'm just socially distressed. No smartass answers either, please. And if you give a response that doesn't have any advice in it, you are liable to be reported, as one of the rules in the Terms of Service is that you may not give unhelpful advice. I usually rate. Thank you a lot. (link)
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1. she might be ignoring you
2. just walk up to her and talk to her act like nothing ever happened
3. All of the guys i kno just walk up to me when i am in a bad mood and hug me and when i ask why they huged me they say because you looked sad/upset. SO when she looks sad/upset/depressed/whatever just walk up to her and hug her and when she asks why you huged her say because you looked sad/upset/depressed/whatever and if she says thanks or if she smiles at you smile and say no prob!
hope I helped, you sound really nice!
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ok so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months, but we've been close friends for about a year. when we first got together, everything was great.. we were so happy together!!! but then over the summer i went on a family vacation for alomost a month (i kept in touch with him as much as i could while i was gone, but i was overseas and it was hard) and when i got back (on his birthday! wouldnt think that was a good present? lol) he acted like he didnt care about me anymore. and it gets worse.. im a senior and he graduated last year, and he works two jobs, so it makes it hard to see him. when hes not working he "forgets" to call me and goes fishing or some other manly thing with his friends. now, i dont have a problem with his friends, but for some reason, his friends dont like me. whenever my boyfriend is with them, he acts like he doesnt like me either. for example, the other night he called me when i got off of work, and then in the middle of my sentence i could hear his friends come over and hes goes "look b!+ (link)
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You really need to dump him because if he really loved you he wouldnt care what his friends think. Im really sorry to tell you this but he is a jerk and i understant that you care about him but he will never change no matter what.
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ok when i answer some peoples questions i answer them to the best of my abilities, but they end up rating me really bad because i say one bad thing liek these recent ones i put bf for boyfriend and she rated me a two and said that i should spell everything out next time and i will get a higher rating and another one i answered and just becuase i said what ever floats your boat they said its not about them and they rated me bad
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At the end of your advice you should put please rate nicely or not at all. LOL.
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Ok so my friend told me that when you get your peroied that your boobs get bigger. It that true? Thanks for all you help :) (link)
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Ya they do. Its just part of pubertiy ( sorry i cant spell).
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how does volleyball help your heart? (link)
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I think because you are active.
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ok this is my dilemma.there is this guy called rick in both my english and history clases.he looks at me a lot.and when i say something in class.he at times smiles at me like his proud of me or something.its wierd cause now am thinking about him A LOT.him and me as a couple and am not really sure if i even like him.DO I LIKE HIM OR DO I JUST LIKE THE ATTENTION HIS GIVING ME OR BOTH./AND DOES HE LIKE ME ANYWAY
i am so confused.help me out here guys.
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I think that he might like you either that or he thinks of you as a lil sis. And it looks to me that you like him and that you like the attention.
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My homecoming dance is on Saturday and my dress is black, just plain black with like a ruffle around the waist. I want to add more color to my dress so i was thinking of buying a ribbon to tie on my dress or something. Does anyone have any good ideas what color ribbon i should get to match my black dress? And where could i get a ribbon that i can wear? I rate high for good answers. (link)
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Im not really sure where you can get a ribbon but im pretty sure that you can get one that has a safty pin at like target or walmart or clares. I think you should buy a pink or a really bright blue because then your dress will be more colorful.
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okay i have a problem =/ my friend who i am really close to asked me to homecoming the other day, and i said no. well all along i have really wanted to go with him but people at my school hate him because he dumped one of them like 2 years ago, and they are still upset with him. the thing is, i said no because i didnt want people to be mad at me since it is only the 2nd week of school. Did i do the right thing? He seems really upset and i really want to go so does anyone have any advice? xO (link)
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No i dont think you did the right thing. I think that you should say your really sorry you acted like such a jerk, yes you acted like a jerk, and ask him if he still wants to go to the dance with a hartless fool. Im sorry but that was really mean that you said that it dosent matter what other people think if he is your friend you shouldnt care that people dont like him.
