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hey!
ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

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lastnight i hooked up with this guy and hes fingered me before as well as other guys but lastnight it hurtttt. it felt good but he put pressure or something over my bladder. no one has ever done this to me before. it hurt realy bad. what is this? do alot of guys do it? and also..when he was eating me out it kinda hurt a lil too.. like he was biting.. why? lol

im 19/f

Some guys think that if they apply pressure the girl will get more pleasure out of what he's doing. The problem is, that yes, even though it is true in a way, there are key points as you may know that when pressure is added, there's a feel of increased arousal. The problem is, that some guys have haerd this, but they just have no idea whatsoever where it is that they're suposed to do it. ts more like trial and error.. haha!
And as for the biting, its the same thing. Although I'm guessing what he was going for was a nibbling feeling. Which if done correctly also makes you go over the edge.. its just very very good! haha!
But the guys that actually do do this aren't that many, since most are interested more on getting pleasured, than giving it... =/

Well, hope this helped! =)

VB

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When a guy feels you up, does he actually go inside your bra or just on the outside? And if he goes on the inside...what if your nipples get hard? Is that like not supposed to happen? Will the guys be like um....eww

Thanks in advance =P

To start let me tell you hun, guys LOVE it when a girls nipples get hard. definitely not something they go eww about! haha!
As for the actual feeling up, it can really go either way. It depends on the guy, and what he wants to do, and of course, on what you let him do. Usualy if a guy has the oportunity, he will go underneath the clothes to have a skin to skin contact/feel. But he can still just do it over them, its still sensual and erotic.... but yeah =) either way they go based on what you may let them do... haha!

Hope this helped!

VB

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I have liked this guy for a couple of years, and i resently found out he likes me! but this other guy likes me too! infact, he tells me he loves me! (atleast once a day) he is sweet but he can really get on my nerves, and i met him and he started telling me he loves me before i knew about my crush liking me. but now i don't know who to pick! my crush, or the guy who (constantly) tells me he loves me! (tho he doesn't say it to my face, he just texts it) AG!!!

~confused in the game of love

I think your best bet is to go with with your crush...
obviously you have no feelings for the other guy that texts you that he loves you.... yeah, no.. haha!
Go with the guy you like and likes you back too! =)

best of luck!

VB

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Okay this is so random and stuff but I was just wondering if guys like when girls moan. I was with my best friend and we had a 6 some. I guess you could say then she started having sex and she didn't moan at all and neither did the other girls there. I was like what? I thought guys loved moaning. None of them moaned. Why? thats so crazy i always moan. always. im confused. please explain.

Definitely!
Guys go crazy when they hear a girl moaning.
It lets them know that they're enjoying what they're doing, ..that they're doing it just right! It turns them on even more! haha!

You were right, don't worry!

VB

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so im 15. and theres this girl.... i really like her too... however she says that i have to move on. over the summer we would talk till like 4 in the morning about random stuff... anything really. we both have feelings for eachother. we both know this to. now she says that we cant be togther. i dont know wat i did... but i need a big way to make up to her... halloween is nxt week... do i do somthing then??

The main thing to try to do first is try to figure out why she says you can be together...
Be persistant. And tell her how you feel. How you want the two of you to be together....
You know, all that stuff.
You need to find out why she's feeling the way she's feeling, because otherwise, you actually might make matters worse... Trust me.

Best of luck!

VB

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I'm 15 years old, female i live in Iowa. i've never liked the computer much, but for the past six months, ive been on it every night for an average of five hours and sometimes more. the reason-- i met this guy, he's 17 and he lives in california. the first time i met him, we talked for 14 hours straight. (not exagerating) he's so great.. i can talk to him about anything and i'm understood so well.. i can understand him too and he says he's never felt the way he feels when talking to me...this probably sounds creepy but it's honestly not. i really love him.. i don't know why. i just do. i know 15 is young to love and probably to young. i've never felt this way about a guy.. i look at other guys and see nothing in them, no future. i just want him. We both have these feelings and want to meet. i know it's dangerous. I've been warned about how he can be different in person or not even be what he says he is. also that he could rap/kidnap/kill me. I know all of the bad stuff that can happen yet i still want to see what could happen. I don't want to ask myself 5 years from now what could have happened if we did meet. Even through all of this, i'm scared alot. it's so hard to like someone so much who is so far away. is it wrong for me to want to meet him in person?... if not.. what should i do? >

Hey darling!

