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is a zebra black with white stripes or white with black stripes? (link)
i'm pretty sure it's white with black stripes


14/f

Right, I'm 14 and I've never snogged anyone. It might not sound that bad but most people about two years younger than me have snogged someone, and it's beginning to become a real problem.

I'm scared of getting into relationships with people because they'll have had experience and I worry that it will be awkward and they'll think I'm a bad kisser.

I don't like playing truth or dare and always try to get out of it because I might be dared to snog someone, or asked how far I've got. Most of my friends have gone further than snogging, and I'd feel really embarrassed if I had to admit the most I've ever done is kiss someone.

Is there anyway I can get over this and stop being so worried? And do you have any tips on snogging and how do it?

Sorry I said snog and snogging so much, I hate those words, but I wanted people to know what I meant, and not just think I meant a peck on the lips or something.

Thanks in advance, xxx (link)
don't worry about it. keep yourself busy with other stuff.... w/e your interest is. get your mind off of relationships and maybe help a friend who has a problem about theirs. you're only 14 so it's not a big deal if you dunno all that stuff.


I'm going to a new school. And the school I use to go to I went to my whole life. And the new school I don't know anyone there. I'm people have told me I'm shy. I know I'm shy,unless the people I'm hanging out with are friends,around my friends I'm like really LOUD. The promblem is that how do I make new friends at a new school. I'm going to be going into 9th grade,so I'm starting a new school at high school. Could anyone help me? Like give me tips on how to become not as shy and talk to people without being so shy about? If you understand what I'm asking,ha.
Thank you. (link)
wow i was in that situation last year. i had to move to a whole another state -.-

ok well what i did was, i started talking to the people around me. first i asked for small stuff.. like.... maybe ask for their myspace or something about the class. online is definately the way to go to bond.. kind of.. you don't wanna just come out of nowhere. i didn't really try to make new friends but there was this girl that came up to me in lunch cuz we were in the same math class. so, you don't have to be always the one that's trying to get to know ppl. but just start talking and ask about their interests... you'll get along quickly.


this guy asked me togo see a movie and his like wayy older then me like aboout 3 years lets say and i dont if he means like a date or just to hnag out ??? cuz im 15 and his 18 so i dont he was all like so u wanna go to the movies and i dont if its date or not?? (link)
if he asked you like "hey i was wondering if you wante to see a movie" then it's a date. if he said something like "hey are you free that day" or something like that but if he said it just in his casual..talking way then it's just a hang out.


I really like this guy. He's my age and we're really good friends. Call it best friends if you want. We're both a little shy. I can't seem to say I like him and he can't either. Is there an easy way to tell him I like him without saying it to his face?

Note: Please don't tell me to just say it to his face. I don't have the guts. (link)
maybe try the phone or the internet. but i suggest that you do it on a phone if you're atleast 80% sure they like you back. but doing it online isn't that best answer either. i'd say do it on the phone since you guys are good friends.


can someone help me get a password to someone elses myspace? (link)
uhh if you don't know that person or that person don't want it to give it to you... that's pretty illegal lol


omg-i-17-i-didt-get-period-last-week-i-got-pink-in-underwear-and-when-i-wiped--wat-doesssssss-thi-mean (link)
skipping a period maybe once in a while doesn't mean anything. that means that your body's not really adjusted to your diet or your.. habbits or anything like that.

as long as you didn't have sex yet... u'll be fine but if you did, i'd make sure


The school I go to goes from 7-12 grade, and in 9th grade you get new students [it's an exam school]. I'm really shy by myself, and I really would like to meet a lot of new people this year. I'm fine when I'm with my friends, but if I don't have anyone I know well in a class, then I just don't talk.

I was wondering what are some good ways to introduce myself without appearing too friendly or something and freaking them out. (link)
to get a friend quicker than others, talk to people around your seat in the class. maybe casually start ask for something and as time goes on you'll end up talking more. maybe ask for their myspace (if they have it) and you'll get along from then on. trust me. internet is the way to go to get along xD maybe join a team? if you don't want to just do what you do. try talking to people but don't look too desparate. don't worry, as time goes by you'll have more than 10 friends


I love my boyfriend. i would never in my life consider cheating on him. yet today there were these two guys flirting with my friend and me. they were funny and i liked hanging out with them, so i figured what's the harm. then my friend had to leave so it was just them and me. the flirting got worse. i didn't do anything to encourage them i don't think. i just liked hanging out with them. then i had to go home and one of them offered to walk me. i probably shouldn't have let him, but i did, then he had a long way to go home so i let him come in and rest for a little bit. my mom asked him to stay for dinner so he stayed a lot longer than i wanted him to. nothing happened, we just hung out. now i'm just not sure how to tell my boyfriend. i know i should tell him something, i'm just not sure how much to tell. (link)
if it was a total stranger then i don't think it would get your bf to react as much as if the person was someone you knew. just tell him that nothing happened and atleast you'd tell him the truth. if he freaks out then maybe he's just not a good bf. you told him the truth and nothing happened, so, what's the deal to freak out about? he may get a little jealous or angry but as time passes, he'll get over it. just spend a fun time with him that would get you guys bonding.. go... bowling or something. good luck.


how do you siong with vibrato? i really want that vibratesound in my coive but i cant achieve it!! help please! dont tell me to go to a vacal coach cuz i cant afford (link)
i think it depends on your age and how much you sing. i don't even sing that much but i used to and by the time i reached about 12 i just sing for fun and i started doing it. just move your throat a little but that's gonna sound a lil ... forced. just practice. it's kindda like swallowing while your'e singing... that's the best i can explain it. good luck.


my hair is really thick, a little longer than shoulder length, and i usually just wear and sometimes straighten it. but i want to do some new things to my hair. and my hair is kinda wavy, but not really just a huge poof ball of gross frizzies if i blow dry it just without anything in it.

any ideas? anything will help. and tell me how to do the styles you give. please and thank you. =)


my hair = boring.. (link)
get a nice shampoo that would smooth out the hair.... and then... put your hair up or go crazy with it. cuz once you have a smooth hair, any kind of style you have looks pretty good... i think .