Im sorry but its the truth, and truth hurts!
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it's because im courting a girl right now... things are actually going the way i planned it but sometimes i just can't help being afraid.. i know she likes me but being liked by somebody is different from being loved by somebody...thats why everytime i see her cellphone filled with messages from his x boyfriend, i feel afraid, afraid that she might just leave me and go back to that ex-boyfriend of her....what am i going to do (link)
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What do the messages say? If they say stuff that sounds like he wants her back then tell her it bothers you. But if they say stuff like hey sup? then you should just forget them. When he leaves messages dose she call/text him back really fast or dose she wait a while? If she gets back to him really fast then she probably still likes hi. but if she waits a while to get back to him then they are probably just friends and you have nothing to worry about. If she dose still like him then you sould probebly break up with her before she hurts you.
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Today I had an interview with Old Navy. It went pretty well and the manager said he would send someone to show me around the store to see if I'll be comfortable working there in a few days and then take me to his supervisor who will see if I'm ok for the job and then I'll be hired.
So I have a few questions that I didn't ask (I didn't want to be too upfront too quickly):
1. Some of my friends tell me that Old Navy has a reputation for treating their employees badly. Is this true?
2. So I asked the manager about the dress code and he told me that everything that is "Old Navy-ish" meaning jeans or anything you could buy at Old Navy (not neccesarily -from- Old Navy) and is appropriate (no mid-riffs et cetera) goes. So for the walk-through, my friends told me I should wear nice jeans and a dressier top instead of formal pants or such.
3. In British Columbia, the minimum wage for the first 500 hours that someone works is $6.00 (which is what I wrote on my application form) and then $8.00 after. Some stores start paying $8.00 immediately. Does anyone know what the starting pay for Sales Associates are at Old Navy?
4. He asked me if I wanted to work the floor or the cashier. I told him anywhere where I could interact with people. I thought that would mean the floor but my friends say that you interact more at the cashier and the floor is just cleaning up and stuff. But I don't really think the cashier is for me, I would rather be active and doing stuff. In your opinion, which one is less stressful/easier/more interactive during the Christmas season, the floor or the cashier?
5. How are the customers at Old Navy? Some people tell me that everyone there is rude and messy but some say it really varies. What do you think?
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1. Im not sure if Old Navy treats there imployes bad but if the do just quit and find another job or better yet find a back up job while you are working at old navy.
2. Just buy old navy clothes and wear them.
3.i have no clue!
4. it would probly be easier to work the floor during the holiday season because all the people at the register will be impatient and yelling and screaming at you.
5.I think it depends on who the person is.
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anywayz i hate my hair its always frizzy. i wanna straighten it but its still gets frizzy. does anyone know a way for me to get rid of this frizzy hair without my hair looking nasty and feeling hard like hair spray. thanks!!! (link)
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Its called frizz control treatment by Pantene pro-v it wors really good and you can use it when you streighten your hair and there is like a whole bunch of shampoo that you can buy that helps with frizz control!
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my boyfriend is sort of moving too fast for me. we've made out but he was trying to really touch my the whole time. i liked it for a while.then is just got annoying. i love him more then like..i think¿ what should i do? (link)
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Tell him that he is moving to fast for you and if he really cares about you then he will understand. And if he dosent just forget him! You will find someone better.
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I've been with this guy for about 9 monthes now. we are not officially together because that is the way i want it. BUT we are exclusive and aren't supposed to be with other people.
I cheated on him friday night. This isn't the first time i did it, but i told him about the other times. After the last one, he told me if i cheated again then we'd be done.
Do you think i should tell him what i did? I really do like him a lot. I'm seeing him today and need advice asap.
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I think you should tell him because edventually he will find out and it would probably be better he hears it from you. And why are you in a relationship when you want to be with other guys? I mean if i were a guy and was dating you i wouldnt want my gf to like go arround cheeting on me and then come to me and act like i am the only guy she has been with. And if you like him alot why are you kissing or whatever other guys?¿?¿?
Because to me it sounds like you dont like him enough to be with just him.
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