Let me start by saying that actually i've gone through what you're going through! Met this guy online, 2 yrs older than, and lived halfway across the country from me... and of course, that first night of talking it was bvious that there was this instat connection between us as we spoke endless hours into the night! haha! After that night we talked for several hours on a daily basis. and just like you say, we were able to talk to each other, and we just understood and wecould just talk and be. Acouple of months later wedecided it was time to meet.. We wanted to be together very badly. To meet in person. It was quite scary to tell you the truth. Specially snice he was older, he was the one who flew to me. I was a nervous wreck. I got the same talks about how do you know is his not this or that.. be careful... everything i'm sure you're getting. Any way though, to make long story short, in a few days we will be celebrating our 2yr annirsary together. It turned out that in person just like we did online, we clicked. And we were glad we took the decition to follow our feeling and go through what we went through.
Now the only difference is that i was 2 yrs older than you at the time.
Also, i don't know if you've talked sbout him to your parents. If they don't, it makes things a lot easier if they do know. I told my mom, and she wasa little shocked at first. But also, we became a couple before we were together in person. Mom knew about him, had talked to him and the whole deal. Which made it a lot easier when it came to arranging the meeting. As mom was the one who took me to the airport and the whole thing. Drove him to the house and or me to go pick him up at his hotel..
So obviously nothing really wrong with wanting to meet someone you have feelings for. I know i did, i absolutely loved him, and him me.. and we went from there. We were able to tell that our feelins were very true, even in person. haha!
If youhave any questions or anything you can contact me =) I'm an expert in this field! haha!

Best of luck!

VB


Yeah when it comes to parents its a little more tricky. the fact thet you're 15 makes a bit of a difference. and although he's only 2 years older than you, like my bf is and was, but older, the age difference makes it seem bigger the younger you are. So in that sence that's why parents are ery hesitant about the whole idea.
What I would suggest is give ita little bit of time. If you can, try to make it so maybe there's some kind of communication between the two....
I know it sounds crazy, lame and whatever but because of the situation is basically a necessity =/ haha trust me, if my mom hadn't felt that this guy really did love me, and had no intentions of harming me, by talking to him got to feel that his feeling for me were genuine.... lets just put it this way, she went and took me shopping for new cute clothes and whatnot specially for when we went to the airport to pick him up... haha!
But yeah, just talk to your parents about him, and let therebe an opening for talk between them. And don't push them too too hard, they'll come to their senses eventually and let you guys meet. Oh, and remind them that you wouldn't want to go alone, for them (1 or the other or whoever) that would go with you... Parents like being active in your life and mak sure you're ok... haha! duh... haha! But yeah =)

Any other questions you can email me too...
or let me know how its going! that'd be great! ..if you'd like haha! =)
"crazycurious555@aol.com"

=)
Best of luck! =)

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I'm pretty sure what I experienced was a wet dream. I mean, I did have a rather "interesting" dream and I woke up from having orgasm. I'm 16 though and a female. I thought males could only have these.. ?

It is more frequently heard about males having wet dreams. But the fact of the matter is that females can have them too. With males the only difference is that well, if someone else is in the room and is too see them, its obvious that they're erect. And also remember, that guys orgasm so must easier and faster than girls. Which makes it easy for guys to by even a mere dream get super hard and without even touching, just even the thought can drive them crazy! But is definitely possible for females too! ...and also keep in mind, females, at least for the most part, are more concervative about their sexuality and everything regarding sex really.
But all in all, its normal! =)

VB

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my boyfriend says that he wants to have more foreplay because we usually just go right at it. now i am all for that but i dont know what to do? any suggestions?