How much trouble who someone get in if they were underage drinking, urinating in public, and had a fake ID. For the state of Ohio, but if you know just your state, that's fine too. I'm just curious around what the concequence would be. At the age of 17. This isn't for me, but someone I know. Any ideas appreciated. Thanks! (link)
you're probably gonna get arrested for fake ID. underage drinking..... it's not really a big deal since a lot of ppl do it but they might get cuffed. urinating in public... they might get cuffed also but those 2 things except fake ID can get you out of jail easily than other situations i think


Well I'm trying to get my friend from Alabama to be able to come to New York. [Where I am.] But the problem is, she's 12 and she has to fly alone. So does anyone know of any websites where you can buy a plane ticket for a 12 year old without needing an adult with them? And not super expensive ones? D: We tried Delta.com but those were like 800 dollar tickets for coach. Nothing over 500 please. =/ (link)
i'm pretty sure anybody that's younger than 16 or w/e need assistance and they're... pretty expensive..


ok so im 13 going into 8th grade & i've never had a boyfriend. im not ugly im acutally pretty but im just really tall. im 59 & i know if i was shorter i'd be able to get a boyfriend but now they're all short, & my uglier freinds even get boyfriends before me.. what should i do? (link)
first of all, i think you should stop judging ppl of their beauty.

and i had a friend that was as tall as you and she got a bf when time came.

by the time you get to high school, you'll definately get a boyfriend and you're only in the 8th grade so don't worry. just enjoy the 8th grade first cuz it's the bomb xD


My friend is really eager to have sex with her boyfriend, but I am worried that she will get pregnant because she doesn't have any form of birth control (other than condoms, but they don't always work). Her mom would never allow her to get on the pill, so is there some way she could get it without her mother knowing? She is fifteen, if that helps at all. (link)
having sex in age 15 is just wrong. try your hardest to talk her out of it. my friend's mom had her when she was 15. maybe they don't have to have sex... if she wants it so bad then tell her to get fingered or something -..-


school starts in two days and open house was today and i saw this guy and he is new. my dads the principle and his dad is accually the son of one of the teachers(hes new too)i accually would have his dad as a teacher but i was put in advanced classes. well anyway i saw him before that day cause his dad also coaches the boys soccer team and he plays and i play volleyball and he went through the gym during are practice.its really cool cause hes adopted and so am i. i think hes hawaiian!but hes really cute and he seems like a nice guy-not like the guys that think there the stuff or anything like that. im not shy but when it comes to boys i kinda get a lil shy.im not sure if i should make it known that i like him before school cause im afraid of how he will take it cause i really dont know him at all and he doesnt know me ethier.should i wait to get to know a lil more about him. i meen im afraid that girls will be all over him when school starts cause we have more girls then boys so cute guys are scarce.im afraid he will find someone he likes and i wont even have a chance!i just want to go with a new guy that doesnt know anything about me so i can kinda start over.thanx to anyone who answeres!! (link)
i think you're going way too fast about liking him already. you like JUST met him. but that doesn't mean you can't like a person xD i think you should just start casually talking to him.. like.. "hey how do you like school so far" or something like that. be friendly... and show the positive side of yourself... maybe he'll like you back but you can't get your hopes up. even if he does find someone he likes, just be a good friend and you'll meet someone that's good for you whether it's him or somebody else. what goes around comes around.


whats considered child abuse? physical and mental. like is it just your parent hitting you? or is there much more to it?..
thanks.. (link)
no it's more like..... a child getting hit violently even if it's their parents or complete strangers


a video i uploaded on youtube did not process. it said "invalid file format" and it won't let me upload it on facebook either. what should i do? (link)
that happened to me too. upload again and if it doesn't work, maybe try again if you feel like it. if it doesn't work, then try photobucket.com or maybe if you edited the video, then the program you used to edit the video might have copyright or w/e


What is an open relationship? (link)
an open relationship is when you're in a relationship where you're really true to eachother.. like.. sharing feelings and understanding eachother.


Okayyy so I think I have a problem.I seem to get upset over the little things, more so with my boyfriend.I guess I'm attached to him and I guess a bit selfish.I always want to talk to him and see what he's doing.It's awful.My bestfriend recently told me she saw my boyfriend and his friend tonight and bought them alco.. I was "okay" I had nothing to say to that.She asked me why I wasn't with him and I said I don't know.She was having her fun.It's just whatever.I really don't know why I'm acting this way though.It's really annoying.I don't want to keep ruining a good day by just getting upset over stupid things.Does anyone have any suggestions what shall I do...? (link)
i had the same problem. i used to get stressed out with practically everything and this was just like a week ago. but then i told myself i should stop... so.. i started keeping myself busy like... playing sports, getting online.. watching tv.... lol it's more like having fun i guess xD after a while i stopped getting stressed out. so find your interest and keep yourself busy with it.




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