a main tool for foreplay is to tease!
try alongated make outs, massages, little shows.. just have fun and tease each other.... =)
take baths/showers together.... get "naughty" couples games! haha! =)

lots of luck!
any questions you know where to find me! =)

VB

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If someone fingers you are you still a virgin?

yup!
as long as you don't have intercorse, you're still a virgin! =)

VB

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is it "la ciudad ha crecidA mucho" or "la ciudad ha crecidO mucho"

"la ciudad ha crecido mucho"
=)

VB

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im 17 and well my penis is not that big ive been with my gf for a few months and she hasnt seen it yet and shes wanting to take things further but im a bit nervous im worried if shell think im too small does it matter to girls that much?
can a guy be too small?

If you're like half an inch... i would say that maybe you may be haha! But i doubt it.... The truth is that girls really don't pay that much attention the size of a penis; thats mainly just a guy thing...
Even though it may sound cliche, it really falls under how you use it. Because, really, i'm sure you've heard abou guys that are huge! But really all that just ends up doing is hurting the females (and taking into consideration that the vagina is at an average 4 inches deep..), specially if they just don't care about the females and are just there to get their own pleasure.. yeah big no no...
Just try to keep your girlfriend in mind, make sure she's getting pleasured. ask her what she wants, how she wants it... Or just listen to her sounds, be aware of her movements, her body... If you keep that in mind, I should say her in mind, meaning pleasuring her, trust me no matter how big or small you are, you are going to be like a sex god to her! ;-) haha!
So don't worry about your size hun, like i said, its mainly just a guy thing. Us girls, we're interested in how you use it and pleasure us more than anything! =)


Much love
VB

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what does it taste like?

Tastes strange the first time.. haha!
Overall its just kinda salty.... and a bit sweet at the same time...
its not too too bad... =)

VB

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how do you get a guy to want you more? like the expression always leaving them wanting more.

One word... Tease! haha!
It drives a guy absolutely crazy when you tease them... They desire you, want you, need you.. It turns them on so much! And just want you more and more. Can't stop thinkng of what you just said, or how you moved.. etc. =)

Good luck!

VB

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is masterbating a sin?

No, its not a sin.
Some may see or think of it as a sin, but it really isn't.
If nything masterbating is a way to give your body pleasure, to destressand just relax... =)

VB

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do u have to have had your period to get plesure from masturbateing?????

sorry if that was a dumb question
Thanks!

not at all! =)

..and not a dumb question =)

VB

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if a girl gets fingered would the guys like it if they shaved before?

For the most part, yes, guys perfer it when girls are shaved....
haha =)

VB

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I just got married a month ago and I'm a virgin. My husband and I have been trying to have sex, but we can't. I think I might have vaginismus, maybe.

What I do know for sure is that I want to have sex, I want to consummate my marriage..I just can't.

we'll be lying together, hugging, kissing, and cuddling and then when it comes to him trying to go in, i tense up. i get really nervous and i can feel my muscles tensing up...but no matter how much i try to relax them i can't. and the idea of it hurting the first time is not helping. and i just need help and suggestions on what i should do.

has anyone else had this problem??

I'm really sorry to hear that you're having this problem. Specially considering that it has taken place after your marriage. I can imagine that you were waiting and saving yourself till marriage... and now a month later being unable to do it =/
But you'll be glad to know you're not the only one.....
There are a couple of things your husband could do. First of, one thing to always remember is to try and get as wet as possible....
Thats always a must.. otherwise even try getting a lubricant to help =) Also, get your husband to finger you and such, so you do get a little of the pleasure and start possibly relaxing and opening you up a little.
and little by little it'll help you relax and eventually being able to consummate your marriage =)
I'm not saying that it wont hurt, BUT, its not going to be that bad. At first it may sting a little, but afterwards you'll just be feeling pleasure =)
But do remember to be and get as wet as possible, so there there isn't much friction for entrance =)

Much luck!

VB

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on facebook, can i change my birthyear?

because i accidently wrote 1986 when it should be 1990. HELP?

gracias

awww
unfortunately, the answer is no...
there is no way to change your birth year if you made a mistake..
=/
your only option would be to create anew account..
besides that, nothing else that can really be done.


VB =)

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I just had unprotected sex a few days ago(twice)and yes i know that was stupid with having no condom(i'm a girl, 16). My first fear is of course pregnancy, my period was two days late but i just got it today, so that means i'm not pregnan, right?!? Thats my fist question, then my second is, should i get tested for any std's or something? i haven't noticed anythig weird but is it still neccisary to get the test?
And not to be a total sex newbie but the guy i was with the other day asked me if i was "on the pill?" I didn't know what he ment so i just said yes...what pill is he talking about? What does it do?
Thanks!

Well, no, your not pregnant. Since you just got your period, you're fine in that matter =)

Since you had unprotected sex, its a smart thing to do to get tested for anything.. I don't know how well you know the guy, and or if it was his first time or not.... simply remember to wear a condom! it is soooo important! it protects you from both pregnancy and any sort of std. so you don't have to be worrying about all this, and can enjoy what you're doing.

And lastly, when someone asks you if you're "on the pill", that means if are you taking a birth control pill. to prevent pregnancy.
=)

Hope this helps =)

VB

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This is very difficult for me, I've struggled with my feelings for nearly three years and it drives me to the point of insanity..(maybe thats a bit strong) I've been a tom boy all my life, never had any problems with that, its the way I am.
I was happily married for 22 years, then, he left me and moved back to his parents. The split was mutual and we are still close friends.
I struggled for some time with my self esteem, and getting into the single life was hard, although now, after three years I'm happier than ever.
4 years ago I met my bestest pal, she's been a true freind and soul mate ever since. We have both been through a relationship breakdown and supported each other through the hard times, hers is more recent and more messy.
I am a very open minded person, and believe in 'You can't help who your heart loves' phylosypy, (cant spell either :) )
about a month ago, my mate hooked me up with a freind of hers from her work. He's a really nice bloke and we got on staight away, but I see only see him as a mate too, sex is good, he's unselfish under the sheets and makes me feel wanted. We only see each other once every three weeks, because of work and his commitment to his daughter, of which i wouldnt have any other way.
At first we text, and chatted on phone, but not so much now.
Trouble is its not him I think of when I wake, or go to sleep, its not him i worry about, or really care for. Its not him I dream of....it my mate.
I so want to tell her how I really feel for her, but I would rather have a freindship for ever, than a lover for a short time.
It so tears me up though. We have girlie nights in, DVD booze, a meal, pictures etc...we sleep in the same bed...but I dont sleep, some nights I lay and just watch her breathing, I know every twitch and sound she makes. I feel safe and secure layed next to her, and so want to brush that bit of hair that tickles her nose when she sleeps.
Maybe I cant have advice on this, and is something I have to figure for myself. I just needed to tell someone, cause keeping it bottled is not good and is quite stressfull.
I'm in my mid forty's, have three grown up girls. and Yes, I do love her, and tell her all the time, but she dosent realise how srtong.

MY question! Do I tell her How I really feel?

This is a bit if a tough situation.
Bi, i do believe that you are, since you have those feelings for your mate. Its definitely more than friendship love. I understand that it also may be confusing, specially after having been married for 22 years... But then again, at either age is rather confusing, nerve racking and complicated. trust me, i know =)
And unlike what the person below me said, its not weird at all, its more common than you think. There's absolutely nothing wrong or "weird" about the way your feeling or acting.
As for telling your friend about your feelings, I think you really have to think it over, long and hard. Try to think how she might react to it all...
I would recommend first starting a conversation and telling her how you think you may be bi... see how she reacts and everything.
You never know, you might find out that maybe she may be thinking the same thing too. I don't thik you should fully go upfront and tell her that you have feelings for her... It might be a little too much of a shock, always kind of is no matter the situation or genders.. haha! =)
So try talking to her, tell her how you think you may be bi, but aren't too sure yet.. and take it from there =)

Best of luck! =)
If you have any questions or anything at all, feel free to contact me =) here to help =)

VB

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